You husband and wife quarrel, who will be the first to give in, can you talk?

My husband would not be able to control his emotions and yell at me every time he quarreled, and then find his parents, sometimes I felt wronged and wanted to talk to my parents about these things, but he would not let me say it, thinking that if my parents knew that we were arguing like this, he would not have a good impression, and the marriage would come to an end. It took us three or four days to get better, but he still loved me, because after the quarrel, he came to talk to me first, apologized to me, told me about his own mistakes, and begged for my forgiveness. But this kind of endless quarrels really makes me feel exhausted, I can only say that the days are two people running into each other, or cherish the current peace, I hope that there will be fewer and fewer quarrels between us in the future.

Women are not the same before and after marriage, they become very emotional after marriage, and after a quarrel, I always give in, apologize, and coax her. I forgot why I got up last night, and then blamed me for annoying her, blamed me for procrastinating, blamed me for buying **, said I smoked, and said I slept late. I just talked about the truth of long-term investment, the rationality and benefits of delay, the difficulty of quitting smoking and my poor quitting action, and then she sneered, actually sneered, I couldn't bear it, so I ignored her, and then the cold war until now, thinking to myself, I will be a puppy if I surrender first.

I'm holding back, and I'm afraid she'll be too sad.

When in love, husbands are not like this. Since I got married, I feel like I'm in my pocket and don't care about me so much. When I get angry, he quarrels with me, he won't let me, and now that I'm pregnant, he still quarrels with me unscrupulously, he doesn't care about my emotions at all, I cry in the bedroom, he closes the door of the study, he doesn't want to hear it, he doesn't care at all, he won't find a way to make me not angry and not cry, just let it go, or just quarrel with me.

But he still cooks for me every day, and when I watch TV, he watches TV with me, and nothing else intersects, and they don't talk to each other. Every time, I took the initiative to speak first, apologized to him, and he ignored me, I don't know why he changed so much after marriage, he let me before marriage.

Every time I quarreled with my husband, he refused to give in, and said that from his point of view, he was right, why should he apologize to me and give in to me. But I told him clearly, in my opinion, what you said and what you did made me unhappy, and you coaxed me well. But every time he refused to coax me, every time he was so noisy that he felt that he couldn't pass a minute, so he was willing to say sorry to me, but immediately began to turn over the old accounts and accuse me of being wrong.

Over and over again, I quarreled many times, and I was so tired of arguing. I'm always the one who is soft, and it's not that I'm good-tempered. I can act recklessly because I love him, and I really want to go back to the simple years when I fell in love.

When the two of us quarrel, I usually give in first, and I think boys want to save face, so as wives, we need to overcome rigidity with softness.

My husband never coaxes people when he quarrels with me, every time it's a big truth, I don't want to hear these truths at all, I just want a hug, or he asks softly, what's wrong with you. That's all. When I asked him, he would say that I had done something wrong again, I apologized to him, and after saying that I was not, he would be enthusiastic about me when he was satisfied, and there was no one.

I was always blamed, and in the end I didn't know why I quarreled, but it was all my fault anyway, I caused it, everything will turn to him who cares about me very much, and changes a lot for me, and I didn't change for him, I want to die headlong when I say it, why can't we quarrel about his mistakes, my words will cause a war. But I couldn't bear him, I loved him very much, and the result was that I became the one who whispered and begged him for forgiveness, living a very humble life, and I was tired of loving him.

My husband is three or four years older than me, almost 30, and occasionally he will quarrel or argue about some issues, no matter what time he will fight to the end, and he will never give in, no matter whether things are meaningful or not, he is wrong or I am wrong. When there is a quarrel, all kinds of indifferent and hurtful things will be said, and it is quite normal not to quarrel. Anyway, it's basically me who compromises.

Suddenly I felt like I was going to collapse.

My boyfriend never knows that what girls want is care and considerate, no matter what, they have to fight for right and wrong, in his eyes he has always been right, all my disagreements are selfish and nonsense, I will coax him when I quarrel, there are a few girlfriends who can do this, I feel that I have no self-esteem in my life.

Softness will be more conducive to long-term family harmony.

If both sides are stubborn and stubborn, it will only be endlessly quarrelling, which affects the relationship between husband and wife, and is just another way to deal with the problem, and then everyone is calm down and then ** this matter, there is no need to keep entangled in who is right and who is wrong, even if you win, but you lose the feelings, the gains outweigh the losses.

Husband and wife.

If you quarrel with your husband, choose the cold war or give in, it depends on the actual situation. In most cases, we should first try to solve the problem by subduing the soft, and the Cold War is only used as a last resort, so we should try to deal with the contradictions by subduing the soft.

Generally speaking, there should be an objective attitude towards the problem, both parties should be honest with each other, and try not to win over others. If we can put aside the odds and failures in this debate, we can communicate the problem rationally and honestly, even if there are differences of opinion, we can respect the other party, be honest with each other, and see the problem as a process of solving the problem together. In communication, both sides should avoid blaming each other, avoid exacerbating attempts to actively argue, and focus on reconciliation and elimination of misunderstandings.

When both sides are willing to communicate openly and honestly, but cannot reach a consensus on opinions, a Cold War can be considered. A cold war is when both sides do not admit that nothing has happened, both inwardly and on the surface, neither side communicates, or only superficially contacts and expresses indifference to each other inwardly. The Cold War helped to dispel the intense feelings, calmed the mood of both sides, and gave both sides a chance to re-examine the issue and try to see it from a new perspective.

However, the Cold War has the potential to deepen tensions, and both sides may lose some of their emotions in silence. Therefore, when using the Cold War as a means of mediation, we should pay attention to moderation and not drag the Cold War too long, so as not to cause more problems. Moreover, in the Cold War, we should strive to remain rational, not only take care of ourselves, but try to listen to the opinions of the other side as much as possible, as well as more reasons and factors behind them, listen to each other's voices in a timely manner, and bring the relationship between the two sides back to a normal state.

In short, both the soft and the cold war are exquisite, and it is necessary to judge which effect is better and which is more suitable for oneself depending on the specific situation, and then handle the quarrel with the most positive attitude, rather than rushing to adopt the cold war. If you feel justified, you can express your opinion firmly, but respect the other person's feelings and don't attack the other person. If you feel that you are unreasonable, it is better to give in softly, admit your mistakes, and take the initiative to make amends.

Neither. The cold war is also a kind of cold violence in the family, and the quarrel cannot be dealt with with the cold and friendly war, and the argument is that both sides should first solve their respective emotions, which is called calm, and then communicate well when both parties have calmed down.

If it is not a big event, each of them will take a step back, the sea and the sky will be broad, there is no need to make noise for some trivial things, learn to empathize, understand each other and tolerate each other......