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First of all, they often quarrel and fight, destroy the harmony and tranquility of the family, and entangle with the family to win or lose, care too much about who is right and who is wrong, often scold their children, and vent their emotions to their children.
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Only being reasonable and not being reasonable, only being interceding and not being reasonable, family members always look closely at each other, for fear of missing the opportunity to find fault with each other, then they can only see countless problems, and they will continue to consume on these issues. If you have to find out everything and understand it, all the little things will be infinitely magnified. There is only right and wrong in the eyes, and only right and wrong will be used to deal with the facts of life, which is essentially standing on the opposite side of each other.
Only when there is acceptance, recognition and binding can the family be united and united. Either party's unclear behavior is destroying the cohesion of the family.
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Children's education, husband and wife do not communicate with each other, like to be calculating, often quarrel, always fighting over who is right and who is wrong, these things, will cause internal friction in the family.
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The most important thing for a family is "stability and harmony".
A stable and harmonious family, it is not as good as the current situation, but it will eventually rise one day. Because a stable and harmonious family has less internal friction and more accumulation of strength.
On the contrary, a family with intrigues, even if it is powerful and powerful at the moment, will eventually decline one day. Because the internal friction of the intriguing family is extremely serious, Chi Cong is particularly prone to "falling apart".
When it comes to "internal friction", many people will feel confused, what is "internal friction"?
In fact, to put it simply, internal friction is "self-consumption", which is often referred to in psychology as "self-consumption".
Take a tree, for example, if you start with its bark, it will eventually maintain its roots. However, if a termite eats up its interior, and the termite is still its own, it will lose its roots.
For a family, the most critical threat it faces is not an external threat, but an internal situation.
There is a saying that is especially good that any strong fortress is breached from the inside.
At any time, we need to reduce the internal friction of the self, the internal friction of the family, and the internal friction of the society. In this way, everything will flourish and everything will gradually go uphill.
In life, family "internal friction" occurs frequently, and there are three root causes, which are particularly realistic.
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I think that this kind of internal friction in a family is mainly because of some trivial things, such as when encountering things, they will only blame each other, instead of thinking of solutions, they will only defect their emotions, they will not express their needs normally, and they will treat their children in a way that is beaten and scolded, or in an authoritative way, and they do not understand etiquette in ordinary life, and they target each other everywhere in the process of getting along.
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They don't care about each other, they don't understand each other, they don't tolerate, they don't trust, they don't solve problems, they quarrel all the time, and they have financial pressure.
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When facing people close to us, we often become irrational in dealing with things, and may even blame each other, like to vent our emotions in the way of anger, quarrels, and cold wars, and treat children's education problems.
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I think a family needs to solve various problems in the right way, and at the same time, it needs to understand each other as much as possible, which can effectively help the family reduce internal friction.
To a certain extent, it is precisely because family members are very familiar with each other that many people do not have any scruples with each other, and at the same time, they will use various straightforward ways to hurt each other. This is a very irresponsible behavior, because this kind of behavior will not only lead to a lot of internal friction in the family, but also seriously affect the harmony of the family. On the other hand, if all members of a family look at relationship issues with the attitude of being responsible, the family will be very happy.
A family needs to solve problems the right way.
No matter for any family, there will always be more or less problems in a family, and there will also be some conflicts of interest. When there are various conflicts, I think all family members need to solve the problem in the right way, instead of relying on family relationships to vent their emotions. We need to give priority to solving problems as much as possible, not to escalate the contradictions, nor to put them on hold.
A family also needs to understand each other.
For any family member, we need to see the good in each other as much as possible, and try to be as tolerant as possible. If a family member can understand and tolerate each other, the family will become very harmonious, and there will not be too many conflicts between family members. We need to know that there are no perfect people in the world, especially family members, so we need to be tolerant of each other's problems.
In general, if the above two points can be achieved, the family can effectively avoid unnecessary internal friction, and at the same time, it can also make the whole family appear more harmonious. In such a situation, a harmonious family will be the motivation and spiritual support for each member of the family to move forward.
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Failing to grasp feelings and reason, caring too much about each other, not pretending to be confused, and not being able to carry it clearly are all taboos for families to reduce internal friction. If these problems occur, the internal friction in the family will increase.
If the family wants to reduce internal friction, it is necessary to grasp the feelings and reason, if the feelings and reasons are not in place, the family internal friction will increase. Whether it is between husband and wife or between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, we must grasp the scale of affection and reason. In real life, if you are only reasonable and not emotional, or only intercede and are unreasonable, family internal friction will occur.
Home is a place of reasonableness, but it is also a place that is not completely reasonable, and being too reasonable will hurt the feelings between family members and easily affect the relationship between family members.
