I love face, but I don t have anything to save face

Work hard. It is a very face-saving thing to study well when you go to school, and it is a face-saving thing to work well when you are working, but such a premise is: study hard and work hard!

So, work hard, and you will become a person with a lot of face!

Then study hard.

Let yourself be truly enriched, and you will have face! ~

Alas, this is not going to work. First of all, you should make some friends, but it doesn't mean that you have to be together again every day, friends will one day still have their own stupid future, and they can only be with you mentally. So I think walking alone is the best way to develop your sense of independence.

You may have someone to accompany you when you go shopping, but if you want to have someone by your side all the time, you are too demanding. So you might as well take this as a workout, hold your chest up and be a man, what is there to be inferior, because there can be no second you in the world You are unique. You have to keep that in mind.

Study diligently, care more about your classmates, help your classmates, and you will naturally get along with your classmates.

If everyone were like you, wouldn't the world be too peaceful? Take the initiative to greet others, you treat others as friends, and others will be sincere to you, so you will have a fulfilling and happy life!

Psychologically not confident, be confident.

Study hard, and one day you'll be ok.

Put your mind in a good way, don't think that others will look down on you, and make friends with your heart, and when you have more friends, you will be happy.

I found an interesting phenomenon that the more poor people are, the more ashamed they are to talk about money, thinking that money is a mundane thing. And people with real assets always like to talk about something related to money when they get together, including how to make money, how to invest in manuscripts, or how to spend money and enjoy it, all of which are related to money.

People with a good face tend to miss and give up a lot of good opportunities because of the problem of face.

Now I have derived a pair of words that I feel a lot. "Poor man's thinking" and "rich man's thinking". And my first encounter with this pair of words was a book I read in college, "Poor Dad and Rich Dad". My life experiences have made me more and more aware of the importance of mindsets.

Whenever I tell my family or friends that I want to earn money, they will hit me with a half-joking tone, such as: "Little girl, why is there always no money in your head at a young age" or "What are you doing with so much money, just be happy, don't work so hard" This is the idea passed down from my grandparents' generation, so before my father got married, my grandparents had a very high standard of living, and they didn't need to make breakfast when they got up, and they went to the breakfast shop to change their patterns. And when Dad and Uncle were facing marriage, they couldn't get a decent house.

So my memory of my home when I was a child probably corresponds to the sentence "The house leak coincides with the overnight rain".

But sometimes they are very contradictory, for example, they will tell you: "If you are looking for a partner, you must find someone with better family conditions, otherwise you will suffer in the future, you see I follow your grandfather, and I have no leisure when I am old." Or maybe you pay them to take them out for dinner.

On the one hand, they feel that the food is expensive, and on the other hand, they are happy that you have the ability to make money. So there is no one who hates money, and there is no one who thinks that money is not important, most of the time someone is someone who bears the pressure of life for you, or makes an excuse for his poverty situation, so that he can get by, if you believe it, then you will be like him.

And contemporary poor young people generally have one thing in common, good face.

The salary that has just been paid, the iphone is on the **, and the loan must also be used. Or with a monthly income of 3,000, because of the comparison between colleagues, you have to buy luxury goods without eating.

It is undeniable that some people's work is really just to pass the time, and as I mentioned above, there are people who carry the hardships of life for her. Her family could give her the best, and her job was just to give her a little more ups and downs in her ordinary and luxurious life. And people who don't have this luck but want to live like this are burdened with the monthly dunning pressure of their credit cards.

All this is just for living a decent life, to put it bluntly, it is face.

People with good faces often make their already poor lives even more difficult for the sake of decency.

I have never seen poor people who are willing to pay their children, those white-collar workers who sit in high-end offices and earn three or four thousand a month look decent, but the salary is not as good as that of the breakfast shop owner who pushes a small cart. Nowadays, many decent people, most of whom earned their first pot of gold by doing those undignified jobs when they were young.

