My wife dislikes my mother for being dirty and doesn t want to take care of my mother, what should I

Updated on society 2024-06-18
31 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    Hello. Since he is not willing to take care. Take care of yourself. It's okay to take care of the old mother alone. Let your wife earn money to support the family. This is how people in a family work together.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    My wife dislikes my mother for being dirty and doesn't want to take care of my mother, what should I do if I want to divorce for this matter? I think you have a lot of responsibility for this matter, your wife has nothing to do with your mother, she just got to know you and your mother together, if your mother has a disease or has some problems, you should take the initiative to take care of it, why let your wife take care of it? Since you know that your wife thinks your mother is dirty, then you should take care of it, so I think it is normal for your wife to want a divorce, if you don't want to divorce, you can take over your wife's affairs to take care of your mother and make your wife happy.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    The daughter-in-law does not have the obligation to take care of her mother-in-law, as a son, you can take care of your mother yourself, of course, you can also persuade your wife to share with you, and if the economic conditions are good, it is recommended that you hire a nanny, to be honest, even if you really can't get through and choose to divorce, but you must also be psychologically prepared, you may not be able to find another one after divorce, and you will not be willing to take care of your mother if you find it.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    If your wife wants a divorce, then leave. Because my wife can be found again after she leaves, but there will be no more when my mother dies. Your wife dislikes your mother for being dirty and unwilling to take care of your mother, which means that he has no filial piety and no love.

    As a son, you need to be filial. Marrying a wife and marrying virtue, being unfilial to his mother, and filing for divorce, such a person will regret it when he is old, and he will also be retributed, and he will die alone.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    If two people have feelings and both love each other for this matter, they can't file for divorce There are many solutions If the conditions are okay, hire a nanny to serve the elderly. You can also send it to a nursing home for the elderly, and you can often visit it if you are not too busy as a son. You can also take care of your mother more on your own These are all good ways to get divorced.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    My wife remembers that your mother is dirty. Unwilling to take care of your mother. If your wife doesn't take care of your mother, then you take care of your mother.

    Or take care of your mother by a nurse, and you should let your mother grow old when your mother raises you. This is a Chinese tradition. Or do ideological work with your wife.

    Everyone has a time when they get old. Don't get a divorce because of an old man. You and your wife communicate well and communicate more.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Don't be impulsive in everything, because some things must have a reason, not necessarily your own mother has done something inappropriate, resulting in your own wife a little disgusted, this kind of communication should be clear in time, don't feel it, this kind of saying, divorce if you dislike your parents, in fact, there are many things that can be solved in private. Because a woman, he is willing to marry you and already plans to be with you for a lifetime, not with his mother for a lifetime, he must have a reason to go to his mother first, these things must be understood clearly, and then make up your mind that two people who really love each other will not cause divorce because of this thing, women are also emotional, you can follow him. It is good to say that everything can be solved, so it is recommended that you do not be too impulsive, understand things clearly first, and then make a conclusion after slowly understanding.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    From a legal point of view, your mother has not given birth to your wife, your mother has given birth to you, you have the obligation to raise and take care of you, your wife does not, in reality, if your mother has preferential treatment to take care of your wife, I think your wife will do her best to help take care of your mother with you, but this does not mean that you can transfer all the responsibility to your wife, it is difficult to say which situation is specific, this is a matter negotiated by the husband and wife, not a problem that can be solved by moral kidnapping.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    It's not right to do something like your wife. Well, you can't think the old man is dirty, sometimes it's very old, it's everyone's nothing. Well, since he has become a woman to you, don't talk about it, you don't have to divorce him.

    You have to say that your dad influenced your dad and asked him to be nice to your mom and not think he was dirty. This is the problem of your reconciliation as a son and husband, and there is no need for divorce.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Your wife dislikes your mother for being dirty and doesn't want to take care of your mother, so you can take care of it yourself. That's your mom, it's always not good for you to have someone else take care of you. If you can't keep it busy, you can ask your wife to help take care of it, but you have to know that it's your business, not your wife's.

    Your wife's help to take care of your mother is a love, not a responsibility.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    You're left to your care, a lot of people have cleanliness, it's a pathology, you can't force her.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    If she doesn't want to take care of her, then you take care of your mother yourself, she is your mother, and you are a boy who will take care of it better!

    Or you two can hire a nanny and let the nanny take care of your mother, if it is your hometown, the nanny treatment is not expensive, and many people are willing!

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    My wife dislikes your mother for being dirty, and she doesn't want to take care of your mother, and she wants to divorce for this matter, first of all, she is very sympathetic to your wife, and there is no filial son in front of the bed for a long time, not to mention that your wife was not born by your mother, so taking care of your mother still needs to be done by yourself, your wife can only assist you, and you can't rely on your wife, otherwise it is normal for her to mention divorce.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    If your wife dislikes you? It's dirty and unwilling to take care of you, I think you can go through this matter again, and your wife **, after all, one party is your biological mother, and the other party is your own wife, if your wife is still the same, then I suggest you divorce, as a junior, if you don't know how to respect your elders, this kind of girl is usually bad.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Such a woman can't be a wife, if you encounter difficulties, he will definitely dislike you, if she doesn't take care of your mother, you can rest and take care of your mother, and there is a good communication! Sometimes women also like to listen to something nice, in short, try both soft and hard, if it really doesn't work, you don't need to divorce, you just take care of your mother, see what she does? Also, if you have children, try not to divorce, because you are not only a son, but also a father, I wish you happiness!

