What are some of the things you ve experienced that make you feel so sad?

It should be my last marriage, I married him with the determination that I can be happy for a lifetime, but I didn't expect that after 5 years of marriage, it ended in divorce with great sadness!

Many, many, most painful is that I have had enough dogs for three years to die in childbirth ......

The relationship with his parents was strained, and he was scolded in various ways.

It was probably the year I was about to graduate from junior high school, and it was arguably the most painful year I've ever had. That year, his early love was first discovered by his parents, and then he was slapped by his father on the spot, and he went home and knelt on the ground and was beaten and scolded in various ways.

After that, I didn't care at school, and I had a lot of self-esteem and pretended to be a nobody, but in fact, I was extremely miserable and tormented because I was a trash in the eyes of my parents at that time.

Since then, the relationship with my parents has become more and more bad, especially for my father, tomorrow night I will quarrel over some big and small things, I just remember crying every night, going to school during the day to study early, my eyes are all swollen, and I will cry at every turn because of a little thing.

The whole person seems to be in a trance, and I thought it would be the worst, but then the disaster happened again. When I got up on Saturday morning to go to class, my classmates who had agreed to pick me up downstairs from my house on time, she had always been riding an electric car to carry me, but this time I offered to ride.

At the bus stop not far from the school, I spotted my classmate, I turned to say hello to him, and when I turned around, I saw a fellow student on a bicycle in front of me coming towards me, and I didn't realize that I had been hit.

I just remember that after the collision, my classmate and I rubbed on the ground for some distance with the car before stopping. After stopping, I didn't care about myself, so I quickly got up to see if the classmate behind me was injured, my classmate was fine, but the alumnus covered his head and kept crying, and he was bleeding.

Eventually, her parents came, and I accompanied them to the hospital, but I didn't inform my parents for fear. After everything was done, at the request of the other party's parents, I hit ** to my parents, but in exchange for endless scolding.

At that time, I was still young, and I was in the period of the Cold War with my family, and I was in trouble, and I really felt that the most painful thing in life was nothing more than this, and I was crying all the time, and the whole person was so irritable that I couldn't do it, but fortunately, after that, my relationship with my family eased, and I slowly got out of this haze.

I live in a big harmonious family, family members get along with each other happily, for me the death of a family member makes me very sad, although these sad things have happened since the most recent three years, but I still often see them in my dreams, their voices and smiles are still vivid, as if they have not left this world.

Other members of my family often dream of their deceased loved ones, and communicating and interacting with them in my dreams shows how loving and happy I live in a big family.

The first interview was Ms. Xu, she told me that she was most distressed after giving birth to a child, because her husband was working in the field, and her mother-in-law did not have time to take care of herself, so she relied on herself to survive, and after giving birth to a week later, all the work at home fell on herself, and she was still in the village at that time, and sometimes she needed to go to the reservoir outside to fetch water.

The second interviewee, Ms. Liu, talked about this topic, although it was light on the surface, but it was very moving, she said that she broke her heart for her children when they were in school.

Once promoted to the fifth grade, the head teacher in the county had promised to arrange the child in the best class, but what was unexpected was that the child did not receive the notice from the school for a long time, which made him anxious, so he went out to find the principal alone, and waited for two days before the principal agreed to meet.

The last interview with a girl who just graduated and got married and had children, she said that the most distressing thing about her is that the child's father is a soldier, because he has to serve in the military, so he rushed back to the army after getting married half a year ago, and everything at home is worrying about himself.

What I've experienced is heartbreaking. When I was a child, the family was patriarchal, my parents went out to work, and our two siblings lived with my grandparents, and my grandmother always secretly left small snacks for my younger brother, sometimes I would share half of them, but there would always be an imbalance, and he would give more to his younger brother. Every time Dad came back, he chatted with his younger brother first, and after chatting for a long time, his younger brother smiled happily.

And when I pick up **, I will only ask me how to study, let me study hard, and hang up without saying a few words. Since I was a child, I quarreled and fought with my younger brother, and my father would only blame me, scold me, and let me let my younger brother go, saying that I was still ignorant when I was so old, but in fact I was only two years older than my brother. My brother can watch TV, play games with his mobile phone, and can lie in bed, but I was scolded as soon as I watched TV, and my brother asked me to play a game I didn't dare, he would come to wake me up every morning, saying that young people always lie in bed for something, my brother slept until lunch and didn't get up, and the family called him to get up and eat many times, and he didn't say anything.

I used to be scolded and cry when I was wronged, but my father said that I would only cry. Later, junior high school had a rebellious period, always against them, didn't like to pick up their **, early love, weekends, holidays don't like to go home, in fact, just take the opportunity to vent the grievances, in fact, it's just that the boy is very good to me, better than them. Growing up sensible, I was just silent when I was wronged, and I just thought that I must stay away from home in the future.

After that, I talked less and less, especially when I was at home, and I didn't talk to them much because I was afraid that I would cry, and they said that I didn't know how to talk to people, but I didn't think about why.

There are many things that have been experienced, such as not studying well when studying, very heartbreaking, failing the college entrance examination, and watching the betrayal of friends around you, falling out of love, and being sick at the same time, well, the death of people around you, etc., it is very heart-wrenching, looking at your own future and so on.

What are some of the ironic things you've experienced in the world of relationships? The first thing that comes to my mind is: love in front of people, desolation in the back.

Many people have experienced such intimate relationships: two people have no violent quarrels, let alone physical conflicts, and often show affection, flirt, and "happiness" in the eyes of outsiders, but in private, one party in the intimate relationship always complains to others that their emotional life is very tiring and hard. In them, it is as if there is some kind of invisible violence, inflicted by one side on the other, and only those who are in it can know how painful it is.

