How do adolescents relate to older adults?

Adolescents must pay attention to psychological self-regulation.

Psychologist Erikson particularly emphasized that the important task of adolescent psychological self-regulation is to understand themselves and establish a correct self-identity and a strong and independent sense of self.

This requires: on the one hand: serious and active self-reflection. As a growing teenager, you will slowly have some independent opinions formed, and you can judge and evaluate the people and things around you with your own eyes, these views come from the observation of people and things, and in the same way, understanding yourself and understanding others are the same, you must make certain observations, and observing yourself is introspection.

In the process of introspection, we should pay attention to, first, slowly learn to let thinking into our own life, and analyze ourselves calmly, including our current situation, our own situation with others, some of our own strengths and defects, our entire life ideals, and so on. Second, in the introspection, we should avoid being emotional, don't drill the horns of the horns for a little thing, don't be overconfident and become proud, try to look at ourselves with an objective eye, accept our occasional ambivalence and loneliness, don't need to worry too much, and often remind ourselves to try our best to overcome inferiority and jealousy.

On the other hand: being friendly and harmonious with others. Interpersonal communication plays a very important role in the mental health development of adolescents, and it is impossible for adolescents who are separated from interpersonal communication to grow up healthily.

Through the evaluation and help of others, teenagers can receive more knowledge and feel the care between people more truly, and at the same time, they can better understand their position in the minds of others, and correct their deficiencies in time, so as to form a more complete self-image. It's also very good for resolving ambivalence and loneliness.

On the other hand, it is to accept oneself and improve oneself. The average person cannot be perfect, nor can he be useless. Accepting oneself means not only seeing one's own strengths, but also learning and living with confidence.

It also refers to being aware of one's own shortcomings and shortcomings, not to deny them, but to improve them by accepting and then thinking, not to be proud of one's own strengths, and not to be inferior to one's own shortcomings. The key here is to ask our teenage friends to believe that they are valuable people and to do their best to realize their worth.

The reason why self-affirmation in self-regulation is emphasized is that it is related to the future development of the individual. Everyone has strengths and strengths. Everyone will also feel a different psychological state at different times, if you have ever had conflict, loneliness, low self-esteem or jealousy, it is not surprising, growing people are inevitable, but growing people can also through their own adjustment to greatly get rid of these feelings, let themselves fully develop their potential.

Remember: self-fulfillment will start with self-confidence and work hard to ensure it.

1. Communicate patiently with the elderly, listen carefully to the teachings of the elderly, and learn the valuable experience of the elderly.

2. Know how to empathize and look at problems from the perspective of the elderly, who will have unique insights into the problem.

3. The elderly can be carefully taught to learn new things, reduce the generation gap between two people, and reduce the contradictions between each other.

4. Young people should have a tolerant heart, know how to respect and tolerate the elderly, after all, the elderly are their elders.

In fact, with the continuous development of society, the life experiences, living habits and concepts of the two generations are very different, and there will be various contradictions between the young and the old.

If you always express your own opinions, don't know how to consider each other, and don't know how to accept each other's suggestions, then the generation gap between the two generations will become wider and wider.

Therefore, young people need to explain to the elderly patiently, and the elderly also need to have a heart to accept new things, understand each other, and tolerate each other.

1.From the bottom of our hearts, we must always remind ourselves that we must respect the elderly, and regard respect for the elderly as a compulsory course to shape our own virtues. Only by doing this will you not look at the elderly everywhere and will you not have a rebellious mentality.

In this way, you will consciously move closer to the elderly. This is the basis for treating the elderly with everything, otherwise everything to be done later will be in vain.

2.You must absolutely believe that every criticism of the old man, even if it is scolding, is for your own good. Even if the elderly's views and ideas are not entirely correct, you must learn to affirm that the elderly's intentions are good, and at least they are not intent on harming you.

3.Learn to ask the old man for advice and listen to what the old man has to say about the matter. You know, although the old man may not be able to keep up with the times, he is a little conservative in his thinking.

