What does Chinese New Year anxiety reflect on the mentality of young people?

Anxiety is not because you are not good at mixing, if you have a full car, a full house, a wife, and a deposit. You drive home for the New Year, and you won't be anxious. Anxiety is because either I am worse than the people around me, or my goals, my ideals have not been achieved, and another year has passed.

It's normal to have anxiety, and it's normal not to have anxiety. After all, this society is a society of comparison, and the reason why we suffer is either because we are worse than others, have no sense of security, and have no sense of existence; Either your goals are not achieved and your desires are not satisfied. For example, the goal is to change a car of 500,000 yuan, but it is not achieved, and I see that others have changed to a car of 1.5 million, but I still have a voice.

Nowadays, most people go out of the city to work, and they have to go home for the Chinese New Year, and there is a gap between themselves and the people in the village, so they naturally feel anxious. If everyone were in the village, there wouldn't be so many gaps. That's the difference between urban and rural.

A person who goes out from the countryside is to return to his hometown in fine clothes, but the ideal is not reached, and he feels very depressed when he goes home.

Could it be that your parents spend hundreds of thousands of yuan for you to go to college, but you receive a salary of thousands of yuan every month, rent a house in an urban village in the city, and use your Huabei credit card every month to supplement your income and can't meet the basic expenses. There is no car, no house, no object in the city, are you still embarrassed to face the villagers? Don't you feel guilty?

If you have these feelings of guilt, you will be anxious.

Therefore, it doesn't matter if you don't celebrate the New Year, the New Year is just a formality, and the New Year is not as happy as before, and it has changed its taste. Young people don't want to celebrate the New Year, they just want to earn money, and the New Year is dead in name only for them. I think so, I want to be the same as usual during the New Year, I don't even want to go home, I don't feel desolate, I think no money is the biggest desolation.

It's not a year, it doesn't matter.

The anxiety of approaching the New Year comes from the abnormal mentality of being coerced by the world, and the biggest difference between young people is that they know how to make trade-offs, understand what should be cared about and what should not be cared about, what should occupy the inner mentality, and what should be completely let go.

In fact, young people can think about opening up and letting go of what they should let go, such as loving face. Loving face is very pitiful, it not only makes you very tired of living yourself, but also affects your family, relatives and friends and even the people around you.

Although it is a very normal phenomenon to have face, reflecting that we need to be recognized and more respected by the outside world, but face is to earn by ourselves, if you count the year, you don't seem to have earned any decent face, and you want to be tormented by "New Year's anxiety and social death", so you are naturally unwilling to experience "going home for the New Year". Young people are a kind of mental experience, depending on how much they have paid and how much they have gained this year, not necessarily a material leap, but also whether they recognize themselves in the depths of their souls.

Young people reflect that they are honest with themselves, and they give and gain in a down-to-earth manner, but in fact, the moderate anxiety of the New Year is not without benefit, and they have more time to reflect on how to work hard in the future, and how to avoid being afraid to go home for the New Year next year; It also allows parents to reflect on why their children are afraid to go home, stop doing ineffective comparisons, and miss the great opportunity to reunite.

So where does the anxiety of young people come from? The main reasons are wages and urging marriage.

First of all, the anxiety caused by the salary issue is generally college students who have just entered the society. Not long after graduating, not to mention whether you have found a suitable job, the salary is definitely not too high, and there must be a minority of people who can get a decent salary just after entering the society. Then these young people who do not have a high salary are prone to anxiety about this, especially when others ask about their salary.

Chinese have always had a habit of asking you if you have eaten and what you are going to do without meeting for a short time, and asking your children what they are doing and what their salary is if they do not meet for a long time. In the special period of the Spring Festival, there will be more relatives and friends who ask about their salary, and say that they don't want to go, to be honest, it is not decent enough, if you encounter your salary compared with whom, it will be easier to affect the mood. Young people are better at face, and the salary level is the embodiment of face in today's society, so the salary issue can easily cause anxiety in this part.

