How to be good friends with people who are both good and evil? 20

The answerer asked, "How to be good friends with people who are both good and evil?" ”

This matter needs to be seen by the benevolent, and the wise by the wise. What is positive? What is evil? Is it because you have different views on the same thing, so you are one good and one evil? Or is it that his conclusions about the same thing, different scenes and times do not make sense and you can't understand them?

Since you ask this question, it shows that deep down you still want to be friends with him, then seek common ground while reserving differences, find more or less commonalities between the two of you, and then live in harmony.

The answerer adheres to the concept of "human nature is inherently good", and there is no absolute right and wrong in the world, but their experiences from childhood to adulthood are different, which leads to cognitive incomprehension.

You can't force a child who grew up in a slum to easily understand what it is; Nor can a Bao'er who grew up with a golden key innate understand what hardship is. The so-called good and evil also correspond to the experiences of both parties.

If you really want to be friends with him, try to understand him more deeply, know what he has experienced, so that you will look at the good and evil of the problem, understand him, and believe that the friendship between the two of you will be deeper and longer.

A friend who can be honest with each other without any interest is a true friend.

The most basic condition for becoming friends is that they must be friends with each other in order to be friends.

It is not that he or she will be the first to think of you when he or she is in trouble, but that you will be the first to think of you when you can help him/her.

A friend who knows that you will do your best to help you when you are in trouble is true friendship.

In today's real society, those who have financial interests are good friends.

Ordinary friends only chat together occasionally, good friends want to take advantage of you, intimate friends are ambiguous relationships, and friends and friends will try their best to help you when you are in trouble (really know which is a friend or a friend only if there are big changes in your economic environment (for the better or for the worse).

Don't invest too much in him, don't expect too much from him, and make friends with a degree of tightness.

If you want to be a good friend, then you have to understand the other person's values, worldview, etc., and understand his philosophy from his thinking.

To learn to master an appropriate degree, on the one hand, you can try to understand it slowly, and on the other hand, you can't fully believe it.

Be sensible at all times, sometimes it makes you feel like you've made the wrong friend, and sometimes you feel like this person is a lifelong friend, so don't use your whole heart to make friends with this kind of person, you will be hit.

It depends on whether you want to be friends with him, if you want, use your most comfortable state to get along, and the person who is both good and evil will also have the softest place.

Everyone is a coin yo, there are heads and tails, and of course there is the middle side, its area is 2 vultures multiplied by your width, you can be, and your width is not wide, less touch yo.

In favor, it is still necessary to be a bad guy.

Because most people are both good and evil, they are still ordinary people in the next life.

The following six types of people are both good and evil, and must be cautious in their dealings:

1. Fierce and strong, let it be bold, and lose it in many taboos.

A strong and strong person has the advantage of being brave and unconvincing; The disadvantage is that he does not care about the ideas of others, there is no taboo in doing things, and it is easy to go out of line; Such people are both good and evil, and must be cautious in their dealings.

2. Argument and reasoning, can be explained and lost.

People who are good at reasoning and analysis and are good at sophistry have the advantage of being able to resolve difficult problems and contradictions; The shortcomings are deceitful and easy to lose principles; Such people are both good and evil, and must be cautious in their dealings.

3. Be good and cautious, be good and be cautious, and be suspicious.

A person who is calculating and cautious has the advantage of being cautious and never blind; The shortcomings are suspicious and indecisive; Such people are both good and evil, and must be cautious in their dealings.

4. Quiet and confidential, fine in the yuanwei, lost in the cowardice.

The advantage of a calm and thoughtful person in the city government is that he acts coldly and is discerning; The disadvantage is that it is timid and easy to hesitate; Such people are both good and evil, and must be cautious in their dealings.

5. Strong and strong, used in the trunk, lost in the solid.

People who act strongly, vigorously and resolutely, have outstanding ability and are capable of doing things; The shortcomings are self-righteousness and stubbornness; Such people are both good and evil, and must be cautious in their dealings.

6. Wisdom and affection, the right is in strategy, and the loss is in violation.

A person who is resourceful and resourceful has the advantage of whimsy and outstanding wisdom; The disadvantage is that there are many tricks and uncertainties; Such people are both good and evil, and must be cautious in their dealings.

People know each other, the most important thing is to know the heart, to fellowship with the heart to gain the heart, to benefit the loss to benefit. The way to make friends, you can't have the heart of harming people, and you can't have the heart of preventing people!

A very personal embodiment, feel right to do it, not disturbed by the outside world...

Comparing oneself and deciding one's own approach based on one's own experiences and likes and dislikes is usually more free-spirited.

It varies from person to person, and most of the more mature minds appreciate this kind of person more, real, realistic, and more like "people"!

Such a person is inherently charismatic and attractive! It's cuter than the Virgin who is full of benevolence and morality and the absolute villain who has no bottom line!

Everyone is not absolutely good or bad, a good person must have done bad things that he regrets, and bad people must have helped others, so the characters who are both good and evil are more real and resonate.

People who have their own opinions on things and are not at the mercy of others are cool.

