When husband and wife quarrel, try not to expose the short, is the quarrel really a mediator of life

First, the occasional little noise is the conciliator in life, after all, life is very dull, every day is repeated the same life, everyone will feel bored, and occasionally a little noise is actually some fun in life.

I have a friend who has been living a very dull life as a couple, hardly arguing, and even if they do, they can solve the problem very quickly. Most of the people around them think that they live very happily, but only they know that ordinary life is boring, and sometimes it is impossible to quarrel with each other. At this time, they actually need to quarrel to add fun to life and vent the bitterness in their hearts.

Second, if you quarrel every day, it will actually affect the relationship between two people very much, so when husband and wife quarrel, try not to expose each other's shortcomings, which will cause more serious consequences.

Couples are particularly prone to exposing each other's shortcomings when they quarrel, which is a very hurtful approach and will also appear to have low emotional intelligence. If a man says such a thing to a woman, it means that the man is actually incapable of accepting the woman in his heart. If a woman exposes a man's flaw in a quarrel, it means that the woman really thinks that this flaw is very influential.

It shows that there is no need for two people to be completely together.

3. There is a popular saying among the people that is very good, "a small quarrel is pleasant, a big quarrel hurts the body", which is exactly this truth, and the quarrel between husband and wife is to pay attention to technical skills, and it is not all about quarreling for the sake of quarreling.

Quarrels between husband and wife are a common thing, after all, if you have to live for so many years, it is inevitable that there will be bumps and bumps. But husband and wife quarrels are not like ordinary people quarrel, mainly to vent their emotions, but to solve problems. Two people have to get along in harmony after the quarrel, so the quarrel between husband and wife must pay attention to technical skills, and everyone can tolerate the occasional small quarrel, but every day is noisy, in fact, everyone will not be able to stand it.

Yes, because this kind of problem cannot be avoided during marriage, so it is important to face it positively. If it's often unpleasant, then two people can be separated.

It is indeed a conciliator of life, the life of two people is particularly dull, but after a quarrel, the relationship between two people will be better, and a proper quarrel will also enhance the relationship.

Yes. Sometimes quarreling more is also enhancing the relationship between each other, which shows that the other party really cares about themselves, so they will care about some details.

In the long life of husband and wife, it is inevitable that there will be quarrels, and even fights and divorces, which is very common, not surprising, it is a common phenomenon, just the number of quarrels. Suffice it to say, there is no husband and wife who do not quarrel all their lives. To live is to live in a noisy and complete the life of a husband and wife.

When this kind of thing happens, it is necessary for both husband and wife to be patient with each other, tolerate, and understand each other, instead of expanding the problem to the point where divorce is incomparable. As the saying goes: if there is a fight at the head of the bed, the end of the bed is closed, only if both parties or one party takes a step back and endures it, things will pass quickly, and life will return to peace.

It's not noisy, what to do, what to do, and the days will go on. Why quarrel? This is because each husband and wife have different personalities, cultural literacy, and world views, and living together requires a run-in of personalities, concepts, and behaviors, and after understanding each other's personalities and thoughts, there will be fewer and fewer quarrels.

If girls are to be cared for and treated like children, boys should be more polite and tolerant.

Generally, women think that right and wrong are very important, otherwise this issue will become the fuse for the next quarrel after it is put aside.

Hello! The trivial matters of life that cause couples to quarrel. Discussion of right and wrong.

Each of them has his own point of view. Mutual understanding takes a step back. Xi Ran stopped and hoped not to make the same mistake next time.

It's communication. Don't go to the front of the big skin to make a fuss, don't touch the bottom line. OK.

In life, husband and wife have been together for a long time, quarrels are indispensable, please have a good relationship with people will quarrel, because after all, two people live together, two people's concepts are not necessarily exactly the same, so it is normal for Jian Yuan to cause different types of suggestions for one thing.

Although many people see that they love each other very much, they are not necessarily free of contradictions with each other, but two people are good at resolving such contradictions, cherishing each other, and the number of quarrels will be a little less. But there are some couples, although they keep quarrelling, but they also have a standard in their hearts, in fact, there is a degree, dare to quarrel but become an adjustment of their emotions, the more they quarrel, the more they will love each other, but there are some couples who sometimes seem not to quarrel, but once the emotions explode, the two people immediately change from husband and wife to enemies.

Many people slowly lose their rationality in the process of quarreling, especially when some couples quarrel, they even use suicide or other methods to threaten the other party, because at this time, either party apologizes, or something else says a weak word, and the problem can be solved, but at this time, because the two people are in a temper, it will worsen the contradiction, and even say that the other party will be inspired to die.

