How does it feel to hear your nearest and dearest person gossiping about you behind your back?

Go your own way and let others say go", but the person who said he was not someone else, but the person closest to him. Understand your feelings, anyone who encounters this kind of thing will be sad.

Since it is the person closest to you, you can find a suitable time to talk to him (her), maybe there is some kind of misunderstanding, which must be resolved, and if you really do something wrong, promise to correct it. If you avoid further expansion, it will really not have a good impact on yourself.

If it's really a misunderstanding, don't pay too much attention to it, and after it is resolved, be careful from now on. No one is perfect, let alone someone else's mouth, who can control it.

I feel very uncomfortable, because I usually get along with relatives very well, and I really didn't expect the other party to gossip behind my back. I feel that I won't get along with such relatives much in the future.

Because no one is perfect. The people who hurt themselves the most are often the people closest to them, and this phenomenon cannot be avoided. As long as it is a person, there will be shortcomings, and when others say bad things about themselves, they can turn a blind eye.

But if it's the person closest to you who says bad things about you behind your back, you get angry. Because they care, they think in their hearts that they should understand and support themselves, not drag themselves back.

Finally, I agreed that on a certain day, in a certain year, a certain month, and a certain place, you will lose, shut your mouth! I've lost, bow down! This kind of person is not scary, but has a feeling of not fighting and not knowing each other.

As long as you are sincere, people win, and you are convinced: if people lose, you don't say anything sarcastic.

In this society and workplace, there is never a shortage of people with pink eye, and they can't see that they are better than themselves. I don't have any ability, level, or performance, and I know that I can never compare to someone else who is capable. It's uncomfortable to look at others well, and there's no way to take other people's people who are better than yourself.

At this time, the only thing you can do is to say a few bad things about people behind your back, so as to satisfy your psychological desire that even a ghost can't guess. This kind of person is actually quite pitiful. The people around him, colleagues, friends, leaders, etc. all know that he is not good, and he will not have any great growth and future.

There is no one with the energy, the ability, and the position to support it.

At the end of 16 years, I returned to my hometown in Yunnan from Xiamen, and stayed at home for a year and a half, during which I was idle for various exams, I knew that I had a big problem, and there were too many rumors, I knew very well what they meant, and I understood why they said that, face was too important to them, and over time I became their topic, like a fly in your ears, at first it was not your so-called friend, but your closest person, my parents are rural people, and there is no culture, There are some things at home that I like to spread out, I can understand them, but I also hope that they can understand me, many times I listen to it and I want to break it, but I know that I can't, my reputation is already bad, so I can't do bad actions anymore, so I choose to forbear externally and persuade internally. I rarely went out for the rest of the year.

Smart people know that the most effective interpersonal strategy in a relationship strategy is: praise for being invincible behind your back! But he put a cold arrow behind his back, do you say he is stupid?

What are you angry with fools? Stay on top of your breath and take care of yourself. I think it's enough to say one word to a fool, that is, to be righteous and strict, and to say it confidently

Don't tell people you know me, that's an insult! After speaking, he turned around, if he could do it with a thousand manners, it would be the best! If you can't do it, you can be calm and calm, and your performance is not bad.

Whoever has no one behind their backs, who doesn't say people behind their backs, if you see it yourself, you won't be so entangled, and people are not perfect.

Because relatives like to compare with each other, so many times they will say some gossip behind their backs, but we should treat these problems positively, we must have a caring heart to face these problems, don't care about what others say behind your back, that can only mean that you are not good enough in some places, so try to improve yourself.

I can't keep my mouth shut, some people just like to talk bad about people behind their backs, gossip behind their backs, I feel like a very bad thing, I am a family member with him after all, he says bad things about me behind others' backs, I feel very angry, I just feel very confused about this experience with his family, and I feel very inferior.

Relatives gossiping behind people's backs is actually a very disgusting, because it is not right to say bad things to others, so I think it is not advisable for relatives to say bad things in front of others, and as the protagonist of their gossip, it can be said that it is very uncomfortable, because of their own shortcomings It is very guilty to express this feeling to others in the mouth of relatives.

No one can guarantee that no one will gossip behind their backs, even if they are relatives and friends, so it doesn't matter, because everyone is not a saint, it is inevitable that the behavior and language are not thoughtful, and perhaps how much harm to the interests of others will definitely be told, but gossiping behind the back is not a gentleman's doing, if it is a relative, it is easier to hurt feelings, since they are all a family, what can not be said in person.

If you are gossiped by a lover, then try to go to their house as little as possible, if you don't go, he will generally not say anything about you anymore, and then you still have to show respect on the surface, because the relationship can't be too stiff, too stiff is not good, after all, they are all relatives, and you don't have to take this matter to heart, in fact, many people are saying bad things about others behind their backs, as long as they don't let the parties hear it, but it happens to be heard by you, so the more you listen, the more annoying it will be.

Being gossiped behind my lover is a very unpleasant feeling, you, as my relatives and friends, make me very faceless, let me feel that it is my heart, I don't feel it, I shouldn't say that, it makes me feel very uncomfortable, so being gossiped by relatives poked in the backbone is a really uncomfortable feeling.

