The baby has just been born, and there are conflicts everywhere in the house, what should I do?

This shows that you are sullen and the two people have different views, and they are not suitable for being together with children, and they are not suitable for living together. I suggest that you choose to divorce, the long pain is better than the rough cover to cause the short pain, so be it.

Two people must find out the problem, and then face it together, and solve it together, You Zhen Zhenyin must not quarrel over small things like hunger, which is very hurtful to the feelings between two people.

If you have anything to say in time, don't hold it in your heart, discuss with each other, don't have a cold war, and change it for the sake of each other.

If you want your child to study hard, I can explain to your child the benefits of learning and the importance of learning quickly. And not "my brother studies better than you". Every child's potential is different, they just need to do their best.

Problems between children, let children solve by themselves: If there is a conflict between children, the father and mother will intervene, which will make the child develop the habit of dependence and cannot learn to deal with the problem independently. And parental intervention does not fundamentally resolve conflicts between children.

Many times, parents don't understand the whole process of strife. In the face of conflict, it is often easy to favor the child who seems to be being bullied, and easily affirm one side and deny the other according to the appearance, which will only make the denied party more and more resentful. In the case of child conflict, what parents need to do is to let their children learn to understand each other and be considerate of each other.

If the situation gets out of hand, parents need to help them calm down and give both children comfort and care at the same time.

Treat everyone equally, and treat the child as a substitute, so that the child feels that he is a special existence, treats the child fairly, and promises to give the child a gift, there should be no less. In the conflict between children, there should be no remarks such as "you are an older brother or sister, and you should tolerate your younger brothers and sisters." For an older child, whether he has grown up or not, parents should not use it as a reason to deprive him of his rights.

Treat children fairly, but sometimes absolute fairness is not required. Giving children the same clothes, the same toys, and copying one child's life directly to another is an unfairness hidden under the façade of fairness, and this will not be what children want. Every child is different.

Parents learn to give their children what they want to be "special" in the same way, for example, boys like Superman, girls like Barbie. Or give more encouragement to children with low self-esteem, give more patience to stubborn children, and so on. True fairness and justice should be to give each child help, understanding and love according to their needs.

Accepting children's emotions, British psychoanalyst and child development expert Donald Woods Winnicott said: jealousy is normal and healthy, and jealousy stems from the child's love for you. When a new member joins, the child may be restless, agitated, or sad.

Many parents feel that their children's jealousy is because they have been deprived of the rights they once enjoyed, but in fact, their children's jealousy stems more from their inner uneasiness: whether their parents still love me. A child's jealousy is an emotion generated by strong love for his parents, and if the child is suppressed and not allowed to express it, it is easy to derive other physical and psychological problems.

A truly good parent-child relationship should accept the child's emotions and let the child express his feelings. Children who can express their emotions when they are young will grow up to know how to deal with their own emotional problems. Don't compare:

No adult likes to be compared, especially by comparing their own weaknesses to others' strengths. Again, kids won't like it. However, we who don't like to be compared to Hankuan often compare our children to our siblings.

Some parents even think that this comparison can motivate their children to improve. In fact, comparisons do not necessarily produce healthy competition, but are more likely to have negative effects: causing contradictions and conflicts between siblings and hurting feelings between siblings.