Remarried family, how to get along with children?

You should raise your child as if it were your own, and when you get along with your child, don't put on the score of your elders, but get along with you as a friend, so that your child is more acceptable.

When getting along with your child, you can first get along with your child in a friend's way, there is no need to change your words, and wait until your child is willing to accept it, and then let your child change his name.

When getting along with children, they must be in a very good mood and not hurt their children, so as not to cause psychological shadows to children.

Subtly establish a new relationship, establish a new balance point, and do something acceptable to the other party to shorten the distance between each other.

Before entering the remarried family, the husband and wife have established a strong alliance with their children, and the relationship is close. After forming a new family, parents may worry that their children are young and fragile, and will be excluded and suffer losses in the relationship with their stepparents and other relationships, which will invisibly protect their children more, and then form a sub-alliance problem.

In addition, the conventional wisdom that requires stepparents to "treat their stepchildren as if they were their own" is also a misconception. Stepparents can never whimsically "become" themselves into their child's biological parents, taking the place or role of their biological parents.

There is a great deal of heterogeneity in remarried families, and when we don't know about them, they are reef hazards, but as long as we learn and understand, we can deal with these challenges and dangers effectively;At the same time, because of these heterogeneities, we can also make good use of these reefs and transform them, and we can integrate larger resources to create more wonderful landscapes. Remarried families need to have a process for family members to accept each other.

Especially for couples with children from their own families of origin, it is more difficult to get children to have a sense of trust in themselves. To manage your relationship with your child, you can do this: you have to realize that from the point of view of the family sequence, your stepson or stepdaughter will definitely put his biological parents ahead of you.

In his heart, no matter what his biological parents do to him, he will probably put his biological parents first.

If you want to integrate into the family quickly and want your child to accept you quickly, you need to avoid deliberately showing how good you are to him in front of him, or stopping him when he wants to get together with his biological parents, which can easily make your child feel disgusted with you and even make him think that you have ruined his otherwise happy family. As the saying goes, "Sincerity for sincerity."

What you need to grasp is that in the process of getting along with your child, treat him with a sincere and friendly attitude, and believe that over time, the child will build trust in you.

If I remarry, I will love each other's children, after all, it is a family. But also learn to discipline, otherwise it is not love. Let's take a look at how to get along and how to interact. Absolutely.

1. Create a good family atmosphere: A good family atmosphere is conducive to the physical and mental health of the children of the remarried family, and is conducive to the harmonious relationship between the husband and wife. Take a little more time to communicate with your children every day, take them for walks, parties, travel, visit relatives, etc.

From time to time, there is a small family evening party on the weekend, and the husband and wife perform some programs that are beneficial to the children, and also let the children tell jokes, tell stories, read poems, sing and dance, and so on. A good family atmosphere for remarried families is beneficial but harmless.

2. Treat children equally: Children from remarried families are generally sensitive and suspicious when they come to a new family and new environment. Husband and wife should treat each other's children equally, don't only care about their own children, favor their own children, and ignore each other's children, don't care less about them, and even often beat and scold, which will not only affect the children's perception of you, but will also seriously affect the relationship between husband and wife in the long run, and the consequences are unimaginable.

3. Let the children become good friends: Let the children study, play, and walk together, and share delicious and fun with each other, so that the children can become good friends who talk about everything. Even if the children don't live together, let them see each other often, get together and become friends.

Don't let them develop a withdrawn, selfish personality.

If you think about it, you will feel that this kind of relationship is very difficult to deal with, after all, they didn't grow up in a family, but now because of the factors of their parents, they have no relationship before, and now they have become a family, which is actually unacceptable for any kind of child.

You must know that for the children themselves, they do not want their parents to divorce, because they also want to have a complete family, and they want this family to be their original. But if the parents really can't live together, and then decide to divorce, the children are actually the most difficult to get caught in the middle. Because they don't want their home to be torn apart, and they don't want their parents to be unhappy together.

However, for children, they generally have little say in this kind of matter, and even if they express their ideas, it is difficult for parents to make changes.

If the parents remarried and re-formed their own families, although legally everyone is a family, it is really difficult to change the relationship. Especially when both parties are reorganized families and both have children, how to get along with each other has become a relatively big problem. Next, I will talk about how to deal with the relationship in this situation.

1. Don't reject each other in your heart.

It must be difficult for children to accept their hunger at the beginning, and it is actually difficult for adults to accept, let alone have a child of their own generation. Children are not required to be good to each other at the beginning, but everyone should not reject each other from the very beginning, only in this way can they try to accept it slowly.

2. Parents must be treated equally.

If you want the relationship between children to get along well, another important point is the attitude of parents. Parents should have the same attitude towards their two children, and never have eccentric behavior, which is also conducive to getting along with each other.