Do people pay more attention to the feelings of children or the feelings of the elderly?

Since I have a baby in my home, she is really a princess, my husband spoils her very much, last time he went home and took her to the mother and baby store to shop, as long as Xiaobao reached out to ask, no matter how expensive, immediately take it, I also jokingly said, if one day the girl wants the stars in the sky, I estimate that he immediately took a ladder to climb up, although I have always told him that the child is still young, can not be too spoiled, grow up to be rude and willful, as a result, he came to a sentence, the girl's temper is not like your temper, now you are not very good, Completely speechless, when there were no children before, the two of us worked outside, and often called ** back, caring about whether the mother-in-law's money was enough to spend, how the body was recently, but after having a child, the first sentence was, how the child has been recently, whether he is willing to eat and drink milk powder, etc., and so on, now people should pay more attention to the child's feelings!

Sometimes because of the matter of buying toys for children, sometimes I will have some opinions with my mother-in-law, my mother-in-law thinks that the child is still young, some toys are bought too early, she can't play, maybe it's the first child, as long as you see it in the store, or ** on the toy you think is good, you will buy it for her, and finally we will persuade the mother-in-law, it doesn't matter if a child buys more, and these toys are mainly to develop intellectual imagination, it's a big deal that you will take it first, and then take it out when the time comes, see it, The feelings of the elderly have also been taken care of, but we are still child-oriented, since the upgrade to parents, always like to give the best things in the world to children, sometimes even the mother-in-law can't persuade the two of us!

Nowadays, the elderly sometimes pamper their children more than their parents, basically they are the kind that responds to their needs, although the mother-in-law usually dislikes us to buy toys for the children, but the girl's flower clothes are bought by her!

The mother wants to have a child, wants to break the intestines, the child misses the mother, and the flat shoulder is long. It is human nature to raise and care for the next generation, but caring for parents is a reward. It's not just modern people who pay more attention to children, but people for generations.

But I think it's the elderly in the family who need more care.

In our current family, many parents are usually busy with work, and at this time, it is usually the grandparents and grandparents of the previous generation who take care of the children. I'm no exception, I'm currently a new mom who has to go back to work after maternity leave, and the child's grandparents help take care of the child.

Now that I come home from a day at work, I try to make time for my children and chat with my parents, even though I have to study a lot of spare time. Because since I had a baby, my parents' contribution can be said to be much greater than mine, and I often have the idea that "my parents' life is not easy". (Maybe this is the true portrayal of "don't raise children and don't know the kindness of parents", but I would like to say that he is "raising children to know the kindness of parents".)

> my parents are far away from home because of me, they themselves have the idea of relocating to the land, coupled with various discomforts, as well as limited living conditions, I can often feel that their life here is actually very depressing, and they do not have the kind of ease and peace in their hometown. Then I would think about what I was doing to work and live in a big city, and how selfish I would be if I was bothering my family.

Every time I go home, I see my parents preparing meals in the kitchen while taking care of the baby, and I feel distressed when I see my mother's backache and legs because of hard work. Because taking care of children has opinions, and will criticize parents without words, after thinking about it carefully, I feel that parents are the group that needs to be taken care of more emotionally. So, raising a baby, basically quit games, entertainment, I can't wait to divide the time into a few halves, although my parents are healthy, but I define myself as "old, young" and strive for this, just to give them a better life.

There is a saying that is particularly heart-wrenching: parents still have a way to come in life, and parents only have a return period in life. If the care for children should be timely, then the care for the elderly should not wait, and do not let "the child wants to raise but does not wait" become a fact.

I think most people should pay more attention to the feelings of children now, after all, children are a new generation, just like the previous comparison of children to the flowers of the motherland, so a family's cultivation and attention to children far exceeds the care of the elderly. Now not to mention other places, just say our countryside, a few years ago in this village where I am a lot of left-behind children and empty nesters, in recent years the number of left-behind children has declined, because many middle-aged parents or new parents are busy with work, perennial work in the field, so now many parents are willing to take their children with them, after all, the education of children with their parents will be better than with their grandparents, most grandparents may spoil their grandchildren, Leads the child to develop a pampered, rebellious character.