The feeling of being gossiped behind your back by your relatives is really unpleasant, because as your relatives, he loves you dearest and love, and always gossips about you behind your back, this feeling is really uncomfortable, because I regard you as my dearest person, but you always gossip about me behind my back, which is not what a normal relative should say.

It doesn't matter if you love to gossip, after all, everyone has their own personality, I am particularly disgusted with such relatives, no matter what you do, they have something to say, if you don't want to deal with this kind of person, you will say bad things behind your back, although this matter is not said, although it is normal not to say this behind your back, as long as you don't hear me on the spot.

No, there are many aspects of this matter, sometimes it is said objectively, sometimes it is subjective, sometimes it is ugly, sometimes it is okay, this kind of person is definitely not jealous of you, this is impossible, I know the people who gossip in the countryside, some do not really want to be like this, life is stressful, vent with others, make yourself happy, you must know that this kind of person is not aimed at you, but to make yourself happy, their purpose is just to make themselves happy, this is reasonable, and they generally say a lot of people, often change,Some unlucky ones may be said for several days in a row.,There's no need to care.,I like to be said.,It's a pity that I've been taught a lesson.,Don't talk about me.。 Brother is a reasonable person. This is a character problem, why bother, you still worry about other people's bad character hurting you behind your back?

It's good to figure it out.

What feelings, good things, at least the popularity is great, who doesn't talk about people behind their backs, the good accommodation, the bad consideration, isn't it easy.

Just ignore it! Don't dwell on it so much, watch it at home in a few years.

Let's move in first, and if there's an emergency, move in first. After all, he is your relative, and he can leave at any time if he doesn't want to stay here.

If conditions permit, it is recommended to rent a house, which is convenient to rent, and the time to go back is free, and there is no need to deliberately please.

Living in a relative's house is one thing, and often working overtime does affect the rest of the other party, and the two months before and after living is not short.

If you have a straight temperament, you have to learn to empathize and think before doing things and talking.

But even if you have a straight temperament, you may inadvertently offend him, and it is not a reason for him to be double-faced, so stay away from him if you can.

If she really matters to you, treat it as if you didn't hear it and give her time to reflect.

Get rid of what she said was bad.

Ask her for clarification, quarrel and tomorrow will be fine.

I can't play anymore, we'll see you in the next life.

I had a similar experience, I was the one who heard it, I was very sad, I even had a feeling of wanting to cry, my nose was sour, if you really don't want to answer a question, you can just say I, can you not say it? In this way, no one will be difficult for you, people who care about you will not care what you say, and if you say that you don't seem to care casually, your friends will think that you don't know that he cares about you very much. Of course they were sad.

You must pay attention to the people who care about you, because they care about you very much and will listen carefully to what you say. Saving the situation can also be explained after the fact. Have fun every day!

I would also be sad if someone I care about said these two words. This means that he doesn't care about you, doesn't like you, doesn't want to care about you, or is angry, so why don't we reflect on what we did wrong to make them do this to us?

Therefore, travel regularly, put down the work at hand, see the world, let yourself have time to precipitate, and summarize life!

Hanshan asked: "How to deal with the world slandering me, deceiving me, insulting me, laughing at me, despising me, degrading me, hating me, and deceiving me?" ”

He replied: "Just endure him, let him, let him, avoid him, bear with him, respect him, ignore him, and stay for a few more years and see him." ”

Hanshan asked again: "What other tricks can you hide?" ”

He replied, "I have seen Maitreya Bodhisattva, and you should listen to me recite it."

Some people scolded the old clumsy, but the old clumsy only said good;

Someone beats the old clumsy, and the old clumsy falls asleep.

The spitting on the face, let it dry on its own, I also save energy, and he has no troubles.

In this way, Paramita is a wonderful treasure.

If you know this news, why can't you say it?

People are weak and not weak, people are not poor in the Tao, they are dedicated to cultivation, and they often do it in the Tao.

The world loves glory, and I don't fight the scene;

Fame and fortune are always empty, and greed is not boring.

Gold and silver accumulate like a mountain, difficult to buy and impermanent;

How many people in ancient and modern times, and how many thousands of them lived?

This hero, that good man, look at the two white hairs, the face changes every year, the sun and the moon are like throwing shuttles, time is like archery, soon the illness will invade, bow his head and sigh secretly, thinking that when he was young, he didn't do the practice, he wanted to turn back when he was sick, and the king of Hades had no limit.

Put down your hands now, it's not too late to turn back;

Regardless of whether it is right or wrong, he does not run the family, he does not fight for me, he does not be a good man, he scolds and does not feel it, he asks like a dumb man, he ignores it, he pushes and turns around, he is not afraid of people laughing, he does not make a face, he has been in debt for a few years, and he will never see him again.

It's a good fight for fame and fortune, and in the blink of an eye, a companion in the wilderness.

I see that people in the world are all nonsense.

Persuade the monarch to turn back and do the cultivation alone.

Be a big husband and cut two sections with one knife;

Jump out of the red fire pit and be a cool man.

Realize the true common sense, the sun and the moon are neighbors. ”

If you say too much, it is necessary to talk to others, if it is just some sesame small things, forget it, if you feel uncomfortable, you can have a small way, when you know that others are saying bad things about you, take the opportunity to say to others: "If you see others saying bad things about yourself, what will you do?" ”