What is it like to help your child with homework?

Helping children with homework is painful, it feels very simple, why can't she.

Helping children with homework has the feeling of going back to when I was a child, instantly feeling that I am a teenager younger, and my mind can come up with the scene of writing homework when I was a child.

When I helped my child write this homework, I felt that it was a real headache because he didn't understand a lot of things, and we needed to teach him patiently.

To use a common saying, there is a feeling that dumplings can't be poured out of a teapot, although these things seem very simple to me, and I completely understand what they mean, but it is very difficult to explain to a child, and you think his brain circuits are different from mine. There is a feeling that a punch on cotton has no point of focus.

It's harder to feel than asking me to go out and earn money, you said that he didn't listen to you, and you can't help but say it, it's better to go out and make money and spend money to hire a tutor to tutor the child.

Tutoring children's homework can experience all the shortcomings of parents themselves, emotional management, how to deal with problems, control, patience, perseverance, and even some friends have checked out their own diseases in advance through this activity, myocardial infarction, cerebral infarction, stroke, bypass, high blood pressure and so on. I often taste the experience of elevated blood pressure. At the same time, I deeply sigh, child, let me know that I still have a lot of room to grow.

In the past, I used to look at my phone every day to see what tasks the teacher had assigned, and then force the children to complete their homework one by one. Now I write down the homework assigned by the teacher on a piece of paper and read it to the child, tell her what tasks are there today, and then tell her when she wants to complete the task and come to find it with a checklist, and if she doesn't come to me after 7 o'clock, I won't use it, and I won't accompany her after 7 o'clock.

From the time I was in kindergarten until I graduated from high school, my mom was at home and would accompany me to do my homework almost every night. Parents accompany their children to write homework, not only can supervise their children's learning, find out the problems in their children's learning in time, but more importantly, this spiritual reading and companionship will help children's learning and growth. I think that in the current ordinary family, there are students in the family, and the whole family has a big event that spans more than ten years.

The quality of a child's learning is not only related to the growth of the child, but also to the joys and sorrows of a family. The accompaniment of parents to their children's homework will not only strengthen communication with their children, but also closely accompany their children's hearts and minds on the long road to school. Accompany the child to write homework, there is a way to supervise and tutor on the side, there is also a way to be around the child, the child is on his own homework, parents are reading books on the side or quietly busy with their own things, once the child has questions in learning, or is tired of doing homework and wants to say a few words to soothe it, parents give answers or exchanges in a timely manner, so that not only to promote children's learning, but also to close the relationship with children.

Of course, for children who are struggling to learn and have some homework that is always wrong, parents should not be impatient and angry, because some problems can not be solved by parents' counting and scolding, on the contrary, it will increase the child's pressure and even cause the child's disgust to learning. In this case, parents will also be angry, just like this cartoon circulating on the Internet, and they can't get it quickly.

In the past two days, I am still tutoring children to write homework, but it is very pleasant, because homework is not the essence of education, we cannot abandon the basics, the foundation of education is to help children grow and self-realize, we should pay attention to children's mind, brain, emotion, and body. Homework is only a small part of the entire educational process. It is precisely because many people over-amplify this small part that once the child can't do it, they completely deny the child, and all kinds of worries and anxieties are transformed into yelling and venting to the child.

Especially for children in grades 1-2, they yelled the most, because the questions are simple, parents will know, and children will not. The higher you go, the less parents yell, because it's getting harder and harder. And the children in grades 1-2 have a young heart that needs to be cared for.

The Ministry of Education clearly stipulates that homework can not be assigned to children in grades 1-2, because children at this age need more mental protection and cultivation, their brain development is not perfect, and it is necessary to have good parent-child communication to open wisdom, and at present, China's parents generally have a backward concept of education, and school teachers are also ignoring the healthy growth of children, regardless of the Ministry of Education's explicit regulations, still assign a large number of homework to children of this age. As everyone knows, the homework is completed under duress, but the child does not get real emotional and mental nourishment. When we ridicule "mothers and children are filial, chickens fly and dogs jump", do we consider the feelings of our children, and when we feel that we have worked hard and have a heart attack after a heart attack in our tutoring homework, have we considered our children's feelings?

So it's time to think seriously about what education is.

