Let s share what you learned after you got married?

It turns out that it is such a happy thing to get married and have someone to love.

It's so tiring to take care of the kids....

Don't blindly marry someone because of age and other external pressures.

It is really impossible for love to change a person, it can only change for a while, but it cannot change a lifetime.

The warm man heartthrob may be enough to attract and please you, but if you are not completely sure that you will surrender to him for the rest of your life, please treat him as a good memory, not a marriage. You need someone who takes marriage seriously enough, understands the importance of single-mindedness, and will take good care of you to get married.

There is no winning or losing life, only whether it is worth it or not. At the end of life, we must return to simplicity and simplicity, and live our lives like the taste of a glass of boiled water and the simplicity of a bowl of porridge. In order to taste the true taste of life, happiness will come unexpectedly.

The most important thing that should be understood after marriage is that husband and wife should understand and tolerate each other.

After getting married, I really understood that I was no longer a child, and the burden on my body was very heavy, and I wanted to be a good man in charge.

It's best if at least one party is good at cooking and the other party is willing to clean up the kitchen. The two of them take their own strengths and assign household chores. The biggest and most lasting project after marriage is to tidy up the room.

I never felt that the floor needed to be cleaned every day, the table had to be wiped every day or two, and the room had to be tidyed up at any time, otherwise it would be dirty and messy into a pig's nest. At this time, it is necessary for the two to cooperate amicably, rather than letting one party spread their grievances to every corner of the family.

After eating, the dishes must be washed, the clothes worn must be washed, the furnishings at home must be constantly restored, and the ground must be swept and wiped from time to time, which is called the four major contradictions in marriage. There are also what to eat at night, who is going to come to the house today, today I have to work overtime, and I have drunk too much with my wife.

It is very important to be a good match, and I have known it before, and I am even more sure of this after getting married. Not only the material conditions of the family, but also the spiritual atmosphere, growth and education experience, and family living habits, should not be too different. On the one hand, it determines whether the values of the two are at the same level, and on the other hand, when they encounter problems, the two people can resonate, and the parents on both sides can get along well without too much disagreement.

If the parents don't get along well, the two of them will collapse sooner or later. The other party must be independent. The economy does not depend on the family, the two of you are willing to work hard, and you have the ability to maintain the normal operation of your small family.

When you have your own opinions, you can face the pressure of parents (such as when to have children), and husband and wife can unite and give each other a sense of security.

Don't try to change each other, the first ten years of life basically determine the way of thinking in people's lives. Of course, we can influence each other, and we can still influence each other over time. The essence of marriage is a partnership based on love, both of which are important.

Family life is reasonable, and the reason why it seems unreasonable is because some people will consciously suffer a loss, and I hope that the person who takes advantage will know in his heart and don't always take advantage. After marriage, the two must have some common hobbies, and there will be topics to chat about, otherwise what will they say decades after marriage? Stay away from both parents.

Raising a child is quite tiring, so be mentally prepared. Earn more money, money can solve 99% of life's problems, if not 100%. It's worth it to buy a wife with money, don't feel distressed.

1. It takes a process from naïve to mature, and when you understand these truths, marriage is actually a win-win cooperation, cooperative management, and a warm family organized together. What is more needed is the tolerance and understanding of two people, often because one party is willful, one party does not compromise, or one party does not work hard, can not grow together and cannot tolerate and understand each other, and the marriage will break down like this.

2. In fact, there is no truth in marriage, just like the experiment done by Socrates. Ask you to pick a bunch of the largest and fullest ears of wheat in a wheat field, and the rule is: you can only go straight forward and not go back to the core.

You always feel that there is a better one in front of you, and you miss one after another full and beautiful ears of wheat, until you reach the end of the wheat field and you don't choose the ear of wheat you like, and in the end you can only return empty-handed, this is love.

3. I am still very happy after I get married. So spread some positive energy to everyone, don't get married for the sake of getting married, it must be because you like each other, and then the economic conditions must be there, and the gap between the hands of the few hands is too big, and then you have to learn to make concessions to each other, feel sorry for each other, and life will be very good.

4. In fact, the most important thing is not the family background, but the values and outlook on life formed behind the family background. It is very difficult to overcome the differences in knowledge, ways of thinking, and attitudes brought about by this gap in family status.

