There are people from the city who come, and there are people who have city government

Actually, I think the person you're talking about is me. It's almost the same (so the first person and the third person are indistinguishable), but I'm not in the habit of controlling people, and I like to talk to intelligent people.

People who first know me will think that I am easy-going, docile, have a sense of humor, and seem to be a good friend.

But later, when he slowly faced some situations, maybe when things happened, people would feel a trace of evil, and people would think that his previous appearance was fake, but in fact, he was a wolf in sheep's clothing. It's daunting.

Just because those who know me are as alienated from me as you are, I am even more reluctant to be too close to me, because those who know me well will stay away from me because of my habits or personality.

Although I have no ill will. Guarding against it doesn't mean I'm going to hurt others. Maybe it's a vigilance against the dark side of people's hearts.

No one wants to be friends with him. Because his personality threatens you like an invisible knife. So he had to hide himself.

He's been looking for a friend who trusts him.

In fact, many of my friends don't know me well and think I'm like a fan. It's always the same thing to cover up the other, for example: it seems that I recently quit smoking, and many people are surprised to quit smoking.

In fact, the main reason is that I am out of love and don't want others to know, but I can only use quitting smoking as an excuse to cover up my bad mood. When asked by others, they said that it was more uncomfortable to quit smoking recently, and their faces were not good).

How ridiculous, I just want to hide one emotion. Your friend may be just a delicate person like me.

If I could get to know you as a friend, maybe we could be his best friends. (I've never had a question because your question is too consistent.) )

I'll tell you, if you see him through, it means that he is not good enough, but now the society is like this, just get used to it, don't treat the society with any gratitude, that's just talking and playing, and the really powerful person is the one who is treacherous, loyal, wise, and foolish.

This kind of person may have been hurt before, if you still have feelings for him, you can try to open his heart knot, let him try to accept you, but the premise is that you should be sober, protect yourself, give him a chance, and give you a chance, if you feel that it is not worth it, then you retreat, live the life you want to live, and make the friends you want to make, as the saying goes: people are not for themselves, and the heavens and the earth will be destroyed.

Think twice and be tolerant.

If you don't take advantage of it, you should be dealt with, after all, everyone has their own way of doing things.

If you take advantage of it, you can slowly withdraw.

If you feel that you have suffered a loss, you will slowly withdraw, and if you don't use it, everyone must have their own way of doing things.

1. It looks harmless to humans and animals.

There is a good saying, "A dog that barks, doesn't bite, and a dog that bites can't bark at all", the same as a person in the city, you can't see that his city is deep at all, the deeper a person in the city, the more harmless he gives you. Those who seem at a glance that you think the city is deep are really not the city deep, they just lack the heart and eyes, pretending to be deep, this kind of person often has no city.

2. Emotional intelligence is particularly high.

The more a person experiences, the more things he understands, and the higher his natural emotional intelligence is, so it is often said that people who are deep in the city often have high emotional intelligence. In fact, in life, most of those people with high emotional intelligence have a very deep level.

3. Do things more rigorously.

Because most of the people in the city are in pursuit of perfection and are also wise people who are good at thinking, they will choose the most rigorous plan and do things rigorously. Therefore, those who have achieved great things are not low in the basic city government, because they pursue perfection for themselves and do everything rigorously, so success is inevitable.

4. It is rare to fight for merit.

They know deeply the consequences of competing for merit, so most people with a city government will not fight for merit, they will be a person to leave a line, make the most suitable decision for you, and they are often the people who are grateful by others, because he knows that it is a cost-effective thing to let others owe themselves. A person who often competes with colleagues and leaders is not called having a city, but lacking a heart.

5. Rarely get angry.

Because the people in the city are deep, their self-control is very good, and it is not difficult to keep their joy and anger invisible, they will never speak in person, they will only remember it in their hearts, that is, "the gentleman takes revenge, ten years is not too late".

1. People in the deep city government look harmless to humans and animals!

There is a good saying, "A dog that barks does not bite people, and a dog that bites people will not bark at all", people in the city are the same, they can't see the city is deep at all, and the deeper the city, the more harmless people and animals feel.

Those who look at it and think that the city is deep are really not the city is deep, but they just lack the heart and eyes, and pretend to be deep, this kind of person often has no city.

2. People with deep urban governments have very high emotional intelligence.

In fact, the city government is just a display of social experience and social experience, the more a person experiences, the more things he understands, and the natural emotional intelligence will be higher. People with deep urban government often have high emotional intelligence. In fact, in life, most of those people with high emotional intelligence are very deep.

