Why do some people now, even if their relatives have passed away, do not cry or mourn?

With the development of human civilization in recent years, science and technology have entered a new era, and people's life expectancy is getting higher and higher. But today, when science and technology and civilization are getting higher and higher, there are also some human psychological phenomena that are very worthy of people's attention, such as some people who are very indifferent when their relatives die or encounter very sad things, why is this?

In fact, there are some times when people don't cry or grieve when they encounter the death of their loved ones, not because they are cold-blooded, but because they are too sad. Mainly because there is a problem with the mentality of the person. According to the long-term research of psychologists, this phenomenon is actually a mental illness in the human body.

I believe that students who often follow the news know that in recent years, the number of people suffering from depression, anxiety and other neurological diseases in our country has risen sharply, and the phenomenon of not crying or making trouble is also a psychological phenomenon. Because when people are faced with some sad things, if they don't vent their emotions in time, this will lead to changes in the human body's nerves in the long run.

In other words, the body's own immune system can isolate the great compassion from the consciousness, as if it does not feel the sensation of the event happening, and after a long time, people seem to forget about it. In ancient times, people believed that a man would rather shed blood than tears, but in fact, this has harmed many people, and many mental illnesses today are partly due to it. Human beings have seven emotions and six desires, which is a normal thing, and it is inappropriate for us to deliberately restrain our emotions and blindly pursue any emotional intelligence.

Now some books say that emotional intelligence determines your fate, and to some extent, this is also the reason why our country is now a big country with mental illness. When we are angry, we have to release it, and it is beneficial for our nerves to release our emotions. And some people have been suppressing the release of their emotions in their daily lives, and after that kind of tragic thing happens, they are like walking dead, as if they can't see any changes in their emotions.

And this phenomenon is considered by psychologists to be a precursor to depression, and the nerves are quite fragile compared to the consciousness of the brain. You tell yourself to endure it, but your nerves don't have that much to bear.

It can be seen that we must find a way to release our emotions in time in life, talk to friends and family members when we encounter sad things, and don't blindly brace ourselves when we are stressed, and find a suitable way to release stress, only in this way can we avoid suffering from neurological diseases.

I have heard others say that the closer the person is, the more they will not cry, because they were in a state of blindness at the time, probably because they couldn't accept this fact, so it is not that they do not cry or mourn on the surface when their relatives die, but they are actually sadder than anyone else.

In fact, many people are not crying or grieving, how can anyone lose their loved ones without pain, they are just used to disguising themselves as strong so that others can't see it.

This is because many people nowadays have looked down on life and death, and feel that life and death are also very ordinary things, and they can accept them happily.

Because the pressure of people nowadays is particularly great, and the feelings between people are also very cold.

Although he doesn't look like he's crying or sad, his heart is also very sad.

I don't think some people can express their emotions, that's why this happens.

When a loved one dies, there are no more tears, which does not prove that you are sick, but that the pain is extreme.

When the confidant leaves, the heartache and sadness are excessive, which may lead to no way to shed a tear and be able to face the loss of a loved one calmly, but it is possible that one day in the future, because of a certain scene, or even a certain sentence, a certain voice will be caused. All the emotions collapsed, and I cried happily. From this point of view, not all people are indeed able to cry in the face of their loved ones, and it is still a good thing to be able to cry when they are really able to cry, and holding their emotions in their hearts will only make people more uncomfortable.

People's emotions are never controlled by themselves, sad or happy, it is always difficult to control freely, especially sadness is not at all controllable, I have also faced the departure of relatives, when I know such bad news, the first reaction is to stay on the spot, unacceptable, but can quickly calm down, silently attend the funeral and leave, but one day later, suddenly because of someone else's words opened my heart, let me cry, that is also the first time I feltIt turns out that sadness can also be like a dead heart, without any emotional side, without any emotion on the surface, but in fact, the heart has already been surging, but there is no way to express this sadness in the way of crying.

