What to do if you encounter a stingy parent? 70

When you encounter stingy parents, you have to accept it, after all, this is not an option. Family affection is filial piety first, since you want to be filial to them, you have to have a place to try to achieve a balance, on a certain basis, change them, let them see that your lifestyle is a lot of benefits, in this way, with the cumulative impact, they will also change a lot, and you must instill them in life, you are not short of money, do not have any worries, and then you live a generous life in daily life and try to provide them with a little more, material security, They may also slowly become less stingy.

The reason is very simple, your parents' beating and scolding education since you were a child not only did not alienate you, but they cared about their feelings everywhere and met their requirements.

Therefore, even now, your parents do not have the slightest reflection on their own behavior, which is wrong, hurtful, selfish and self-interested.

The right behavior naturally has to continue.

Therefore, you two brothers are too kind and grateful, and always compromise.

If I were me, I wouldn't ignore them (parents), but the principles should be picked up, and I and my family should be put first, and as for my parents, it is time for them to taste the taste of passive and living.

It's not about being ruthless, it's about letting them know that people's hearts need to be exchanged ,...... each other

The pain of the original family is indeed difficult to heal, but since you have experienced this pain, don't let your children experience it once, now you have the ability to support yourself and your family, you can choose to leave your parents, so that you can make your own wounded heart as much as possible to get comfort, and it will also be of great help to the child's physical and mental growth. But it's not realistic for parents to stay away completely, and you can only try to meet their financial needs.

In addition, the stinginess of parents may be that they were too bitter when they were young and developed the habit of frugality, which is difficult to break in the bones, so you have to accommodate them as much as possible.

The above is my point of view, hope.

Every family has a difficult scripture, listen to your description of your experience has been very good, in the case of ensuring the harmony of your own family to pay attention to your parents, at least they have given you life, after all, you have grown up to be parents, parents are also the best teachers for children.

We can't choose what kind of parents we meet, when we are young, we don't have the ability to change the life our parents and ourselves want, we can only live the life they give us with our parents, but when we grow up, we have to try not to reach out to them and live the life we want. I also advise parents not to be too stingy with their children, the money that should be spent still has to be spent, and if you miss it, you can't come back, after all, the child's childhood is only once.

There are many ways for parents to be stingy with their children. Maybe parents are very thrifty people. I'm afraid that the children will spend money indiscriminately.

Besides, how old is the child? If you earn money yourself, don't send it to your parents to ask for money. Parents are old, and it is not easy to earn money.

Children can earn money. to yourself. Earn more money and be filial to your parents.

There is no way to meet stingy parents. You have to accept it too. Parents don't have a choice.

What family you are born into is your destiny. As a child, filial piety is the mainstay. You can only regulate yourself.

It's enough not to let your child go through it again.

It can't be said that their parents are stingy, it's just that they grew up in difficult times, and although their living conditions are better now, they are used to being thrifty and have a very strong sense of crisis. As their children, don't blame them, if they don't have money, you have no reason to say that they are stingy, if they have a little money, they are also preparing for retirement, they are prepared, and you are fine. On the day they leave, if they have an inheritance in their hands, will it not still be yours?

As the saying goes, every family has a scripture that is difficult to read. Through the introduction of the situation, I just feel that your family relationship is relatively weak, of course, this weakness is directly caused by your parents' concepts and behaviors. As a younger generation, you can only fulfill your responsibilities, but if you want to be worthy of your parents, you don't need to ask for anything in return.

Since you know that your parents are stingy parents, just leave them when you can be independent, and live your own life with them.

Meet stingy parents. You should work your own. After all, it's not easy for your parents to raise you. Grow up and succeed on your own.

Meet stingy parents. Then don't care if they ask for money, earn it yourself, and spend it yourself.

This is a happy thing, at least it shows that they are not wasteful and thrifty, don't try to change them, you can be generous in all aspects.

What to do if you encounter a stingy parent? When you encounter stingy parents, you must strive for self-improvement, work hard to earn money and support yourself, let your parents be stingy, and work your own.

I think you should check if it's your parents' maintenance, or your parents are superstitious, when you were a child, you went to fortune telling and said that you are not filial, you don't know, you can get along, you can get along, you can't move when you're old, and he will give it to you.

In fact, when parents are older, their thoughts are different from yours. They are not stingy, they are saving more money for you.

Don't try to ask for it, every child is the same for parents. If possible, it is better to be self-reliant.

What to do if you encounter a stingy parent? In this case, it must be that the family's economic conditions are not well-off, not that the parents are stingy, if he has money, he will definitely be willing to give it to you.

In this case, it depends on the situation of the two of you. Different parents, different personalities, mainly depends on the relationship between the two of you.

There is no way around it, and it is not up to us to choose what kind of parents we meet. Live your life, after all, we still have a long life.

If you really don't want to stay with them, it's acceptable, you don't have to suffer like this, that's preference

I think it is to let parents know the importance of their children's learning, and it must cost money, and if they don't use money, let them know the consequences of not using money.

When you meet stingy parents, you don't have any good way, because your parents save money, all for you.

It's also a good thing. You also learn to be frugal.

It's the parents, they are stingy, it's the parents, they will live, it's they who know the hardships of life.

