Is there a problem with my child? Is my child a problem child?

Your daughter's psychology is obviously already an adult's psychology, she is a very smart girl, she already thinks of herself as an adult, but she can't distinguish between reality and her imaginary world, mixed together, difficult to distinguish! But sister, you don't have to worry, you should be proud of your daughter's excellent grades and beautiful appearance, don't worry about its unique behavior, let alone go to a psychiatrist, just take her to get in touch with more beautiful things, go to participate in more social activities, I envy you for having such a good daughter, by the way, my son is very handsome, ask your daughter if she wants to make friends.

There must be a problem, I think what she did was abnormal. It's different from children of the same age, but you say that she has good grades and should be fine intellectually, I suggest that you consult a psychiatrist first, and decide whether to take her to the doctor according to the doctor's opinion.

Communicate more, talk more.

Hello, how is your relationship with your daughter, how is your communication, don't say it seems to, the question is what do you think, can you be specific?

It is advisable to be able to receive professional advice if needed.

1. Selfish and self-interested, like to eat alone.

At a young age, if the child has been selfish and likes to eat alone, it will be difficult to change when he grows up. He will let the whole family revolve around him, and he will not feel sorry for his family's efforts. When you grow up, you may always ask your family for this and that, and you are the most tolerant and easy to "gnaw at the old".

Such a child, no matter how good the family is to him, his heart will not be warm. Therefore, it is recommended that parents must correct it in time, guide their children to learn to share, and learn to understand the hardships of adults.

2. Ignoring the elders, often beating and scolding parents and elders.

Today's children are actually quite pampered, after all, there are not many children in each family, and it is normal for adults to spoil them. However, there is a degree to everything, and if you are spoiled too much, you will be in big trouble. Like some children, they are particularly willful and domineering, and they don't know how to respect their elders, and if their family members don't like him, he will scold and beat people.

3. Don't know how to be grateful, and take the contribution of your family for granted.

Everyone should have a heart of gratitude, so that the relationship with each other will be more harmonious. To educate a child, in fact, it is also necessary to let him have a sense of gratitude, so that he knows how to be good to others. However, if the child is not grateful and takes the family's contribution for granted, then the parents should pay attention.

Because, most of the children with this kind of performance are "conscienceless", and they feel that it is natural for their parents to support themselves, and it is also natural for them to buy this and that, cars and houses. If their parents can't do it, they will be angry and complain that their parents are incompetent.

4. Keep complaining.

I will only see the good of others, but not my own good, complain about the unhappiness of the family, complain about the unhappiness of life, and complain about the bad conditions of my own family.

5. Greed for money. is greedy for wealth, obsessed with money, values money more than anything else, cares about family affection at all, and falls out with brothers and sisters for money, which makes parents heartbroken. Even in order to fight for family property, he took his family to court, started a lawsuit, put his parents aside, and no one cared about him.

This kind of thing is very common nowadays, and it is all the fault of the greed for money.

The nail has been driven in, and it is only guaranteed that no next hole will be made.

It takes patience to raise a child, ten years of trees, and a hundred years of people.

First of all, you change yourself, from the inside out, and you have a peaceful temper.

Moreover, learn to discover the advantages of your own children and tap the advantages of your own children, and each child is a gift from God.

Then consciously cultivate your own baby, the child is a small sapling, what kind of friend he looks like has already been formed in your words and deeds.

In the end, don't be anxious, don't be disappointed, it's useless, he's always a good boy.

Encourage him more. It doesn't matter if she does something wrong, after cultivating, she will face difficulties and stabilize her emotions and mentality, but she will not be hysterical, collapse and despair.

1. It's not that you don't have psychological problems, but you don't know that you have psychological problems.

At that time, it was very good to be able to ensure good health, who would care if you had psychological problems? Moreover, psychological problems are often not easy to detect unless they are particularly severe. It is not like a physical problem that can be seen by the naked eye or an instrument, as long as it has no appearance, or the person himself does not admit it, it will not cause people to notice it at all.

In addition, people who are often beaten and harassed are likely to become perpetrators of violence. When he was weak, he was bullied, but once he had absolute power, he bullied others in the same way. So of course he doesn't feel that he has a problem, and the problem is someone else.

This is true from generation to generation, but it does not mean that the previous education was correct or fine.

Second, it is true that there are no psychological problems, but this does not mean that there is no problem with rough beating and scolding education.

It is undeniable that each child has different characteristics. There may indeed be children who are more solid, thick-skinned, and have bigger hearts. Often beaten and scolded and still alive, mentally healthy, positive lead upward.

But this is only a part of the children, and it is possible that they have not been affected by the negative praise of scolding. This does not mean that scolding education will not have a negative impact on all children, and it does not mean that scolding education is correct. And even if this part of the healthy child only sees that he has been beaten and scolded, we do not see that in addition to the beating and scolding education, he may have also received other ways of education from the upbringing members (such as gentle, encouraging).

For example, the care from grandparents and grandmothers, such as the influence and support from the external environment.

When such children grow up, they generally do not easily use beating and scolding education. Because his heart is positive, sunny, gentle and powerful. They can teach their children in more ways and methods, rather than just scolding.

3. I have suffered from psychological problems, but after self-regulation and good education, I reconciled with my past parents and successfully got out of my psychological problems.

This kind of person who has stepped out of the psychological shadow will definitely not implement beating and scolding education on the issue of children's education. Because they themselves know best how damaging it can be.

Summary. Parents think that their children are not normal is why parents always feel that their children are not psychologically healthy, but they don't know that this problem lies in themselves At each stage of children's growth, it is very normal for ideological changes to occur, of course, in these ideological changes, some ideological changes that do not conform to normal logic are also a very reasonable phenomenon, but for some children, this kind of ideological change is actually a passive process, this passive process, It is not unrelated to the way you get along with your parents and how you communicate with them.

Parents think that their children are not normal is why parents always feel that their children are not psychologically healthy, but they don't know that this problem is in themselves At each stage of children's growth, it is very normal for ideological changes to occur, of course, in these ideological changes, some ideological changes that do not conform to normal logic are also a very reasonable phenomenon, but for some children, the emergence of such ideological changes is actually a passive process of traveling. This process of passive birth and birth is not unrelated to the way parents get along and communicate.

Dear: Any more questions.

Why do parents think I'm abnormal.

Due to the change of age, the chain tie-up leads to differences, and the fundamental reason is that the parents adopt a negative education concept. The so-called negative educational philosophy refers to the distrust of the child and the belief that the problem cannot be corrected without parental correction.

Why do parents think that I am not going to school anymore, that it is not normal to go out to work, and that I have neuropathy or depression?

Dear, you are this because you did not have normal communication with your parents, and at the same time, what your parents said is actually a defect in their ability to express, and today's children are not good at reading at the age of studying in Na Tangerine, which will make the father and mother very sad. They are worried that you will not be able to find a good job if you work without a diploma in the future, but in fact, it is also a concern in their hearts, but they just said the wrong thing.