The boy is 22 years old this year and was forced to marry by his family, what should I do?

If you are forced to marry, you can't get married, because it's too early to get married at the age of 22, basically just past the legal age, so you must first explain the reason to your family and refuse the kindness of your family. The family is forced to marry, which is nothing more than to let the children start a family and start a business as soon as possible and live a stable life. However, I think it's more important to start a business than to start a family.

Most of today's girls are material, and it can't be said that all of them are material, but as a man, you must always have a little of your own savings, and you must always have the ability, so that girls can marry boys willingly. Moreover, 22-year-old boys are too immature to get married, both in terms of relationship and life experience.

Marriage is not child's play, in the past, you can get married stupidly because of the order of your parents and the words of the matchmaker, and then run in with each other, even if two people are not suitable, you can make do with your life, but now it is different, you get married in a daze, and the probability of divorce after marriage is also very high. Fall in love first, work hard to lay a good foundation, and wait for the relationship to reach a mature stage before getting married.

First of all, you should stay calm, and make it clear in your mind that 22 years old is not yet the age to talk about marriage in contemporary society, and you must not be led astray by your family. You know, 22 years old is just an adult, it is a good time to work your studies and career, and if you take on the household chores too early, it may shorten your path forward in the future.

Secondly, you should deeply analyze the root cause of being forced into marriage by your family at this age. In most cases, most of these families are rural families, and they have the chronic problem of thinking that men should be in charge of the family at an early age. My grandfather's generation is a typical example, my grandfather came from a poor peasant family, the family had many children, at the age of seventeen, he married my grandmother, and took on the household chores of the whole family.

Grandpa's generation more or less inherited the old ideas, thinking that boys should get married early and take on their own responsibilities if they don't study.

Finally, after you understand the root cause of your forced marriage, try to convince your parents or family members of the old ideas, if the persuasion is ineffective, you can choose to go out to work hard for your studies or career, and when you do something outside, you will naturally reach the age of starting a family.

Of course, the family will be anxious about our marriage, but the current parents will still respect the children's own opinions. After all, if you go to school, you haven't graduated at the age of 22 and haven't had a stable job, so it's really too early to talk about getting married at this time.

Forced marriage at home is to want you to pay attention to it, and if you tell them that you have a girlfriend, they may not mention it. If you don't have it, and you don't want to get married so early, you can lie to your family and say that you have a girlfriend, but you're busy now, and when you're not busy, you'll bring it back for you to see. This will give you a long time to find someone you like.

If you are already working, you can also talk to your parents about it, tell them that you don't want to get married yet, and then discuss a wedding date with them, so that you can also relax. When the work is stable, parents love their children and don't want to cause them too much burden. This method is still very useful.

At least you don't have to deceive others.

I think as a boy, you should show your manly spirit.

Personally, I think this kind of situation usually happens in rural areas, so your parents should be a person who values incense very much, and they are the kind of parents who are more traditional. At this time, it is futile to tell them anything, and I think you should be willful and go out on your own. At the age of twenty-two, you should still be in college, and if you are still in college, you can use the reason of finishing college to hold your parents back.

If you don't study anymore, then I think you can go to the city and find a job, and then tell your parents that you can consider getting married after you have a career. Your parents won't force you with that knife, as long as you are resolute enough and firm enough, there won't be much of a problem.

And the legal age of marriage for boys is 22 years old, you are only 22 years old this year, and you will only be 22 years old when you are 23 years old, and you are not qualified to get married, you can also talk to your parents about this.

Being forced to marry at the age of 22 is really pitiful, so I want you to get married and have children so early, maybe your parents want to hold their grandchildren.

What should you do, I think the first thing is to let your parents know what you think now. I think you can talk openly and honestly and tell your parents what you think. Make it clear to them that you're only 22 now, and you're too young.

And if you want to make a career first and then start a family, this is also responsible for other girls, how can you take the girls to suffer together. I think your parents may sigh when they hear you like this, and they will not force you to get married if you are sensible and know that you have struggled. After all, they forced you to get married, maybe they felt that you don't have a heart to struggle now, and if you said that you were going to struggle, they would definitely be at ease with you.

Also, if you behave reliably, your parents won't think that you can't find a daughter-in-law and force you to get married every day. What parents are most worried about is that their son will not find a daughter-in-law and will be a bachelor for the rest of his life. So if you are more reliable and mature, your parents will be more relieved, and they will naturally not be too anxious about your marriage.

Parents are all for your good, so talk about it well, there will definitely be a turnaround.

22 years old is actually not very old, if the family has always wanted a boy to get married, a boy's choice is to marry directly in accordance with the family's wishes, of course, if you don't want to get married, you can also directly pick out with your parents.

At this time, boys should have just graduated and just started to step into society, that is, when the job is not very stable, so I suggest that they should work hard, at least after two or three years of work, and then start to think about their relationship problems, and then it is not too late. <>

And 22 years old is relatively young, in fact, at this time my heart can be said to be not very mature, of course, I am not very responsible for feelings.

If you accept the forced marriage of your family at this time, a hasty divorce is an irresponsible behavior, whether it is for yourself or the other half.

Therefore, if a boy does not want to get married, he should tell his family directly, he can reason with his parents, and he can also talk to his parents about his future plans, so that his parents can understand himself, have a long-term plan, and when he plans to get married.

In this way, parents should not force boys too much to get married at this age.