5. A man with a house can struggle for 20 years less. Don't talk about our philistine, really, my mother who doesn't have a car or a house can't afford to be hurt, and she has to bow to life from time to time. Life is firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, summed up in one word:

Money! Don't get carried away by love, he is good to you, he loves you and cares for you, and when you need money, no one converts it into cash for you.

6. Only after getting married did you know that you must choose a mother-in-law who is not difficult to deal with, if you see her at the beginning and you don't have a good face for you, hurry up. In the future, your family will be troubled by such people. Mother-in-law's character determines your future life.

Because you can't get rid of them. Also, before getting married, you must see what kind of work the boy does, if you have been working in a career with little future for several years. So tell you that this boy lacks motivation and is content with the status quo.

After getting married, I understand not to live with my in-laws, as the saying goes, distance produces beauty, after all, there is a generation gap with my in-laws, and there are inevitably differences of opinion, all say that the daughter-in-law is the daughter of the mother-in-law, but who regards the daughter-in-law as a daughter, if you respect you, it's okay, if you don't respect you, you are his son's free nanny, thinking that you spent the bride price to get back Chazi, and it is inevitable that the heart will not be defeated and balanced. After getting married, understand that a relationship needs to be maintained by two people, if only one person pays, the other party does not know gratitude, the marriage will not last long, the man must understand that the wife is at home to take care of the family, it is not easy to take care of the children, there are too many trivial things in life, almost no free time is their own, women must know that it is not easy for men to work outside, for the sake of the family, men may be wronged outside, but think of the family must endure.

1. Men don't bring congratulations because they love face, and they can't criticize men excessively.

No one likes to be criticized and blamed by others, let alone your lover. Men are face-loving, need more praise, they are like children, praise and encouragement will make them more motivated, if you blindly criticize and accuse your lover, feel that he is not doing well, he will be irritable, impatient, negative and slack, and finally do nothing.

2. Women should be financially independent and not rely too much on men.

If you choose to become an ordinary housewife after getting married and give up going to work, of course, it is not impossible. But if you continue to look for a job of your own and be financially independent, it will make your vision and mind very broad, and you will not become a small-minded person who is irritable and noisy for a little thing. Of course, you can't neglect your family while taking care of your work, at least pay attention to keeping your family hygienic and tidy, no one likes their family to become dirty and messy, and no lover likes to be neglected.

3. Women should be gentle and dress themselves.

Many women are gentle ladies before marriage, and after marriage, they become sloppy and almighty women. In fact, after getting married, you should also try to keep your tenderness to your lover and family. No matter what time or circumstance, you should complain less about life and be more confident about the future.

If you are not gentle, not confident, and only know how to complain, it must be unattractive.

4. Women should not be too strong, they must know how to be coquettish.

Men are generally machismo, and after marriage, showing weakness and coquettishness to your husband at the right time can improve your husband and wife's interest and affection. Of course, non-stop and unreasonable coquettishness will only make your lover feel annoying, but will stay away from you, so you must master the goodness and be coquettish in moderation.

5. Women are not accessories of men, they must have their own opinions.

After marriage, a woman should also maintain her own opinions and not lose herself, you are not an accessory to your lover. Of course, it is not for you and your lover to blindly raise the bar and resist, but to let you truly melt into your lover's family, from lovers to relatives. Also, when talking to your lover, try not to use titles like your mother and dad, which will make you look very polite and not regard the other person as a person, which is offensive.

1) After getting married, I know that whether the marriage is happy or not has a lot to do with the in-laws, it is very important for the in-laws to be reasonable, as well as the sister-in-law, and the sister-in-law must be sensible, love is mutual, and watch less poisonous chicken soup.

2) Resolutely do not live with your mother-in-law! We bought a house, my mother-in-law also said that she wanted to live, and to take her grandson, we are close to the sister-in-law, if the mother-in-law comes, the sister-in-law will come here every day to eat, before the mother-in-law lived for a few days, I can't stand it, this is also ready to take root and live permanently! My husband said to me with an embarrassed face, I cried when I heard it, I said that I couldn't live with her, but he told his mother that he couldn't do it, and his mother was angry, and then I didn't want to offend her.

