The sorrow of a family is not because of poverty, but because of several reasons?

As the saying goes, there is no such thing as a chimney that doesn't smoke. There is basically no family that can raise eyebrows from beginning to end. In a family, it is normal for conflicts between group members, conflicts between husband and wife, problems in children, and so on.

A normal person has all the joys, sorrows, and sorrows, and a normal family will also have irrelevance. This is not only the reality, but also the longest and most stable life. Many people think that the conflict between family members is a manifestation of family discord, not so, the ancient people said that "everything is prosperous" does not mean that the family members are polite and easy-going on the surface, but cherish each other from the bottom of their hearts.

Compared with "knife mouth tofu heart", "face and heart discord" is family discord. Everyone has their own temperament, a good temper does not mean that a person must be good, and a short personality also shows that this person cannot be deeply acquainted. After all, it is not a phenomenon to recognize people, but more important thoughts and sincerity.

In a family, the real deplorability is not poverty, not constant disputes, but the following four situations. Spreading the shortcomings of the other half everywhereMany people can't help but preach the shortcomings of the other half outside.

Naturally, this kind of shortcoming is rarely fabricated, and most of them are real shortcomings. Some people may say: What I said is true, I didn't slander it, and I didn't make it up, so why can't I say it?

Remember, no one is perfect, and every human being has an incomplete part of his body, which may be a major flaw or a major fault, and this kind of unpleasant thing is usually slowly expanded with the increase of connection. It's not wrong to see shortcomings in a person, at least it shows that people are very honest with you. And this kind of problem never happens to be able to attack someone, but to be an unusual place for another soul.

Two people who love each other are determined to support each other through life, and they need to learn to accept the flaws of the other party and find a special way to get along in the process of running-in. These people who go around preaching about their lover's shortcomings have no idea when they say it sounds good, and they don't have a heart when they say it is bad. A happy family is angry and tolerant, while an unlucky family is an attack on each other.

There is no protection of the personal privacy of the children at all.

If you look closely, you can see that many parents like to get together and take their children out for comparison. However, most of this "comparison" is not a face-to-face comparison, but a competition of shortcomings and communication of shortcomings solutions. I once read a joke about a father who always scolded his 6-year-old boy for his withdrawn personality, and forced his child to say hello whenever he saw a child of the same age on the road.

If the child doesn't want to, the father will say: "Look at this incompetent appearance, you are all the same age, why are you so shy to say hello and play together, it's just waste!" ”

There is no unity and disharmony within the family, there are deep contradictions between family members, there is no family affection, and they quarrel all day long.

However, if the relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious, then even if two people are together, the whole family will not feel warmth, which will greatly affect the emotional relationship of the whole family.

A family is more like a startup!

We must do our part and work together!

Six reasons why a family is getting poorer and poorer, if there is, we must change it, learn to stop losses in time, and don't make mistakes again and again!

Clause. 1. Young people are bound by children and can't go out to work to earn money!

Clause. Second, the old man only cares about his own life! Don't make any plans for your old age!

When I am old and sick and need to be taken care of, I think of my children!

Clause. 3. Everyone thinks about themselves, and the family is scattered!

Clause. Fourth, even if someone in the family turns over, the family will be estranged!

Because those difficult days were all spent alone, and I gritted my teeth and persevered! It's hard to get hot when your heart is cold!

Clause. Fifth, in a family, there is no old man with a high moral pattern!

Clause. Sixth, the truly excellent family is through several generations of mutual encouragement and relay efforts!

A family is never a one-man battle!

If the elders do not leave material assets to their children and grandchildren!

Then you have to leave at least some spiritual assets behind!

If you have money, you will have the power to contribute, and you will not be able to do it without money!

To put it bluntly, everything is an exchange!

Between people, even the closest ones, is no exception!

To put it bluntly, it's also a business!

Don't raise your requirements just because you're a relative!

I lowered my requirements for myself!

The more it is between relatives, the more clear it is!

A family is a company!

Do your part! We must work together!

An ordinary family is a startup!

There must be a backbone!

Someone has to do the logistics!

Someone has to fight on the front lines!

We have to work together!

We must do a good job in the construction of the old, middle and young echelons!

There must be a plan for the family to continue to carry it out!

A family, for it to prosper, needs many, many more!

If you want to lose, one is enough!

The greatest sorrow of a family is not poverty, not quarrels, but the inability to raise grateful children.

