What would you do if you suddenly found out that you were the superfluous person?

I'm more bored, I often have this idea when I live in my uncle's house, maybe the difference between me and them is bigger, I'm a more homely person, my cousin and cousin are basically social experts in their work circle, and they usually can't speak, and when they eat, they often have a kind of idea of who I am, what I'm doing, and what I'm going to do. After a long time, I basically got used to it, maybe I was too shameless.

Now that I know that I am superfluous, I will turn around and leave to reduce my sadness and avoid embarrassment for everyone.

Everyone is not necessarily needed at any time, so let's take it lightly if it is superfluous.

If I really find that I am a superfluous person, then I feel that I will leave this place to do my own thing and realize my value.

People are social animals, huddle together for warmth, if one day the small group we are in has the feeling of ignoring themselves, and they become less important, maybe they will feel left out at that time, and feel that they really treat and pay so much, but get such a return, they must be very hurt in their hearts, and even doubt friendship. At this time, what we should do is not to be depressed, but to reflect on ourselves, whether it is our own reason or in their eyes that they are worthless, and even the value of communication and heart-to-heart talk has become diluted, at this time we can only continue to improve ourselves, whether it is talking or cultivation, etc. Most people in the world take care of themselves, but there are a few people who can give warmth when they stand next to you.

That's charisma.

Each of us is born into this world alone, and then we begin to know the world and receive education. I know a lot of people, some of whom enter and some leave. The joys, sorrows, and sorrows produced in this can only be known by the warmth and coldness.

This feeling of being alienated may have been encountered by each of us, at the beginning of everything to talk about, but gradually to the back to find that there is something in the way of each other, not so casual.

Maybe people are like this, when they first walked the same road, they had to walk hand in hand, but later, when there was a fork in the road, they could only go their separate ways, which was very helpless, but it could not be avoided, and no one could always be inseparable from themselves.

I like someone now, and he's very nice to me, and it's so uncomfortable to see him laughing with others and ignoring me. I know what to do.

Everyone in the world is superfluous, you have to find the meaning of your life.

Look at some, there will inevitably be some people who shouldn't appear around you in life, life is originally a drama, and everyone plays a different role. Don't always stubbornly look at the thing itself, the world is so big that there are no wonders, as the saying goes, how many times in the past life to look back in exchange for this life, not to mention that you have loved each other, it is yours who will not lose it, not your sooner or later you will have to leave, and the sand that you can't hold will raise it. There is always someone who suits you waiting for you, looking forward to meeting you and getting to know each other.

If I love someone but he loves someone else, or he loves someone I know or even a good friend of mine, I will feel that I am a superfluous person, and I will definitely feel sad. Painful and unwilling, but I will withdraw, I will not continue to entangle, no longer obsessed with this love that does not belong to me, because feelings cannot be forced, maybe he thinks I am not very suitable for him and not not good, I have to have confidence in myself! Go back to another relationship!

Instead of being lost, you should look for problems to improve yourself, and you have to believe that sometimes the person who is wrong is not necessarily yourself. I like a quote very much: "Life is like a train to the grave, there will be many stops on the way, it is difficult for someone to accompany you from beginning to end, when the person who accompanies you wants to get off the train, even if you are reluctant, you should be grateful, and then wave goodbye." ”

Why feel like a superfluous person? In this world, no one is superfluous. Because every human being is a fresh individual, an individual full of differences, an independent and different individual.

So you see, maybe you don't have other people who can be good at speaking, maybe you don't have as good looks as others, maybe you don't have as many hobbies as theirs, but you can't think of yourself as superfluous at all. Because that's your personality, and your personality may be so unremarkable, but that's a personality after all. Your personality is also unique.

I don't know when the time comes, and I become superfluous.

I don't know why I'm so much, at school, at home, Shan Qingzhong is late ......In the beginning. At school, I don't think it's the goods or the number of people. I don't think it's a big thing to do again and again.

It doesn't matter anyway. In this way, I spent a few years alone. Whenever someone I meet, I say that I am used to it.

I don't know how I said that then, but it's funny to think about it now. laughed at my ignorance at that time, they disliked me, they didn't find out, and they found reasons for them.

It wasn't until a sudden change in my family that I felt like I had become superfluous. No matter what happened in the family in the past (my parents had a little fight, and my parents thought I was inferior to my younger siblings......Time can dilute that, I thought. As long as you have enough time, everything is not a problem.

Just that time (the personality contrast between the parents is great, and the problems accumulated between them have not faded over time, but have become more and more serious. In the end, the parents were separated due to emotional disagreement, and this is the civilized saying. The rural folk saying is that the mother ran away, leaving her children and others behind.

I was in my third year of high school that year, and I was about to graduate, my mother was gone, and my father was the only one in the family to support me, and my father had a lot of opinions about me and my younger siblings going to high school, he felt that he could settle the accounts and high school was expensive, and he didn't want to work anymore, and wanted to rest at home. Taking advantage of such an opportunity, he asked me to give up my studies and work to earn money. At that time, I was facing the prospect of entering university, and I didn't know what to do, and that was the first time I found it difficult to do.

Because my mother cares about us studying, my parents are responsible for everything. It's my turn to take it on myself, I don't have a choice, my younger siblings want to continue studying, I only have half a year to graduate, I can give up. I gave up.

After that, I learned that time doesn't solve these problems. Maybe I'm too convinced that time can dilute everything. The more time passed, the more uncomfortable I became.

