How has patriarchy affected your life?

I'm just not as good as my brother, it's my fault if I have conflicts with my brother, everything has to be put first by him. Because I am a girl, our family has to have two children, so our family is financially constrained, so my younger brother has not been able to have a better education, and I am all to blame.

My uncle, my father's brother, after my mother gave birth to me, said that my parents would die and no one would bury them, as if he had two sons and was proud of his capital. Later, when he died, my dad and his brothers and sisters gave him money to do the funeral.

I was born in a small county, and I have a younger brother who is seven years younger than me. In order to give birth to a son, the mother basically conceived once a year since she was born, and she had an abortion if she was a daughter. When I was seven years old, I had n births before I had a younger brother.

Since then, my father has the motivation to struggle, and my mother has stopped working since then and lives proudly at home.

My grandmother is still more patriarchal.

Every time I eat, I have to give my little brother a delicious meal. All the fun things are for my little brother. I don't have anything.

This has kept me resentful in my heart. Growing up, I never went to see my grandma, I just thought she was bad for me.

So much so that when my grandmother died, she was still calling my name, and I was still losing the opportunity to see her for the last time because I was angry with her.

This is really the regret of my life.

At that time, I had already been admitted to graduate school, but my younger brother was about to graduate, and I felt that my family needed money to find a job for my younger brother, buy a house, and get married, so I gave up graduate school and worked directly to reduce the burden on my family. To this day, I am still doing everything I can to take care of my brother, who is better off than me.

When I got married, I didn't give a cent, I refused to borrow it, I hated my boyfriend's poor family, I borrowed money from relatives to buy a house, and now I am doing well.

I'm a girl and I have a younger brother. In the day after day of exploitation, I got used to it and also thought that I had to serve my brother. Since I was born, I have been an inconspicuous existence, and my whole life has passed like this.

I am a woman, already working, and have a younger brother who is 16 years younger than me. If there is any experience, it is that in front of the patriarchal elders, the "gender woman" is the original sin since birth. Because I am a woman, there is no "queen" in the family, so my grandmother will cry outside the delivery room where I was born, and no one loves me.

In the first case, many families are being punished.

In such a family, no adult is willing to let the boy be wronged, and he is surrounded by obedient voices, and such a family environment is very unfavorable to the growth of the boy.

First of all, he has lived in a greenhouse for a long time, has not experienced setbacks, and when he grows up, his ability to be frustrated is very poor, and he cannot adapt to society. Secondly, such a child, since he was a child, he can be satisfied with everything he wants, otherwise he will cry and make a fuss, and in the long run, he will develop a willful and domineering character, and he will lose his temper with his parents and elders since he was a child, and he may gnaw at the old when he grows up.

It's all because we dote on the child too much, so that he looks like this, the old man not only can't enjoy the joy of family, but he is also worried about his son when he is older, isn't this a punishment?

The second ending, many parents have already regretted it.

The second ending of patriarchy is to make the girl who is not valued hate her original family psychologically, she has been discriminated against since she was a child, not only is she looked down on by her parents, but she is treated coldly by her grandparents, and even her brother or younger brother can dictate to her.

The love and rights that should be enjoyed are all deprived, such girls generally hate their families when they grow up, why can Fan Shengmei in "Ode to Joy" resonate with the public?

It shows the universality of this phenomenon, this kind of girl sacrifices everything for the family is taken for granted by her parents, she can't get rid of the mercy of her parents, everything is for the benefit of her son, her life will not be happy, and her heart will not be sunny.

When the parents are old, they still have to rely on this daughter they don't want to see, what treatment should they get, can you imagine, right? Maybe then the parents will regret treating their daughter like that.

The third ending may be quietly approaching.

Chinese population is seriously aging, the number of newborns is declining year by year, the number of people born in 2018 is four million less than in 2017, this is only a superficial appearance, deeper problems, in addition to fertility pressure, people do not want to have children, the number of women in China is declining off a cliff, which is also the main reason for the decline in the number of newborns.

In the final analysis, it is caused by the preference for sons, many families, B ultrasound shows that girls are killed, only boys are retained, a family is like this, and thousands of families are the same, creating the phenomenon of more men and fewer women, and in the end, the girls who are looked down on by many parents will be "hard to find".

When the boy reaches the marriageable age, parents will find that several boys compete for a girl, and the bride price rises, even so, many boys will face the fate of singles.

It will leave a bad shadow on the child, so that the child will not be very good to them in the future.

In fact, this is all in vain, the key is to see whether his children respect the old and love the old (regardless of men and women), if the child is good, then his fate will not be too bad, if the child is not filial, it is doomed to tragedy!

The end is to lead to a serious imbalance in the ratio of men and women, more men and fewer women, and one day in the future, many male compatriots will not be able to marry wives, the key is that there are not so many women!

will spoil the man into a more contrarian and bad temper. It's the opposite.

When you are old, if your daughter-in-law is good, if your daughter-in-law is not good, you will be pitiful, and there is no one who even brings tea and water, and asks for warmth. Generally speaking, men marry daughters-in-law and forget their mothers, but daughters are not sensible, as long as they become mothers, they will know their mother's hard work, understand their mother's difficulty, and will be very considerate and considerate of their mother.

