How do women who are not afraid of divorce become psychologically strong?

There are many reasons for divorce, I don't know where to start, I don't say much, no matter how I have a poor vision, I always say that the personality is not harmonious, and the fuse is that after giving birth to a child in the hospital, the child jaundice is high in the hospital, and there is no reimbursement for a little medicine, and I need to go to the outpatient clinic to buy it, but my money is because it was in a bento bag, and my mother took it home after delivering the meal, and the man and his mother were unwilling to go to the outpatient clinic to pay for medicine, and then said some ugly words, Said that I want to live in such an expensive ward or something, pay for it myself (my mother's family paid for hospitalization, I chose a suite with a living room, and I was a little awkward because I was going to have a caesarean section) I broke up, and then he and his mother went directly, and after I was discharged from the hospital, I went back to my parents' house directly, started a cold war, and cried for a whole month. The decision to divorce may seem rash to others, but I think it is so long, the confinement is almost in tears, and it will be better after making up my mind to divorce.

Of course, marriage is definitely not a person's fault, I may not be able to stand the cold war because of pampering, I can't stand the cold war at all, but if you want a cold war, I will accompany you, but I still lost, and I couldn't hold my breath and divorced, hehe.

Because I used to evaluate others as three-no people, I apologize, I don't explain much, I understand, after all, it is indeed character, which is indeed more important than money.

Some people also asked about child support, because the man is unwilling to give, otherwise he will not divorce, I don't know if he has experienced a lawsuit divorce, or has read the relevant laws, he can't leave the first lawsuit if he doesn't agree, and then you have to continue to appeal for half a year, that is, he has the heart to drag you can't leave, I will give up, why drag it out for a few hundred dollars, he hasn't come to see the child once in the past two years, so it's good not to communicate at all.

The child has a sense of fatherhood, and when it comes to this, I have to mention that the most annoying thing after the divorce is that everyone who sees our mother and son always asks the child if his father has come to see it, has he beaten **, is it really impossible to remarry? In front of the child, after being able to talk, the cub always says grandpa is like my dad, hahaha thank you my little good cub, if possible I will meet someone and sincerely accept me accept the child I will be willing to have a complete home.

That is, you should all understand, marrying a girl with children, the conditions are actually also difficult, because to raise one more child, when you are realistic, you will want to be afraid of dragging others down, but also afraid of dragging yourself, the unbearable after divorce also lies in finding a partner again, the eyes have to be more careful than a marriage, thinking more long-term, more like a partner to live, my parents have considered a lot of situations, looking for the other party also has children, afraid of getting along badly, more afraid of having another child The economic pressure is too great, not afraid of bad feelings; Find someone who has not brought children to divorce, others will consider helping me raise children, and others will look down on me; Find an unmarried person and wait like this, and so on, and then I'm most afraid of what if I go to a person's house, people have to give birth to a boy, I have a caesarean section and my physique is weak and I can't afford to experience three children and **, hahaha, think about it and get drunk, maybe there will be less trouble about not getting married anymore, but who knows that it's not pessimistic! ）

Because they feel that marriage doesn't matter to them anymore, and then they feel that the other half is also special to them, and they will definitely have their own careers, so they are very strong, so I think that's it.

In fact, they are also forced by life, and secondly, they must be financially independent, otherwise they may not be able to support themselves if they divorce, in fact, they are not as brave as everyone thinks

Such a woman is generally capable of her own. So even if they get divorced, they can live very well, and they are not afraid of divorce.

In fact, those women actually want to free themselves, and they don't want to be tormented in a painful marriage, so they are not afraid of divorce.

Some of these reasons may include:

2.Family pressures: Many women may worry about the negative impact of divorce on the family, such as the impact on children or the relationship between family members.

3.Cultural and social pressures: In some cultural and social settings, divorce may be seen as unethical or unacceptable behavior. This pressure, when triggered, may make women reluctant to divorce, even if they are victims of domestic violence.

5.Lack of resources and support: Many women may lack resources and support, such as legal help, counselling and housing, to help them.

Child factors: Women are worried that divorce will affect their children's growth and education, especially in traditional family cultures, women are often regarded as the main caregivers or caregivers and educators of their children, and they are reluctant to let their children become "victims" of divorced families.

Lack of support: Women may lack adequate social and family support, independent legal knowledge and counselling to better protect themselves and their rights.

Emotional issues: Some women may still be in love with their spouse or afraid of loneliness and loneliness, believing that divorce is a last resort and will only choose to the extent that domestic violence cannot be tolerated.

