Why don t I speak well?

This kind of thing has to be practiced slowly, and I don't know how to do it before, and my mouth is very stupid. Later, it slowly got better. You have to observe how the people around you talk and see what others say and get a good impression that you can imitate, but it should suit you.

In addition, people like to listen to praise, as long as they speak with a good attitude, it is also very effective to praise others appropriately. In addition, if you have time to think before each speech, be sure to think about it a little before speaking. Finally, enlighten you, don't take it too seriously if you say the wrong thing, in fact, the person who listens may have forgotten it.

First of all, before you speak, count a few times, five times or ten times (of course, sometimes you forget, but try to do it), and think about how to use the words appropriately. I think your problem is that you don't give yourself time to think about your words. Then it slowly becomes a habit and you can blurt it out, and you don't need to count.

I used to do the same, just hone more, and speak from other people's perspectives to make others happy. It's going to be a lot better that way.

Don't rush, just take your time.

I also used the method on the first floor, which is very good, and I do the same. Suggestion.

Learn more from others. Come back and see for yourself.

Think it through and then talk about it.

Think more from someone else's point of view before you speak

Before doing things, you have to think about it, how to say how to be decent

As the saying goes, trouble comes from the mouth, and many words are unlucky, and it is easy to change things or make yourself woe when you say it. For example, if you say the following unlucky words: death, longevity, vows, curses, scolding your parents, etc.; Not only will it bring you bad luck, but it will also detract from your good fortune. Otherwise, why do we often say that Jikoude Jikoude is what it means.

However, since it is not said, it is also said; First of all, you don't have too much psychological burden, relax, and then use the method to crack it.

Secondly, the solution to the unlucky words is useful by wearing feng shui objects to increase luck; However, this needs to be determined according to your eight-character fortune to be useful; It is recommended to go to the official website of the phaseless copper furnace to make a one-to-one decision.

Finally, a reminder, don't talk about nuclear hail in the future, otherwise, it won't be good if you really provoke something; People are still kind, and many people like lotus flowers.

People love to listen to good and obedient words, and they don't like to listen to bad words. A good word is not necessarily a good word, and a bad word is not necessarily a bad word. Good words are better when they are said well.

Even if it's a good thing, if it's said badly, not only will it not have the desired effect, but it may also mess things up. It sounds good and ugly, why do you say that it is difficult to be obedient early? Words are all energetic, and it is certainly uncomfortable for others to listen to unpleasant words, but there is no doubt that this kind of negative energy language comes out of one's own mouth and is heard first, so it is more negative than the other party.

The above is in terms of the general situation, but sometimes things are not so simple, for the unruly people, for some people who have serious vices, or even break the law and commit crimes, sometimes if they do not say something unpleasant, they really cannot achieve the goal of curing the disease and saving people. Even for the average person, it is not always possible to say unpleasant things under any circumstances. Therefore, according to the actual situation of the person speaking, learn to grasp the opportunity to speak in a measured and reasonable way, which is a wise approach.

For example, it is necessary to take bitter medicine to cure a disease, but if the bitter medicine is coated with sugar, the effect of the medicine is achieved, and the problem of bitterness is solved. But some medicines can be coated with sugar, and some medicines can not be coated with sugar, such as Chinese herbal medicine can not be cured without eating, so it is bitter to eat. Those who are sugar-coated are good talkers, and those who are bitter are not obedient.

Brother Jane's good words are good for the ears, and good medicine is good for the disease. That's right.

Summary. First of all, when others criticize you for not speaking well. You have to look at this criticism from others.

Don't be resistant and feel that others have an opinion about you. Or you think that others are not happy with you, so you make up unfavorable language for you. Many people around us are like this, when others criticize him, he finds it unacceptable, he thinks that others are making up such lies out of malice.

When others criticize him, he also asks his friends around him, asking them if they think he is the person his critics say he is. When my friends are confronted with such questions, most of them say, no, I don't think so. Then the person will be more sure that the opinion of others about himself is fabricated.

When people say you don't speak well.

First of all, when others criticize you for not speaking well. You have to look at this criticism from others. Don't be resistant and feel that others have an opinion about you.

Or you think that others are not happy with you, so you make up unfavorable language for you. Many people around us are like this, when others criticize him, he finds it unacceptable, he thinks that others are making up such lies out of malice. When others criticize him, he also asks his friends around him, asking them if they think he is the person his critics say he is.

When my friends are confronted with such questions, most of them say, no, I don't think so. Then the person will be more sure that the opinion of others about himself is fabricated.

So when people say that you don't speak well. You have to understand that he won't say this about you for no reason. So you can ask her properly, why do you think so?

At this time, he will go to some examples, if you think what he said makes sense, you say those things really, it is too hurtful. Then you have the courage to admit your mistakes, when you express that you know you are wrong and will correct them. Even if he wants to continue to look for your problems, you will feel that there is nothing to say.

If you really love and you don't agree with his opinion, then you can express your opinion appropriately. Of course, it doesn't mean that you have to go against his opinion, but just let you express some of your opinions.

If it's not one or two people who say that you don't speak well, you have to know that you may have some problems with your language expression. Then you have to correct your problems. How can I correct it?

You can read more books on interpersonal communication. Skills in language communication. Although many people say that I just read books, and I can't apply the knowledge in books to life, we still use it when we have this knowledge in our brains and really need to use it.

