Why do some people always want to wrap others around, just thinking about going around them?

It's like this, so it seems that he has the ability.

I think it's the sycophancy that revolves around others, they have no opinions, they don't have the ability, and if they want to please others, they can only revolve around others.

That's not like. It must be that person who has more power than him, a higher position and money than him. That's why there are some people who Liu Xu patted on the back and listened to him around him. He also likes to yell at others, waiting for the future to have the power, do you see him like this?

It may be because this person thinks that if he revolves around others, others will be very happy, he lacks empathy and does not consider others from their point of view.

It may be that you feel that you can see a lot of advantages in the other party, or what benefits you get.

If you don't like this kind of person, just ignore him.

Those in the besieged city tried to get out, while those outside the besieged city sharpened their heads and tried to squeeze in. "Why? It's just that people can't see clearly.

Because you are always unsatisfactory to other people's ways of doing things, you always feel inferior to yourself, so no matter what the occasion you don't think about changing others, think about changing others at the same time, the first person to change is yourself, because what you do is not satisfied with you when others see it, so no matter what you do, don't always want to change others, you must change yourself first.

Some people are like that, always self-righteous, always feel that everything is better than others, do not see the advantages of others in their eyes, proud and arrogant, but this is not good, one day will be bumpered, people are still low-key, do what they should do, than the scriptures are people outside the world, there are heavens outside the sky.

There are many people in life who always want to change other people's minds, and these people tend to be very strong and egoistic. As an independent natural person, everyone has their own ideas, if other people's opinions are worth referencing, we can learn from them, if there is no reference value, we don't have to pay attention to his strength, there is no need to conflict with him, and just listen to it, don't care.

It's not easy to change someone, and it's important to have a good relationship. First of all, you have to change yourself for the better.

If you always want to change others, if you want to change yourself, there is one item that cannot be set, and you can only facilitate others through your own life, and it is a very difficult thing for people.

Everyone thinks differently, it's normal, just do your own thing, if you don't change it, you will be encouraged, there is no need to linger, I believe that I will succeed.

Generally, people who want to change others are people who have a very strong desire to control, because they always feel that others are inconsistent with themselves, and when they see that other things are different from their own ideas, they ask others to change, and they want to force their own thoughts into each other and think that they are right, which is absolute control. It is very difficult for such people to make true friends, and what they need is absolute loyalty, right or wrong.

It's all for your good, what a good reason.

The desire to control is too strong, in fact, it depends on whether you are firm or not, and if others want to change, you have to see whether you want to change.

People who are really good for you won't force you to change, except for your health, of course.

It's good to take care of yourself, and if someone else cares too much.

As the saying goes, "The two hardest things in the world." One is to take money from other people's pockets and put it in their own pockets, and the second thing is to put one's own thoughts into other people's heads"; There is also a famous saying "We can't change the world, but we can change ourselves, we can change ourselves", and "the country is easy to change and the nature is difficult to change", so it is especially difficult to change a person unless he has a major mistake or a major blow. Therefore, don't try to change a person, only try to adapt to a person; There is also a saying that says, "Don't try to wake up a person who is pretending to be asleep".

I also think so, there are always some people who want to change others, but the fact is that in this world we can only control ourselves, others you can't control, in life, the reason why some people have too much unhappiness, too many obstacles is because they always want to change others, focus on others, because others do not follow his expectations, or do not meet my expectations and are tortured, and become resentful, anxious, as for the reasons behind it is deep-seated, no one wants to admit that they are incompetent and failure, This is the instinctive will of life.

Don't burden yourself in any way, and don't burden others. It's just that the heart will be in labor like a fetus.

This kind of selfishness and can't adapt to others, you should change yourself, that's right.

I want him to be better, I don't want him to be better, I think I'm good.

Except for your own relatives, who wants to change you, even if you change it, it is for your good.

Self-righteousness, why should be changed by others.

Does "through-the-penetration" mean imposed? Of course, the meaning of "through" is also clear, and it is understood that it means to accompany others with one's own thoughts all the time, and to ask others to do anything according to their own thinking methods.

If the other party's ideas are more comprehensive and objective than your own, you can follow and learn from them, and learn from others' strengths to make up for your own shortcomings, which will make you progress;

Of course, if you blindly want others to do everything according to their own thinking methods and thinking methods, it will be bad, it is a manifestation of strong possessiveness.

Although even if two people grow up in the same environment, they will have different thoughts due to family circumstances and their own literacy, so it is normal for everyone to have different ways of dealing with a problem.

If we want to impose our own ideas on others, there will be contradictions, and only by constantly influencing each other, accommodating each other, and tolerating each other, will we slowly change.

If you are really good to others, you must properly respect the correct habits and thinking methods of the other party, and if you are not used to it or feel that the other party is not doing well, there must also be a process to let others slowly adapt.

I have people like this around me; When you are polite to him, you think about how to hurt you and how to fix you all day long; Later, I ignored him when I wanted to; Treat him as air when you don't want to pay attention; He still wants to slap you up.

Either let him go, avoid him, or hack him. I don't even know his mother.,See if he's pretending to be forced.。。 The main thing is that he thinks he can ride on your head, and if I were you, I would definitely let him know why the flowers are so red!

Hold him high, let him be happy every day, and then let him wrestle, and stand with him in his heart.

See if he is your boss, if so, you just pretend to follow him, if there is no threat to you, you are afraid that he is a fart, follow yourself.

Avoid him. Stay away from him. It's a villain.

If it's school or work, I'll prove myself with excellence, after all, it's useless to talk too much.

