What are the dangers of counseling children to roar ?

It can directly cause the child's distraction when writing homework. In the long run, it indirectly leads to children's fear, resistance and even aversion to learning.

Why do behaviors such as "yelling" or some parents getting angry when tutoring homework and "hitting suddenly" cause children to be distracted when writing homework?

Because, the child's whole attention is focused on his parents, which belongs to a state of fear - I don't know when my parents will suddenly have a roar, or when they will hit me again. The child is in a state of constant tension and cannot complete his homework with peace of mind.

has said that "every problem that every child encounters in their growth can eventually be solved." But not in the same way, and not for the same length of time".

But to solve children's problems, or to fundamentally change children, the first thing to do is to change the parents themselves.

If parents themselves do not have the determination to change and the patience to persevere, then do not ask their children. Let's talk about tutoring assignments.

The lowest education among parents is basically a bachelor's degree. However, we will still repeatedly emphasize at parent-teacher conferences and parent groups: please do not help your child's homework.

Because of inappropriate counseling, including methods, including ideas....It can be counterproductive to children's learning. The purpose of the teacher's homework is not that the student hands in a full pair of assignments, and then we tick a few checks, and the homework becomes a two-way manual labor between the student and the teacher.

The purpose of the operation is to detect the effect, consolidate the ability, and see the shortcomings. Which question will not indicate which part of the knowledge point has not been fully mastered. Therefore, homework should help teachers grasp the real learning situation of children.

So I suggest you change your counseling to supervision. Let the child complete the homework independently, and in the process, let the child gradually realize that writing homework and learning are my own business.

How? First: create a learning atmosphere. The child is doing homework, Mom and Dad don't talk or watch TV, it's better to read a book, or work. This time period is the "collective learning and working time" for the whole family.

Second: there is a strict schedule. What time to do what time. If you say you eat at 7 o'clock, then at 7 o'clock, no matter how good your homework is, stop first and come to eat.

Find out all the homework content of your child today in advance, estimate the time, and if you can't estimate it, you can ask the teacher. Under normal circumstances, the amount of homework and the time required by the teacher each day should not change much. Then use your estimate of how long it will take for the assignment to complete, and determine a break.

Parental "scolding" can directly lead to distractions from the child's homework. In the long run, it will indirectly lead to children's fear, resistance and even disgust towards learning, which will affect children's interest in learning. Keeps children in a constant state of tension, leading to a decline in academic performance.

When a child hears their parents yelling, they may hit you. They may run away. These are not conducive to the formation of the brain. If this behavior is reversed, this behavior will be deeply rooted.

Whether it's in a conference room or a recreation room, as long as someone raises their voice, their words lose credibility. No one likes to be yelled at. When parents yell, the child will acquiesce and obey you out of fear, but the child will not psychologically accept your orders and will not understand what you are going to say.

Parental control over their children is absolute. For them, their families are people twice as big as they are, and they provide what they need in life: food, shelter, love.

Yes, it's really scary for a kid. They did some studies in which people were filmed yelling. When it was replayed to the subjects, they couldn't believe how distorted their faces had become.

It will make the child's personality cowardly, and it will be more cowardly when dealing with problems, and at the same time, it will not achieve the effect of education, and it will make the parent-child relationship more and more estranged.

It will lead to low self-esteem, and at the same time, it will also hit the child's self-esteem, affect the child's physical and mental health, and also cause the child's academic performance to plummet, autism, or not like to communicate with others, poor interpersonal skills.

It will make children resistant, become rebellious, and estranged from their parents. It will also make children bored with learning and hate learning, leading to a decline in academic performance.

Firstly, it may give the child the illusion that he is stupid, which will undermine his confidence, and his character may become weak, and secondly, because of this impression, when he grows up in his mind and becomes a father or mother, he will also treat his child in this way.

Introduction: Parents inevitably have to tutor their children, especially when tutoring their children to write homework, many parents do not know how to control their emotions, and sometimes there will be emotional out-of-control. What are the dangers of "yelling" when counseling children?

If parents say that their emotions are poorly regulated and they often yell at their children when tutoring, their children will feel very scared and even have a certain resistance to the process of doing homework. And when parents are yelling at their children, in fact, most children's minds are blank, so it is impossible for children to handle their homework in the way and method required by their parents, but will do worse and worse. In fact, such a behavior of parents is interrupting the child's train of thought.

In addition, parents sometimes have poor emotional control in the process of yelling at their children, which is likely to escalate the conflict, and sometimes there will even be some physical punishment, so this is a relatively serious family education imbalance, and it is not conducive to the healthy growth of children. Therefore, "yelling" when tutoring children is very harmful to children, not only can not improve children's grades, but also is not conducive to children's physical and mental health. If parents really can't control their emotions, it is better not to tutor their children and let them learn by themselves.

Parents' emotional regulation is very important, and some parents use their children as their punching bag, and they are angry with their children when they are dissatisfied outside. There are also some parents who treat their children as their placebos, and they want their children to accompany them in everything, and once the children want to be independent, parents will panic. These parents don't really know how to regulate their emotions, and they don't see their children as an independent and complete individual.

