How to get someone to agree to your request, Day 29 How to get someone to agree to your request?

Add a salutation in front of the request.

I often see some people's ** news, help vote, or help like or something, in fact, voting like is just a gesture, but not even a title, just a message, sorry, is your request too easy or my help too cheap? However, if you add a title in front of this sentence, it will make people feel more sincere, and it will also greatly increase the probability that others will help vote for likes.

This is the same as Weibo @ others, generally the other party may not have a reply or comment when you post a Weibo, but once you @ the other party, he will naturally pay extra attention. Therefore, the salutation gives a kind of only.

1. Special feeling.

Quantify the requested thing into a concrete action.

For example, if my new book has been published before, and I need the help of friends I know to promote it, at this time, if I tell them vaguely and generally: My new book is out, support it. Although the other party agreed, I don't know how to support it, a like in my circle of friends is support, buying a book of mine is support, and telling my classmates around me is also support, but obviously, these supports are not effective.

When your request is vague and general, even if the other party agrees to your request, the effect is minimal.

But if you quantify support into specific actions, such as helping ** circle of friends and adding a few comments, or **Weibo @ friends born in the 90s, once you tell the other party what you need him to do specifically, you can achieve the effect of help.

Add the phrase "because...... before the specific request”

In the animal kingdom, the female turkey will treat the skunk as her own child because of the "chirp" sound made by the tape recorder, and gather it under her wings, that is, the "chirp" sound is the contact point, which triggers the female turkey's instinct to protect her cubs, and humans also have a similar automatic response pattern. One of them is that when we ask someone for help, if we can give a reason, the success rate will be much greater. Whatever the reason, as long as you say "because", the probability of success of the request will be greatly increased.

When you are ready to print**, you find that there is a long line of people in front of you, but you must hand over ** to the teacher before class, at this time you want to ask the classmate in front of you to let you print first, "classmate, can you let me print it first", maybe the other party will not pay attention to you at all, but, if you can simply state the reason why you need to print first, "classmate, because I must hand over ** to the teacher before class, so can you let me print it first", the other party will be very willing to let you print first. Even, even if your reason can't be called a reason, "Classmate, because I'm in a hurry, can you let me print it first", the effect is just as good.

If you want the other party to approve of you. First of all, the reasons should be made clear. So that you will be recognized by the other party.

So, ah. If others approve it, they agree. The first thing to do is to convince the other person and make your case valid.

First of all, you should say more words that make the other person feel comfortable. In this way, the other party approves. Agreed.

You'll be able to get in. And the requirements can be fulfilled. So a lot of things are mainly about communication.

If communication is in place. It can be done.

It depends on what your request is, if it is some requests that cannot be agreed, it will naturally not be granted, if it is some simple requests, then when asking others, the mouth is sweeter, and if you say good things, you will generally agree.

If you want someone to do you a favor, do someone a favor first. According to the principle of reciprocity, when you help the other person, the other party will have a sense of indebtedness, and then ask the other party, and the other party will be happy to agree to you.

When I took a graduation photo before, I saw that someone else bought a balloon and wanted to borrow each other's balloon to take a few photos, so I walked over and took a few ** photos for them with a DSLR, and then asked, "Classmate, can you borrow me a balloon to take a few photos?" The other party readily agreed.

This is the case in many things, if you ask someone for help for no reason, the other person may feel abrupt or even excessive, but when you give a little favor before asking for help, it will be difficult for the other person to refuse your request.

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How do you make it easy for someone to agree to your request? :

First, don't say what you think directly, which is easy to arouse the disgust of others.

Second, try to figure out the other party's heart, and strive to say the words to the hearts of others.

Third, if you say something, you want to combine your own request with the interests of the other party.

For example, if you take a child to cross the street, you tell her that you can't cross by yourself, you have to hold the hand of an adult, he seems to understand whether he understands or not, and he is grinding, and the green light is over, and he is still looking around, and your temper comes up all of a sudden, and the result can be imagined.

If you were to think about the conversation with him from his point of view, and you were expressing it in a different way, would you see the result differently?

Mom found that you are very brave, can you hold Mom's hand and help Mom cross the road quickly? If you tease or stare at him as a mountain and a little adult, a person who can help others, will he have the feeling of being needed by others and having a very good existence? Others want your help, and it's within your means, are you particularly willing to help?

So, it's not that hard to get someone to agree to your request. Think a little more and the result may be the exact opposite.

Summary. Add a title in front of the request I believe that many people have experienced the experience of others asking you to help vote in the group, in fact, this is just a gesture, but often many people don't even have a greeting, only a message, I believe that many people will be silent, a glance will pass, I don't know whether the request is too easy or the help is too cheap, if you add a title in front, it may make people feel your sincerity and help.