Summary. Yes, no one is going to pay attention to a stranger who has nothing to do with him, it's just that you might think about it later and feel a little embarrassed that you didn't do well just now.

I said something on the subway, and it didn't seem to be good.

Hello, then of course you must be in a bit of a hurry to say something nasty.

I don't think anyone else will care about me because no one can care about someone who is not related to them.

And that's actually normal, because everybody has some of these times.

Yes, no one is going to pay attention to a stranger who has nothing to do with him, it's just that you may think about it later, regret it, and feel that you didn't do well just now, and you're a little embarrassed.

So there's no problem at all, you don't have to think about it, and you've already gone with the thing, and it's not about anyone's pain except yourself, and you're still entangled in this question, what is the Lushen liquid.

I think I'm sometimes embarrassed because I don't like to be in public, because I feel like all the people are looking at me. I don't really like people looking at me because I feel embarrassed.

I don't know why I have some thoughts that I don't want, for example, I have swiped my card, but it doesn't show money, and I think my state ruined my vote.

This may have an obsessive-compulsive mentality, in fact, you.

There are actually quite a few such people, and my daughter is such a <>

Summary. Dear, I'm glad to answer for you! If you say something unpleasant, see who you said it to, and the water that was spilled out of the words can't be taken back, don't feel guilty anymore!

In fact, depending on who you are talking to, people who understand you will naturally understand, people who know you will naturally know what kind of person you are, and they will not change their opinion of you because of your words, and you don't need to explain people who don't understand. The appropriate choice apologized to the other party, saying that what he spoke just now was a bit too much, and it was okay to not brake! I hope mine can help my dear!

Dear, I'm glad to answer for you! If you say something unpleasant, see who you said it to, and the water that was spilled out of the words can't be taken back, don't feel guilty anymore! In fact, depending on who it is said to, people who understand you naturally understand, people who know you naturally know what kind of person you are, and they will not change their opinion of you because of your words, and you don't need to explain to people who don't know you.

The appropriate choice apologized to the other party, saying that it was a bit too much to say and pretend just now, and it was okay to not brake! I hope mine can help my dear!

I was on the bus and said something nasty, and I'm very struggling and scared now.

Don't be afraid, since there are so many people on the bus, you can say it. Now that you've done the macro scriptures and gone back, don't be afraid of pure books, no one will be more serious with you because of a sentence! Rest assured!

Yes, after I finished speaking, no one else reacted, however, I was afraid that they would take a picture of me or something with their phone.

Yes, first of all, I don't think people are going to talk about me or me. Because no one pays attention to people who are not related to themselves.

Then, I may be overthinking.

Yes, it's because you're thinking too much<>

People may have forgotten about it, and you're still struggling with it.

Okay, first of all, you don't think they're going to think too much about me and not talk about me.

Yes, who has so much energy to always think about others.

Only you care about everything about yourself! So you don't have to struggle anymore! Good <>

Be a warm person. Be a laughing person. Be happy and know how to be happy.

Be happy and infect the people around you to be happy. Try to do better. Occasionally willful, but not sharp.

Occasionally sensitive, but not neurotic. Happy to share all the happy and unhappy things with everyone. Be happy, just laugh, and let everyone know.

When you are sad, you cry, and then you don't do anything.

2. I am self-motivated at work, and have a wealth of interpersonal skills, and can mingle with friends around me.

3. Dad, thank you for supporting our home with both hands, thank you for doing your best to give me the best, and thank you all the way.

4. Children will cry when they fall but will still try to stand up bravely, and adults will not cry when they fall but Qi will be afraid to stand up and stop, which is the most significant difference between adults and children.

5. The only order is to listen: do what is called. Refers to absolute obedience.

It's so annoying and obedient, who won't say it It means that Li You uses other people's favorite words to flatter others and beautiful words It is not very objective and practical to treat things This is a dissatisfaction and unhappy rhetoric It is very simple and easy to speak, but to really do it and do things well, it is not necessarily.

Anyone can do it.

Good medicine is good for disease, and good advice is good for action

Standing and talking doesn't hurt your back, haha, that's what I want to say. Tell me about me, I used to too, and I wouldn't even say thank you. Later, I slowly tried to consciously say that at first I felt that it was awkward, but now it has become a habit.

You can also learn to say something nice from someone else. Although others will not appreciate you if you say some polite words, if you don't say them, others will remember them, and you will die. Even if you are hypocritical, you have to learn to wear a mask in order to live well.

Good obedience, who will not say means that this person can only speak, does not know action, we should avoid being this kind of person.

It's so good to pat the horse's ass, and it's like smearing honey.

Fools don't say nice things.

Praise others, everyone loves to hear good things.

<>1 Smile and respond calmly. We can choose not to accept the offer, and ignoring it is also a counterattack, and it is ironic for others to not let them succeed. Ki 2 doesn't use too rude language, for those who often talk about it, they will make a big deal and it will be bad for us.

As long as you have a clear conscience, you can face any difficulties, when others say something bad to say, you should take the initiative to express your opinions to the other party, only let him understand what you think in your heart, take the initiative to respect you, two people can have the opportunity to interact harmoniously, this is a basic principle of getting along with each other, only mutual respect for each other, you can communicate harmoniously.