Face is really not valuable, when you live in a good house and drive a car that everyone envies, no one will care if you are the boss of the scrap collector back then, and you will naturally have face.

I hate to hear "Is it not a shame?" This type of words, I especially want to slap him in the face Sun Yuyan replied: "You don't even have a face, ** face?" ”

When I was a child, I rarely heard those words, and I didn't care about and pay attention to them, but as I grew older, I began to hear these words from the mouths of the older generation, and then I began to hear these words from my classmates, and I probably heard a lot of these kinds of words among my colleagues, friends, and old classmates in the future.

But I don't want to hate these words too much. Chinese seem to have tacitly agreed that they must give a few thin noodles when they meet people, so that they can be considered people. And what about the occasions when these words come up most often?

It is also considered Chinese characteristics, and the conversation must be at the dinner table, ah, no, it should be called the wine table. The most common scene of "whether you don't give me face" is naturally persuading you to drink at the dinner table, singing and dismantling liquid at the party, or whether you go to the organized party, they seem to have everything related to "face".

I regard the phrase "is it not to give face" as a testimony of social habits and the atmosphere of the rivers and lakes, and most people who have left school and entered the society or people with a strong atmosphere of the rivers and lakes like to use this sentence to oppress people. And the other party who listens to these words always agrees to what he didn't want to do. This can be regarded as Chinese characteristics.

I also thought, the person who said these words ** is confident that others will give you face? Why should I give you face, because your face is big? Hehe!

Why do some people take themselves so seriously? Who do you think you are, don't give a little face, you really think you have such a big face, okay?

We have not yet left society, but we are about to enter society. But there are always classmates around me who have already left society, so the first time I heard this sentence among my peers was when I was at a party, drinking, a group of boys, one after another to respect a girl, because she was the class leader, and the sentence "Isn't it not to give face?" "That's why I hate people who drink at dinner tables.

Why give you face, who do you think you are? Why should I have wronged myself in order to give you face.

The so-called "give or not give face" is just the word respect, but respect is mutual, why should others give respect to a person who advises him to drink or is "face" at every turn? Therefore, respect is given by yourself, and face is also given by yourself, and you never need others to give you face.

Some people say that now we call hypocrisy high emotional intelligence, people living in this world, will never live so real forever, always have to be hypocritical to some people, sincere to some people, we only need to be sincere to you and the people who love you.

Spit on negative energy, just take a look.

Please forgive me for being shallow.

Summary. No one will not love face, no one will not be vain, and they are not monks, there is no greed and hatred, and they don't love Hongchen at all. We are all mortal, not perfect, so don't be self-loathing.

If you feel that this place is not good, you can try to improve it by your own efforts and try your best to restrain it, then these shortcomings will be nothing. A person who is truly vain to the extreme is a person who cannot even find the shortcomings of his own character. And you are not, so, learn to love yourself, take care of yourself, and you will become a good person in the eyes of others.

What is the difference between not loving face so much and you being a person who loves face.

Hello, I am Mr. Xiao Xie, an emotional expert, who is good at problem analysis in marriage and family, love, psychology, interpersonal communication, etc. I can feel that you are very confused now, so if it is convenient to tell me about your specific situation

The difference between don't love face so much and you are a face-loving person is: "There is a difference between loving face and loving face extremely, loving face is not too embarrassing, there is no problem, and extreme love of face is that no matter what you do, as long as there is a little loss of face, you feel particularly uncomfortable." The normal explanation is that one is mild and the other is more severe.

No one will not love face, no one will not be vain, and they are not monks, there is no greed and hatred, and they don't love Hongchen at all. We are all mortal, not perfect, so don't be self-loathing. If you feel that this place is not good, you can try to improve it by your own efforts and try your best to restrain it, then these shortcomings will be nothing.

A person who is truly vain to the extreme is a person who cannot even find the shortcomings of his own character. And you are not, so, learn to love yourself, take care of yourself, and you will become a good person in the eyes of others.