1.The first case: comfortable, with a sense of accomplishment.

In this case, the child who is generally tutored is more obedient, and he really wants to learn from you, and at the same time, he also remembers what you say and the homework you assign, and can naturally accept the study plan you have formulated for him. After getting along for a long time, your relationship will gradually get better, and his grades will slowly start, or even better, at this time, your sense of accomplishment will be particularly strong, and your heart will be comforted.

2.The second case: a hard, very slow process.

If the child you are tutoring is a child who does not like to learn, is particularly naughty and mischievous, and does not even listen to the words of parents and teachers, then your tutoring experience may be relatively long. Because you start to slowly try to contact him, try to understand him, start from his heart, understand why he doesn't like to learn, and then guide him step by step to learn, guide him to follow your footsteps, and let him feel that learning is also a very happy thing.

3.The third case: patience is gradually worn out.

If the child you want to tutor is a child with poor academic performance, you have tried many methods, but he still does not understand, or when he encounters similar topics, he still will not be like this for a long time, if you keep this state, your patience will be consumed, and even doubt life, whether you are really not suitable for teaching children, whether your teaching methods are correct, whether you can be accepted by most children, your heart is very hard!

At first, I will be calm, patient, meticulous and repeat the explanation many times. Later, the voice will become louder, and even loud reprimands, knocking on the work and using force, blood pressure will rise.

It is a mind-opening mind and a sense of honor as a teacher.

First of all, we must have a correct attitude, which is to accompany the child to do homework, bringing a safe and warm learning atmosphere, rather than a devastating blow of a storm.

A lot of patience is required.

Otherwise, some children will be angry with some of their homework.

It's like thinking that you are talking to a bar, reasoning, he raises a bar with you, and you can only beat him except for him.

1: Allow for imperfect work.

Allow your child to have homework that they won't do, and allow your child to have mistakes in their homework.

It is normal for children to learn new knowledge, and it is inevitable that they will not be able to do it, but it is not normal for them to be able to do it.

After children make mistakes and correct them, they will be more impressed by the knowledge.

2: Take the opportunity to cultivate children's ability to think for themselves.

It's not terrible that children can't do it, and what's even more terrible is that children don't use their brains.

When encountering homework that children don't know, parents should not be anxious, try to patiently cultivate the child's self-thinking thinking ability, mobilize his interest in learning, and personally think that this is more beneficial to the child's growth than simply completing the correct homework.

3: Don't accompany your child, or talk differently.

Do not supervise the child's homework, which will make the child have a rebellious mentality, the premise is to set a good time, what time to do things, after the time this homework can not be done, give the child enough space.

Teach people to fish" instead of "teach people to fish", truly learn to clarify the idea of doing problems, master the method of problem solving, correct the learning attitude, and develop good habits will benefit immensely in the future learning. The most taboo is that parents interfere too much in their children's homework, or blindly blame, do not teach the method of doing problems, will not be step-by-step, simplify the complex, and reduce the whole to teach children to think about the problem.

Within the scope of one's own ability, it can be moderately tutored, but the premise is that the child is not disgusted, otherwise the effect is not good.

A child's inability to write homework independently is a big reason why homework is slow. Excessive help from parents gives children a subconscious hint that difficult problems need parental help. The emergence of this phenomenon is ostensibly that parents are helping their children, but in fact they are sending a message of distrust of their children.

Secondly, many children tend to do their homework with a pen, and do not read and review the questions carefully. One of the most important ways to cultivate the habit of doing homework seriously is to teach students to read and review questions. This seems to be just a habit formation, but in fact it includes the training of mental organization and flexibility at the same time.

Finally, give your child a quiet learning environment. For example, give your child a separate room, or give your child a fixed desk, chair, time and other terms to learn, and do not occupy the child's desk to pile up clutter. Don't ask your child to do housework or other things during the regular school time.

First of all, I think that parents can set the time for writing homework according to the amount of homework in their children to cultivate their children's view of time, so that children can establish a mistake book and copy all the wrong questions in the error book for future reinforcement learning.

If you want to help your child with homework, we can give this task to the child's father, and we must be patient when helping the child with homework, we can make the child aware of the interest in learning in a simple and fun way.