Now parents are so exaggerated, 22 years old just graduated from college, I guess I haven't even found a job, so I'm in such a hurry to force marriage! You can tell your parents that you are now focused on finding a job, after all, you are only 22 years old, you are not in a hurry to fall in love and get married, but you are in a hurry to find a job, and boys in their 20s must start to be financially independent, otherwise people will look down on you in the future.

No parent wants to marry their daughter to someone who is not financially independent, so you can emphasize the importance of financial independence to your parents, so that they will know that you have to put your mind on work first, and emotional things can come slowly.

However, I suggest that you tell your parents your detailed thoughts, you can't tell him very vaguely that you want to find a job, then they will definitely say that finding a job and falling in love can be done at the same time, so you can tell him about the current situation, it is difficult to find a job now, almost 10 million college students graduate every year, and there are not many who can find a job, and the unemployment rate is still very high.

So that they can understand you.

This kind of thing must be communicated well.

Make an appointment with your parents and sit down with them to have a good chat and talk to them about your inner thoughts. If you are 32 years old this year, you can still understand that your family is urging you to get married, but you are only 22 years old this year, you have just graduated from college, and you have nothing, what are your family members doing when you are urging you to get married?

You can tell them that 22 years old is the best age to find a job and accumulate experience, and now is not the time when you can find a girl to marry if you build a house in your hometown. Now the competitiveness of society is particularly great, opportunities are fleeting, and it is really a pity to do something that is not a hundred thousand urgent at the age of the strongest competitiveness.

After three or five years, it's not too late to get married after the job is a little more stable, but now that the job is unstable, do you have to continue to gnaw at old age when you get married and have children?

If your parents still can't make sense after hearing this, then there is no other way, either you just listen to their marriage, or go out and find a job, the emperor is far away, go to a place where they can't control you, and work hard.

If you are forced to get married, you don't have the kind of situation where you get married first and then fall in love, not only do you not love him, but he doesn't love you either.

Don't delay any longer, the more you delay the time, the worse it is, hurry up and get out of the marriage, you must get out of the marriage, if you can't get out, you will be a victim of marriage.

There was a young couple in our town who got married, and after getting married, the husband went out to work, and the wife was filial to her in-laws at home, and the next year she gave birth to a daughter. The husband never took money from the family, because the in-laws were young, and the family was too late. After having a daughter, my husband never returned home, and I heard from the people in the village (who worked with my husband) that my husband might have joined a pyramid scheme and could not come back.

But the whole family was in a hurry, so he sold everything that could be sold at home, scraped together tens of thousands of yuan, and sent it to his husband.

When my daughter was three years old, during the Spring Festival of that year, her husband came back with a pregnant woman. It turned out that the husband had already settled down outside, and the money sent by the family several times was just used.

The mother-in-law feels sorry for her ex-daughter-in-law, but what's the use? The granddaughter was still taken away by her daughter-in-law.

A woman must marry a man who loves herself.

You should boldly take the initiative to put forward your own ideas, don't want others to force you to get married, you have to think about how the relationship develops, and whether the other party is suitable for a lifetime. Think it through before getting married.

You should refuse, and you should tell the blind date man that the two parties have not understood clearly, and they should not be in a hurry to get married, otherwise it is not suitable, so it is okay to say so.

I think it's better to just say what you think, and then we can discuss it together.

Psychoanalysis: Hug you first. Feel great pain, sorrow, and helplessness in your heart. Torn apart by loneliness, inferiority and filial piety

"Of course, you are not guilty, you have the right to choose how to live your life, there is no doubt about it."

The point is, I seem to feel that you actually have a longing for a partner in your heart. Longing for a happy and warm married life, longing for a happy home of your own.

It's just that, on the one hand: you have low self-esteem due to hair loss, you are rejected by the person you like, and you no longer believe that you deserve such a life. No longer expect the person you like to like you.

I feel like I can't have the life I want to have. I'm desperate, so I just don't want to, I can make myself feel better. It makes you feel dignified.

This makes me feel that you have been trying to support yourself with this kind of arrogance, it must be very tiring and hard, right? ❤️

On the other hand, your own family of origin rarely allows you to experience the warmth of home, and you are subconsciously afraid of falling in love and entering an intimate relationship, and you are afraid of repeating the state of holding your family of origin.

In fact, the most important problem you should solve is your own state.

Hair loss is basically due to too much psychological pressure, anxiety, fear, etc.

It is really recommended that you go into psychological counseling, and you have self-confidence, self-esteem, strength and courage. So that everything will be different. The core is in yourself, and it's up to you whether you want a higher quality of life or not.

22 years old, if you don't want to be tied up so early, talk to your parents, after all, marriage is a lifelong event, and being in a hurry may cause unnecessary tragedy, and it is you who want to get married, and you are the one who wants to live with another person for a lifetime.

I've been urging at home! I don't care the same! Whatever they want.

I think forced marriage is the most meaningless thing, just ignore it if you are forced to marry by others, the most important thing is to have your own ideas, you can also try to communicate with your parents more, try to let them understand their own ideas, if the communication is useless, just walk away by yourself when you hear these forced marriages in the future.

Then try to find a partner, you have to understand your parents, as the old saying goes, you have a family first and then start a business, you have reached the age when you should get married, and you should be a good partner.

Use your own strength to resist, communicate well with your parents, and promise to find a suitable partner to bring back to them within a certain period of time.