Then there is the anxiety caused by the problem of urging marriage, which is generally a young person who has been working for a few years but is still single. These people have been working hard in society for several years, and they finally have the confidence to say it when relatives and friends ask about their salary, but they are asked when they will get married.

It's not that many young people don't want to get married, but after the age when it's easy to find a partner, the object doesn't know where to talk about getting married? Originally, I usually had to deal with the urging of my parents to get married, and during the Spring Festival, I had to face the urging of seven aunts and eight aunts to get married, and I don't know when whether to get married has also become the standard for judging whether a person is successful. Those who are more anxious about marriage urging are those who are used to being single and want to put more time and energy into personal interests and hobbies.

Many young people's "Spring Festival anxiety" is because of wages and marriage urging, resulting in them preferring to work overtime during the Spring Festival rather than go home for the New Year. Parents can actually give their children a buffer time, pay more attention to other aspects of work and life, and don't let their children feel relaxed when they come home and think of it as a burden.

Young people themselves should also have a correct mentality, relatives and friends ask about salary is a concern for themselves, take this as the motivation for their struggle in the coming year, and don't have too many negative thoughts. Parents and relatives urge marriage for their own sake, in the eyes of parents, only after becoming a father and mother can you really grow up, and they also hope that you can be happy.

With the Spring Festival approaching, more and more young people working in the city have fallen into the trouble of "being closer to home", and they have become more anxious in this day of vacation and relaxation.

As a result, a new general symptom has also been derived - "Spring Festival anxiety disorder".

So what exactly is Chinese New Year anxiety?

In the early years, the Spring Festival transportation was a huge problem, and the inability to grab tickets, the large number of trains, and the suspension of trains troubled many friends who wanted to return to their hometowns for the New Year.

Since China's railway traffic has become more and more developed in recent years, the trouble caused by the Spring Festival transportation has dropped to a low point.

On the contrary, the material problem is solved, but the spiritual problem is full of vitality.

Spring Festival anxiety disorder, also known as New Year's anxiety disorder, since ancient times, the Spring Festival has been known as "the first pass in the world".

Although the problem of Spring Festival transportation is inseparable from the support of the state, how to solve personal problems?

Obviously, it won't be long before I can go home happily for the New Year, but at this time, all kinds of problems come to my mind again.

Did you buy a house?

What about the income?

Has the subject been found?

When will you get married?

How about the New Year's money?

What to give for the New Year?

Wow....Think about it and it's big.

In the Spring Festival, a big festival in China, there are still many people who stick to their jobs and work hard, they are limited by a lofty sense of mission and responsibility and stick to their work, of course, there is also such a group of people, they don't take the New Year seriously.

With the arrival of the Spring Festival, some people have become uneasy. These people may be suffering from "New Year anxiety". Anxiety itself is a normal psychological reaction, however, since then, there are more and more causes of anxiety.

The New Year, for many young people, can be described as the happiest day of the year, provided that the young person is still studying and not has already stepped into society. Because during the school period, young people can enjoy the long-lost holidays in the New Year, and more importantly, they do not need to face pressure from family, relatives and friends. The external pressures represented by family, relatives and friends will follow one after another as young people step into society, and this pressure manifests itself in many ways, and two of these types are the most common.

This generation gap between the older generation and the younger generation, because the older generation's sense of boundary is different from that of the younger generation, leads to the older generation's inability to grasp this boundary in many cases, resulting in the emergence of marginal conflicts in the continuous exploration. The first pressure of the Chinese New Year is the pressure of urging marriage.

In the process of visiting relatives and friends, most of the evaluations of others serve the purpose of "comparison", and the ultimate purpose of the evaluation is to make a comparison of social achievements. People with high child incomes are more willing to interrogate other people's children's income; People with children of social status are naturally more likely to ask about other people's children's jobs. However, this kind of evaluation, whether good or bad, does not provide any tangible benefits to young people except for their emotional impact, and naturally only causes them to be bored.

