From which points can you see whether the old man really cares for the child?

Whether you are always worried about the safety of your children, whether you know how to discipline your children, whether you will take the initiative to watch your children and give gifts to your children. In short, if you want to know whether grandparents love their children, you can see from these aspects that it is more important not to say it with your mouth, but to see how to do it.

I will always worry that the child is hungry and thirsty, and the old man is not worried about the child going out once. Some delicious things will be kept, and the first time I think about it is for the child.

For example, if you pay attention to your child's safety, are you willing to spend money on your child, and are you willing to spend time with your child? Whether you are willing to put effort into teaching, these are the details that can tell whether the old man hurts the child or not.

The elderly will spend money on themselves, but not on their children. When a child makes a mistake, he will scold him loudly. Children are always their own responsibility, and it is better to educate children than to worry about such things.

First, it can be seen from the dress that the dress is relatively clean, and the child will be washed when he is buried. Second, you eat. Very protective of the child.

The child is a little aggrieved. He was uncomfortable. Third, he can't do without this child at all, so having these three must be very painful for the child.

1.Observe the performance of the elderly when the child is sick, and the elderly who really love the child will be particularly anxious when the child is sick, and try their best to let the child heal quickly, 2Do the elderly usually care about their children's food, clothing, housing and transportation, 3

Whether or not they dote on their children, the old people who really love their children will not blindly spoil their children.

First of all, see whether she will sacrifice her sleep time to ensure that the child's sleep is sufficient, and whether he is willing to cook the child's favorite food instead of his own favorite food, and finally see if he is always concerned about whether the child is in danger when he goes out with the child.

It can be seen from the attitude of the elderly towards children. First of all, if you really love your child, then you will care about your child's heart. If it's a fake pain, the child won't care about all the child's has.

The elderly are more distressed about their children, and it can be seen from daily life that some elderly people will not be willing to let their children do housework in order to make their children work less.

Intergenerational parent, this phenomenon is very common in China, generally many families with several adults around a child, so they all dedicate their love to your children, the elderly are old and the speed of life is slow, relatively less pressure and much more patience, the various requirements of the child are also responsive, what to buy, what to eat, what to eat, such old people actually want to be good to their children, but there are also those who do not ask.

I think it can be seen from these aspects that when a child makes a mistake, as an old man, he does not blindly shield the child, but educates the child, in fact, conniving at the child is really not hurting the child.

After Xiaoling gave birth to her second child, she invited her mother-in-law who was bargaining, but although the old man promised to help bring the baby, Xiaoling still felt uneasy, because her second child gave birth to a son and a daughter.

From the mouth of the husband, it can be known that the old man has some patriarchal thoughts.

In order to make her daughter's life better, after Xiaoling gave the old man some money to bring the baby, she would carry her family every day, give her daughter some more pocket money, and arrange for her daughter to buy whatever she wants. If there is anything unhappy, I tell my mother, but my daughter hasn't bought anything for a week, and my grandmother is not very happy when she comes.

So Xiaoling asked her daughter, why is she unhappy? Have you run out of pocket money? Unexpectedly, when the child heard this, the corners of his mouth twitched even more, and he said directly: The pocket money is not here, and the grandmother said to keep it for herself, but she has not given it to herself.

Later, when communicating with her daughter, her daughter said that when her grandmother bought things for herself and her younger brother, she would always buy 2 copies for her younger brother and said that her younger brother was young and should eat more. I have always had only one copy. This incident also made Bao's mother feel very sad.

It is undeniable that 8% of the old people in the world love their grandchildren and are willing to pay for their children, but it is not denied that there are also some old people who will have eccentric behavior.

If you want to know if the elderly hurt the child, you can see from these 3 aspects that the mother should keep her eyes open.

See if the elderly often mention the child.

The old man with the baby, and the child for a long time, will naturally have feelings, therefore, if the mother takes the child back, the old man who really loves the child will often mention his granddaughter and grandson. I often hope that my son and daughter-in-law can take the baby to see, which is also one of the manifestations of the old man's love for the baby.

Willing to spend time with children.

The elderly can actually live very freely, dancing, climbing, fishing, but when it comes to helping with the baby, it will inevitably consume a lot of the old man's time.

The elderly help to take the baby is generally in the child is relatively difficult to bring, that is, the child 1 to 3 years old stage, at this time, the child does not have a strong self-care ability and ability to act, everything must be taken care of, at a glance, the child may have an accident, so if the old man really loves the child, will put a lot of time and energy on taking care of the child.

Be willing to spend money on your child.

In fact, not only parents, but also many elderly people also have the situation of "just talking but not practicing", ostensibly promising what their children want to do and buy, but they really pretend to be stupid and stunned, saying that they don't remember.

As long as the child makes a request and he has the ability to meet it, the old man will readily agree and realize it quickly.

