Am I too demanding to find a match, or am I having a premarital phobia?

It's clear that you're neither. You're the very rustic type. So the basic factor is that you two are not very suitable.

But in the national situation that it is difficult to find a partner, I hope you can change your thinking and strive to run in with your girlfriend. The first point is inevitable, after all, he is from a rural area, and the second point is the same, after coming to the city, he must yearn for a bright life, and it is normal to overdress himself. The last point is entirely up to you, if you can fit into her family, you will feel warm rather than annoying.

Looking back at these 3 points, your girlfriend's problem is not very big, the key is the degree. If you can be a little older and help your girlfriend reduce the number of bad habits, it will be basically not a problem.

Give up being with her. Because love needs to be maintained by two people. It's useless just that you love her, she said to play with you, and she will definitely dump you in the future.

It's a lifetime to get married, if you get married, you're destined to live with her for the rest of your life, if you don't want to be with this kind of person for the rest of your life, let it go. Even if you love her again, let it go. It's really boring to get married like this.

There are also many good girls to choose from. People live this life, to be good to themselves, don't let a woman waste your beautiful life. Go find a better girl to live your good life!

As the saying goes: whether the shoe fits or not, only the person who wears the shoe knows. This is true for wearing shoes, and even more so for marriage.

The point is, if you feel happy to be with her, and I'm talking about the kind of happiness that comes from the heart, rather than saying that reason tells you how you should be, then you might as well get along and see; On the other hand, if you always feel disgusted by the above problems, or you can't accept them at all, then don't enter into marriage with her. Rather than getting married and getting divorced in the future, it is better to avoid tragedy sooner.

Marriage isn't just about the two of you, but your feelings are the most important thing, and you have to like her or not. In a marriage is to live, if you like to spend money, you can marry, but you must spend money in moderation, and you can also dress up in moderation......This degree depends on your financial ability.

I don't like people who swear, neither men nor women.

That's why I'm disgusted with you as a girlfriend.

Then Stinky Beauty feels very selfish, and it will be difficult for you to get along.

Unless you have a belly like the ocean.

Then, with her character, you can't have a peaceful and simple life.

Let's see for yourself.

Aren't you still married?Marriage is a major event in life!I think you already know the answer.,You don't like this girl and you can say it's annoying.,Look at the examples you wrote.,It's all the shortcomings you hate.,And her character won't bring you a peaceful life.,So what's there to think about.。

To love her is to tolerate her and help her change her shortcomings. When you learn to tolerate her, it's your wedding day.

First of all: "Am I too demanding to find a match or am I having a premarital phobia?""Judging from your description, it can be determined that you should not have premarital phobia, and as for what you said was too demanding, and you did not write out your criteria for choosing a mate, I am not very clear.

What is certain is that you are dissatisfied with her, she is not your dish, you listed four points, the first two points can be seen that you are very dissatisfied with her behavior, and the wife candidate in your mind should not be like this. The third point is that receiving gift money is a custom in the countryside, which is equivalent to the meaning of engagement, if you really like her and are willing to wait for her, you should not be angry that she still wants to play after receiving gift money, and you can also see your sense of urgency for marriage. The fourth point is her home conditions, and it can be seen that you are not very satisfied.

If she is not satisfied with her in all aspects, what will she do?Love can't be compromised, and marriage can't be treated as child's play because it is difficult to find a partner. After all, if you get married, then the days will be long.

Do you want to live the kind of calm and simple life you want with her?At this point, I hope you will think about it yourself, and finally wish you to find your own little happiness.

No one is perfect, as the saying goes, the lover's eye is out of the world. If you really love her, you will not see her shortcomings, but her shortcomings will also become advantages.

There is only one question: do you love her?If love loves everything, including her shortcomings, there is no perfect person, she must also have her strengths.

Premarital phobia is not that you have no information, but that you have no confidence in your future career and concept of love and family life.

There are many things to be afraid of, such as whether he will be as good to himself as ever after marriageOr will two people contag any contradictions in their lives?And now that there are so many divorces in society, will it be because of nothing else that will lead to divorce and so on.

Premarital phobia, which is also a social phenomenon, people may be in love vigorously before marriage, but once considering the state of marriage and the current state of marriage in society, then there are many people who will have premarital phobia, thinking that they should not get married, but they have to get married, so he delays you, because of what is the reason for burning, there is no confidence to cause premarital phobia, this reason may be many, there may be many people who do not want so many obligations after marriage, And they don't want to do so much housework, so it's reasonable to say that they have phobias, but once they get married, these may disappear naturally.

I think the fear before marriage is not that I don't have confidence in anything, but that I think that I will feel very difficult and confused in the future.

No confidence in yourself. I'm afraid that I can't give my girlfriend a good life, and I'm afraid that I can't be the pillar of the family.

Of course, it's the future husband, you have to leave your own family, marry into his family, and your future life will have to integrate into his family, his parents, his relatives, the handling of these relationships, these human accidents, you are not sure when there is a contradiction, which side he will stand on, you are not sure, he will always be as good as love to you after marriage, although you can live together before you get married, but you always feel the courage to get married.

Personally, I feel that those who are afraid of marriage, in addition to having no confidence in each other, also have no confidence in themselves, and what they are afraid of may or may not happen in the future at all, mainly because of the fear of the unknown.

Premarital phobia, possibly yourself. Seen with your own eyes or heard with your own ears. Some marriages are not good, so I don't have any confidence in my future marriage. Psychophobia!