The sadness still exists, and even becomes more and more intense, but there is no way to replace it at that time, I found that all this can only be borne silently, especially the sadness of adults is always so restrained, and caught off guard, others can cry, but they can only silently put it in their hearts, deal with all the things at hand, sadness is not only expressed with tears, and the sadness that can't be cried is the real love is greater than heart death. I hope that everyone will not understand this kind of pain, and I also hope that everyone can calmly face the departure of their loved ones, after all, it is a sickness, and death is the normal state of life.

Maybe it's because you're sad to the extreme, and you're very sad in your heart but you can't cry. In fact, it's not that you're sick, because everyone expresses their feelings differently, so don't use crying to measure your feelings for your loved ones.

This is because this kind of thing is very painful for you, it can be said that it hurts to the extreme, so you will not cry at this time, it is not that you have changed.

It may be because this incident has had too much impact on you, so it has caused you to become very dazed for a while, which is not a disease.

I think it's a very cruel psychology, and it's also a psychology that doesn't know how to cherish, and people like this don't have a very correct outlook and don't have a very good moral character, but I think people like this are also very strong in their hearts, so we must look at it rationally.

Maybe I don't care about this situation at all, so when this kind of thing happens, I never cry or feel sad, this kind of person I feel like I have no heart and lungs.

This kind of person is very uncomfortable. People can't cry until they're particularly uncomfortable.

When my grandmother died, I couldn't cry, it felt like he was asleep, it didn't feel real at all, I also felt like a white-eyed wolf, an emotionless person.

I've been in this situation too, and the more I can't cry, the longer the sadness in my heart will last.

Because of your introverted personality, you shed a lot of tears when you're alone. The saddest time for people is silence, and the more sad they are, the more silent they become. ‍‍

Many times, the more you cry, the more sad you become, not crying for your loved ones, but crying yourself, and when you have suffered more setbacks and are older, you will understand!

I also feel this way, the day my grandfather died, I really kept thinking about why I couldn't cry, grandpa was the best for me, but there was no sadness in my heart, but after a few days, it was really sad, and I really didn't believe that grandpa was really not there at that time.

Me too, I should not have accepted the fact at first, I always felt that my grandfather was hiding, silently caring about us, and I always treated him as if he was still there.

Maybe you are such a person, the tear ducts are not developed, I have also seen such a person, the eight-year-old son died, but he couldn't cry, he must have been very sad in his heart.

Grief does not necessarily have to be expressed by crying, if you want to cry and force yourself to cry, it is to show others.

When a person is in extreme pain, he can't shed tears, I once had this experience, a family member died, but I couldn't cry, after a long time, I remembered the past, and often hid in a place where there was no one and cried secretly.

Me too, whether it's the death of a loved one, or breaking up with a man who has been in love for a long time, it's obviously very uncomfortable, but I can't cry, and I can't pretend to cry.

Little sorrow sheds tears, big sorrow sighs. There is some sadness that cannot be expressed by just tears. Isn't there such a saying?

It's called wanting to cry without tears. I couldn't cry anymore and couldn't help myself. These are words that describe uncontrollable emotions and disturbances.

Family members are our most important spiritual and emotional sustenance, and their departure is a heavy blow to us. It is difficult to accept this fact for a while, and at this time, often the psychological capacity has reached a verge of collapse, all kinds of emotions come to the heart, those beautiful memories, the moments of conflict, with the departure of the family, will become eternal, leaving only longing and those unfulfilled long-cherished wishes.

In fact, the Si people have passed away, and the survivors should work hard, cherish the people and things around them, those who are good, let him continue to be beautiful, and those who are unhappy may not be worth mentioning in a few years. I hope you will come out of your grief as soon as possible, and then you will gradually shed tears and recount those pasts.

There are only two situations in which a loved one does not cry or mourn when he dies: one is that he is sad to the extreme, but he will hide the pain in his heart. Second, although some relatives are quite close, they have not interacted much for many years, and naturally they do not have sadness for relatives who are not familiar with each other.

