Although I reconciled after having a conflict with my boyfriend, why do I still feel sad in my heart

Let me give you some hints, my dear: maybe you're still in the venting phase, I mean, you haven't been able to fully vent when you're in conflict with your boyfriend. The residual dissatisfaction in your heart makes you feel aggrieved!

Second, I believe that you are a cautious person about love, and you are insecure in your heart, no matter what the reason is between you and your boyfriend, this contradiction has irreparably affected your trust in him.

However, love has to go on, life has to go on, if you really love each other, slowly you will turn around, since you have been reconciled, don't forget his mistakes, this is unfair to him, and it is also cruel to you, otherwise it is better to simply separate. Believe that you can last.

In addition, if you always have a premonition that you want to separate, in addition to thinking about whether there is a contradiction for your own psychological problems or for real, this contradiction is very hidden and needs to be carefully considered, and if you find it, you will also find the answer for yourself. Bless you all!

It's your own problem, in fact, two people together don't necessarily have to have any results. As long as you are happy when you are together, even if it is painful when you break up, you will still feel very sweet when you are old in the future.

Don't always make yourself too tired, learn to enjoy the sweet time of two people together.

That way you won't feel that way.

It's because you love him too much, and I'm afraid that he will hurt himself in the same way again, hehe, a very normal sister.

I've had it too. The reason is, not believing in yourself, or not believing in him.

If he is really good to you and a good person, then don't have negative thoughts, get along with him, if you feel that you haven't entrusted him for life, then give him some time to think about it, and it's not too late to make a decision later.

As the saying goes: leave a scar on the wound! Reconciliation as good as the beginning is only a situation that will appear in **, minimize conflicts, it is not good for anyone, and when there is a conflict in the future, I will think of this matter again, although both sides may not mention it, but will not forget.

You must think about it, or you won't regret it.

Time can change everything, take your time.

Because you care too much about him and love him too much.

It's going to feel like that.

What should I do if I get back together after a conflict with my boyfriend, but I always feel as if something is separated?

First, first of all, we must let go of the previous contradictions ideologically.

In fact, whether it is between lovers or between husband and wife, there will always be conflicts of one kind or another. It's just that the contradictions between the two sides are big and small. After all, if two people live together, it is very normal that they will disagree on the handling of something, or they will not be used to some habits or behaviors of the other party.

If you have a conflict with your boyfriend and reconcile, you feel a little estranged in your heart, mainly because you haven't completely let go of the previous things in your mind. In this case, you can talk to your friends about these things, and perhaps with their guidance, you will change the situation mentally.

Second, you should communicate more with the other party, so that the conflict will no longer affect your mood.

In fact, many contradictions or misunderstandings are due to problems in communication between two people, if there is a conflict, even if the two parties reconcile, if there is little communication in the future, then it is difficult for the relationship between the two people to return to the previous state. Therefore, after a conflict occurs, two people should communicate more to understand each other's true thoughts, and only in this way can the impact of the conflict on the feelings of the two people be reduced.

3. Believe that time will dilute everything.

It is often said that time will dilute everything in life, even if the contradiction between two people is deeper, after a period of time, this feeling will fade and even let go. In fact, after the occurrence of contradictions, there is a sense of estrangement, and the same is true for such emotions, under normal circumstances, after a period of time, this feeling will disappear, after all, there will always be all kinds of small contradictions in life, when two people experience more things together, they will deal with such problems more calmly. Therefore, be sure to believe in yourself.

I think you can have more entertainment activities with your boyfriend, such as hanging out for two people to enhance the relationship between the two of you.

At this time, you should talk about it and solve all these contradictions, so that the relationship between the two people can be better.

You need to communicate more with each other, say what is in your heart, be honest with each other, and talk about this matter.

Since you have a pimple in your heart, don't bury it in your heart, because the accumulation will one day appear in the form of contradictions.

Communicate well with your boyfriend, be gentle and reasonable, and give people the impression of being a child.

Mainly tell your boyfriend about your worries, rather than blindly complaining and blaming the past.

I wish you a smooth relationship and a happy life!

It is normal to have an estrangement after a quarrel, but if you have been uncomfortable, you should have a frank chat between the two people to determine whether the estrangement may be eliminated.

Quarrels between lovers are also a form of communication, but if they use swear words, cruel words, expose each other's shortcomings, insult each other's elders, etc., it may create a gap between two people, even if they are reconciled on the surface, there will be shadows in their hearts, unless the party who caused the estrangement can sincerely apologize, and get the other party's sincere understanding, the two people can truly reconcile as before.

If two people quarrel, it will definitely affect the relationship, you boyfriend and girlfriend quarrel a lot, of course there will be estrangement, if it is a husband and wife, it is better not to account too much at all.

Quarrels between lovers are frequent, if there is no strength quarrel or a quarrel that hurts feelings, don't care, if you feel estranged, the relationship is not so deep, so think carefully about whether your relationship should continue!

Quarrel with your boyfriend, although reconciled, but feel estranged, that's because your current mood and haven't gone down, well, after a while, it will be natural to be fine, if you want to feel really estranged, so feel uncomfortable, then as early as the root cause of your quarrel, this is the fundamental solution to the cause.

Then communicate with the two people who quarreled before, and then remove the estrangement, because you must feel that you are hurting each other like this, or you have said something that should not be said, and you can apologize to the other party, thank you.

This is a very normal phenomenon, you can communicate with your boyfriend more, because reconciliation after a quarrel sometimes does not mean that he is finished, communicate more.

This shows that the real cause of your conflict has not been resolved. In other words, if this is the case, don't be in a hurry, and hope to take it slowly. Sincerity will always impress the other party, so try to be as good as possible to the other party in the future. Slowly, the other party will also experience it.