Contrary to what we often call "cold violence", this is actually a less obvious type of emotional violence in intimate relationships: "mental abuse". What is "Mental Abuse" Mental abuse is a type of indirect violence that is more subtle than direct violence, but it is also more common.

In love, it often manifests itself in disrespect for the partner, lying, or simple manipulation. The abuser may not seem to have any abusive behavior, but there will be obvious abusive connotations in words and behaviors, such as verbal aggression, humiliation, sarcasm, and derogation. Mental abuse is also often delicate and unobtrusive, and it is easy for onlookers to misinterpret it as what the two people call "intimate interaction" or "flirting".

For example, someone will joke when they are partying with friends that their girlfriend is not attractive enough; laughed at his partner's privacy and living habits in public, saying that he was dirty and lazy at home; Instead of comforting your partner when she is frustrated at work, she repeatedly tells him or her that "you just can't do these things well."

Because of his negligence, he made an unforgivable mistake to his beloved, and regretted it for life.

My best friend couldn't think about it because of depression, and it hurts why such a thing happened.

My uncle's death was a source of great heartache for me, and the illness took him away, but it couldn't take away our feelings for him.

The most heart-wrenching thing I've ever experienced is that the one I love, but he loves someone else, and this feeling is worse than death.

My girlfriend dumped me because she hated that I didn't have any money at home, which was the most heart-wrenching thing I've ever experienced.

The most heart-wrenching thing I've ever experienced is that my friend who played with me to the end broke with me.

The most heart-wrenching thing for me is that I treat my husband wholeheartedly, but he doesn't understand me at all, and he doesn't even say a good word to me.

It's that my good friend died, and I couldn't think about suicide because of depression, and it wasn't actually caused by a major event, but I regret why I didn't realize it at the time.

My best friend and boyfriend cheated on me and showed off in front of me after the two of them got together.

The most painful thing was when my brother died. Since I was a child, my relationship with my brother was okay, he was two and a half years younger than me, so he often fought and fought for things since he was a child. Later, he finished junior high school and did not continue to study because his grades were not very good.

I went to Guangdong to work, at that time I was a sophomore in high school, and then I interned in college, I interned in Suzhou, and only occasionally fought with him, I remember that I also played with him two days before his accident. Two days later, when I got off work, I saw a text message from my father, saying that my brother had an accident, I quickly called **, and listened to my father's crying voice, I knew that the matter was serious. Later, I took leave to go to Guangzhou, and my parents cried because of this incident, and I couldn't cry either.

Watching him being pushed into the crematorium was really desperate at that time. Thinking about my brother, who is separated from us forever, he is not yet 20 years old! My parents don't know how they got over the years.

It's been almost five years now, and we've gradually stepped out of the shadows, hoping that my brother will be happy in heaven and bless my parents with peace and security.

In 2014, I had moderate depression due to the loss of love and work pressure, and then I took medicine and slowly came out with the company of my family. This year, again... It feels so painful that life is worse than death...

Before my grandmother was in a coma, my aunt secretly stole the gold ring on my grandmother's finger behind everyone's back, which was my grandmother's favorite thing and the only most valuable item on her body. Before she died, Grandma kept asking her family where her gold ring wentThe whole family was helping to find it, but they couldn't find it, and then my grandmother died and was buried, and that day everyone found that the gold ring that my grandmother regarded as a treasure was on my aunt's hand.

So everyone asked her why she stole it, and she was very disdainful that the old man was about to return to the West and would not be needed. ‍‍

The pain of losing love is the most desperate moment for me. That boy is not merciful, that girl is not pregnant with spring!Because of the feeling that it is heart-to-heart, the opportunity has been lost, the wrong path has been taken, and there may be something more suitable for you. ‍‍

When I was a sophomore, my family's conditions were not very good, and I went to college in Beijing, when my brother opened a small shop in Beijing to do computer assembly. Before the Labor Day holiday in my sophomore year, my brother said that he would go home, and I didn't care about it at school at that time, and my brother went back during the holiday. My girlfriend from another place also came to look for me, and the two of us went to Xiangshan to have a good time that day, and had dinner with my brother in the evening, and when I drove home after eating, my brother suddenly said to me, "Do you know why I went home?"

I said, "What are you doing?"He said, "My dad is hospitalized, tuberculosis" I felt my head "buzz" at that time, and my heart instantly felt a huge blockage, my brother then said, "The family didn't tell you, don't think about it, it's okay now, you have to know that you don't have the financial ability now, and it won't help but tell you, it's just to increase your worries", at that moment, I couldn't help crying, secretly.

Two days ago, my parents called me ** and scolded me all the time, I just came to Ningbo, and I was not used to anything, so I wanted to go back to Sichuan. She kept scolding me, saying that I didn't make any money and ran around all day. The travel expenses are not enough, I couldn't hold it back anymore at that moment, and the tears fell directly, even if I didn't do well, you should tell me well, yes, there's no need to be so-for-tat, it's not like I haven't seen each other for a lifetime, I feel so wronged when I think about it now, doesn't it mean that parents are the eternal haven for their children. ‍‍

A few years ago, thousands of miles away, I suddenly learned that my father had terminal bladder cancer. The whole person was stunned, and he couldn't express his inner grief when he cried. I can't believe that my father, who is like a mountain, would get so seriously ill at such an age.

When I returned to Harbin and accompanied my father to the hospital for surgery, it was really heartbreaking to see him as a good person, hanging a urine bag every day. Really, looking at the people close to me, suffering from illness, the feeling of powerlessness is really indescribable.