Is it better to divorce when the children are older before leaving?

Updated on parenting 2024-06-16
26 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    Oh, yes! It is best to have the child go to college, otherwise it will hit the child too hard.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    If the two people are really not suitable, don't care too much about the size of the child, it's no problem to leave when the child is very young, he is not sensible, as long as your love for the child has not changed, there is no need to say that you have wronged yourself for the child, after all, how old is the child to be considered big? There is never an expiration date, and I really can't get over it, so I recommend stopping the loss in time.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    It doesn't matter how big or small, the emotional matter is selfish, the child can only make up for it slowly, and must think about why he left, who the child is given to, how to raise it, and don't look back after being sure, hesitate to harm others and himself.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    Through your narrative, when such a situation arises, you must first think clearly and then think clearly about whether you want to divorce or not, whether you have to divorce or not! Think clearly before you think about whether your child can accept it. If you really have to, you have to, you have to get a divorce, then go for a divorce!

    At first, the child will definitely be hurt to a certain extent, and after a while, he will get used to it. It's better than being scared and seeing your parents quarrel every day or often! If so, divorce is the best protection for the children!

    May you think about your situation before you decide!

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Divorce, to be honest, no matter how big or small the child is, it is best not to leave, if there is no fundamental contradiction, isn't it better for the husband and wife to add the child to the family and the beauty?

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    It stands to reason that this is the case, because the impact of parental divorce on children is a lifelong thing, but if you always quarrel in front of your children, then the impact on your children is also very serious, and it may cause your children to have a phobia of marriage. Target.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Long pain is better than short pain, today's society is too realistic, if the husband and wife are unhappy, they will divorce, and they don't have to wait for the children to get old before divorcing, and they will barely live together, and they will not be happy, so let's leave if the marriage is unhappy.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Divorce should be when the couple determines that the relationship is irretrievably broken, has no certain relationship with the size of the child, and the discord between the husband and wife is not good for the physical and mental health of the child.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Divorce is the biggest harm to children, parents don't want their children to see this, can maintain the family or maintain, really can't go on and have to divorce as soon as possible, children are not happy in the noisy home, everyone is very painful, right!

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Divorce is the most harmful to children, burying hidden yin in young hearts, causing immeasurable and irreparable physical damage to children, and has a great impact on children's physical and mental health and growth.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Try not to leave your child during the rebellious period.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Why is divorce? If you talk about strange men, find someone who can listen to this person, and talk about him well.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    The younger the child, the better the divorce.

    1. Children aged 0-3 years.

    Children aged 0-3 years are more in need of physical development, and the need for parents is particularly frequent and cannot be separated. As long as they can establish a long-term and stable relationship with the main caregiver, they will be better cared for.

    So, divorce at this stage is the least harmful to the children because they have not yet developed a sense of self.

    As long as the child follows the person who has taken care of him for a long time after the divorce, the subjective feelings will not be very confusing.

    At this stage, it is important not to use the young age of the children as an excuse to maintain the marriage, because their nerves are slowly emerging, and they are sensitive to all the external worlds, and the long-term discord and quarrels of the parents will affect the development of the children.

    2. Children aged 3-5 years.

    At this stage, children are much less dependent on their parents, but this stage is a child's sense of security.

    During the main period of formation, the long-term absence of parents can make them feel panicked and scared, so parents should ensure their companionship.

    Divorced parents should not blindly fight for custody at this stage.

    Make sure that your child follows the parent who is more dependent on them on a daily basis, and that the other parent can be given regular companionship.

    3. Children aged 6-13 years.

    At this stage, children already have a clearer understanding of separation, and their emotions are stronger, so it is difficult to accept the separation of their parents, and they will always try to get their parents back together through their own abilities. If it is not handled well, it will leave them with indelible scars for a lifetime.

    Their feelings are very strong, so during this period, divorced parents should try their best to take care of their children's emotions, do not be too troublesome, and express their love to their children more.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    The divorce of the spouses is not directly related to the age of the children. The timing of divorce depends on the couple's determination to divorce and their ability to take care of the children. Only the woman can file for divorce during pregnancy, within one year after childbirth, or within six months of the termination of pregnancy.

