With the theme that communication is each other s business, communication is mutual

Now when I walk into the bookstore, the books that I have learned are always eye-catching, and the titles are also full of momentum: "Winning in Communication", "Thirty Days to Have a Good Relationship" and so on. But when I opened the book, I found that the book always teaches you what to do, and then gain the trust of others, as if everyone in the world has to be very scheming to achieve the purpose of using others.

If everyone takes advantage of others, then what kind of interaction and success can there be?

Liu Bei looked at the thatched house three times, and finally invited Zhuge Liang, is this a "skill"? No, Liu Bei hurt when he was injured, what kind of skill is this called? This is to emotional people, although they have lost a lot of energy, but have gained true friends.

Yu Boya and Zhong Ziqi are a pair of confidants, they are not for profit, they just play the piano every day and communicate with the sound of the piano. Eventually, they became lifelong leaders. When Zhong Ziqi died, Yu Boya broke the six-stringed piano.

Will this wrestling bring him any benefit? Can it make him promoted and rich? Neither.

It is precisely because of affection that they are praised by the world. Dating is actually very simple, as long as you treat it with sincerity, you will definitely find a true confidant.

So, does communication necessarily not pay attention to "technology"? Not really. Zhuangzi thought about why swallows were loved by people, and he found that chickens and ducks were always next to people, so people did not pay attention to them; Eagles and geese do not associate with people, so people hunt them; And what about the swallows?

It lives under the eaves and flies away from it from time, keeping a distance from people and not alienating people, so people love them, and these are all communication skills!

With so many skills, how can dating be easy? This is all because the "skills" of communication are produced on the basis of "love", swallows love people, and love life, so they know the distance from people, not only get along with people, but also do not hurt themselves. The mother loves her children, so she gradually learns the skills of interacting with her children, such as how to make her children happy, how to treat them freely, and so on.

Starting from a simple "love", the "technique" will naturally exist, isn't it simple? On the other hand, no matter how much you have read Successology, but no matter how much you pretend to be like others, time will see through you, and eventually make society hate you, your relatives will stay away from you, and your friends will no longer pay attention to you, then things will really become complicated.

Interaction is mutual, liking is mutual.

Some people, I don't like ta, because I don't feel that T likes me, T's smile is not sincere, there are words in the words, I turn my face when I say it, I find fault with it, reprimand, and even tell me directly "I annoy you", which makes me blush and heartbeat, and I have no place to be ashamed, how can I like T? The interaction with T is trembling, like walking on thin ice. I was afraid that such a faction would leak people, and I would not dare to express my thoughts truthfully, so I would stay away.

Some people, I like T, cheerful, refreshing, straightforward, very sincere care, not hidden, not picky, not happy to be a teacher, and T has no pressure, don't worry about saying the wrong thing, I laughed when I said it, I can feel that T also likes me, then naturally I am willing to take the initiative to communicate with T, and keep a good distance from each other, very comfortable relationship.

It is human nature to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, and it is also my instinct.