What is it like to have a friend with three distorted views?

Having a friend with distorted views should make us feel different about life!

Because most people's three views: outlook on life, values, and world view are basically not much different. For example, many people think that life is plain and bland, or that life should be about tossing, and should not be as calm as a stagnant lake.

Although these are two diametrically opposed outlooks on life, most people in the world also hold these two outlooks on life, so it is not surprising that these two outlooks of life are common among the crowd. Values are the same, some people feel that they should believe in fate, conform to nature and maintain the goodness in their hearts, and everything should be treated equally; And some people live so hard, why do I work hard for so long to finally enter the higher group, and I still have to communicate with some lower classes or people who are not helpful to me and be friends? For the world view, everyone is more similar, and it is certain that most people are not dissatisfied with the current world, or even if they are dissatisfied, it will be harmless to their own lives, and they will just complain and pass.

All of the above are the cases of a large minority of the population. <>

But it can't be said that there are no people in society who think differently than we do. If this person's three views do not bring harm to the people around him or the people in society, it cannot be said to be distorted, but can only be said to be unique. Only when harm is done to others can it be criticized as distorted and abnormal three views.

If there is someone around us who has a different view of life, values and the world than most of us, it should be more able to make us understand what kind of three views are universally applicable. But at the same time, it can remind us that there are still many deficiencies in our lives, values, and the world, and more people need to work hard to make it better and better.

Every day, he always listens to complaints from friends, is dissatisfied with everyone, is dissatisfied with society, always talks about the unfairness of society, and feels that he is always sick. <>

There are always people with distorted views, and I have such a friend by my side. I don't know why, but from his experience, I learned that when he was a child, he always heard others say how difficult and dark the society was, and then he heard the elders in the family say that there was a back door to do things, and he always felt that the society was unfair. He has been exposed to this kind of information since he was below, and later slowly formed this distorted three views.

Later, I met him in college, and my first impression was that he was very sunny, but as the contact time lengthened, I later realized that his social outlook was really distorted. I always say that I have depression, that the world is so dark, and that everything I do depends on money and relationships. Several times he has said that he wants to think about getting rich overnight, robbing a bank or committing a crime when he is dying.

At first, I thought he was joking, but after saying it many times, I really found out about his problem. After that, I was very afraid of him, feeling that something would happen to him at any time, and I was terrified.

With this kind of friend, I always feel that he is going to do something abnormal, which makes people very worried.

I am a Pisces, I think the constellations are quite accurate, Pisces is simple by nature, I felt that everyone's three views are the same when I was a child, and they are all the same as those learned in textbooks. Later, I found out that I was wrong, not everyone thinks that the three views in the textbook are right, they may be growing up because of the influence of the original family or because of the influence of the later stage, and some people's three views can be distorted to think that what he said is absolutely right. The concept has been ingrained, just like a person I know, he thinks that money is the most important thing, and he can not be dignified for the sake of money.

He can do anything for money, he's a boy, and I really think it's scary for a boy to be able to do this. Money is not everything, but in his heart it is everything. The whole person is very hypocritical, so hypocritical that others feel tired when they look at him.

But he himself doesn't think that this is right, he should be hypocritical, he should be disguised, it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter if it's personality, it doesn't matter if it's dignity, money is the most important thing.

There is no twist or distortion of the three views, only the three views can be combined. You feel that the other party's three views are distorted, and he thinks that you have three crooked views.

I have two small hair.,One is looking forward to the other family having a bad time.,I don't know if it's not right.,And the three of us grew up together.,After getting married, we went to the end of the world.,Another year happened to be reunited in my hometown.,At first, they all talked very well.,After being with one of them, they all talked about how the other party pretended to be happy.,In fact, it's not good.,I'm very smart and see it.,Seriously, I really didn't expect them to be like this.,I'm sure I'm not here when I'm not there. It's good to think about it, it's still a good hour, and there are not so many thoughts and worries. Your small hair must hope that you are doing well, but it can't be better than hers. Now that I don't keep in touch with them, it feels really hard to talk to them.

Distorted, hehe, is to think only about yourself. Pretending to be more serious than anyone else, and being yin is more poisonous than anyone else.

I'm just not normal.

There are family reasons, there are social reasons, and there are personal reasons.

The family reason is that there is a problem with the three views of the parents, and they have been exposed to it since childhood, and they must not escape the restrictions of their parents' thinking.

The social reason is that the Chinese society has developed to this day, from poverty to wealth, and the whole country has been westernized, and people as a whole have lost their original three views, and taking money as the only measure of value will inevitably affect individuals.

The personal reason is not to read, not to read good books, to turn a blind eye to the classics that have been handed down in China for thousands of years, to misinterpret and misread them, and even to disagree with them.

People will only reflect on themselves when they suffer setbacks, and believe that people who uphold the wrong three views will wake up after experiencing a wall like this, otherwise they will kill themselves.

A friend of mine, when he has a partner, still goes to the bar every day to have fun, and later learned that he has several objects, and this incident is the most ruinous of my three views.

I feel like the most devastating thing I've ever experienced is that one of my good friends has greened my other good friend, and I feel really embarrassed.

It is very comfortable to have a friend who has the same three views, because this friend can be described as your confidant.

Lu Xun said that it is enough to have a confidant in life, and the world should treat it with the same heart. It is difficult for a person to meet a friend who matches his three views in this life. Because there are no two identical leaves in this world, let alone the same peopleEven if they are twins, although their appearance is extremely similar, their personalities are still very different.

Therefore, it will be very comfortable to have a friend who matches the three views, and the specific reasons are as follows, you can compare them.