The children were taken away by their parents, but in a different way, as the children of the elderly, they have no way to run around with their elderly parents, so there are only the elderly left in the house, if both parents are there, the old couple can still be a companion, if there is only one old man at home, you can imagine how lonely the old man is at home alone. Today's young generation can be said to be dedicated and dedicated to their children, but to a certain extent, they ignore the feelings of their parents, and they can't imagine that the elderly also need the care and companionship of their relatives, let alone care about their feelings. Everyone forgets that when they were children, they were also raised by their parents, but when they became parents, they forgot their parents, especially when their parents were old, they would feel that they were nagging, but in their hearts, they were full of love for their children!

Call on today's middle-aged parents to care more about the elderly around them, even if they are not your own parents, please be sure to respect them!

In recent years, it is often said in rural areas that it is better to be a grandson than a grandfather. If the grandson has a minor illness, the family will be sent to the hospital with the palm of his hand, and of course, he will not dare to slack off at this time when he is a grandmother. Even if it's to follow behind, obediently!

Shout a few times, this will inevitably be thought in the child's heart, being a grandfather and a grandmother can be regarded as filial piety for his grandson! On the other hand, if the old man is sick, then he shouts for his son's affirmation; When people are old, they ask for a lot of things from you all day long, and if you want to go, you will go by yourself. This is confirmed by this example.

There is no Lao Tzu. Where did the grandson come from? What's the use of being unfilial to Lao Tzu and pampering children? .

I think most parents are probably more concerned about their children's feelings and ignore their own parents' feelings. How to put it, in order for people to survive in this society, the energy used in each period will be different. When we were children, we were very dependent on our parents, and at that time, we actually paid more attention to their parents' feelings, and we can now see that many children have learned to read words and looks, which is a manifestation of paying attention to their parents' feelings.

But when we grow up and become parents, a large part of our energy will be put on our children, so of course we pay more attention to the feelings of our children than our parents, which is understandable, and there is nothing wrong with it, and the sensible old man should also give understanding.

However, paying less attention does not mean that we do not pay attention, our parents have given birth to us for so many years, and we are the most important fruits of their labor in their lives. If parents are neglected by us, they will be very uncomfortable in their hearts. As a child, you should often communicate more with your parents, and if you are not in the same city, you should also often ask for warmth, so that your parents feel that they are concerned and loved.

If you are in the same city, you should bring your children back every weekend to see both parents, for them, when they are retired and have nothing to do, they will put a lot of psychological sustenance on their children. Making the elderly feel lonely is the greatest unfilial piety of being a child. Don't regret it when the tree wants to be quiet and the wind does not stop, and the child wants to raise but does not wait!

Isn't there a song called to go home and see, this really sings the hearts of the old people. The feelings of children are very important, and the feelings of the elderly cannot be ignored!

Erbao mother: There are two treasures at home, an intermediate Montessori teacher, a parenting columnist on many platforms, and a self-**** person.

Whether it is the feelings of children or the feelings of the elderly, special attention should be paid to them.

It is when I see that the elderly are not in particularly good physical condition, and I have to help take the children with the children. In addition, they will also lose their nap time, or other rest time to help take care of the children, and they will cook some more complicated foods for the children alone, and they will also run back and forth to meet the needs of the children. These things feel that it is very difficult for the elderly to take care of children.

Every day is very hard, and every night will stay up late, may not sleep well all night, usually have to always lead the children out to play, but see the old man is particularly tired, very tired. The children are very lively, but the old man still tries his best to accompany the children. It feels really hard to be an old man.

The old man's usual legs and feet are actually very inconvenient, and now the children are particularly smart, there are some old people who can't keep up with the child's thinking pattern, the child's daily nutritional intake is particularly much, the old man is not particularly aware of this aspect, so he will feel that the old man usually takes the child is not easy.

The old man usually has to feed the child before he finishes eating, and the child is still running around, the old man's legs and feet are particularly unfavorable, and he has not been able to catch up with the child, and it is particularly hard to feed the child.

When the elderly take care of children, they often have no way to keep up with the pace of children because their legs and feet are not good, and they have to feed their children, and it is easy to fall, of course, this is also a situation that most people will encounter, so it is best not to let the elderly take children.