You and your boyfriend quarreled, although they were reconciled, but you feel that there are still some estrangements between you, you should sit down and talk about it, you should trust each other, care for each other, love each other, and everyone can understand each other.

You can talk to your boyfriend about the previous conflict and say what you think in your heart, so that everyone can correct it and make the relationship go back to the past.

It's just that there is a little contradiction, then there is nothing to reconcile. Don't always feel like there's a little bit of a gap between the two. You find out the contradiction in this, and the two of you can communicate well.

If we still feel that there is a gap after reconciliation, it means that the problem has not been substantively solved, and only by truly solving the problem can the gap be eliminated.

After quarreling with her boyfriend, when you reconcile, you love each other more and accept each other.

Psychoanalysis: Hello, subject!

As a girl, I understand your depression and grievances very well, hug

I would like to share my thoughts with you, hoping to provide you with some help.

There is only one that clearly expresses the idea and bottom line of self-esteem.

Seeing that you are in a relationship for the first time, you may not have found a suitable way to communicate with your boyfriend, you may be worried that speaking out about your grievances and distress will make the other party feel too sensitive and vulnerable, but it will be very uncomfortable not to say it.

But in a relationship, the most important thing is not conflict, but hidden, and a good relationship must be built on the basis of good communication.

You need to clearly express your attitude and bottom line, you don't like his ex-girlfriend in his public social networking, and you want him to post your ** in social media, because you want you to be a recognized girlfriend ...... in front of his friends and familyYou can express all of this directly.

Through your expression, he can at least understand your thoughts, and through your communication, you can also understand your place in his heart, and may really understand that his behaviors that make you uncomfortable actually have no special meaning, so that you will not be distressed anymore.

Psychoanalysis: Hug you (

Seeing your experience is like seeing me in the past, and the other party's failure to properly handle the past with your ex is indeed easy to cause trouble.

Once, I also had a conflict because of this shed, even if the communication was good, but there seemed to be a thorn in my heart, and I couldn't get over it. I understand how you feel. Because ......

On the surface, reconciliation is good, but in fact, trust collapses

Before you learn about his ex's actions, you have a greater sense of security, and generally believe that you are his only one at the moment, a certain feeling of being in your control or expectation. But when you find out one day that he is doing something behind your back to remember your ex, your original belief in that relationship seems to collapse. You will question whether he can't let go of her, question whether the person he loves is her and not you, and the trust at the beginning will be suddenly reduced, and insecurity will follow.

Because, the development of that relationship, or his performance, is out of control, out of control is the most anxious, you have suffered a "spiritual betrayal" in your heart, the original sense of trust will be diluted, even disintegrated, and this is the source of your reconciliation but still sad and emotionally complicated.

He is the primer of your emotions, but you are the master of your emotions

In fact, when I analyze my heart at that time, I find that all the emotions that arise from him and his ex are rooted in myself, and the other party's behavior only provides an opportunity for me to see my own heart. Not confident, hungry for recognition, not genuinely liking yourself.

Behind his nostalgia may be that some of his needs are not met

Try to think about it from a different perspective, is it possible that you ignored some of his needs, and she once gave them? This may happen if he lacks satisfaction in the relationship, and it is advisable to communicate with him. Of course, if you're basically in place, then, the problem lies with him.

Advice for you].

Communicate in-depth with each other, talk about feelings and needs, and gradually re-chain leasing to build trust

There are also emotions that indicate that the communication is not in place, or that the other party's behavior does not make you trust enough. It is recommended to communicate in depth, explain your feelings in detail, explain your needs, thoughts and expectations one by one, and try to reach an agreement with him to build mutual trust.

Accept yourself and strengthen your inner strength

Self-acceptance is a lifelong topic, and when you focus on loving yourself, your inner strength grows stronger. People with inner strength will be more likely to self-regulate in intimate relationships, which will help you to communicate calmly and emotionally, and when you think you are worthy of love, you will be much less anxious and fearful about this situation.

Of course, if you communicate carefully and he repeatedly ignores your feelings, then be cautious.

Hope the above is helpful to you, good luck.

Emotional analysis: After reading the description of this paragraph, Hui Cou gave the subject a warm and loving hug. Let's start by sorting out what happened.

The subject and her boyfriend often quarrel over things between her boyfriend and her ex-girlfriend. For example, the boyfriend is on social platforms, and the ** of the ex-girlfriend before posting, and the family members of the ex-girlfriend are concerned. You have communicated with your boyfriend, but he did not take the initiative to delete it, and he will only do it if you clearly ask for it.

Now when the subject thinks of these things, he will be a little sad and feel unfair. Hug the subject again. Share a few tips with the subject.

Check if your boyfriend has made your presence public. You mentioned your boyfriend and didn't post your ** in the circle of friends, which is a little suspicious, which is too different from his previous girlfriends. You need to be clear, do your boyfriend's friends know about your existence?

Did he introduce you to his circle of friends? If not, then you need to seriously consider the relationship. Be clear about your boundaries.

The main question is to clarify your boundaries and explain your boundaries to your boyfriend. I respect your past, but I don't want to see this information now, you either delete it or it is not visible to me. I hope I don't even see this information in the future.

More important than deleting this information is, does the boyfriend still have feelings for his ex now? Are they still connected? Is your boyfriend genuine to you?

These questions need to be clarified by the subject. Accept what happened and look forward. As long as the subject can be sure, the boyfriend now truly loves himself and no longer has contact with his ex.

I suggest that the subject accept what happened to her boyfriend before, don't think about your boyfriend, what she has done for your ex, the more you think about it, the more sad you become, these are all in the past, and the most important thing is the present. You are very happy and loving now, and everything is good to look forward. I wish the subject happiness.

I'm smiling, and I hope mine can help you a little bit