Poverty can be changed by hard work, quarrels can be alleviated by calmness, and children who do not know how to be grateful will never learn to be filial, and they will not be able to live a good life.

A child who does not know how to be grateful is a wolf in human skin.

They unscrupulously demand, and eventually "drink up" the "blood" of their parents, so that the whole family will decay, and there will be no more prosperous days.

Children who don't know how to be gratefulDon't know how to respect eldersCommanding his parents and losing his temper with his elders.

squandering his parents' money is a matter of course;

Watching the tiredness of his parents, he never felt distressed.

Stingy giving, lazy and disgusting, afraid of hardship, greedy for enjoyment!

Children who don't know how to be grateful are mostly spoiled and think that he is the prince and princess of the whole world.

Because of the free "slaves" of the parents, they are used to enjoying themselves at home, and over time they turn a blind eye to the fatigue of their parents.

Such a child is uneducated in the eyes of others, and repeatedly hits a wall after entering society.

Children who don't know how to be gratefulLearning doesn't mean empathyThis kind of child, held by the parents, the elders are in pain, holding it in the mouth for fear of melting, holding it in the palm of the hand for fear of falling.

Because he is accustomed to the good of others, he forms a mentality, even if he does not reciprocate, it does not prevent others from being good to him!

He never thinks about others, because what he wants is easily available.

The hard work of his parents, the exhaustion of his parents, even if he sees it in his eyes, he will not care.

Because he has never done anything and has never paid for others, it is difficult to put himself in the shoes of others to understand the feelings of others, and Hu Chen has become more and more selfish and cold as time goes by.

Raise children who know how to be gratefulIt is the greatest achievement of a familyChildren know gratitude, know the hardships of their parents along the way, are willing to reduce the burden for them, and are willing to fulfill their responsibilities.

Be filial to your parents and make your parents happy;

Know how to be grateful and let others respect!

Children's education starts with being a person! Academic performance is importantCharacter cultivation is indispensable! Let children learn to be grateful and know that life is not easyIt's not about letting children sufferIt's about making them a kind and responsible person

People who value love and righteousness, and work hard!

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Harm to children

The most terrible thing about the family is not poverty, but the consequences of your parents crying poor are so serious that you despair.

Good education is not to teach children to strive for the first, but to awaken the seeds in children's hearts.

1.Let children have an inferiority complex.

Parents crying poor will make their children realize in their hearts that I am different from other children, and my family has no money. I can't afford to buy nice clothes, and there are toys that other children have. When children watch other people's children show off their new things, they naturally have an idea that they are not as good as others, and then they have an inferiority complex, becoming sensitive and vulnerable.

2.Let the child be vain and selfish.

Parents cry poor, once the child knows the fact that his family is poor, he will care more about money, and he will also care more about the eyes of others. I don't want others to know that I am poor and look down on myself.

Children even learn to lie to cover up, and they don't want to share their things with others, because they know that if they share it, they won't have the money to buy it again, and in the long run, they will become vain and selfish.

3.Let the child be at the mercy of money.

Parents who cry poor often say to their children, if you are disobedient, you will not buy toys. If you don't do this, you won't be given pocket money, etc., these words are like a trap for the child, restricting him. Let the child slowly become dominated by money.

In the end, children may be "obedient" but are oppressed by their parents' money. In the future, I didn't dare to make my voice heard.

4.Affect the child's vision and pattern.

The rich know how to invest, and the poor are misers, is it really the reason for the rich and the poor? It's just a limitation of thinking.

Fathers often cry about poverty when they touch their mothers, which leads to children saving too much money, not knowing the long-term way, narrowing their horizons, and restricting their patterns. It is branded as poverty, and it is naturally difficult to get out of the poverty circle.

5.Distort your child's view of money.

In life, you should be calm and calm about money, but if your child is financially strictly controlled at an early age and has not been satisfied with material things, he may become more faithful about money when he grows up.

The concept of money first will corrode children's minds, distort children's view of money, and make children become profit-seeking and calculating.

A family can be materially poor, but not spiritually lacking, we can be poor in the economy, but we must be rich in the pattern, upbringing, and three views.

The sorrow of a family is that the first quarrel is constant, always quarreling over some small things, the second is calculating, and the third does not know how to give, only blindly taking.

There are conflicts, they don't trust each other, they don't care about each other, they don't care about each other's state, they can't bring better conditions to the family.

suspicious of each other; The two are treated differently in matters and feelings; I like to dig over old accounts.