Self-reliance, hard work,

You can talk to them, but you have to work on yourself.

Be independent early and make your own money.

You can communicate well with your parents, you are an adult, and you must have a certain amount of financial resources.

Your parents may be worried that you will have too much money on you and your school will be bad, so they are too tightly controlled. I can understand their hard work, but they did go a little too far. It's not good for such adults to always ask them for money, and they will be disgusted after a long time.

You work in their factory according to the contract law, you also have a salary, you have been doing it for so long, this should be understood, your parents' actions are not necessarily right, and your blind obedience is not necessarily filial piety.

You can try to tell your parents that you are going to work in a different environment and not work in their factory, tell them what you are looking for, see what their attitude is, and then make plans.

This may also be another way for your parents to nurture you, you have to communicate with them more so that they understand your ideas, otherwise, they don't understand your ideas, they don't have a comprehensive view of you, and they will inevitably do things that make you feel unreasonable. You can talk to them about your current situation and your own thoughts, and your plans for the future, so that they can rest assured, and naturally they will not be so strict with you. Maybe they're waiting for you to talk to them!

Such parents will ruin your life, people should go through what stage of things, otherwise it will affect the development of personality in the next stage; You have to fight for it, and if you can't get it, don't work in your parents' factory.

Life is really hard.

But the ordeal can also become motivation to move forward, as long as you can carry it through!

It's not that parents dislike it, but they should always have some reason. If possible, can you find out?

You're 16 years old, and if you want to, if your dad beats you again, you can sue them for domestic violence. But what if the lawsuit is done? Are you still staying at home? What if they use cold violence against you?

So, if possible, bear with me. After so many years, after two years of perseverance, at the age of 18, you will be an adult. If you get into college, you can go to school through student loans and work-study.

Even if you can't go to college, then you can go out and work and support yourself.

If you want not to be bullied by others, you have to become stronger than them and make them lose the courage and ability to bully you!

If the above situation is true, they do have problems with life, but no matter how serious the problem is, after all, it is your family, your dearest person, so there is no need to resent them, if you want to balance your heart, just think superstitiously that you owe them in the previous life, and come to repay the debt in this life, let yourself endure it for a while, endure it for a while, and at the same time, you must work harder, pay more, and become independent as soon as possible, so as to get rid of their sea of suffering, go out and develop alone, the world is very big, There is also a lot of room for development, especially when you are young, you should suffer a little more, go outside to have more knowledge, and experience more things, which will become your intangible wealth in the future.

During this period of endurance, I can only say that I should avoid them as much as possible, and when I am with them, let myself be as well-behaved as possible, and follow their wishes.

In my opinion, these are not important, the important thing is your mentality and psychological problems, don't affect your inner because of these, make yourself stronger, braver, this time will pass, believe in yourself! They don't love you, there will be people who really love you! Come on!

Be hopeful and confident in life!

Looking at your few words, my heart is very heavy. The pain is that you feel 16 years old is amazing. I really admire that you can grow up in such an environment and have good character. It's like a very holy lotus flower, which comes out of the mud without staining, and can also give people elegance and fragrance.

It may be possible that your parents dislike you, but it is not right for your sister to slap you. But I want to tell you, as long as you set up your next ambition in life now and keep working in this direction, my uncle said that you will definitely be able to live the life you want. But there is a very important creed here, that is, no matter when and how difficult it is in the future, do not sell your body and conscience.

Only such chastity and bravery can come to the fullest. Otherwise, all your previous grievances and troubles will be in vain, and the future will be even more bitter. Got it?

This is the law of cause and effect in the universe. Do good deeds, speak good words, think well. It is to sow good causes and reap good results.

On the other hand, if you were in your current situation, what would happen if you played against your sister? If your parents teach you a lesson, and you show them a look on their faces and run away from home, what will be the consequences? So as long as you don't hurt yourself very badly, but ordinary small domestic "violence", I think as you grow older, it's almost over.

Stick with it. Don't hate your parents. You should think of your sister as your sister, and if she beats you, you will hide, and you will run.

It's okay! I also want to tell you a Chinese virtue: dear to me, why is filial piety difficult? Hate me, filial piety.

I think you're such a kid. It means that my parents like me, and it is not difficult to be filial, but my parents don't like me, and I can still be filial with my heart, which is commendable.

Parents give us life, just to be grateful! It's not easy to raise us to grow up. If they don't treat you well, they don't have a good time.

So you understand your parents' difficulties, and you love your parents, which means that you are filial, so you have a greater responsibility to make them happy, and they will one day wake up and realize that you are their good daughter. Proud and proud of you. Definitely.

So don't give up on yourself. There is such a painful adversity, you must stand in this adversity to look at the future, instead of giving this adversity to the ground, that is to become a mouse, and the future life can be imagined. Right!

The good or bad things that everyone experiences have their meaning, and if you understand it, you will grow up and mature. You can't read it, you're confused by its performance, you're always a fool who doesn't grow up. When you ask questions here, it shows that you are very smart, that this place is open to the whole country, and that people who are related to you are telling you to help.

Bear with it a little longer, you will be 16 years old, you will be an adult soon, study hard, choose a good university, find a better job after graduation, and get rid of such a family as soon as possible.