Sima Qian s meaning of a gentleman is clumsy and ignorant of himself, but trusts in his confidant .

The so-called gentleman always does not know himself well enough, but trusts his friends and confidants.

It's Sima Qian. Quotes about friendship.

Somewhat similar to Li Shimin.

"With people as a mirror, you can know the gains and losses." ”

A gentleman does not know himself, but believes in his confidant.

A gentleman is only wronged by those who do not know him, but he is free to stretch out in front of his confidant.

Yue Shi's father is sage, in the bondage. Yan Zi came out, was smeared, untied the left and ransomed, and returned. Fosser, boudoir.

After a long time, Yue Shi's father refused. The banquet was abrupt, and the dressed Xie said: "Although the baby is not benevolent, so as not to cause misfortune, how can the son seek the speed of despair?"

Father Shi said: "No. I have heard that a gentleman does not know himself but trusts in his confidant.

Fang Wu is in the shackles, and he doesn't know me. The Master has redeemed me with his gratitude, and he is a confidant; Confidant and rude, it is better to be in bondage. Yan Zi then extended in as a guest.

Sima Qian, Historical Records. Biography of Guan Yan

Father Yue Shi is a virtuous man and is in captivity. When Yanzi went out and met him on the road, he untied the horse on the left side of the chariot, ransomed him, and dragged him home in the chariot. Yan Zi did not say goodbye to Yue Shi's father, so he walked into the inner room, and after a long time did not come out, Yue Shi's father asked to break off his friendship with Yan Zi.

Yan Zi was taken aback, hurriedly tidied up his clothes and hat, apologized, and said: "Even if I can't say that I am kind and generous, I can finally help you get out of the predicament, why did you ask to break off the relationship so quickly?" Yue Shi's father said

No, I have heard that a gentleman is wronged by those who do not know him, but his will is upheld in the presence of those who know him. When I was in captivity, those people didn't know me. Since you have been moved to come to your senses and have redeemed me, this is to know me; understands that I can't be polite, it's better to be in captivity," so Yanzi invited him into the house to be a guest of honor.

The so-called gentleman always does not know himself well enough, but trusts his friends and confidants.

There is an old saying that everyone must know, that is, a gentleman believes in his confidant without knowing himself, this sentence means: a gentleman will only be wronged by people who do not know him, and his will will be upheld before his confidant stares at his brother, this sentence I think is right, and some people think it is wrong, there is no correct answer to this question all depends on their own understanding, and in reality, is there such a person?

In reality, I am also like this, I always suffer in front of unfamiliar people, and if you are in front of good friends, when you are unhappy, good friends will always help you get through.

For example, when I play games, when I play with strangers, I don't talk as happily as I do when I play with my friends, I don't talk much, others ignore me, they never care about me, I talk and laugh when I play with my friends, I am very happy, and then I forget all the unhappy things.

So for me personally, I think that's right.