Please refer to it"Some witches have good roots in their previous lives, the demon palace is blessed, and they are reincarnated to learn Buddhism. Having gained a human body, his thoughts and actions are sometimes right and evil, and he is a Buddha and a demon, and he also feels that the contradictions are painful and difficult to solve, and he cannot control himself, and of course he is easy to want to give up when he practice. But once such beings have been away for a while, their minds will be extremely empty, and they will want to fill their solitude with the Dharma, so they will come and go, and they will be bound by karma, so they will never be happy, and this is a kind of spiritual phenomenon that I have observed.

"Constant Avalokiteshvara.

In fact, this phenomenon is normal, people are like this, it is impossible for a person to have only good. There is no bad side.

In fact, relatives have two egos, one is a good self and the other is an evil self. The evil self is a reflection of the instinct, a qualitative need that carries the self. The good self is the result of the long-term normative constraints of human behavior, and without the good self, the quality that carries the self will be lonely, and it will be difficult to get the acceptance of those self outside the self.

These two selves are always in constant struggle, one eliminates the other's strengths, group activities, the good self prevails, when lonely, the evil self prevails, to overcome the torment of the evil self, it is necessary to participate in more physical activities, less loneliness, and at the same time to strengthen the self-cultivation, self-respect, self-awakening, self-alert, self-encouragement. Self-cultivation itself is a difficult thing. It takes perseverance and patience.

The process of self-cultivation is actually self-cultivation in a long-term and tenacious struggle against the evil self. It takes a lot of effort, and it is difficult for people who do not have a certain amount of perseverance to do it. As long as the good in people is greater than the evil, there is no need to worry, you can live a good life and be a good person.

In fact, everyone has two sides, is there such a sentence "everyone lives in the heart of a devil", the reason why people are human beings, different from other animals, is that people have self-control, know what to do, what not to do, form a correct outlook on life, moral outlook as a yardstick, guide us to act. The so-called difference between one thought also lies in this, it doesn't matter if the thought changes jobs, it is good if the criteria are not shaken.

It's certainly not very good and confusing! If you can, try to train as much as possible, leave the good side, and suppress the evil side! In fact, everyone has evil thoughts deep in their hearts, but they don't usually show it!

Good and evil are only in the thought of each other. It's normal for a person to have two sides

It'll be fine after a while, don't think about it before going to bed, read a book or something, do something you don't like and get sleepy, don't give yourself a bad hint, you will definitely fall asleep,

The character of both good and evil is very normal, if you want to say whether it is good or not, of course it is not good, it is also good, and it is not good to be evil just by this evil word, it is easy to rebel and rebellious, and these are all things that can be changed.

It's good, it's good when it's good, and it's not good when it's not good. Be good to those who are good to yourself, help those who need help, we are not saints, if you deliberately frame yourself or something, you can't laugh at it, anyway, I can't do it, at least I won't take the initiative to do it.

It's normal, it's like a big tree.

There is a sunny side and a shadow side.

People are multifaceted,。。

Top 1st floor. This current personality of yours should have something to do with the unhappy family life in your childhood. However, this personality should make you uncomfortable. It is recommended to study the Dharma, change your personality, and live happily.

It's okay, such a character is not a big contrast, or it is not an extreme character, people are kind, just be positive and optimistic about the world, and don't need to pay attention to others, how others are is someone else's business, don't affect yourself because of someone else's words or something Monash is not necessary, live by yourself, just live happily, work hard, there is nothing too heavy a burden, life always has to go on, don't care too much, it's not good to care too much.

There is no good or bad character itself, just grasp it yourself. There are advantages and disadvantages in any kind of personality, and you can be yourself well by promoting your strengths and avoiding weaknesses.

In fact, human beings have two sides, and human beings are a synthesis of social and animal nature.

People seem to be like this! There is also good and evil, things in the world are too complicated. It's normal.

In fact, all one, each has its own benefits, some people don't understand, so they think it's a disease, in fact, I've seen a lot of people like this, if the contrast is too great, it is recommended to take it easy, normal is normal, it belongs to multiple personalities, the difference is right, if there is no difference, then it's not right.

Normal. People have two sides, so some people say that one side is an angel and the other side is a devil. Let sensibility accompany the angels and control the devil with reason.

Normal, these are normal manifestations of a person's emotions. Emotions are a warning sign, a warning light, when you feel that you are going to "**", emotions are reminding you that there is something wrong with you.

There's no such thing as a good or bad emotion, it just tells you that there's something wrong with your reactions. If you can be alert, you know how to adjust yourself.

For example, when you pick up a cup and want to hit someone, you just need to be vigilant: it seems that you are taking advantage of it, but in fact, you will suffer in the end. That's when you take a sip of water from the cup and gently put it down, and the outcome of the whole thing changes.

Manage your emotions. ”

For example, if your parents are divorced and you have an unhappy childhood, some people will fight a lot even though their parents are not divorced.

Nothing good or bad, try to be restrained, learn more to read the newspaper, have more positive energy, and do less evil things.

No yin or yang, no gold is barefoot, no one is perfect, mixed merits, mixed rights and wrongs, mixed reputations, mixed good and bad, and mixed reviews.