Caring too much about each other is a taboo for families to reduce internal friction. There should be a proper distance between husband and wife and family members, although they have common goals and common interests, but to have a big picture, don't always focus on each other, because the relationship between the two is too close, there is no private space, you will find each other's shortcomings, and even always find fault with each other, which will make the relationship between each other particularly tense, will make family internal friction occur.
Not pretending to be confused is also a big taboo for families to reduce internal friction. In real family life, it is rare to be confused, and you must not be too smart, otherwise the internal friction in the family will continue to increase. In real family life, a little fool is great wisdom, only in this way can you build a better family and make your family life happier.
Because family life is a lot of people living together, there are often unhappy and uncomfortable places, if you have to find out, you have to divide right and wrong, it will only magnify the little things infinitely, which will exacerbate the contradiction between the two, and will also make two people stand on opposite sides, which will increase the internal friction of the family.
Unclear is also a taboo for families to reduce internal friction. In married life, not only the wife will not be able to carry it, but sometimes the husband will also be unable to carry it, and even the mother-in-law will not be able to carry it. If one of the three people is not clear, there will be family internal friction, if you want to reduce family internal friction, do not have such a situation, must accept and recognize each other, only the family is united, and there is no unclear behavior, will be happy and happy in their own family, and will make their family united.
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In the process of family life, both parties should understand each other and tolerate each other, and the most taboo is mutual suspicion and loss of trust. In this way, there will be internal friction.
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Face life positively and optimistically, don't be pessimistic, don't be willing to fall, don't be influenced by others.
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In fact, a family without internal strife, don't betray your partner, don't have nice men and women outside. Save a part of your monthly expenses.
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First, the family members are very harmonious. Second, every family member is very patient and willing to communicate with their family. Thirdly, everyone likes to prepare things to share their joy at home, so that everyone can be happy in their place.
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They will often get together to communicate, they will talk to each other about something, and they will not deliberately go to the cold war.
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All the relationships between the people in the family are particularly good, special harmony, the family atmosphere is very rough and fierce, and each person is very powerful, and he has made special efforts to go up to the rock bridge.
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If the family wants to reduce "internal friction", when their children are in charge, they must not be in charge of the children's finances, and they must not interfere too much in the decisions made by the children, which will make the relationship between the son and the wife not harmonious, and the daughter-in-law will not have a good relationship with the elders in the family. In the TV series "Their Names", Ren Duomei played by Bai Bing is detouring with her mother-in-law every day, seemingly a family, but they are calculating each other every day, which makes everyone very surprised. However, some netizens think that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the family is also the same as Ren Duomei, who regards her husband as the boss and her mother-in-law as her boss, which is not conducive to family harmony.
Therefore, if families want to reduce "internal friction", parents must not interfere too much in their children's decisions. <>
If a woman is married, she must not go back to her parents' house frequently and live in her parents' house, which will affect the relationship between husband and wife. If the two families are very close, you can go back more often, but if the woman is married, she must not live in her parents' house permanently, which will make the parents worry and suspect whether the relationship between the husband and wife has gone wrong. Even if the parents will say that it doesn't matter in front of their children, but after all, the parents and the children are not in the same era, so the parents will definitely be dissatisfied in their hearts, if the girl has been married, the relationship between the two should be better maintained, do not rely too much on the parents, do not go back to the parents' home frequently.
If the family wants to reduce "internal friction", it must pay attention to getting too close to the opposite sex outside the husband and wife, which will cause cracks in the relationship between the husband and wife, resulting in a worse and worse relationship between the two, which is likely to make the husband and wife suspicious of each other, and if the matter is serious, it will lead to the extreme relationship between the husband and wife, and eventually divorce. After a man and a woman fall in love, they must maintain a relationship with other members of the opposite sex, let alone married couples, once there is suspicion between husband and wife, it is very likely that the relationship between each other will never return to the past. <>
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We must avoid quarrels, cold wars, and cold violence, so as to reduce internal friction in the family.
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Don't get too close to the opposite sex, don't go back to your parents' home frequently, so that you can reduce the bad internal life and be happier.
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You should reduce quarrels with each other, and you should also pay attention to each other, be considerate of each other, and don't keep making each other angry, and don't always have conflicts with each other.
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First of all, parents should have a documented emotion, have a detailed plan for the future, strive to improve their abilities, and read more books, so as to reduce family internal friction.
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If the family wants to reduce "internal friction", when their children are in charge, they must not control the children's finances anymore, and they must not interfere too much in the decisions made by the children.
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It is not easy for two people to set up a family, they must tolerate each other in life, be humble to each other, discuss everything, and empathize with each other.
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