How does a child s upbringing determine the height of life?

A well-educated child, whether in dealing with people or in terms of ideology and morality, can do the extreme, this is because the child is very educated, so he will form a good character and a complete three views. And the view of the world and the attitude towards life will largely feel how far each person can go. In my opinion, a child's upbringing determines the height of life in three aspects.

1. Good parenting makes children more empathetic in dealing with others. Parents can lead by example and achieve the power of role models for their children, then the children will have a good upbringing, and the children will be more sympathetic, able to understand the difficulties of others in getting along, and put themselves in the shoes of others, rather than being selfish and self-centered. A child with empathy will be more popular with everyone.

Second, good parenting wants children to have a complete character. Parents give the child the right teaching when he is young, so that he can develop a good character, a correct way of parenting, so that the child can have a complete character and will not go to extremes. Many children are very irritable and irritable in adulthood, or they have to do something with others if they don't agree with each other, and such children do not form a correct concept in childhood, so it leads to great defects in personality.

3. Good parenting can enable children to construct a correct three views. Everyone has their own world view, outlook on life and values, and a good upbringing can make a child build a correct three views, a correct three views are related to the child's life, but also affect his view of the world. A good three views can allow children to use a more positive attitude to treat the world, instead of blindly resisting the world, which will cause more harm.

A good three views allow children to stand up bravely and express themselves in the face of some unfair things, rather than going along with the dirt. <>

For children's upbringing, the more positive the attitude towards things, then a lot of time will be spent on research, and the natural height will be different.

In fact, I think that if a child's upbringing is very high, then their character and character are good, then they will have more perseverance in doing things, and it will be easier to achieve success.

A child's upbringing will determine the level and circle of life he will be in the future, and the child's upbringing will determine his life.

The ways and methods of children's education and the degree of education of children will determine the height of children's lives.

A child's upbringing reflects the child's attitude towards life, and the attitude towards life determines the direction of the child's efforts and life pattern. These all determine the height of a child's life.

Upbringing determines character, and character determines life.

I've been busy with the children's graduation ceremony tonight, and I've exhausted my brain cells, and now I only hear the sound of them going to sleep. Then follow the command of the brain cells, briefly introduce a book, and go to sleep.

This book is "The Parenting Rules of High-Achieving Children" written by Mr. Ronald Ferguson, which was published in April this year, and is newly listed.

The book will initially have a quiz "Are you a master parent?" "Different choices will have different results, of course, we as parents, for children's problems, different approaches will have different gains.

In addition, every child will experience setbacks in the draft, how to turn the frustration into a turning point in the child's growth? The third part of the book provides a detailed answer.

I hope today's sharing can give everyone a little harvest, today, good night

What should I do if my child doesn't study hard?

These types of questions can almost be said to be the most asked questions on major platforms, and the other questions are too far from these questions in terms of the number or number of questions.

In fact, I am not optimistic about their help-seeking behavior, not that the suggestions mentioned by netizens do not work, but that such parents have never jumped out of the thinking limitations of "headache doctor, foot pain doctor".

Headache doctor, foot pain doctor".

What is the limitation of thinking that "a headache is a doctor, and a foot is a pain"? In fact, it's very simple, that is, if there is a problem, we will treat it, and if it is not done right, we will change it. For example, if the child procrastinates in homework, we supervise and urge the child to change the habit of procrastination; Children are addicted to mobile phones, so we keep an eye on them and control the time and ...... of our children's mobile phone playThis is all a "headache doctor, foot pain doctor".

Some parents may ask? Isn't that right?

In fact, there is a big problem in solving the problem in this way.

Take children's homework as an example, when parents find that their children are procrastinating in their homework, parents often urge their children to write quickly by supervising their children. So maybe this time the child will write quickly, but what about the next time? The child will still be the same.

Why? Because the parents did not find the real root cause of the problem, and of course it was not solved.

What is the cause of children's procrastination in writing homework? Whether it is because the child has the habit of procrastinating and grinding, or because the child has no concept of time, or because the child does not know how to do it, he has a fear ......of difficultyWithout figuring out the real reason behind the problem, the parents simply and rudely adopted the method of "headache doctor, foot pain doctor", the child procrastination forced him to become not procrastinate through supervision and supervision, on the surface the problem was solved, but the root cause was not solved, so the child will continue to procrastinate next time.

This is why the problem-solving method of "headache and foot pain" cannot help parents solve the problem effectively.

Many times, the child's problem manifests itself here, but the solution lies elsewhere.

Let's take the example of a child's procrastination.

If the reason for the child's procrastination is because he has no concept of time, then no matter how much the parents urge the child, the child will only be urged to go, and will not become active in writing, because he does not know that the fundamental problem of time has not been solved.

If parents realize that their children do not have the concept of time, then there is no need for parents to dwell on the problem of procrastination and grinding of their children's current performance, but to teach their children more about time in their daily life, so that children can master the concept of time. In other words, although the child's homework shows procrastination problems, the problem is not solved when the child is doing homework, but when he is eating, playing games, or shopping.

Zhuangzi wrote a sentence "meet with the gods but not with the eyes", which is the best interpretation of this method of education.

The highest state is not to treat yourself as a parent, to treat your child as a friend will be better communicated with your child, and your child will accept your careful education from his heart.

Let children learn self-discipline. Self-disciplined people are the most likely to succeed, and being able to make children self-disciplined is the greatest success in education.

Be friends with children, treat children as equals, and they will realize that they are treated as equals and grow up more freely and healthily.

Cultivate children from an early age to be educated, starting from these 8 little things:

1.Smile always when you see people.

2.Keep your promises.

3.Respect the privacy of others.

4.Don't talk about others.

5.Have a sense of time.

6.Say thank you in the face of help.

7.Be quiet in public.

8.Pay attention to your eating appearance when eating.