He was so lonely, he was afraid. If you have the courage to take him.

From the current state of affairs, it is said that it is the self. From a psychological point of view, you should provide more information about him in order to diagnose his condition. A person always wants others to do things according to his method, which just shows that he has a style of doing things.

In general, they do not know how to respect the feelings of others and only emphasize their own feelings. If he can feel the feelings of others, he will make a difference. However, this kind of person often only cares about his own feelings.

Everyone's thoughts, ideas have a lot to do with his upbringing, such as his family, his parents, his siblings, and so on. There are also like single-parent families.

children. Different education will have different results. In general, too much spoiling can lead to a temper of self-esteem.

They ignore each other's feelings. Everyone revolves around him, and his parents and others have never taught him how to feel other people's emotions and thoughts. And he himself did not realize it.

Or in a single-parent family, very independent children, such children often have to take on the responsibility of the family too early, to make decisions for their parents, often make younger siblings feel like a father, like a brother, more like a manager. Although they also think about their younger siblings, they take on the role of stewards more often. If married, his role will still be that of a manager.

It's easy to ignore other people's feelings. Like a student, if he likes others to listen to him, it may be that he wants to become a small head, a child king.

Let others look up to him and worship him. So, everyone's situation is different. The situation is also different.

This friend, as you mentioned, needs to be analyzed more of his own specific situation in order to judge his condition. The way to change is to put yourself in the shoes of others and consider the problem. If not, you can continue to use other psychological methods. Beg.

This is a sense of self-esteem that comes from people, and it is a manifestation of power, and they all want others to take themselves as the center, and I want others to be self-centered, and I will introduce this book to you. The Weakness of Human Nature" Go up and find it, and if you watch and play, you may know why people are like this. What you feel is true

Learning the way of the sages and the way of the gentleman, it is easy to be self-righteous and think that their opinions are absolutely correct and accurate, and they are the most knowledgeable.

Genus. At this time, he likes to show off everywhere, teach others everywhere, and think of himself as a teacher.

Mencius's original intention was not to say that "being a teacher" was bad, but the key to it was the word "good". The word "good" reflects self-show-off, self-sufficiency, self-sufficiency, and lack of progress. This kind of "good teacher" is not for preaching and teaching to solve doubts, but only for the sake of greedy reprimand and respected vanity.

There is no end to learning, and no one can ever reach the level of omniscience. Therefore, we must be careful not to show our erudition and majesty by teaching others as teachers or experts at every turn.

Our boss is like this, saying a bunch of useless, not talking about the main thing, a little thing must be said, and then a bunch of words, as long as there is anything wrong, she can't be wrong, it's all my fault, it's really exhausting.

Tell him that his way doesn't work for you, but sometimes it's good to listen to someone else's method, maybe one day it will be used on some issues, and your colleague is just more enthusiastic

Maybe he thinks he's the best, and thinks that this method must be suitable for you, or maybe he thinks: just think of mine is the best.

Human beings are subjective creatures, and in today's environment, it's hard to be alone.

At the same time, I will explain to you that I am embarrassed to say it, so it is perfunctory.

Because everyone has only one perspective, and that is their own perspective. Therefore, the so-called understanding of the so-called empathy is actually non-existent. However, in order to deny and exclude this loneliness, the illusion of understanding and being understood often arises, although it is often followed by disillusionment.

Between (pseudo)understanding and being understood and disillusioned, it is often one who imposes one's own ideas on others.

Because there are very few people who are aware of this (before disillusionment), people tend to sell ideological violence under the guise of understanding, and finally lead to the disillusionment of the violent party, that is, the realization that others are trying to impose their ideas on themselves, so there is the question "Why do we always like to impose our ideas on others?" This is the case.

Learn to walk alone, do everything on your own, and don't always think about who else. Only if you work hard and become independent, you will succeed, you will not rely on others, be brave. Remember, when there is no light, even the shadow will not accompany you.

Because you still have people around you who can rely on now, but one day you don't have such people around you, you can only start to be independent on your own.

Like me, I was extremely insecure and didn't believe in myself.

Obvious lack of self-confidence leads to habits becoming natural. Sometimes it's scared and afraid to face it. It's like a couple breaking up, one party often says, don't leave me, I won't be able to live alone.

It's the fear of facing life alone, and the fear that it will be difficult to find what you like if you are separated. Because I already like to rely on.

Because you are not strong, weak, if you are strong, others will rely on you, I think, you have to become strong, it is not a good phenomenon to rely on others all the time

Lack of independent psychology, it is recommended to travel on your own back.

You need a loving companionship very much, and you don't like to be alone.

I want to, too, but no one can rely on me.

Because you don't want to give, it's better to learn to be independent.

I'm bothered with myself, too.

Then why don't you be independent?

It shows that this person is very selfish and violent. It is recommended that you go to the psychiatrist's department of the hospital to see a psychologist. Let a psychiatrist guide you.

Open up your inner world. Don't harm others unjustifiably. This harmonious and civilized society.

Everyone should care for each other and respect each other.

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First of all, you should have a little bit of mild depression in this situation.

Secondly, if you don't want to go to the doctor, you can search for depression evaluation standards on the Internet for self-testing, and if you reach a certain level, it is still recommended to go to the doctor.

In the end, the best way is to find a professional physician to conduct an evaluation and then have an evaluation of you. Health coaching based on your specific situation.

All in all, the percentage of people suffering from depression in our country is very large, and not many people are aware of this disease. Five out of ten people should have depression. So you should be brave and correct to face it, **him. to get your life back on track.

Hope it helps.