Why do husbands and wives go from falling in love to resenting each other?

The reason why there is love and resentment between husband and wife is because after marriage, they need to face a lot of trivial things in life, and they need to face the firewood, rice, oil and salt in life, and these firewood, rice, oil and salt are very easy to stimulate conflicts, so the feelings between them will become weaker and weaker.

Mainly because of family trivialities and the handling of some interpersonal relationships, the above two people will inevitably have a lot of contradictions, so they will turn from love to resentment.

Because when they first started, everyone had something to look forward to, and liking someone must have advantages, but after getting along for a while, they will find bad things about each other, so there will be contradictions, and then they will complain.

Maybe it's because they know each other too well, and there are conflicts that will arise after getting along for a long time in life, so it will come to the point of mutual resentment.

When husband and wife fall in love, everyone will tolerate each other and tolerate each other's shortcomings, but after a long time, everyone will not love each other very much in the future, and then everyone's shortcomings will become a thorn in each other's eyes.

Because at that time, I only saw the good points of the other party, and then I might feel bored after getting along for a long time, and then I became disgusted.

It is normal for husband and wife to fall in love with each other, because there are no two people together, there is no contradiction, and if there is no contradiction, then they will not live so happily.

This is a long time of living together, so people's hearts begin to change, and naturally from the initial love to resentment, this is what some people will encounter.

Because there will be a lot of details in the life of a couple. However, details are the culprits that defeat love, so many will develop to the point of Xiangyuan.

Most of the time, this situation is not well communicated, and some small misunderstandings accumulate to erupt, and finally it is out of control.

Stop at the lips and teeth, cover the years; One parting and two wide, each life rejoices.

Sit down and communicate, marriage is a lifetime of affection, if you can't solve the resentment, both people will be very painful, two people together is to make the happiness greater than a person's life, so that you can better celebrate the success of a family, a lifetime is short is also a few decades, you must live well!

Find the contradictions, communicate well, and solve the contradictions.

Vary. If you understand and support each other, you will be happy. If you don't understand each other, you will become a resentful couple.

For example, a couple I know, before getting married, the two young couples had a very good relationship, and you are strong and I am strong. After Zheng Hengchang got married, the lives of the two changed, women took their children at home and shouted at the chopsticks, men went out to work, and after a long time, men would feel that women were lazy and did not pay for marriage. And the woman feels that the man only cares about going to work and doesn't understand her at all, and he doesn't do any work when he goes home, so the two quarrel every day about it, often complaining about each other's wrongs.

There is a lack of mutual understanding and support between them. If the two sides think about it from another perspective, they will not have such a feeling. Therefore, if husband and wife understand each other, they will not become resentful women.

If you don't understand, both parties will become resentful.

Husbands and wives are together, have different division of labor, and do different things. But the purpose is the same, it's all for the good of the family. Therefore, it is important to understand and support each other at this time.

There are many more people and many things in married life, and in the face of these things, we must consider the problem from a different angle, so that the husband and wife can understand each other and their lives will be more harmonious. If you are just selfish, you will not understand each other. They will complain to each other and even part ways.

In short, whether marriage will turn a loving couple into a resentful couple varies from person to person. If both parties think about each other and understand and support each other, the husband and wife will get along very well. On the contrary, if the husband and wife are more selfish and only think about themselves, and do not understand each other at all, let alone think about each other, it is easy to become a resentful couple.

Definitely, some will become enemies, and even more will live in remorse for the rest of their lives, regretting all their original decisions and harming their lives.

People are changing, the environment is also changing, and people's hearts are becoming bigger, so if husband and wife lack undoubted trust, less than all divine things can communicate with each other, and any decision is made after a joint decision, self-righteousness, arbitrariness, stupidity, and rebellion In the end, it is the opposite, after all, any person's behavior will affect all the connections between the relationship and the other person, so can there be no resentment?!

Marriage is not like falling in love, every day is sweet and sweet. After getting married, facing the trivial matters of life every day, facing the life of firewood, rice, oil and salt, the husband and wife will inevitably quarrel. After having children, this kind of quarrel will also intensify, and sometimes a random little thing will cause a quarrel.

But after having children, if parents always quarrel in front of themselves, it is very detrimental to the child's growth.

Because parents are their closest people, what children are most afraid of is that their parents quarrel, but some parents do not realize the importance of it, and may feel that their children are still relatively young and cannot understand what they are saying, so sometimes it is nothing to quarrel in front of their children. This is wrong, and after the child reaches the age of three, he will slowly understand the quarrel between his parents. If the child is always living in this kind of quarrel, the child will be insecure and more and more fragile inside.

Therefore, after the husband and wife have children, they should try to maintain a good family environment, usually have fewer quarrels, and let the children grow up in a loving family.

If there is a real conflict between parents, or a quarrel is unavoidable, then take a good look at the following two guidelines.

Rule 1: Don't argue in front of your child.

If the husband and wife cannot avoid quarrels, parents must remember to avoid the children, do not quarrel in front of the children, and do not add anger between the husband and wife to the children. Nowadays, some parents often have no place to vent their anger because they are suppressed in their hearts, so they vent it on their children, which is very wrong. As parents, what we have to do is to protect the child, not to be the one who hurts the child, if you are like this, then you must correct it.

Rule 2: Joke and settle in person.

If something happens between husband and wife and you must quarrel, and the child is still around and cannot be avoided, then parents might as well try a humorous way of quarreling. The atmosphere should not be too serious, the tone of the speech should not be too cold, and the expression should not be too stiff.

If the husband and wife really quarrel in front of the child, they must reconcile in front of the child afterwards, and the child's heart will also have a sense of security.

When children are young, they do not have too many feelings about material life, on the contrary, they will perceive more of the spiritual world, and there are some things wrong at home that children can feel, if parents always quarrel, the child's heart will be uneasy, which is not conducive to the growth of the child. If the parents are very loving and harmonious, the children who grow up in this environment will be more optimistic and cheerful. Therefore, in order to create a warm family atmosphere for their children, parents should usually quarrel less.

Marriage does not turn a loving couple into a resentful couple, because the relationship between husband and wife will become more and more intimate.

It's possible, but it's not absolute, I think the most important thing for couples is how to treat the marriage and the relationship between the two families, so this still depends on some emotional foundations of the two people.

No, you have to understand each other when you get married.