The three views are actually "like-minded" friends. As early as the early Tang Dynasty, Wang Bo wrote in the "Preface to the Pavilion of King Teng": "When the bell period is met, why is it ashamed to play flowing water?

It can be seen how comfortable Yu Boya is when he meets his confidant. Imagine if you were such a friend, with similar interests, outlook on life and values on the same channel, what would it be like for you to get along? Usually chatting can talk together; have the same pursuit of life; The views on certain events are extremely compatible, and no matter what you do, you can be on one amplitude.

2.Wine is less than a thousand glasses of confidants. When you meet such a person, it is "a thousand glasses of wine for a confidant".

Here is a story: I once had a friend who was more than ten years older than me, but the two of us talked very well and could be described as like-minded. Working together, walking together, even the alcohol you like to drink is a brand.

It was an unforgettable memory! After work in the afternoon, two people buy a few side dishes, carry a bottle of wine, and chat while drinking, which is the real wine talk. Often, we can drink a meal of wine for three or four hours before it ends.

However, now the world is divided into east and west, but I will never forget this memory.

3.Words are not speculative for more than half a sentence. This is from the opposite side, if someone does not agree with your three views, it is "more than half a sentence of speculation".

For example, you like Cai Xukun, he likes Zheng Shaoqiu; You like to be lively, he likes to be alone; You are very arrogant, but he is thoughtful and calculating. From personal preferences to beliefs in life, none of you can get along, can you come together with such people? I'm afraid it's hard to work together?

This is also called "the Tao is different, not conspiring with each other". Therefore, if you have a friend who matches the three views, you will feel very comfortable, like a spring breeze and rain, and like a sweet spring!

Conclusion: In this life, in just a few decades, although you will meet many people, there are very few people who really have the same taste. Therefore, no matter what age you are, teenagers, young people, middle-aged or old people, since you can meet such a person, it is a gift from God to you, cherish it.

Remember: friendship is as light as water, if you meet such a friend, you must not mix utilitarianism, to maintain the purity of friendship, only in this way will you have peace of mind, only in this way will your friendship be ...... forever

It is a very happy experience, because being with this kind of friend makes you feel very relaxed and happy.

It would be a special joy. Because the three views of two people are consistent, there will be a lot of common topics together, and the other party will definitely understand themselves better.

A feeling of special bliss. Having a friend who complements each other feels like I've found a confidant, I can talk to him about anything, and there are many common topics.

This story is not cliché or clichédIt happens between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law of the family

The girl Xiaoli and the man Xiao Zhang have been in love for more than a year, and then they are ready to get married, but they have only met their parents a few times before marriage, and they have not had an in-depth understanding of the family situationI only know that Xiao Zhang's father died very early, Xiao Zhang and his mother have always depended on each other. Here's the background.

Because of the death of Xiao Zhang's father, her mother-in-law lived with her husband and wife, and Xiaoli also knew that it was not easy for her mother-in-law to pull her son after so many years of hard work, so she endured some friction with her mother-in-law. Although there was friction, his husband did not help her after that, and Xiaoli didn't pay attention to these details when she just got married at that time.

The problem is that after they have children.

After Xiaoli gave birth,She found that there were days every month when her husband didn't sleep with herInstead, she went to her mother-in-law's room to sleep with her mother-in-law at night, which made Xiaoli feel a little uncomfortable, although it was her mother-in-law, her husband's mother, but after all, everyone is an adult, and she is also a daughter-in-law, so it is always bad to do this.

So one day during dinner, Xiaoli said this, but unexpectedly, not only did they not converge, but they slept together more and more times, which made Xiaoli really unacceptable! What made Xiaoli even more unacceptable was that her mother-in-law once said publicly during a meal: ".Anyway, you have a child, so if you can't get by, you can get a divorce, anyway, my son and I are doing well.

I don't know what this kind of mother-in-law thinks? All in all weird. When I saw this story, I really thought it was ruined.

There is a father-in-law and daughter-in-law in the village who are greasy and disgusting to look at every day.

Let's take watching a movie yesterday, a person turned over the head of the girl in the front row and stepped on a stool.

There was a man who scolded the old man for not giving up his seat in the car, which really ruined the three views.

It is those who destroy the three views, who do not know how to work hard to create a good life, and always cheat others outside.

The thing that destroys the three views is that there are newlyweds in one place, and tragedy occurs because of contradictions.

I have a friend who I think is a very down-to-earth person, but I didn't expect him to be able to do such a thing as domestic violence.

It's just that some people say something about that aspect, and it's a headache.

I often hear that someone divorced because of the demolition and division of the house, but the husband and the junior got married, and the fake divorce came true!

In this case, there will be a feeling of psychological collapse, but there is a very helpless appearance. I will feel that there are problems with my three views, and it is easy to be brought into a situation where my three views are not correct, and I feel that the things I think are right are like doing something wrong, and the angles of looking at things are different, so I feel that I should stay away from people with wrong three views.

Sometimes I am very tired when I get along with them, after all, the three views of several people are different, and I can't convince them to understand what I want to understand, and I am also afraid that if I stay with them for a long time, my three views will become abnormal.

I don't think it's necessary to get along with them at all, because people with wrong views have a different view of the world than you, so you and them will definitely not be particularly close friends, so it's better to stay away from them.

If you have a bunch of friends and classmates around you who have three wrong views, I think such people are not unsuitable for getting along with them, they just haven't reached their age and still have thoughts, maybe they are stubborn children, but this does not mean that their hearts are not good, you just need to get out of the mud and not stain, but if they say that they have not changed their nature, it is also necessary to leave them as soon as possible.