Finally, although the elderly treat their children sincerely, they can't be overly pampered, and these intergenerational states are not advisable!

Like to hold a child or not. Being close to children and liking children will not help but want to hug children, and hugging children is the most direct embodiment of loving children.

The most common thing is that there is something delicious at home that is reluctant to eat it, and it is left for the children to eat.

One. Whether the elderly are willing to take care of and accompany the children.

Second, whether the elderly care about their children's education.

3. Whether the elderly care about the health of their children.

Fourth, whether the elderly care about the diet and nutrition of their children.

5. Whether the elderly are worried about the safety of their children.

It can be seen from the attitude of the elderly towards their children that if the elderly like children very much, they will want to see their children often.

As the saying goes, the next generation, the current grandparents love their grandchildren more than their own children, in the past, we asked our parents for money, they either beat or scolded, and now they want the stars for their grandchildren, not the moon.

1. Bring children scientifically, sincerely from the perspective of children, and focus on children; 2. Love children, but not doting, not all requests are answered, and for unreasonable requests, they also stand in the united front with their parents.

One is to see if you are reluctant to spend time playing with your children. The second is to see if there is enough care and concern for the child. If you look at it three times, you will often miss your child, and you will be very happy when you see your child.

When the child is sick and has a fever, whether the elderly can always pay attention to the child and be nervous, so that you can see whether the old man really loves the child.

It really hurts the child. Many elders take children with grandparents or grandparents, and intergenerational relatives cannot be replaced by other relatives. It's just that sometimes the way elders take care of their children is different from the way parents take care of their children, and love is unquestionable.

Clothing, complexion, closeness to the elderly. Clothes are window dressing; The complexion can be seen to eat food; The degree of closeness to the elderly reflects whether the elderly love their children.

Many parents complain that they were not beaten by their parents when they were children, but now they are beaten by their parents because they beat their daughters.

Although the above is an exaggeration, the overall family atmosphere is very happy, and the children will be very happy to live in it.

However, there are other relatives who are not in the same generation, and the parents are also fragrant, because they quarrel with the old man because of these things.

In fact, you can't blame the parents, because this kind of intergenerational parent is indeed not loving children, but harming children:

1. When the child does something wrong, the old man protects him.

Most elderly people who love children can understand that after all, their grandchildren are older than the sky. However, some elderly people protect their children indiscriminately, which is not love.

For example, there is an old man in the community, who often takes his grandson to the playground below to play, and every time he sees other children have something fun, this grandson will go over to grab it, and every time the old man does not say about the child, but encourages him to do so. Sometimes when others criticize their grandson, the old man will be very unhappy to refute it.

This kind of grandson protection is actually conniving at grandchildren, so that they will grow crooked in improper doting, and there will be problems with their temper and personality in the future.

2. Meet all the requirements of the child.

It is natural for an elderly person to love his grandson, but if everything meets the child's requirements, this is not normal.

A mother wrote to complain, saying that the summer vacation is coming, and the mother-in-law misses her grandson, and it just so happens that the mother and her husband are also busy with work, so they let the child go back to their hometown to live with the mother-in-law for a while. As a result, as soon as the child returned, his personality changed a lot. When I wanted something, my parents would make a lot of noise when they didn't agree, and even smash and roll on the ground.

It turned out that the mother-in-law loved her grandson too much and met all requirements, which led to the child being spoiled.

3. The old man feels too sorry for the child.

There are also elderly people who frequently feel sorry for their children, and feel sorry for him when he is cold and hungry and he doesn't have enough time to sleep, which can be understood. But some elderly people feel sorry for their children's hard work, so they keep letting their children drag them out of school.

There is an old man in his hometown who feels sorry for his grandson, he has to sit for so long a day, he has to do his homework when he goes home, and he doesn't let his parents send him to school, so he looks at his mobile phone and watches TV at home every day.

In fact, it is understandable that the elderly feel sorry for their grandchildren.

Some people say that this is because the old people are older, and they prefer to interact with children in their mentality.

Others said: Because the elderly have shortcomings in their children's education when they are young, they have a compensatory psychology when they bring their grandchildren, and they deliberately treat their grandchildren better.

In fact, if the old man really does not love the child, but harms the child, the child can easily become useless, and the heart is fragile and unreasonable.

The elderly who really love their children will pamper their children through their own actions. The elderly who pretend to love their children will only say through words how much they love their children.

If the elderly are willing to spend more effort on their children, are willing to spend their few pensions on their children, are willing to take the initiative to take care of their children, and are willing to teach their children more things, they really love their children. If the old man just talks about it, but he doesn't take any actual action, and even often pushes back, it must be a fake child.

Observe how the elderly usually treat their children. If it really hurts, it will be good to the child.

Generally, it can be seen by looking at the details that the elderly of normal children will take care of their children at any time, and they will do very little for the vanity on the surface.