Because of the perspective of the unexpected world, although it is said that the current crack is becoming more and more developed in his thoughts, there are still many people who point fingers at women who have been divorced and married, and some women will care about these.

1. Always give yourself good self-suggestion. Make a list of all your strengths on paper, think about them often, and tell yourself how good they are. Regularly strengthen positive energy for yourself, consciously avoid negative self-reinforcement, and say to yourself whenever you find that you have achieved something, no matter how small

Look how good I am! At the same time, deliberately choose those who have strong self-confidence as friends, "close to Zhu Zhechi", which is also effective in enhancing self-confidence, increasing positive energy, and improving the lack of security.

2. Do what you love. People are more willing to put in more in what they like to do, and it is relatively easier to achieve success, which in turn produces a sense of achievement, which is very important for improving self-confidence.

3. Try to rely on yourself in life. Try to solve things by yourself first, and through these processes, you will continue to exercise and improve your ability and experience in acting and doing things, stimulate your own potential, and improve your self-confidence and sense of security through the experience of getting things done again and again.

4. Keep a neat and decent appearance. Exercising and staying in shape is also very helpful in boosting self-confidence; Communicating with others in a way that is most comfortable for you in interpersonal communication can also make people feel relaxed, etc.

Every divorced woman has her reasons for divorce, but she also faces many difficulties, such as how to live in the future, how others should view her, etc., many women have lost their previous sharpness and self-confidence after divorce. Now I want to solemnly say to everyone that this is nothing, after the divorce, we can still become strong women and be a new version of ourselves.

Give time to grieve. Psychologist Florence Falk said that after the divorce, the originally filled corner of the soul suddenly became empty, even if the experience in this corner was not all good. You may still have a lot of regrets or regrets about the past, and you can let yourself fall into sadness at this stage, but don't dwell on it all the time.

Get rid of negativity. After the grief period, you should try to dry your tears, let go of the heavy emotional baggage, and face the future with a smile. Psychologist Robert Eberty suggests finding a way to free yourself from negative emotions, such as talking to someone or engaging in positive activities.

Although you can bury these emotions temporarily, only by facing up to and conquering these negative emotions can you make the future more positive.

The main thing is to recognize yourself, and you can adjust your mentality from the following aspects.

1. Come to a trip and go for a walk. Forget the previous unhappiness.

2. Find something else to do and put all your mind on it.

3. Meet another person you're willing to associate with.

4. Do something you didn't dare to do before and break through yourself.

To be strong is to be calm. You used to feel like you had something to rely on, but now you need to think of yourself as that one to rely on. I firmly believe that I can solve anything alone. Don't panic when you encounter something, and treat it calmly. In the long run, you will become stronger.

You must have your own beliefs, goals in life, and only spiritual pillars in life can make you stronger.

After they are all divorced, what do they think about, they can't even insist on marriage, and they can think about other things, in fact, divorce is responsible for marriage and family.

It's all the result of your own choice, you must first have self-confidence, or you can chase your own life, and you can't complain about life.

If you are financially independent, you will gradually become more confident.

Find a strong man, have children, and forget about the scum of your ex-husband.

Financially independent, resolute, energetic, and living for themselves.

Find a job that interests you.

It is undeniable to stare at the house and admit that women will rely more on the family, and it is more to endure family injuries when encountering them. The first is that divorce will make women's lives helpless, the second is that women after divorce cannot live independently, and the third is that it is more difficult for women to live alone after divorce.

First, divorce can make women's lives unreliable, so they will not divorce even if they go through jiabao. When we get married, we will have our own family, and we will feel comfortable and happy living in such a family. But once divorced, the family will not exist, and they will live a single life, which will have a greater impact on women, and they will feel that their lives have become helpless from now on.

Therefore, many women are reluctant to divorce even if they go through jiabao, just to maintain their own Huaifu family.

Second, women are reluctant to divorce because they cannot live independently after divorce. For those who are married, the state of working together to manage their own lives together will make both husband and wife feel happy and satisfied. But after the divorce, both parties will live alone and need to face everything on their own.

This situation will be even more difficult for women, many women will not be able to live independently because of this, so they will not want to divorce.

Third, single life after divorce is more difficult for women. Therefore, they are reluctant to divorce. Although the state of single life has become an option for many people now, this situation will be more difficult for divorced women.

It will be more difficult for them to remarry, and Kaiye will encounter various difficulties and problems in their daily life, so it will be even more difficult. This is why many women are reluctant to divorce even if they go through jiabao, but want to maintain their families.