    If the breastfeeding period has passed, both parties can file for divorce. In conclusion, divorce is a major decision that requires careful consideration.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    In fact, as long as the relationship is not harmonious, you can get divorced, and sometimes you will always think about what happened to the children? But sometimes I don't think a child will be happy in an unhappy family.

    First, divorce can resolve conflicts.

    For divorce can quickly solve the contradictions and disputes between men and women, both parties have reached a very painful and awkward level, and if the family is unhappy and happy, then divorce can completely solve these problems.

    Second, it will have an impact on your work and life.

    Unhappiness in marriage will have some impact on your life and work, but if both men and women are divorced, then you can better concentrate on learning those husband and wife feelings, emotional breakdown, for this kind of quarrels and contradictions, it is always endless, at this time choosing to divorce, but also help your work and study.

    Third, it will become more mature.

    For those who choose to divorce, they must have had the corresponding experience in the previous stage, so they have gradually become mature, and if they get married again, they can better handle this marital relationship, and they will avoid the problems that arose before to a greater extent.

    The above is my summary of some of the content about the benefits of divorce, sometimes we have to think for ourselves, don't always use the child as a shield, if the child knows that you are divorced, you will live a happier life, and he will also support your divorce.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    If you really want to divorce, it doesn't matter how old the child is, which means that no matter how old the child is, you can choose to do what you want to do. But if you really think about a lot of children, then you try not to get a divorce.

    The first is that children do play a very important role in your marriage, because as a parent, if you give your child a life, you should give him a better childhood, or give him a better future.

    Therefore, it is also important to consider the child properly, so when your child grows up, you can properly consider things like divorce. But you should ask yourself, if the child is younger, can't you make such a choice yourself? Is it the best way to always use children as excuses?

    So these are the things that you have to ask yourself clearly. And you should also take a look at the current state of your children, you have been thinking about your children for so long, should you get a divorce? Or after such a long period of patience, what does he really think about your marriage?

    Especially after his children grow up, he himself has his own views on many things, so whether the two of you should divorce, he has actually seen it more clearly than you, if the children do not have any nostalgia for your marriage, it means that there may really be no fate between each other.

    And if you really don't want to delay the children, I think try not to divorce, you can recall whether there are any particularly contradictory things between you and your husband or your wife, if it really involves issues of principle, then it may be a good thing to divorce early, so that your children can accept such things from an early age, maybe it will be easier.

    But if there is no big problem between you, and there are no principled things involving each other, then don't go to divorce, if you divorce, you will also think about some things about your children, and you will also consider some property division or other things between you after the divorce, these things will be more cumbersome.

    So at this time, you will find that there are not too many benefits to divorce, on the contrary, there are a lot of disadvantages, so it is best for two people to be together, although it is very bad now, there will be a lot of contradictions, but you will find that there may be many surprises in the future.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Yes, if the family is not harmonious, then divorce as soon as possible, the husband and wife do not love each other, the family atmosphere is extremely poor, I believe that the child lives in that environment, the psychology may not be healthy, happy, personal opinion.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    As a parent, for the sake of their children, they continue to hedge their youth in a backwater marriage for more than ten years, which is a lifelong burden for kind children.

    The best gift parents can give their children is not to bind or kidnap their children, so that their children can grow up healthy and happy by their side.

    The child grows up and flies freely to the wider sky outside. As parents, if they can help their children, it is the best, if they have no spare energy, at least, let their children travel lightly and without any burden to achieve their own life ideals.

    Today's children should not be too precocious, whether their parents' relationship is good or not, they are clear. Growing up in a family where the husband and wife are not harmonious, it can only be chronic torture for the children, how can there be a good environment for growth?

    If the husband and wife can get together and disperse, negotiate the custody and care of the children at the time of divorce, arrange the family property, and try to leave enough property for the children, the children will definitely live better than if you did not divorce.

    Whether a divorce can be obtained has nothing to do with the age of the children, but depends on whether the relationship between the husband and wife has broken down.