There are many contradictions in living together, and then she didn't say anything on her face, but she no longer wanted to come to live Peibo! At that time, I also thought solemnly, if she insisted on coming to live, I was planning to divorce, how much I hated their mother and daughter, in fact, it had escalated to hate, and I was annoyed when I thought of my sister-in-law, for various reasons.

3) After the marriage hall was pure, I felt that I was naïve, fantasical, and unrealistic, and I knew that I should not step into the marriage grave, so that I could live freely according to the way I wanted, and I would not have so many troubles. It's good to live like no one gets married. Women can support themselves themselves.

And the income is also good.

4) Before getting married, understanding your husband is secondary, the most important thing is to understand your in-laws, understand what his big family is like, there is a saying that you have to dress up well, marrying someone is not only marrying your husband, but also marrying you into an unfamiliar family.

5) I am now married for the second time, and I will tell you clearly, first, find a man with the same three views, and second, I don't live with my in-laws. Because I didn't have these two points before, I got divorced. The man I knew on a blind date before, I had a cold war for five days for trivial things, my mother-in-law was widowed in her thirties, and she didn't live at first, but after half a year, she actually took her sister-in-law, and the character of the four people is that you ignore me and I ignore you.

I live my life counting my fingers. Now it's okay, I can't quarrel every day, how happy I am, his parents don't bother, we help them do some housework and visit them. Life flies so fast.

6) Fortunately, my parents gave me a happy family, and I also married a sensible wife, and I never worried about the relationship between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and I was very lucky.

Marriage is not just a matter for two people, but also for two families.

The husband and wife are one, and when they get married, they must be considerate of each other, trust each other, and accommodate each other, not a matter of principle, and turn a blind eye.

Marriage, especially women, has undergone great physical and psychological changes. When you have a child, you have to divide your love into equal parts. You can't ignore your husband's feelings for the sake of your children.

Treat money with a plan to spend, don't be a moonshine clan.

Treat your mother-in-law not far or close, too close is easy for people to be controlled, too far and feel that you are not close to the minifigure spine.

When you go out, especially in nightclubs, and KTV, it's best not to return too late, and try to pull your husband into your life circle.

Keep a psychological distance from your girlfriends, because it is mostly girlfriends who dig into the corners of socialism.

Don't rely on your husband to support yourself, you must have your own career, even if you earn 800 a month, you will not be despised psychologically.

If you are a house slave, it is best not to take out a loan to buy a car for the sake of face, because it is a consumable and there is no need to talk about it slowly.

In fact, these are all things that I slowly realized later.

The most important thing is that the husband and wife treat each other's family members as their own, and during the run-in period, they quietly resolve the potential crisis invisibly.

Marriage is not the beginning of the change of two people, but the birth of a baby.

My husband and I have been in a long-distance relationship for many years, and after we got married, we felt no different from during our relationship (except for the fact that we had to take turns to go to one house for a year during the Chinese New Year).

But after having a baby, especially in the first year of having a baby, it really changed too much.

suddenly became a family of three; From the moon before the flower to worrying about the baby's eating, drinking,, peeing and fart every day; From you and me to the middle of the night, when the baby wakes up, sometimes the two of them are really sleepy, and they kick each other up;

From the fact that both parents are not around to the parents of both parents taking turns to take care of the baby, there are sometimes some contradictions;

From the delicate makeup and the aura of stepping on high heels, to the fact that there is no time for skin care, he basically goes to work with a plain face;

From being slim and wearing, you can go from M side L and even XL to all kinds of collocation, thinking about how to look thin;

From the work of desperate Sanniang to the collapse of the branch, lactation to breastfeed, back milk can not travel (after the lactation period of physical strength and energy does not keep up with the baby before), from the previous online shopping basically closed eyes to buy now, I also know how to wait for the big promotion, grab a variety of coupons, calculate how to buy more cost-effective, shopping cart has also changed from bags, cosmetics and clothes to diapers, milk powder, and baby food, drink, collapse of the spine with play.

From sleeping lazily to not being able to sleep a whole night (after the baby sleeps for the whole night, it begins to go to bed early and get up early, because the baby wakes up too early).

From thinking that you are still a baby, you suddenly have to be responsible for someone from scratch.