But don't forget the analogy: the old man has eaten more salt than you eat, and the old man has walked on a bridge longer than the road you have walked. This is the experience, after all, the old man was also young, and the ups and downs and lessons experienced are enough for you to learn from.

4.Try to spend some time chatting with the elderly and discussing topics of interest. Don't think that you young people and old people don't have a common language, let alone that old people are backward in their thinking, if you still think so, then you are really wrong.

When you young people are improving, in fact, the old people are also improving, and they are also keeping up with the pace of the times, but you don't notice it. Coupled with the stability of the elderly's experience, they generally look at problems more deeply and think broadly, which is an ability that most young people do not have. Chat with the elderly and discuss topics of interest, and you will find that some of the words of the elderly will help you distinguish between right and wrong, which you may not be able to learn from books and teachers.

How young people interact with older people's hearts.

The most important thing in life is spirituality, and nowadays people pay more and more attention to spiritual communication, which also includes communication and understanding between the elderly and the young. In their spiritual interactions with young people, the elderly can obtain more precious spiritual comfort and conceptual renewal than material comfortsYoung people will also increase their knowledge and talents and enrich their social experience through such interactions. So, how should young people engage spiritually with older people?

1. Be willing to "talk and communicate" Many elderly people compare chatting together to a "spiritual meal", and the key to joining this "meal" is to be "happy" and to hold the attitude of "people talk a lot of old words, and they don't think they are verbose". As for the content of the "meal", it can vary from person to person, from time to time, and from place to place, and the content that the elderly are interested in is a good topic. 2. Adhere to the "Hongyan Communication" People often see many elderly people treasure the letters of their children, relatives and friends, and take them out to chew when they have time, and they also treasure them when they mention them to others.

Therefore, caring for the elderly should not only be called, but also pay attention to writing more letters. If you have something to write, you have to write a greeting letter regularlySometimes it is just a note and a message, which will make the elderly feel warm. 3. Proper "etiquette interactions" Young people may be free and uninhibited in their interactions, and they do not care much about etiquette;Older people are more traditional and pay attention to etiquette.

Therefore, when interacting with the elderly, it is necessary to respect their habits and needs, take the initiative to give courtesy, and pay attention to the selection of appropriate salutations and conversational language, so that the elderly can get a sense of spiritual and psychological satisfaction. Fourth, timely "appreciation and communication" For example, watching TV and listening to the radio with the elderly, visiting exhibitions and scenic spots together, reading books and newspapers together, and appreciating masterpieces. The elderly have rich life experience, and the young people have modern innovative ideas, and they can learn from each other's strengths, inspire each other, complement each other, and benefit together.

Fifth, strive for "co-creation and communication" Although most of the elderly have left their jobs, their professionalism and business expertise may not be "retired" at the same time. Therefore, using creative activities as a channel to communicate with the mind is also a good way to communicate spiritually. Many elderly people feel refreshed and even rejuvenated when performing on the same stage or operating with young people; Many young people have gained knowledge, experience and maturity in the process.

1. Use the elderly's preferred salutation or honorific to communicate.

Ask family members about how the elderly prefer to be addressed.

If there is no special salutation requirement, the honorific should be used uniformly in the early stage of getting along, and it can be adjusted according to the preferences of the elderly in the future in the process of getting along.

Second, try not to communicate in dialects that the elderly do not understand.

Some elderly people are suspicious, and if they hear us say something they don't understand, it is easy to misunderstand.

If you can speak your hometown, you can use your hometown dialect to chat with the elderly, which is easy to get closer to the elderly.

3. Try not to involve the privacy of the elderly in the chat.

Do not talk about privacy topics with the elderly unless they voluntarily disclose it. Everyone has their own privacy, and inquiring into privacy can bring discomfort to the elderly.

Fourth, praise the elderly reasonably and moderately.

Older people are not children, and even if they need the care of others, don't forget that older people are adults too.

