I forgave the person who hurt me, but I can t get over it.

If you can't get over it in your heart, then you can choose not to forgive him, and there is no need to force yourself in order to forgive the person who hurt you. Let yourself not be happy. If you don't forgive him and you can get by with it, then you don't have to forgive him.

Then don't contact again, just be a stranger.

Since I still can't get over it in my heart. Then it's still a breakup.

It shows that although you have decided to forgive him, your heart is inevitably wounded and needs to be healed.

People who are usually in trouble with me will definitely not help them, because I am a layman, not a saint. I've never believed in the idea that the people who hurt you are here to save you. I don't dare to take those who have hurt me, it's not that they have honed my mind and strengthened my abilities and made me stronger, I don't dare to take people who hurt me, they just reminded me not to be like that.

I think that repaying grievances with virtue is not necessarily a good thing, and many people always use the word virtue to persuade people to be generous and persuade people to be kind. But when you encounter some unfair treatment, they always advise you not to worry about the other party, but to use a tolerant and grateful heart to influence the other party. When someone hurts us, we always have to reciprocate, the other person, how about this way?

Confucius said that if kindness is used to repay the person who hurts you, then what should be reciprocated? What about the people who are good to you? It should be reciprocated in a-for-tat way to repay the person who hurt you, and the person who is good to you is obvious that Confucius never said it.

If you should complain about the edge of the bridge, the people who hurt you are not here to cross you.

To understand what is the real person in the belly who hurts you, creates suffering in your life and brings you troubles, such a person is definitely not the person in the belly, you can really survive, your person is only yourself When you encounter suffering, your heart is tenacious and spends itself. When others hurt you, you don't admit defeat and save yourself, you should never be grateful for troubles and setbacks, and the people who hurt you, they can't make you stronger, better, the most important thing to thank is the self who still faces the strength to reflect after suffering and change his life.

All in all, I will not usually target me when he is in trouble, I will lend a hand, if someone hurts me I should make myself stronger out of the other person's circle, instead of being grateful to him or choosing to help him.