Originally, the two of them were all unintentional, and the conclusion was just to read a breath, but at that time, because the mentality was also very excited, it was really immediately going to commit suicide, and at this time misfortune would occur, so if you commit suicide, the chance of surviving by jumping down from the window is very small, which leads to the misfortune of a family.

That is, we often say domestic violence, domestic violence is very disgusting to many people, and domestic violence is now enshrined in our own laws and regulations, whenever it is not right to hit someone, in a quarrel, whether it is a boy or a girl, these people will be more likely to remember to use fists and kicks when they are very angry. Sometimes, the strength of girls is even much greater than that of boys, and they can beat boys to worry, and some men's domestic violence is even more excessive.

Many parents are actually unqualified, and their sense of revenge is very heavy, after these two people quarrel, there is no place to vent their anger, and at this time they are like children to take revenge on the other party. In their opinion, the other party must care about the child, so I will definitely value him if I threaten the child directly.

Speaking ill of each other in front of the child, and repenting of the beautiful image of the man in the child's heart.

This is the most stupid act, when you plant hatred for the father in the child's heart, it is not only the image of the father in the child's heart, but also you plant hatred in the child's heart, so that he lacks happiness, which is very inhumane.

Don't cold war, don't run away from home, and then don't threaten your life, don't talk about divorce with the other party, and don't do anything in the process of quarreling.

Don't hit each other, don't drop things, don't do these things, or you'll regret it.

Husbands and wives should not beat each other when they quarrel, nor can they say divorce, let alone drop things in the house.

I believe that in our lives, a large number of people have husband and wife quarrels, but many people feel that husband and wife quarrels will make them feel very angry, and it is even very likely that they will divorce after quarreling, but in fact, you may think that quarrels are all some disadvantages, but in fact, it does have some benefits, if you are very curious, let's go into today's article and take a look at it together.

Couples quarrel and still have these benefits?

1. Good for physical and mental health. Maybe you will feel very ridiculous when you see that quarrels are actually beneficial to your physical and mental health, because you are very angry when you quarrel, and you will even get angry. In fact, the TCM debate believes that quarreling can prevent illness because your body will have a role in the process of fighting, which will make your body healthier.

2. Promote the relationship between husband and wife. Although many people think that they will get divorced after quarreling and arguing, this kind of thing is actually not very much, because the general husband and wife quarrel because of some trivial things, and in the small life feel that some of the other party's practices are not right and quarrel, this accompanied the excitement and slowly quarreled and the two sides realized their mistakes, not only did not quarrel with the divorce but also promoted the feelings of both parties.

3. Contribute to common progress. Quarrels are not something that can be quarreled by one person, so in the case of both parties quarreling, both parties can realize their mistakes and do better in the future, which will help both spouses to make progress together.

When arguing, you must avoid these misunderstandings:

1. Quarreling is actually a way of communication. Many people often say some ugly things when they quarrel, but people who really think about others should not say these words to hurt each other when they quarrel, after all, quarrels are actually just a way to communicate, not a way to vent their emotions.

2. The wife should understand her husband's situation. Many times, the wife always feels that the husband is easy to favor the in-laws' side and will feel very dissatisfied, but in fact, the wife should understand that the situation in which the husband is in is the child raised by his parents for so many years, so he should do this in any way, this understanding will not only make the husband feel that his wife is reasonable, but also make the husband love him more.

3. Husbands should understand their wives' hard work. Some women marry and become housewives, while men may be conflicted if they do not understand their wives' hard work and feel that she is only taking care of the children at home and doing housework. But in fact, whether it is taking care of the children or doing housework, it is not an easy thing, if the husband understands this kind of hard work, he should understand his wife, and the wife will be more dedicated to the family.

A good relationship between husband and wife is not completed by a dust-resistant person, so both parties should understand that the husband and wife quarrel at the head of the bed and at the end of the bed, and know how to cherish each other can have a better life.

Husbands and wives should not quarrel over money, because it hurts to talk about regretting the town's money, nor should they quarrel over trivial things at home, these things can be borne by two people, and they should not quarrel over the affairs of their in-laws, because they are all their own families, and it is best for the family to sit down and solve the problem.

Husbands and wives should not quarrel over children's affairs, but should discuss with each other, and Iwachi should not quarrel over money, hurt feelings for money, there is no need, let alone quarrel for housework, because it doesn't work at all, so the husband and wife should be more tolerant of each other and understand each other.