It's time, I didn't catch it, I didn't catch the time I wanted, the ...... I wanted

Left for two and a half years without forgetting.

I went to my grandmother's house to recuperate for a while. Grandma and they are fine during the day, even if they rest at night, it is okay to rest at my uncle's house, but I have to rest at my grandmother's side, just because I want to go to my grandmother's place to rest, and drive my cousin to another place to rest, my grandmother is suddenly unhappy.

Unconsciously, unconsciously I became superfluous everywhere.

Where should I go, where is my safe place?

Think about it, although I don't have many contacts, many of them have said similar things to me: We've known each other for so long, why do you feel that you still can't let go?

To be honest, I don't understand why everyone said that, I feel like my way of doing things is okay, I can say hello, I will say thank you, and try not to bother others. Until today, when I was reading an article, there was a sentence that suddenly touched me, and I vaguely felt why I made such an impression.

This sentence is "I'm here, I'm home", others stay in a place for a longer time, they feel that this place is home, know people a little longer, everyone will have a sense of family, and I have been with my family since I was a child, I always feel that I am a superfluous person, so it is difficult for me to be particularly close to a person.

If you can feel the happiness of your family, or if you can treat a strange environment as a friend at home, there is no need to read the following content, because it may make you feel that what I say next seems to be nonsense, in order to avoid my fragile heart being hit, so I will take a preventive shot here.

If you feel the same way as me and often feel like you're a superfluous person, then you can practice "I'm here, I'm home" together, and whenever you feel that your surroundings have become a little unfamiliar, you can recite this sentence here and think about how you feel about home.

At home, if we are sleepy, we can sleep, if we are hungry, we can eat, and if we have an upset stomach, we can go to the toilet. In short, we can think about what we often do at home, and then copy these things we often do in the environment we are facing, write it down every time we encounter a new problem, and then compare it with what we feel at home or see how others feel at home, and finally replicate it in the environment we are facing now.

I believe that after a long time, I should not often feel that I am redundant in my heart, because only when I feel that I am home, we will not let my heart run around often, and this method is very simple, I hope to persist for a period of time, can you and I see the change.

And I'll tell you, the first thing is psychological, that you have a tendency to have low self-esteem, that you're not confident, or that overconfidence is causing you to be apathetic.

You can start from the following aspects.

1 Enrich yourself, including the historical aspect, which will be reflected in the speech, and the evidence of people and examples can be used as talking points or analogies.

2. Understand the essence of some real-life phenomena, that is, people who love to ask why.

3 Learn about the news, including sports, **, about society, etc.

4 Sports is a thing that has been positioned as a common hobby so there will definitely be topics (there are inspirational sports movies like this).

5. Lower your position, don't be overconfident, think that other people's opinions are dismissive, and don't show it even if you really don't show it.

6 Cultivate yourself by **, calm your mood and become peaceful.

Through the above, I am sure you will definitely get better.

Because you don't have ideals, or you don't have realistic ideals, if your ideals are realistic, then it will make you spend all your thoughts and energy on how to achieve his journey, so that you will not have the energy to think about whether you are a superfluous person, and you will not have time to worry. First of all, you can find some books on the growth experience of successful people in the profession you have studied, to inspire them, and the troubles will be eliminated naturally, one day, you have achieved your ideals, you have succeeded, naturally no one says that you are superfluous, and happiness will accompany you on your way to success. I hope my reply will help you.

Don't say much else, remember one sentence, I am born to be useful!Maybe you'll think you're great in the future.

Relationships between people are often interdependent and value each other. I feel like I'm superfluous, and many times I'm just reluctant to ask others for help, and few people ask for help from themselves. Slowly, I became more and more distant from everyone and the collective, and I became a lonely person, and I slowly felt that I had no sense of existence and redundancy.

Because I am not an only child, I have done many things by myself since I was a child, because if my parents don't let me do anything, they will definitely be too busy. Therefore, from childhood to adulthood, many things will be solved by themselves, and I am used to being independent.

As a girl, when I see other girls in school, I will be in groups no matter what I do, but I seem to be used to being alone. No matter what I do, I basically do it myself, and I always feel that if I ask for something, it will be difficult to speak. In fact, I also know in my heart that most people are still willing to help a little favor, but I just can't say it.

Walking with others, as long as it is not alone, you are always following behind, and sometimes it can even make others very difficult. But I always get used to this, because as long as more than two people talk together, I don't know what to say, and I feel like I'm disturbing others. Therefore, I often choose to go alone later.

In addition to being in front of family and a few good friends, I often feel redundant, although I know that it is my own problem.

But in fact, I don't always have this way, I have a few good friends, and when I am with them, I can also fit in like most people, laugh and play with them, and it is not the same as usual. Even if you are in a bad mood sometimes, your friends will pull yourself into your body and will not let yourself walk alone.

I guess I feel redundant because I haven't found an environment where I can fit in! When you find the environment where you can devote yourself to it, you will feel that others value you, that you are part of a group, and that you are superfluous.

I feel redundant, or maybe I don't value others very much and don't see others as an essential part of my life. Therefore, it is natural that they do not feel the attention of others to themselves, and often focus on whether others pay attention to themselves, rather than on whether they pay attention to others. Therefore, you will feel redundant and not recognize your own problems.

If you want to get the attention of others, you must first see others as important, so that others can feel your care and their importance in your heart, and naturally you will be equally important to him. It starts with helping each other, you can take the initiative, ask for help, and then respond to other people's requests with enthusiasm.