What should I do if I don t mix well outside and don t dare to go home?

Don't be cranky, your home will always be your haven Your parents are your home in **** I won't dislike you if you're good or not, I'll only worry about whether you eat well And I didn't reach out to ask my parents for money, so I should be proud.

The better you are, the more you understand how much you have paid, no one can succeed casually, and success is not only measured by money, as long as there is a shining point in the body, you will be respected: the spirit of not admitting defeat, the free and easy to win or lose, and the good character and ability to deal with the world.

It is recommended to go home quickly, it is just the opportunity to go home for the New Year, everyone wants to mix well, but it is impossible for everyone to be successful, only slowly accumulate experience, learn lessons and the final victory belongs to the people who continue to climb positively, come on, friends! I am born to be useful, and my daughter will come back when I am gone.

The main thing is to have a good face, afraid of hurting self-esteem, in fact, you should face the reality, you should reflect, re-energize, strengthen your confidence, and better express yourself in order to live up to the expectations of your family.

What don't you dare, it's almost a mix, but home is the warmest place, why bother with yourself, not everyone can mix outside, at least you still have a sense of shame, which is better than others. Shame and courage.

Since it's not good to be a gangster outside, don't be too thin-skinned, and it's not a big deal to go home with a thick skin. At best, I can't lift my head.

Go home! The family will not dislike whether you have a good future!

You can at least rest for a while when you go back; Come out again and start all over again!

I am also a stranger who has been working outside for more than 20 years after graduating from school, getting married, having children, and settling down at the place of work, basically going back to my hometown to see my parents during the Chinese New Year (occasionally my parents will come to me). Twenty years ago, the efficiency of our unit was very good, and when I went out to slip Lao Zheng, others were very envious when they heard about the XX factory, and they were full of confidence when they returned to their hometown to chat with relatives and friends. Nowadays, due to the changes in market supply and demand, the change of the general environment, our treatment is also plummeting, and consumption is no longer so proud

Whether it's out of low self-esteem or not being in the circle for a long time, I always feel that there is a gap, and I no longer take the initiative to participate in the group chat. In fact, calm down and think about today's problem, no matter how you mix outside, how you live, you still behave very chic when you go home, and you feel good about yourself (the so-called pretending), I think it can be analyzed from several aspects:

Whether it's out of low self-esteem or not being in the circle for a long time, I always feel that there is a gap, and I no longer take the initiative to participate in the group chat. In fact, calm down and think about today's problem, no matter how you mix outside, how you live, you still behave very chic when you go home, and you feel good about yourself (the so-called pretending), I think it can be analyzed from several aspects:

1.It varies from person to person, personality problems, some people feel that life is their own, how am I doing, others have no right to interfere, just be happy, how to live your life, why not be happy every day, so the "happiness" shown may make some people incomprehensible and feel poor.

2.It's really not easy to fight outside, in addition to their own ability and ability, really time, location, people and these factors are also quite important, and in a different place these conditions are not comparable with in the local area, basically rely on their own hard work, of course, if it is very successful, go home scenery, blameless, if not good, in fact, the heart is also bitter and tired, go home to pretend that it doesn't matter is nothing more than not to let the family worry, in addition to strong self-esteem, strong competitiveness and a strong temperament to fight again.

3.Have a little bit of vanity, don't want to be looked down upon by relatives and friends, classmates, feel that others are not very clear about their family background anyway, occasionally come back and pretend to make people think that they are no worse than others, maybe quite proud, and then live their own gains, this kind of person is their own bitterness only self-contained scum knows the type.

In fact, no matter how you live outside, life is your own, you have to go on, the material conditions are earned by your own efforts, and of course everyone is happy to live well. No matter what, family harmony, peace and health are the most important things, remember to have a harmonious and warm home.

Because many people don't mix well outside, but at home for their own face and dignity, they will pretend to be good.