People who have a city will make people unable to see their thoughts and intentions, and they are often pampered and humiliated, and Mount Tai will not change its color in front of it, and this kind of people will be deeper in the city.

Calm, one set in the heart, one set on the surface, others can't figure out what he really thinks, what you can see is what he wants you to see.

Those who have a city government have the following behaviors:

1. Talk less and observe more.

2. Keep smiling, gentle and humble, joy and anger are invisible.

3. Enrich yourself and don't discuss people.

4. There are principles in his heart that he adheres to.

5. Be tactful.

6. Don't speak easily, and say at the end.

People who are really deep in the city tend to have four characteristics.

1.Silent and always seems particularly quiet.

The French writer Montaigne said: Silence is more beneficial to social interaction than insincere words. A person who is really deep in the city will not talk exaggeratedly, and the more people talk about it, the more silent he is.

He sat quietly and listened to what others said, and did not interrupt or express his opinions. Maybe someone said the wrong thing, and he heard it clearly, but he just smiled and didn't take it seriously and didn't correct other people's mistakes.

2.Left and right, when encountering trouble, can always get out of the way.

People who have a city government have learned some ways to deal with things from left to right. No matter how troublesome things are, they will think of a more perfect way to deal with the troublesome things in time; If things don't have much to do with you, then you will slip away and you won't take the trouble out of you.

3.Hidden deeply, there is always a smile on his face, hiding his true thoughts.

There are many things in life, but they are just passing by with a smile. The people who really have the city government are not the fierce gods and evil faces you imagined, but the faces are very good-looking, and they are very friendly in dealing with people. He has a lot of connections, but not many people who have a deep relationship with him. He doesn't join useless social circles.

4.Very self-disciplined and insist on improving their abilities.

The more self-disciplined a person is, the luckier he is. A person who is very deep in the city will also be very self-disciplined, and when no one is looking, he will read carefully, ponder the words and deeds of others, and find what he wants. Using other people's strengths to make up for your own shortcomings and help you succeed is a shortcut in life.

It is not a bad thing for people to have a city government, as long as they sit upright and act rightly, the necessary scheming and strategy are not only a condition for success, but also a means to protect themselves. In the world, if you want to live a smooth life and guard against the harm of those villains, you have to learn to be a person with a city.

Writer Yang Daxia said that a righteous man and a gentleman are the best robes.

<> "Those who have a city will do this.

1. Fine. The real high EQ is never the smoothness of the edges and corners, but the shrewdness of the angle Diao Youzhi Wang, the people seem to be not fighting or grabbing, going with the flow, because they have already laid out the game under the table, and some people have only learned the sleek shell, did not learn the core of the fine, they have become a good honest man in the eyes of others, a good person, behind the sleek look, has already calculated the value of different choices, and then maximized the benefits, this is emotional intelligence!

2. Ming. People with high emotional intelligence are purposeful and straight to the point, the reason why they don't like to get angry is just that they are unwilling to do superfluous, meaningless things, all the requirements and behaviors that have nothing to do with achieving the goal are a waste of time, and if there is a problem, solve the problem, unless emotional catharsis can solve the problem, there is no need to vent emotions, do not do unnecessary things, have a clear purpose, go straight to the topic, this is emotional intelligence.

3. Hold. Many people like to use some low-level methods to praise others, such as being courteous in front of the leader, and you have to hold the door for the leader first when you enter an elevator, which will only make everyone look down on you, this is called praise, no, this is called licking! People will only get what they want unconsciously, find out what they want, find out what they want, lower their profile, and gain value, which is the real high emotional intelligence.

4. Cowardice. Some people with high emotional intelligence rarely compete to be the "strong man on the bright side", the strongest and most difficult art on their body is to pretend to be stupid without flaws, cowardice and stupidity is not only a way of self-preservation, but also a reflection of a stable mentality, some people encounter things and react half a beat slower than others, do not make any remarks, look the most cowardly, when they succeed, they are sluggish than the quasi, and when they fail, they are calmer than the quasi.

5. Well. Let a stranger have a good impression of you within five minutes, in a book about psychology, a small trick recorded, the method is very simple, is to ask him to help you a small favor, and then sincerely thank the other party, because a heart that knows how to be grateful, it is very easy to arouse the good feelings of the other party, which is a person's quality, culture, character, kindness of multiple wild embodiments.