    In the following cases:

    1. If the court's mediation fails, the divorce shall be granted

    1) bigamy or cohabitation with another person;

    2) Committing domestic violence or abusing or abandoning family members;

    3) Having bad habits such as gambling and drug addiction that they have repeatedly taught and not changing;

    4) Separated for two years due to emotional discord;

    5) Other circumstances that lead to the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Regarding divorce, many people have long ceased to hold the psychology of "persuasion and not persuasion". Because, life is already not easy, and it is too uncomfortable for an unhappy person to be trapped in a suffocating marriage forever. The point is that parents are not in harmony, and it is the children who hurt the most.

    Affect your child's mental health.

    If parents often quarrel and children live in a noisy and scolding environment, they will have psychological problems such as inner fear, lack of love, and lack of security. Therefore, couples who are emotionally incompatible are reluctant to be together, seemingly giving their children a complete home, but in fact, they are hurting their children's mental health day by day.

    Let the child develop a negative personality.

    It is said that parents love each other and are the best nourishment for children's growth. If the parents don't love each other and their feelings don't match, no matter how well they disguise it, the child can see it. In such a depressing, loveless family atmosphere, the child's personality will become very negative, such as low self-esteem, timidity, and easy self-abandonment.

    Or, he often witnesses his parents scolding and fighting, and his personality becomes violent.

    Influence the child's future view of marriage.

    The marital status of the parents is actually a reference for the children to start a family in the future. If the parents are not in agreement, they are noisy every day, or even fight, the children will be bored and afraid of marriage in their eyes, and they will grow up to not get married, or they will not care about the family after marriage.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Divorce can be granted regardless of the child's age if both parents wish, with the exception of the man who must be one year old before he can file for divorce.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    If you really can't get by, you can get a divorce, and when your children are older, you can take care of yourself, and you will understand your difficulties.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Yes, marriage is free, but it hurts the children.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    There are many reasons for divorce. The age of the child does not matter whether the divorce is divorced or not.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    Why do you want to divorce, is it because the relationship is not good, you are ready to divorce a long time ago, or because of something, the marriage should be carefully considered.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    Dear, I have seen your question, and I am glad to answer it for you! Dear, you wait a while, 1, the younger the child is divorced, the better, the husband and wife should be separated, it is best before the child is 6 years old, self-awareness is still relatively weak, his needs for parents are mainly growth care, a care does not have much impact. 2. For the healthy growth of the child, we should accompany him more, give him as much fatherly and maternal love as before, and do not let the child feel less fatherly and maternal love around him.

    Smile respectfully] 3 Dear, I hope mine will help you! I wish you a happy life and a happy life! ^o^

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    The impact of divorce on children will be more or less severe. This should be determined according to the feelings of the husband and wife. If the relationship between the two parties has reached the point where they have to divorce, then do not kidnap the relationship because of the children.

    At the same time, the parties must be clear that even if the parties are divorced, they cannot neglect the management and education of the children. According to article 36 of the Marriage Law, the relationship between parents and children is not extinguished by the divorce of the parents. After divorce, the child remains the child of both parents, regardless of whether they are raised directly by the parent or the parent.

    After divorce, parents still have the right and obligation to raise and educate their children.

    Article 37 stipulates that after divorce, the other party shall bear part or all of the necessary living expenses and education expenses for the children raised by one party, and the amount of the expenses and the length of the period shall be agreed upon by both parties. If the agreement is not reached, the people's court shall make a judgment. An agreement or judgement concerning the maintenance and education of the child shall not prevent the child from making a reasonable demand to either parent, if necessary, in excess of the amount originally agreed upon in the agreement or judgment.

    Article 38 stipulates that after divorce, the parent who does not directly raise the child has the right to visit the child, and the other parent has the obligation to assist. The method and time for exercising visitation rights are to be agreed upon by the parties; If the agreement is not reached, the people's court shall make a judgment. Where a parent's visit to a child is detrimental to the child's physical and psychological health, the people's court is to suspend the right to visit in accordance with law; When the reason for the suspension disappears, the right to visit shall be restored.

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