I think it's because these people want to make their parents at home worry and peace of mind, and they don't want the people at home to worry and worry about themselves, so even if they mix very badly outside, they have to pack it well when they go home with wheels.

This is because they are very good-looking, and they feel that they must not lose face in front of others, and only in this way will people look up to him.

Because everyone loves face, and they don't want to show their bad side in front of others, which will make them feel very embarrassed.

Home is warm, and only going home is the right way.

Because they don't want to worry their relatives at home, they pretend to mix well outside, so that their families can rest assured.

It's because people nowadays don't want their families to worry too much, so they don't want to let them know how hard they are outside.

Because they especially want to save face. They don't want to be embarrassed in front of their own families. So they go home and have to pretend.

You have this kind of thought, you should have no face to go home, so you don't want to go back, you can't say that you are not filial, you can only say that you shouldn't.

1.It's not my parents' fault that it's not good to mix outside.

You don't have a good life outside, you're embarrassed, you don't want to go home, I know you don't want your parents to know, go back and let them see your decadent appearance, say you're just, it's not that you really don't want to go home, but you don't want your parents to worry.

However, it's not right for you to do this, you don't mix well, it's not your parents' fault, you work outside for a year, and they haven't been able to see you. Do you remember when you were hungry and cold, your parents handed you the only bread in their hands and were reluctant to eat it? Do you remember how well they treated you when you were a child, how you could bear to let them worry about you, but you couldn't expect you to come back in a year.

The biggest wish of parents is not whether you mix well or not, but whether you go home to visit them, and the family reunion is what they want most.

I remember the year I just came out of graduation, a college student did a low-level job, and he didn't have the face to go home, so he called his parents and told them that I wouldn't go back this year, and my mother cried in ** and said: "I just want to see you, you have to come back to see our old man if you have money or not", in fact, I want to do a career before I go back, look at my mother's sad look, can I still let them endure the pain of lovesickness for me?

2.I don't want to go home because I feel sorry for this home.

Really, please? You feel that your parents have paid too much for you, and you have achieved nothing, and you can't take anything back to them, so you have the idea of not wanting to go home, you think like this is very filial, but you don't go home This kind of behavior is really unfilial, your parents don't have high requirements for you, they don't want you to give them anything in return, they just want their children to go home safely and have a reunion dinner is happy.

No matter how bitter it is, no matter how tired you are, no matter how good you mix it or not, in the middle of the year, please go home and greet their old people.

Now many young people, with enthusiasm, carrying the expectations of their families, with their dreams to go to the big city to struggle, some people have a successful career, the scenery returns to their hometown, but there are also some people who do not mix well, no face to go home, but this is not because they are not filial, they also have their own hardships.

1.They don't go home because they don't have the face to go home, do you know the feeling of seeing Jiangdong's father goodbye without face? A person carries everyone's expectations, leaves home, leaves his hometown, and makes bold statements, which is bound to lay down a country, parents, relatives, and neighbors are waiting for their triumph, they can even imagine returning home, and everyone surrounds him and asks, "You must have mixed well these years, how much money do you make in a year?"

2.They don't go home because their families are worried. I don't mix well outside, the most worried is my parents, they may not think about it, can't sleep at night, worry all day long, anxious, parents' biggest hope is that their children can live well, in order not to let them worry, these young people choose to hide, rather than tell them the truth and let them worry, it is better to hide it for a while is me for a while, they are not unfilial, on the contrary, because of filial piety, in order to make them worry, so that they can be proud of their children, so that they are not looked at by others, In order to mix well one day, I can make my parents proud, but now I definitely can't.

In fact, for parents, what does it matter if their children do not mix well outside, they hope that their children can be by their own side, tell them their grievances, their own setbacks, and their own experiences, whether it is good or bad, they are willing to share. What's more, if they hear it from someone else one day, they will be even more sad. So the young people who don't mix well outside, go home, have parents at home, and they want you to come home and be by their side, and that's enough.