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    It's your own mother, so filial to take care of yourself, your wife goes out to work to earn money to raise children. There is no filial son in front of the bed for a long time, and you can feel it if you take care of it for a while.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    In fact, in real life, everything is accumulated over time, the daughter-in-law is doing this now, there must be his reasons, your mother and he definitely don't get along very well, this kind of psychology is also normal, you can't force others, after all, your mother didn't give birth to her and raise her, you should think of other ways, you can't get a divorce because of such a thing.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Hello kids! As a peer as old as your mother, I understand her, and seeing that it is a restructured family, my mother must have to face and deal with more problems than ordinary families. But at the same time, I also understand you better, who hasn't grown from a child to an adult?

    What's more, I have children myself.

    What I want to tell you is this: around and around us, there are people who are friendly to outsiders, but leave their casual and unadorned (even bad tempered) side to their loved ones, such people are called "easy-going" by outsiders, because outsiders can't see what they really are; And some people are very real to outsiders, but they leave patience and care to their loved ones, but such people are evaluated as "selfish" by outsiders, because outsiders only see that they don't please others at will.

    These two types of people exist at the same time, and each personality is formed for its reasons. Many people live in the eyes of others, in the mouths of others, and they strive to establish a gentle, patient and tolerant image to the outside world, probably because they have been taught too much to "pay attention to others' evaluation of themselves" in their growth, and they need external affirmation too much to establish their own confidence. So, if they happen to be your loved ones, be as understanding as possible with them.

    There are also some people who live in their own hearts and in their own evaluation system. These people don't need too much external affirmation, they only care about whether they are really comfortable and whether they have the right conscience. This kind of personality is formed because the heart is strong enough and more complete, and they experience constant "self-affirmation" rather than "social affirmation" from the outside world and others.

    So, if you can, try to be such a person.

    Because, the second type of person, the patience and good temper of relatives and family members, do not do it because they want to be evaluated by others; It's because I want inner peace of mind and growth and progress, and I want to be worthy of myself, so I say, please try to be the second kind of person.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Then you can ask your mother if you are doing badly, and then slowly correct yourself, and I believe that your mother will not dislike you.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Correction! Maybe it's because your mother can't stand your style of life, for example, you throw away your clothes, don't wash your dirty clothes, and put your shoes casually, which will make the house very messy.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    Mom is sometimes such a duplicitous person, in fact, she loves you very much, you have to discover her love for you.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Haha, don't worry too much. Every mother dislikes her child and likes the child next door. Actually, she loves you the most.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    Maybe mom is the kind of person who is straightforward and fast-talking, she doesn't really dislike you, and then think about it, is there something wrong with your relationship with mom recently.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    It must be that you are not doing something bad, or that your mother is too demanding of you, just be yourself.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    Your mom won't always think of you, probably because what you're doing is so incomprehensible that she hates you.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    Don't live together, everyone has different living habits and ideas.

    In modern life, many families have the phenomenon of asking their parents to help take care of their children. And there will always be a lot of problems with bringing up children from the next generation that makes us quite prejudiced against our parents, and we will always remind them what to do. After decades of time, their parents also have a certain disagreement with some of the practices of our generation, so they are also stubborn, repeatedly do not listen, and sometimes even clash with each other because of different opinions.

    In particular, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a big problem in our thousands of years of Chinese history.

    Since ancient times, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have been said to be natural enemies. If you want to get along well with your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it's really not easy. If a woman marries into her mother-in-law's family, if she wants to live happily, she really has to do a good job in the relationship between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

    If the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, it will affect the relationship between husband and wife in many cases, and in the end, the two will go to divorce, which is also a lot.

    If you live with your mother-in-law, then in the process of getting along with each other day and night, because of different concepts and other reasons, you feel that you have too many shortcomings that you can't get used to each other, perhaps because of your attitude towards your husband, or because of the way you treat your children's education, etc., you may magnify the defects because of getting along day and night. Therefore, if there is a condition or non-necessity, you can live separately and live separately, so that you can have some concern for each other, and occasional visits can enhance the relationship.

    After getting married, I went to my mother-in-law's house. Although it is said that this is your small family in the future, in the eyes of your mother-in-law, you are not the owner of this family. No matter how good your relationship with your husband is, your mother-in-law is an elder after all.

    Sometimes you will be partial to your husband's other brothers and sisters, and you can't say it. After all, as a guest in this house, you have no right to judge what she does. Of course, there are many times when your mother-in-law will also favor your husband.

    After all, her husband is her son, and her daughter-in-law has no direct relationship with her, and it is normal for people to be partial. As a daughter-in-law, she naturally can't be jealous.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    At such a time, you are very embarrassed to be caught in the middle, you have to do work on both sides, persuade your parents to change their living habits, pay attention to hygiene, and communicate with your wife, persuade her to accept herself, you must tolerate your parents well, they are all a family, don't dislike it, as long as there is laughter, other things are trivial.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    You need to mediate a little bit in the middle. Do the work for both sides. Tell your daughter-in-law, my parents are so old, and my hygiene is almost a little bit old, and I hope my wife can accommodate it.

    Let parents also pay attention to hygiene. You can also take the initiative to help your parents do the hygiene. Help them clean.

    Sometimes your wife just wants you to have an attitude. See you lead by example, both sides will pay attention. In this way, there will be a lot less conflict in the family.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    Communicate more with your parents, after all, people now have high quality of life requirements, and it is not good for them to be clean if they don't like to be clean, and they should communicate more with their wives, after all, if you are married, you must be more tolerant of your family.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    I think this needs to be talked about by both husband and wife, and explain to her that her parents are older, and she doesn't pay much attention to this aspect, even if she cares a lot, she doesn't have so much energy or anything, I think she should be able to understand it, after all, she is also a person with parents

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    You should talk to your wife and parents. The elderly should be more clean and healthy.

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