How does it feel to be a college student without friends?

It's very lonely, doing everything alone, people around are laughing in groups, sometimes when you find something interesting and want to share it with others, and suddenly find that there is no one to share, that sense of loneliness really makes people feel like they will die.

I feel good...My definition of a friend is the kind of person I really like, someone who can be honest about anything. The kind of people who eat together, go shopping, and do something together can only be called playmates. This semester, after completely giving up the initiative to socialize everywhere, I feel that I have so much time, and I can do the things I couldn't do before one by one.

Mobile phone charging treasure headphones must be carried with you, never eat in the cafeteria, but will go to the movies alone.

It's really lonely to have no friends in college, because it's hard to be alone, study and eat by yourself.

Since I've been in college for a year, if I say that I eat and play games and joke together every day, it's okay, but almost all of them are from my own class, or from the dormitory next door (there are two people living in our school dormitory, and I am a daughter). As for the students in other classes, there are not a few people who know each other, and most of them just meet and say hello. For the only roommate, it can only be described in one sentence:

There was never a quarrel, and there was never a heart-to-heart. There is no derogatory connotation for roommates here, in fact, she is usually very good, and the two of us are quite harmonious, eating and playing games together almost every day. In other words, there are no sincere friends. ‍‍

One goes to class, one goes to an event, and one goes to eat. Alone, uncomfortable and helpless.

Here, the reason for this is important. For example, the girl W next door to me can be said to have no one in the class near her. If the appearance is sloppy, the first impression is not good; Secondly, every day with a straight face, ask her to borrow something as if she owes her five million, and when she borrows something like you, she will take it as a matter of course and say that I will use it or take it directly at all; In addition, playing games never takes into account the feelings of others, I am on the third floor, and last time a classmate on the first floor of another class told me that someone was yelling in the middle of the night, and the girl who was two dormitories away from her on the same floor said that she was woken up in the middle of the night and never fell asleep again; And my roommate and I, to be right, wear earplugs to sleep every day, and it takes a lot of time to fall asleep.

So, if you don't have friends, you have to think about your own reasons.

Going to class alone and going to the study hall alone is not because I don't want to make friends, but because I feel that studying is still the top priority for college students.

I've almost given up on looking for a real friend. Maybe the problem is with me, maybe one day I'll be able to meet like-minded friends. Until then, live your life as you wish, enrich your life, and be a free and authentic person.

Usually I eat alone, take a bath alone, go to class alone, I feel very lonely, and no one really understands me.

I haven't experienced it, and I don't have friends in college, so it should be my own reason. Either the personality is too withdrawn, or the academic performance is too good and disdains to communicate with others.

All I can tell you is that a person feels pretty good! Because I'm used to living alone. Play alone, eat alone, watch movies alone, drink alone. Sleep alone or alone. The city feels like I'm alone, and it feels good.

When I first started my internship, when I had an asthma attack, I went to the hospital for a check-up alone, and I was scared, and my whole body trembled nervously before various tests! The whole process of tense nerves, the doctor asked: Alone coming?

Uh-huh, a person. On the way back to the dormitory after the inspection, I wore headphones on the bus and kept tears, and I didn't dare to cry alone!

College is so lonely and has no friends to self-reflect, and then open up your personality and participate in more group activities.

The first point is to actively participate in student organizations and societies. Get the opportunity to connect with others.

If you are an introvert and want to build good social relationships, you need to join student organizations and clubs, otherwise if you are introverted and don't actively join, you won't even have the opportunity to contact others.

The second point is to learn to trouble others in moderation.

I have a senior sister who likes to trouble people and ask for help from all kinds of people, she may not be good in her own right, but she can often seek help from others in some areas to help her with this. This is actually a very powerful ability.

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First, we must grasp the degree. All feedback is mutual. Ask for help and give back to others in return. Also, what you are asking for must be within the distance of your relationship.

Second, it is necessary to optimize the process as much as possible. Make your requirements specific so that others can easily help you.

Third, just don't get overly entangled. After you make a request, you want to be prepared for rejection and give others some room to maneuver.

Finally, I want to tell you that we should not be particularly autistic people when we are born in this society. Moderately bothering and communicating with others is a skill that we must have to survive in this world. Your relationships are also your resources and your core competencies.

Building your network is good for your life.

With the arrival of October, many students have returned to school, and for freshmen entering their first year, they are not only curious about their surroundings, but also about how they get along with their roommates. So are there many cases of not having friends in college? What should I do if I don't get along well with my roommates in college?

Let's take a look. It's normal to have no friends when you first enter college, because they are all from different schools, not from a different city, and it's normal to feel strange, and you want to meet friends from your roommates, get along with people in the same dormitory, and have the most contact, followed by a class, there is always something to talk about, right? In addition, you can also participate in some clubs and organizations at school, and you can also make friends.

Clause. 1. Create a good personal image and enhance personal charm. This is mainly based on the level of knowledge, personal cultivation and psychological quality, and to interact with a positive attitude.

Clause. 2. Cultivate an attitude of active and sincere communication. Interpersonal communication is a process of interaction, pay more attention to whether your words and deeds bring confusion, trouble or discomfort to others, and be less self-centered.

As the saying goes, I respect people, and people will respect me. in order to open up the situation of interpersonal communication.

Clause. 3. Skills to improve interpersonal skills. The main thing is to be good at making friends, being good at expression, being good at listening, and good at dealing with all kinds of contradictions.

Living in the same room with alumni is definitely not suitable at first. Because they come from different families and grow up in different environments. Dealing with the world and living habits has formed a certain subjective assumption.

It is commonly known as habit into nature. It's normal to get along unpleasantly. If you find a person with similar habits in the room, you will be able to get along with other roommates.

If there is no one who can be together, but there are intimate classmates outside who cherish each other, then you can also meet and simply greet other roommates as a place for late rest. Because after all, this is a random selection of the school, according to the schedule of the place, will not leave easily. To put it bluntly, when a person is studying outside, the things and things he encounters are all new to himself, and everyone has a scale in their hearts to accept and challenge themselves.

So my choice is for my roommates to get along unhappily and go with the flow.