When the New Year, a concluding holiday, forces individuals to reminisce about their year, many people will inevitably feel remorse for their past actions.

This past remorse becomes irreversible due to the passage of time, but its negative emotional impact will stay with a person for a long time.

Nowadays, more and more young people choose not to go home during the Chinese New Year, and their essential purpose is to avoid the scene of the New Year, so that they do not need to face external pressure, and reduce their internal pressure by resting and relaxing.

This kind of "Spring Festival anxiety", on the surface, is "married or not, I am still a single dog", but in fact, there is still no money in my bones. If it is a rich person who goes back to his hometown, it is called Guangzong Yaozu, and each neighbor and fellow villager will give a big red envelope of several thousand yuan, and the face and aura will be great. All that was greeted was a happy smile.

There is no money, but there are a lot of relatives to leave, ask the east and west, the favors, who is big and small, they have to give, many of them are not familiar with each other once a year, but it is difficult to ride a tiger. If you don't give it, others will not only not read your good years in the past few years, but will also scold you behind your back.

In this way, I went home for a year and spent the money I had saved for a year. From having nothing at the beginning of the year to being penniless at the end of the year, not forgetting the original intention, a busy year. Is it possible to avoid anxiety? But how?

Spring Festival anxiety "is not terrible, as long as young people adjust their mentality, they can easily overcome it." Why take the Spring Festival as a burden, go home to accompany your parents during the New Year, there are all kinds of anxiety in your eyes, but there is only one you in the eyes of your parents. Happy home for the New Year this year, continue to struggle next year, young man, good luck!

The reasons are as follows: First, there is no achievement in work or study.

There are many people who spend a year studying and working outside the home, and spend very little time with their families. It is rare to meet all kinds of relatives and friends. Therefore, on the occasion of the Spring Festival, when you can have the opportunity to meet, many relatives will ask themselves all kinds of scattered questions, and I believe that many people have experienced it.

For those who are studying, relatives often ask, how was the final exam? Did you have a girlfriend at school? For people who work outside the home, relatives will ask:

Did you make a lot of money in a year? Do you have a girlfriend? When will you bring it back and see it?

Just imagine that in the face of the bombardment of various relatives, which young person can withstand it. Especially for some people who are not very good at studying and have no achievements in work, when relatives ask them these questions, they don't know how. If you don't say it, you're afraid that others will think you're rude, and if you say it, you're afraid that others will look down on you, it's really a dilemma.

Second, the various marriage urgings of relatives are born.

As for the anxiety of going home during the Spring Festival, I believe that people who work outside the home will have more than those who study. That is, if you are a little older, but you are still single, you will be asked by various relatives at this time of the Spring Festival, why you are so old and have not found a target for excavation?

will even face parents and relatives who make their own claims to go on blind dates. And those who are married but have no children will be asked when they will have children, and they should have children while they are young, otherwise it will be very difficult when they are old.

In fact, everyone will have their own plans for the future, whether it is getting married or having children, they have their own plans. But when you go home during the Spring Festival, in front of your relatives, they don't care what kind of plans you have, as long as they think you should get married and have children, they will constantly bombard you with these questions and make you annoyed.

3. Various comparisons of class reunions.

I believe that every year during the Spring Festival, all kinds of class reunions must be indispensable. Whether it is elementary school, junior high school, high school, all kinds of gatherings, but today's young people are more and more resistant to such gatherings, and they will become a little anxious in the face of such gatherings.

Because class reunions were originally used to connect feelings, but now many class reunions have slowly become mutual comparisons between classmates. Compare who makes more money than whom, and who lives better than whom.

Some people are born to love to compare, as long as they live a little better than others, they feel that it is a thing worth showing off. However, some people feel that this kind of comparison is very hurtful, and if the class reunion is not used to connect feelings, then there is no need to participate.