I don't have confidence in myself, I don't believe that I can manage my future married life, and I don't know what to do in the future.

is not confident in his own vision, in fact, as long as he is capable and does not depend on others, even if he finds a bad person, he can get out of the way.

I think it's because of the worry and anxiety about the unknown life, which is actually shared by most people.

Premarital phobia is a form of longing for the future and a lack of confidence.

In the final analysis, it's because of the lack of security given by my boyfriend, I'm worried about my mother-in-law's daughter-in-law, I'm worried about the future firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar tea, and I'm worried that my boyfriend won't cherish himself after he gets married... These problems will always exist, and your boyfriend will face them with you, don't be afraid, think more about the benefits of marriage.

Standard Answer: Life After Marriage.

Women generally think about the happiness of marriage in advance, think about this and think about that, whether they can buy whatever they want, whether they can get love, this is always a test for the other half

Premarital phobia is actually, well, quite normal, every one of us has premarital phobia. If you really set a wedding date, you are worried that you will not have confidence in yourself. The lover also has no confidence, for fear that there will be some unnecessary embarrassing things after marriage, in fact, we can soothe this kind of psychology, why not think about our married life is so beautiful and happy?

It is very sweet and warm for two people to be together, and when two people are romantic, when you think about it, you have a certain confidence in life and marriage, and you also want to get married.

1. Because you don't have confidence in him, there must be something unhappy in the process of getting along with you, which has affected your relationship.

2. If you are single and comfortable, you are used to being free, if you get married, can you run in well.

3, marriage is two people living a life, firewood, rice, oil and salt, trivialities, everything is a point of worry, so it is very contradictory.

People with premarital phobia generally feel hesitant about the days after marriage, firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea, pots and pans symphony, when they think of these, people with premarital phobia have a headache.

Sometimes it's a form of instinct that doesn't have a particularly obvious reason. Or maybe subconsciously, for the maintenance of first love or former lover, but this inner signal is not perceptible to itself. There is also the possibility that there is something unsatisfactory about the marriage partner or doubts about the future life.

I have no confidence in my family, my husband, and my mother-in-law, and I am a little timid to enter another family, and I don't know how to deal with them, so I am afraid.

People who are about to get married understand that the relationship between the two will change qualitatively from now on. Love is free, you can meet whenever you want, and after marriage, you can be together every day. During a relationship, you can cancel your date when you're in a bad mood and do whatever you want.

This is not the case after marriage, even if you are in a bad mood, you have to go to work, earn money to support your family, and when you return home, you have to cook, buy groceries, wash dishes and clothes, and educate your children. People marry to meet their emotional needs, sexual needs, security needs, and the need to carry on their families. Marriage is a kind of contract, and from then on, both of them have to do what they should do, take responsibility, fulfill their obligations, and naturally have to pay a certain price.

It is precisely because of the above-mentioned changes in perspectives and lifestyles before and after marriage that some people are about to enter the marriage hall and have an unpredictable and inexplicable worry about their future life situation.

Generally speaking, the following types of people are prone to excessive premarital anxiety:

People who do not have a sense of responsibility and the ability to take responsibility. Those men and women with immature personalities, strong dependence, and poor living ability are prone to nervousness and anxiety about the upcoming married life. Psychology believes that people who fulfill their married life must have a considerable degree of maturity and responsibility, and need to have a certain degree of rational thinking and the ability to cope with life.

And those who blindly rely on others and are completely at the mercy of emotions often miss the love period when they are not expected to fulfill their responsibilities, and are anxious about entering the marriage period.

Those who are overly worried about marital conflicts and conflicts. Mentally and emotionally, there are always people who are sensitive. They are worried about the possible conflicts in their marital life, and these people are either affected by the shadow of their parents' marital discord, or they have seen examples of marital breakdowns around them, or they have long been exposed to the saying that "marriage is the grave of love", so they have a kind of premarital anxiety that "good flowers do not bloom often, and good times do not always exist".

People who are too "adaptable" to the free life before marriage, such people have become accustomed to living freely, and they are worried that once they get married, they will lose their independence and freedom, and narrow or even close their social circles, so they unconsciously have a sense of fear of marriage that may suppress their current various psychological desires.

For those who are worried about entering the palace of marriage, it is best to leave enough time for themselves to make appropriate psychological adjustments. This includes identifying your worries and choosing a strategy to deal with them based on the problem. You can listen to newlywed counseling lectures or read such books, or you can learn to master some specific life skills and communicate more with your lovers, especially the arrangements and ideas for married life.

Emotional states can only change when the worrier begins to cope and change, rather than just being helpless in worry.

No way! There should be some people who are looking forward to getting married and starting a family! Maybe it's people who really experience marriage that they think marriage is a grave!

In fact, love and marriage are the same! It is for us to operate with our hearts, not to say that the task will be completed when we get married, but a happy marriage still depends on both parties to maintain together!

It's true that you're a little worried, because it's the first time you experience this, but believe in yourself, he's willing to marry you or he's willing to marry you, it's a testament to how much you've been through, and you've been through so many ups and downs, and you're afraid that you won't be able to get through it together in the future.

If you want to confirm that you have a premarital phobia, you can judge it based on the symptoms of premarital phobia, or see a psychologist.

Premarital phobia is a sense of fear in the future marriage, which will often cause fear, nervousness, anxiety, irritability, quick temper, anger, and some people will be silent and unwilling to talk more, which will affect work and life.