What are the traditional customs of rural engagement? What are the bad habits?

The general tradition of engagement, first of all, is the eight characters of the birthday, and if you are satisfied, you need to be "full of red", and the meaning of sending red envelopes! It is that the south wants to give the woman's immediate family no one a big red envelope, and then give the bride price, buy "three golds", gold rings, gold earrings, gold necklaces, and finally enter the ancestral hall to inform the ancestors, and then hold a banquet.

When the husband and wife get engaged in the countryside, they should toast the in-laws, and then the in-laws give the husband and wife red envelopes to express their blessings. In addition, after the engagement, the woman has to change her clothes and toast the guests. The bad customs mainly include the hole room and the bridesmaids. Both of these are disrespectful to women, so it's better not to.

Scratching the bride's feet, although everyone says it's a bad habit, I think it's okay.

Are there a lot of them going to be illegal?

1. Don't step on the threshold.

Usually at home, everyone may encounter the threshold when entering and exiting, but on the day of the engagement, the woman must not step on the threshold, especially the bride. If you step on the threshold, it means that your married life will be more bumpy in the future, so you must be careful for your own happy life.

2. Don't say goodbye after getting engaged.

When sending off guests on the day of the engagement, it is best not to say goodbye. Because there is a saying in the folk that saying goodbye on the day of the engagement means that you will remarry, which is very unlucky. On the day of the engagement, the man and the woman became a family, so you must not say goodbye.

3. Parents should avoid negotiations.

Before getting engaged, both parents need to discuss the specifics of the marriage, and boys and girls are better off avoiding it at this time.

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See your question: "Our country has a long history, so what were the engagement customs in ancient times?" "Later, I would like to say that the engagement is to get the blessings and proof of the loved ones.

This is not new, as early as ancient times there was a custom of engagement. For today, the ancient engagement customs are more cumbersome, and there are more details to pay attention to. But people will take it seriously and dare not slack off, the purpose of which is to let the marriage be blessed and confirmed by others.

So what are the types of ancient engagement customs?

First of all, in China, both today and in ancient times, marriage was always considered the biggest thing. Over time, the ancient conventions of engagement have evolved into the simpler forms of today, but the meaning is the same. In ancient times, if a newlywed wanted to get married, then they had to get the consent of their parents, and then let the matchmaker go to the woman's house to talk to the matchmaker, so that the two could end up as husband and wife.

Moreover, the man will also ask for the woman's eight characters and hand them over to the fortune teller to calculate to see if they match the man's eight characters, and cannot conflict with the husband's eight characters. If there is a conflict, this marriage will not be concluded.

Secondly, after the matchmaking is successful, the woman's eight characters are also consistent with the man's eight characters, so you can choose an auspicious time to give the woman a dowry, in fact, this is equivalent to the current engagement. If you are hired, you must use a big post, and there is a marriage book in it. The marriage documents are all drawn up by the man, and a list of gift money is also formulated.

When getting engaged, the man only uses half of the gift money on the gift list, and then makes up the remaining half on the day of the gift, and can also give the woman a gold ring as an engagement token. On the day of the appointment, both parties have to invite relatives and friends to dinner, but there is no need to give gifts, just to send a blessing to the newcomer. If you see if you find that the ancient engagement customs still have a lot in common with today, after all, they all evolved according to ancient times.

Then, one or twenty days before the wedding date or one or two months before the wedding date, the woman should be given a gift, and half of the gift money from the last appointment should be made up. Also prepare cloth, silk and the like, organize these into a gift list, and give them to the woman together. When the woman receives these things, she wants to make them into clothes, quilts, etc., and on the wedding day, these are to be brought back to the man's house, which is also commonly known as the dowry.

Finally, after the gift, then both parties have to prepare for marriage, after all, the wedding date is very close. Many people see this, do they think that the ancient engagement customs are actually similar to today. But at that time, marriage may not be as free as it is now, and in ancient engagement customs, parents had to agree, and there was also a matchmaker as a matchmaker, otherwise marriage would not be protected by law.

For us today, we are still very happy, at least we can pursue what we like, and we don't have to force ourselves.

In ancient times, there were many betrothal customs, and the man had to go to the woman's house before 11 o'clock. And when you enter the door, you have to give the gift money to the woman's mother, the gift money must be wrapped in a red cloth, and it must be new money, and when the man leaves, the woman must return the money for you to buy shoes. The man should prepare meat snacks, sugar, and wine. A fan of someone.

In fact, there has been a custom of engagement in our country for a long time, generally at the time of engagement, the parents of both parties will meet for the first time, and the two parties will also meet for the first time, and then talk about some conditions for marriage.

In ancient times, engagement to marriage can be divided into "three books and six ceremonies", "three books" are the letter of appointment, the letter of ceremony, and the letter of welcome, and the "six rites" are respectively Nacai, asking for names, Naji, Naji, inviting dates, and greeting. Although the etiquette of engagement seems to be more troublesome, it can also be seen that it is very polite and respectful of the woman's family.