Therefore, parents should not give up their personal development and their own requirements because of their children's development in the process of growing up, and every parent should respect their own emotional needs and express them appropriately, so that children can know how to express their emotions.

It may cause the child to lose self-confidence, it may damage the child's self-esteem, it may make the child develop a fragile character, it may make the child not like to learn, and it may make the child afraid of his parents.

This kind of tutoring will make the child hate homework even more, make the child think that it is because of the homework that yells at him, and it is easy to have learning disabilities, inattention, anxiety and other problems.

It is easy to cause children to have an aversion to learning, and it is also easy to cause children to have low self-esteem and sensitivity, very autistic personality, and insecurity since childhood, which will also lead to children and parents becoming estranged, without their own opinions, hesitant to do things, and not decisive at all.

It is very bad for the child's growth, the child will become very inferior, and even especially afraid of the parents, and the child will become submissive and insecure.

Introduction: There are many parents who are bitter when tutoring their children, and feel that they are like a different person when tutoring their children, and they can't help but lose their temper with their children. What are the dangers of "yelling" when counseling children?

In fact, when parents are emotional, they will always show impatience with their children and disappointment with their children, and most parents will accuse their children of being stupid when they "yell" when they are tutoring, and they can't teach how to teach. This is actually a reference to destroying the child's self-confidence and making the child feel that he is nothing in the parents' mind. In addition, when some parents are emotional, they will not choose to say anything, which will make children have a certain boredom with learning, and it will also damage children's self-esteem.

In addition, in fact, when the parents are yelling, the child's mind is disrupted, so the child does not hear what the parent is saying at all, nor is he thinking about the problem, which will lead to the child's thinking confusion, and then it will be even more difficult to think about the correct direction of the problem. Therefore, it is better to "roar" when tutoring children than not to counsel children, so that at least it can ensure that the child's mind is not harmed.

Teachers should keep homework, but proper homework can promote children's growth. And if homework requires too much parental involvement, it undoubtedly increases the burden on parents' lives. The burden on every adult is very heavy, and a lot of energy has been spent in the process of educating children, and it is necessary to tutor children to write homework every day, which is a kind of life pressure for parents, and it is not suitable for children to grow up.

Therefore, it is necessary to reduce the burden of homework from the school side and avoid the impact of homework on children's family relationships, so as to be conducive to the healthy growth of children.

"Roaring" when tutoring children has these harms for children:1Over time, children will have low self-esteem and will never be able to face others with confidence; 2.

It will make children insecure, and will make children develop sensitive, suspicious, and withdrawn personalities; 3.It will make children have emotional expression disorders, and they are not good at expressing subjective emotions such as love and praise to others.

On the one hand, it reduces the efficiency of their counseling and children's learning, and on the other hand, long-term "yelling" either makes children very rebellious, or makes children lose self-confidence and become timid and cowardly.

There are serious harms, which may cause children to become more and more timid, may cause children to be not good at expressing themselves, may increase children's psychological pressure, may cause children to become more and more sensitive, and will lead to grievances.

It is easy to lead to boredom in school, easy to cause children to be very angry, cause children to have low self-esteem, and easily lead to children not being able to learn normally, which affects children's growth.

"Roaring" when counseling children, the harm to children: timidity and always like to escape from daily life. When your child is yelled at all the time, he will feel the negative emotions in your verbal expression.

In the initial process of which mentality, children will instinctively react to cause a feeling of worry, but due to the increase of time, this kind of worry will eventually change into cowardice in the heart, dare not communicate with others, dare not express themselves, and even shut themselves in a person's world and refuse to touch others.

Over time, the child will not only lose the ability to express himself positively, but also lose the courage to deal with things with a straight face, after all, over the years, he has never won the fight with you, and after experiencing too many times of suppression by his parents, he will lose self-confidence in himself, have a timid temperament, are very sensitive, and like to yell.

The best teacher for children is their parents, and children will always learn how to go into daily life like adults, and children will follow what their parents do. If you keep yelling at this child, you may be the obedient kind of child in front of you, but in the area where you are not there, he will be very manic, very unstable, and he will also like to yell, and even like to use illegal means, and eventually develop a very paranoid personality trait.

Likes to please others, and eventually transforms into a people-pleasing personality.

In this emotional collision, the child will always be the first to break down, because he is too weak, so he can only use the method of pleasing you to calm your anger, to prevent the damage that will come to his own body. Children who grow up in such conditions will subconsciously please others, because they feel that no one will treat them well, and they can only love themselves who will please others, so they can only interact with others in that form. But in daily life, people who subconsciously please others will never get a good ending, and in the end they can only make the child's temperament more distorted.

It will make the child have a psychological burden, and it will also make the child rebellious, will make the child lack self-confidence and negative, and then it is easy to give up learning, and there is no interest, which will make the child go further and further away from the parents, and the parents should communicate with the child, do not beat and scold the child.

If it becomes popular when tutoring children's homework, it will lead to a decline in children's enthusiasm for learning, and will also lead to children's introversion, lack of talking, low self-esteem, and even school boredom, which is extremely detrimental to children's future development.