After receiving such inappropriate praise, some elderly people may feel that they are being treated as fools or useless and imbeciles, which can damage the relationship of mutual trust between the two parties.

Fifth, try not to talk about family and topics that make the elderly sad when communicating with the elderly.

The elderly are psychologically sensitive and emotionally unstable. It is also prone to depression, depression, frustration, and pessimism. Try not to arouse pessimism in the elderly.

Six. Avoid talking about topics involving death, such as serious illness that is difficult to treat, and the impermanence of life.

Some older people are psychologically sensitive and have a special fear of death. Try not to talk about related topics, so as not to cause the elderly to be afraid of death, old age, and disease, and cause anxiety among the elderly.

7. Do not disclose other people's privacy when chatting with the elderly.

Being too unscrupulous in chatting can make the elderly and their families worry about whether the privacy of their homes can be guaranteed.

8. Try not to talk about money.

Older people have the psychological trait of being afraid of being deceived.

Maybe we are just chatting normally, and we want to talk to the old man more to find a topic, and we have no other intentions, but this may cause misunderstanding among the old man.

Don't talk about money with the elderly, just ask family members if needed.

9. Remember what the old man said.

In fact, after my personal experience, I think 1One ear in and one ear out (sometimes the old man doesn't say very good, which may make you uncomfortable, so just treat it as if you didn't hear it, and automatically block it).

2.Generally rely on the elderly, you don't want to reason with the elderly, fight for right and wrong, because they are vulnerable, just turn a blind eye.

3.Say: Ah, yes, yes, yes (all obedience, he is both the old man and the eldest) 4Do the above points to ensure that you can reduce 90% of your troubles.

How do adolescents relate to older adults? In fact, it is very simple, you only need to follow one principle: think from the other person's point of view, so that you can communicate well.

Here are two common examples from life to illustrate:

1. Young and old people go out to eat.

If young people think from the perspective of old people: Oh, I have bad teeth, and I have to eat softer food; If the stomach is not good, it is easy to digest; If the blood lipids and blood pressure are high, you must eat light oil and salt; And,** it's more affordable. When these factors are taken into account, it becomes very simple what they should go out to eat and go to eat, and there will be no young people who want to eat this, old people who want to eat like that, and finally both parties are not satisfied.

2. The requirements of young and old people for children's clothing.

Young parents will feel that they should dress their children up very appropriately and fashionably, so that they can cultivate their children's aesthetic ability and clothing matching level from an early age. And the elderly will feel:

It's a waste for a child to grow up so fast, to look the same every year, to spend so much money, to buy so many clothes, and to be able to wear them for only a year.

Of course, in life, young people and the elderly want to communicate with all aspects of things, the above are just two examples to illustrate, no matter how different the young and the old in terms of values, thinking habits, etc., as long as you stand in the other party's position to think about the problem, to respect each other's ideas, and then communicate patiently, you can have a good communication result.

Adolescents and older people associate with each other to learn to listen. Because there is a generation gap, there are great differences in ideology and concepts, and the world outlook created by the living environment and the times is different, but it is possible to retain the same and seek small differences.

The elderly can tell their own experiences and experiences to the youngsters, and the social experience and knowledge accumulation of the elderly are far richer than the youngsters, but they cannot put on a show in front of the youngsters and make friends with a low profile.

Teenagers and the elderly should respect the ideological concepts and ways of thinking of the elderly, although there are some differences, but there is no need to be harsh, calculating, learning to listen is the most important magic weapon for the interaction between teenagers and the elderly.

Teenagers and the elderly should learn to empathize with each other, take into account each other's feelings, be tolerant and tolerant, and be tolerant of each other in order to have a long-term relationship.

The elderly leave the society and return to life, due to the difference in life and work years and environment, many elderly people do not think about the style of the lover, and even resist the psychology, the solutions are as follows.

1.Strengthen communication and exchanges between the two sides Strengthen mutual understanding and help in life and work.

2.Strengthen the care of the elderly, they will give the young people a lot, valuable experience advice.