My girlfriend is exactly the first case. Last year, her parents died in a car accident, and it was really very sudden, and before leaving home in the morning, she was still nagging with the children about getting up early in the morning, don't forget to have breakfast, and when she came back in the evening, she would never hear the familiar nagging sound again.

A few of our friends who have a good relationship often go to each other's houses to play, so they are close to each other's parents like their aunts and uncles, and several of us broke down when we heard the news, and we didn't sleep well for a few days and nights, and our minds were full of scenes from when our uncles and aunts were alive day and night.

We were afraid that she would suddenly not be able to accept the blow, so we tried our best to accompany her, but since she knew the news, she has been calm as if there was no such thing.

She calmly comforted her surviving grandparents, took care of her younger sister's life when she was still in school, discussed the funeral process with her aunts and uncles, refused all our help, and even comforted us not to be too sad.

From the day of the accident to the day when everything was done, for a week, she ate and slept as usual, without a little sadness, and even smiled all the time when she faced her sister.

We thought she had grown up because of the sudden death of her parents, but on the eighth day of her parents' deaths, the afternoon of the second day after everything had been taken care of, she suddenly fainted at home.

She eats and sleeps normally, numbing her sadness, just afraid that she will fall. But isn't she really sad? I'm afraid the saddest thing is her, although the grandparents and grandmothers send the white-haired people to the black-haired people, but they have experienced a lot for most of their lives, and their children have already started a family, and their lives have not suffered the kind of huge changes that have occurred when the people who accompany them every day suddenly die.

My sister is still young, and she is trying to accompany her sister. Although the relatives and friends at home are sad, they are not the people they care about the most after all.

It's just her, when her parents are there, she is a carefree little princess, she has graduated and worked for almost a year, and her parents are still used to her, for fear that her salary will not be enough to spend, for fear that her colleagues will bully her. However, none of them are now.

Of course, there is a second situation, that is, the deceased relative is really not familiar with him. For example, my grandmother's sister, my grandmother married far away to my grandfather's family, and at that time, because the two of them went to study together, my grandmother came here for love. At that time, transportation was not developed, and the number of times my grandmother went back over the years was only a handful.

Grandma's sister, my brother and I have never even seen each other.

It may be a bit disrespectful to say this, but when the news of my aunt's death came, my brother and I really didn't react much. Naturally, we hope that our relatives in our family are in good health, but we will not forcibly grieve.

Maybe it's because the two people spend less time together, and their feelings for each other are not so deep.

There are always some joys and sorrows in life, and there are some things that we can't decide, and the death of the person is just one of them. It's just that some people are still in a calm state after they die in person, and they don't cry or make trouble, and they can't see sadness, which makes people wonder if the two are related.

Any kind of relationship needs to be managed, even if it is family affection, it will also be indifferent if it is not managed. Love, friendship or family affection all require us to invest time to manage in order to make these feelings last for a long time and to deepen the relationship between people.

Some people don't cry or carry their loved ones after they pass away, it is very likely that the relationship between the two has not been operated for many years, and the relationship has become very indifferent, perhaps in this person's mind, the appearance of that loved one has been blurred. If it weren't for the news of the other party's death, the two might not have crossed paths for a long time in the future.

Some people are not sad because of their indifferent feelings, and some people are calm, but because all the sadness is buried in the bottom of their hearts. Some people who are emotionally indifferent can indeed do not grieve or cry after the death of their loved ones, but there are also some people who are obviously sad to die, but their faces are always calm.

This kind of calm appearance is really not pretended, but my mind is at a loss now, and I don't know what posture to use to express my feelings.

The calm expression you see may just be a state of pre-mental breakdown. When no one is around, you may cry a lot, or you may talk to yourself, or you may collapse in the spiritual world.

You can't see some people's sadness, and we are not roundworms in other people's stomachs, and we can't think of what others are thinking. Whether the feelings between other people and their relatives are indifferent or not has little to do with us, we should still do a good job of communication and exchanges with our relatives, so that the feelings of leaders do not fade due to the passage of time.

Be kind to your loved ones, and instead of suffering after the death of your loved ones, it is better to spend more time with them while they are still there.