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Anonymous users2024-02-12In fact, you love your mother very much, and your mother must love you very much, but you have different ways. Since they are two people who love each other, how can being together turn into mutual torture? I think it's because you don't have effective communication with each other, maybe both of you are not very good at expressing your true emotions, but everything is difficult at the beginning, and as long as you have a beginning, it will get better and better.
Mom is one of the most important people in our lives and has an attachment relationship with her from the beginning of life. The psychology of wanting to be disciplined may stem from the attachment relationship established in the early years, believing that it is connected to the mother, and being willing to maintain a close relationship with the mother, which is externalized as the behavior of being disciplined.
As your body and mind grow, as an independent individual, the sense of independence is increasing day by day, and you want to have your own will, so the consciousness of not wanting to be disciplined is increasing day by day, and when your mother is preaching and forcing you to do things according to your mother's will, your inner conflict will appear. When an individual's desire to be independent exceeds his willingness to be governed, quarrels are inevitable. This is the only way for you to grow, and it is also the process of mom gradually letting go.
Quarrels are a problem-solving strategy, but simplification of strategies often restricts your path to growth. How can you develop new and effective strategies?
1. When you and your mom are in a hot mood, notice and press the pause button. Take a deep breath or leave the scene to cool the situation.
2. Communicate when you are calm. Use the four elements of nonviolent communication – See, Feel, Need, Request.
3. Allow each other to see the real needs behind the emotions when they can't do it, and let the love flow.
Find a time to talk to your mom and be brave enough to express your love for her in the depths of your heart, and then tactfully suggest how you want her to love you. I'm sure your mom will feel it and try to make a change. Next, you should supervise each other, changing existing habits is not an easy process, there may be bottlenecks and repetitions, but keep changing, everything will be different, everything will be better.
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Anonymous users2024-02-11Think more from your mother's point of view, think more about how much your mother has paid for you, and think more about those who don't have a mother, so that you won't be annoyed, and you will feel that it is also a kind of happiness for your mother to annoy you.
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Anonymous users2024-02-10You can stay away from your mother, don't have too much communication and communication with your mother, if you are an adult, you can move out, and don't take what your mother says too seriously.
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Anonymous users2024-02-09Find a suitable opportunity to communicate with your mother, express your ideas, discuss solutions together, and relax your mind.
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Communicate with your mother a lot, believing that communication can solve all problems. Your mother just said that if you think you might be good-looking, you can get it in front of others, but the key is to see how your boyfriend is, how he treats you, whether he has any plans for his future, etc., and there must be a lot of love between you, I believe that after you communicate well with your mother, she will understand you, after all, every mother hopes that her daughter can live a good life in the future. Wishing you happiness!