When you get old, you will regret it in your heart, what a stupid mind it turned out to be patriarchal.

If you can't give birth to a boy, you will keep giving birth, and in the end the poor will not even be able to eat, and the ratio of boys to girls will be created by the miraculous nature quite regularly from the beginning. Man-made sabotage will eventually be severely punished.

Now it's not about patriarchy in the family, it's patriarchy in the workplace!

It is the custom of China's patriarchal society for thousands of years, and it is still the result of continuation, not that person's fault, you don't. There's not necessarily anything that doesn't end up, but if you're a woman and your parents are boys, then you try to make them work on your own.

The daughter is not filial, and the boy is spoiled.

If you can't get the care of your subordinates, you can't be filial to your husband and don't love you.

This question is just a matter of attitude towards life! It's not enough to commit a crime!

The daughter is not filial, and the son is pampered.

This concept in society is impossible, don't look at the current advocacy of equality between men and women, because women often have family affairs, such as giving birth to children. There will be one less manpower. Women should be self-reliant, not dependent on their parents, on their husbands, and on their children.

It's normal because the daughter is going to get married, sooner or later she will leave the family, leave the parents, and the son is destined to accompany the parents for the rest of his life and protect the family, so it is natural for the parents to want to have a son.

Why should there be a preference for sons?

Patriarchs will definitely be destroyed by heaven and earth.

I think that in daily life, the phenomenon of patriarchy still exists. For example, the three phenomena of allowing boys to inherit the family property, allowing boys to go to better schools, and being more considerate of boys make me feel the problem of preference for sons. Specifically:

1. The boy inherits the family's property, and the girl has no share.

In some families, the property is divided among the boys, while the girls do not. This is the most obvious manifestation of patriarchal preference. At the same time, such practices are illegal.

But in everyday life, such a phenomenon is indeed very common. It can be seen that the phenomenon of patriarchy exists in the hearts of many people.

2. Let boys go to better schools, and girls may even drop out.

Some families have different attitudes towards boys and girls when it comes to arranging for their children to go to school. For the boy, the family will give him more resources to go to a better school. As for girls, the family does not care too much, and hastily arranges things, and some girls can only drop out of school at home.

This phenomenon is also a reflection of the preference for sons.

For some families, the attitude towards boys and girls is the same, but in reality boys are often more cared for and loved. For example, what a boy wants is often satisfied, while what a girl wants is pushed back. These small things in daily life can also reflect the problem of patriarchy.

All of the above things that happen in daily life are very common. All these things show that there is still a patriarchal problem in the minds of many people, so this thinking should be changed as soon as possible.

Luckily, my parents didn't have patriarchal behavior. My parents still love me very much. I don't think they're patriarchal.

I feel like I'm a very happy kid. I think children who grow up in non-patriarchal families are the happiest children. The happiest kid ever.

Let me tell you that my cousin and I grew up in my grandmother's house.

We are about the same age, and quarrels are commonplace. But grandma doesn't take sides in our education.

When it comes to arbitration, half of the time I'm taught that I'm an older sister and he's a younger brother. As an older sister, I have to learn to be humble and humble.

Half of the time will be taught that he is a boy and I am a girl, and men should have the responsibility to protect girls.

There is no eternal winner in our war, and we will not blindly favor younger brothers, girls, boys, and other unfair things.

This kind of education taught my brother and me about the basic mainstream gender beliefs, but it didn't make us think that men are more important than women.

Needless to say, the parents here are only children, growing up in a patriarchal environment, and when they gave birth to my precious daughter, they didn't even have this idea.

In such a family environment, our family is such a patriarchal family.

Many families are doing the patriarchal generation, the second generation. But if it continues, by the third or fourth generation, there will be more and more patriarchal families!

In today's era, the phenomenon of patriarchal preference is becoming less and less, but it cannot be ruled out that this phenomenon still exists in traditional families. If your parents have a patriarchal phenomenon, then you should persuade them from the perspective of family affection, do more of their work, and don't let this traditional thinking affect each other's family relationship.

1. It is imperative to change customs.

It is understandable that there is a traditional preference for sons among the parents' generation, as they live in different times. However, in today's society, boys and girls are born the same, and boys and girls are equally filial to their parents. Therefore, we should advise our parents to get rid of this traditional idea of the big stool in our family.

Each of us must follow the trend of social development, and not be controlled by those old ideas and affect our feelings.

2. It is the same for boys and girls.

If we show that we are the same for boys and girls, and we like girls more, then our parents will also be influenced by us, and they will love this little granddaughter even more. Therefore, the attitude of a family lies in the attitude of a person, because one person influences all people, because one person drives all people, this is the power of family affection. In fact, when everyone faces the birth of a girl in the family, they may feel a little unhappy at the time, or they do not meet their wishes, but later they will feel that their children will love them.

In many cases, because of the influence of traditional thinking, it may take a while for them to adapt and accept, and we should not be too anxious or particularly excited to accuse them of being wrong, which is an offense to the elderly. More often, we should use the power of family affection to persuade the elderly to make them accept, and do more actions to show that the child is the little cutie in the family, the little button of family affection.