How can you tell from what is good or bad in that person?

Look at your personal experience, teach you the best way, is to think of everyone you chat with as a bad person, through understanding, if he is really a bad person later, it means that you have a good eye at a glance to see that he is a bad person, if you find that he is a good person, then you can think so, there is another friend in the world worth dating, how can I be so lucky

Chatting and joking on QQ,Hu Kan,Say something that is not close to the shop can best test the wisdom and character of this person.,I can't understand anything in a serious chat.,But it's only a shallow level of understanding.,What is this person or have to meet to understand.。

It is impossible to judge. It's hard to judge in person, let alone QQ

That's a big deal.

The first is what the situation is, and the second is what kind of people are targeted and what things are there because of.

Let's start with the way and the method of speaking.

1.In particular, be honest about your inner feelings, feelings, pains, thoughts, and expectations, but definitely not criticize, blame, complain, or attack.

2.If the other party does not respect you, you must also ask for the other party's respect, otherwise it will be difficult to communicate.

3.If you say something that shouldn't be said, it often costs a lot to make up for it, which is exactly what you are called"Once the word is spoken, the horse is difficult to chase"、"Sickness comes from the mouth, and trouble comes out of the mouth", and may even cause irreparable lifelong regrets! Therefore, communication cannot be unscrupulous and open-mouthed; But not talking at all can sometimes get worse.

4.Irrationality only has the share of disputes, there will be no results, let alone good results, so this kind of communication will not help.

5.Saying I'm sorry doesn't mean that I've really done anything wrong or hurtful, but it's a softener that will make things happen"Circle it"There is even room to create"Paradise"；In fact, sometimes you are really wrong, and it is a big mistake to not admit your mistake.

Whatever happens, you have to"Speak up"、"Expressing opinions"、"Communicate with him"In this way, you will have unexpected gains. Innocence is not necessarily ignorance, not necessarily pretending to be stupid, but the degree to which people get along with each other thoroughly. When we are a little older and less temperamental, we gradually understand that some things can be understood for a lifetime, and some things need to be understood in a lifetime.

Perhaps, the world is too big, there are too many people, and the heart is too chaotic to see, to think, or to understand. In the era of emphasizing colorful interpersonal packaging, the extrodence of emotions and the introverted feelings, we need a little more innocence and a little more transparency.

How do you speak so that others will listen? Come, let's listen to Mr. Gao Huiyun tell a story related to Confucius.

First of all, it depends on a person's character, some people are empty-sighted.

Won't listen to anyone at all. The second is that it is better to speak tactfully, so that others can easily accept it.