Add a title in front of the request I believe that many people have experienced the experience of others asking you to help vote in the group, in fact, this hall is just a gesture, but often many people don't even say hello to Sun Buried, only ** a message, I believe that many people will be silent, a glance over, I don't know whether the request is too easy or help is too cheap, if you add a title in front, it may make people feel your sincerity and help.

To concretize your request, for example, when you send a message in the circle of friends and need everyone's support, you have to tell everyone how to support, such as the state fiber letter** or like, if your request is too vague, then, the effect of the request you get will naturally be minimal.

In front of the specific request, add the phrase "because...."Losses and hail....In front of your request, add the phrase "because......"When you ask someone else, explain the reason for your request clearly, most people can only help you within their own ability, and they will help you.

The principle of reciprocity If you want to ask others to help you dismantle, you also have to help others more, according to the reciprocity of stay, if you help the other party, the other party will have the psychology of indebtedness. There is no help for no reason, and there is no free pie in the heavenly brigade.

The principle of "refusal-concession" to learn the principle of "refusal-concession", when others ask you to make a more excessive request, for example, you only want to borrow 50 yuan, you can first ask the other party if you can lend me 200, the other party refuses, you can also put forward your real request, then borrow 50, I believe the other party will be more acceptable.

The "threshold climbing" effect refers to starting with a small request, and finally asking people to agree to a larger plea, and make a request step by step, the so-called "helping people to the end, sending Buddha to the west". For example, if you have someone asking you to help scan the code, you scan, after scanning, and people ask you to pay attention to the **app, since it has been scanned, it is not bad for the sensitive point, so continue to help, until you achieve the effect of not making trouble with people.

1 Indirect method: Indirect expression, making a request in a consultative tone, which is easy to accept. Good expression: Can you do me a favor as soon as possible and get this matter right? Comparison expression: Do it for me as soon as possible.

2. Slow speech: Use auxiliary words to relieve the pressure of speech, avoid abruptness, and fully protect the other party's face. Good expression: Xiao Wang, I wonder if you can bring this letter to him? Contrasting expression: Xiao Wang, bring this letter to him!

3 Pessimism: Express your request by expressing your belief that you don't believe you can succeed, giving the other party and yourself a way out. Good expression: You may not be very willing, but I still want to trouble you. Contrasting expressions: You go for a trip!

4. Narrowing method: Say the request very small so that the other party can accept it and meet your own wishes and requirements. Good expression:

You can help me with this step, and I'll do the rest of the leaky things myself. Contrast: (provided that this matter is a little difficult for the other party) This matter is all up to you.

5 Humble Method: Express the request by elevating the other party and belittling oneself, and appear polite. Good expression: Don't shirk when you're old, we're all waiting for you. Contrast: Please come to our meeting.

6 Knowing the Wrong Method: Showing that you know that you should not make a request, out of helplessness. Good expression: I really shouldn't bother you at this time, but I really can't help it. Contrast: Please take a trip.

7. Considerate method: first explain that you understand the other person's feelings, and then make a request. Good expression: I know you don't have a lot of money, but I really can't help it, so I have to borrow it from you. Contrast: Please lend me a little money.

In social interactions, it is impossible for us not to ask for others. "Don't ask for anything", it is actually difficult to do. For example, if you encounter difficulties in learning, you can ask for help from your teacher or classmates. Asking parents to buy something for themselves, etc. When making a request, you should pay attention to the following aspects:

The language of the request. The request words we usually use include "please", "thank you", "thank you" and so on. These seemingly simple requests actually reflect a person's self-cultivation and the relationship of mutual respect and equality that people should have.

Attitude of request. When making requests to others, be humble, earnest, and treat them equally. Here, we must first address a basic understanding, that is, when making a request to someone, although there is no need to be low-voiced, it must not be condescending, but should be sincere and treat each other as equals.

Because you're making a request, the other person is not obligated to do what you say. Even if you invite a classmate to your house, you should say, "Would you please come to my house this afternoon?"

There's no reason for you to put on a show of kindness.

When someone else denies your request. If your request is rejected by the other party, you should understand and understand. You can't force people to make it difficult, and you can't give people a look because they have rejected your request.

It is entirely someone else's freedom to accept a request or not to accept it, and you must be equally grateful, otherwise it would be rude.

First of all, first of all, be clear about what you want others to do, down to the details, and secondly, make it clear that we will not force others to do it, even if they don't agree.

Finally, we said that we also care about their needs.

First, understand why others don't agree to your request. Suicha guessed the sedan chair.

And then break through one by one.

Finally, be sincere. It is a bit reasonable to say why you need him not to grant your request.