Who is marriage for? You have to leave for yourself, you have to stay for your children!

For the sake of children, you have to bear with the question: Yes! Thank you.

Remember.

Not for anyone, for the whole family, since you all have children, why do you want to separate, that will only make the child tormented, don't you know if the child does not have a happy childhood, he will have regrets in his life, and the problem has come out to sit down and solve it well, don't let the conflict escalate, the most important thing is to think more about the child, for the sake of the family, I don't agree with you separating Follow-up: I know more for the sake of the child, my own family is the same since the parents left, I can feel it. But the key is that he loves gambling all day long, and doesn't do anything, he is such a person, he plays here and there outside, and he doesn't care how we are at home, and there is no money for children to study when they are older, and relatives have no money for gifts and gifts, these are forgotten, I am not the kind of person who cares too much about money, mainly there is a problem between us, there are few words, I always carry me outside to mix, eat, drink, and look at all the gambling equipment, I want to take my child to leave him alive or dead, I am not willing to leave him alone, he said to him like this, "You want to go." Good life, it's impossible for me to live a hard life alone" He just died and had to drag you to be buried with him, alas!

What did I do. Thank you. ：

I sympathize with your plight, I can only say how did you choose him in the first place, something like your husband, I don't feel strange, if you can't solve this matter, escalate this contradiction, only in this way can it be solved, and don't be murdered in front of such a person, if he goes crazy, it is you who suffers, you can't beat him, I'm going to sleep, wake up and answer Follow-up question: Yes, you're right, he's really unreasonable, but he doesn't dare to hit me, if he beats me that day, I'll really leave.

Marriages without love should not be insisted on, and many times women think that they will live for their children. She had been immersed in the nobility of making such a so-called self-sacrifice, but what she didn't know was that the child was actually silently suffering the pain caused by her actions. A harmonious and warm family atmosphere can raise a healthy and positive child, and this divorced married life will only make him feel depressed.

Parents often quarrel, cold war, and even fight, which has a great impact on the child's psychology, and it is easy to cause the child to be timid and afraid of things, and blame himself too much.

When his conceptual consciousness is not yet fully formed, he will unconsciously blame himself for the quarrels of his parents and the disharmony of the family. For children with their own independent thoughts, this kind of family life can easily make him lose his yearning for marriage, and even fear of marriage. At the same time, insisting on a marriage without love is also irresponsible to yourself.

Choosing to stick to this marriage in order to give the child a complete home is just torturing the other party. If something in your life touches your bottom line again later in life.

The idea of divorce is on the horizon again, so it is better to end it decisively when you want to divorce at the beginning. Since they can't grow old together, parting ways early is the best decision for the couple and even the children. Finally, it's hard to give children the power of role models by choosing who of you will do well.

Parents are always their children's first teachers, and their influence on children is subtle. When your child sees that you are not independent, weak or even know how to protect yourself, he will follow suit, which will have a serious negative impact on his future concept of marriage.

If the unhappiness of the family does not come from an absolute matter of principle, the couple can communicate more in front of the children. If you can't solve the problem of communication, let it go as soon as possible. If the couple makes a mistake in principle, they separate directly.

so as not to poison the next generation. It is because the child's soul is very sensitive, and no matter what the admiral does, he likes it. Children always feel that there is something wrong with their marriage and cannot dilute true love.

Marriage without affection, as a parent, when there are constant disputes between adults, as a young mind, the child's ability to influence is within his reach.

I would not choose to end my marriage. First of all, I think that since I have chosen, I must stick to it. In fact, I think it's normal to encounter a little setback in marriage. In the end, I will not choose to end the marriage, but will communicate well with the other party.

For me, in addition to responsibility, marriage also has an emotional need. Since I have decided to marry my wife, I am not willing to give up this marriage casually. Because I really like her and am willing to tolerate my wife's shortcomings.

No matter how loving a couple is, there must be many times in their marriage when they want to end their marriage.

Now there are many families who are for their children, if you choose to settle for your children, then silently pay and endure it.

If it weren't for the children, I'm afraid the divorce rate would be drastic now**.

I will definitely end my marriage, and if my marriage is not happy, if it is not for the sake of my children, I will definitely accept my marriage. After all, after a divorce, it is the children who are hurt the most, so many couples would rather endure it themselves than divorce, all for the sake of the children.

Yes, if there were no children, it would have been over a long time ago. From having nothing to talk about at the beginning, to having nothing to say now, and even sleeping in separate beds, I am looking at my mobile phone every day during my rest, and I don't want to be motivated, and now I can't even make noise. There is no separation, it is really just because of the children, otherwise the marriage that has no feelings would have ended long ago.

There is a high probability that it will not, after all, marriage requires two people to run in, and my other half is okay, no mother, I know that I earn money, I have responsibilities, and children are the crystallization of our love, even if I don't have children, I won't end my marriage.

I will choose to end it, because I know that parents often quarrel, cold war, and even fight, which has a great impact on the child's psychology, and it is easy to cause the child to be timid and afraid of things, and blame himself too much. So not for the sake of the children, but also for the sake of yourself, end this marriage.

In some marriage and family relationships, if it is only for the sake of the children, the marriage that lasts must be unhappy, and if the contradictions between the two people cannot be resolved, then they will let go and give the children a healthy living environment.

I would not choose to end my marriage. Although my married life is uneventful, I live a very serious life, and the relationship between the two is very good, and there is no possibility of divorce.

If there is no love in the marriage, it is not for the sake of the children, and they may choose to end their marriage, and many people are hovering back and forth on the verge of divorce, just because they can't make this decision for the sake of their children.

I wouldn't choose to end my marriage because I think my marriage is still relatively happy, and my other half is very good to me, so I am still very content.

I won't maintain my marriage because of the children, and so far I am quite satisfied with my marriage, the two of us get along harmoniously and have things to discuss together.

I would choose to end my marriage because I wasn't very happy after I got married, and I lost myself completely after I got married.

Yes, the disagreement between the husband and wife will hurt the child regardless of whether the divorce is or not, so don't use the child as an excuse, the child knows everything.

No, because my current marriage is very happy, and my family's life is also very happy, and I will not choose to divorce.

Yes, a life alone may be more suitable for me.

I'll do it. In life, there are many people who always feel that their imaginary marriage is happy, so when they encounter a little family conflict, they feel that their marriage is unhappy, and they feel that their lover is useless, and they will have the idea of divorce. If at this time, there is an extramarital affair outside, coupled with the sweet words of the other party, and the alliance is made, so I feel that I have found true love and happiness, but some people weigh the pros and cons again and again due to the fetters of their children, and finally choose to continue their marriage for the sake of their children.

But there are still some people who are carried away by the fantasy of a happy marriage, and finally ruthlessly abandon their children and choose to divorce! However, these people he did not actually understand the essence of marriage, what is marriage? Marriage is a couple of men and women living together, facing oil, salt, sauce and vinegar, fighting pots and pans, facing a common livelihood, facing the trivialities and contradictions of life, and ignoring anyone's marriage.

Most divorced people in life eventually have remorse! They found that after remarriage, the new marriage is nothing more than that, and sometimes, it is not as good as the original marriage! The successor is not as good as the predecessor, because it is a halfway combination family, if both parties have children in the past, it must be a family where you quarrel and quarrel, and the contradictions are constant, it is simply hell on earth, life is better than death, and what happiness can be said.

But who do you blame? You brought it on yourself! Suffer as much as you want!

Therefore, love is sweet, marriage is bland, you don't think about marriage too ideally, if it is too ideal, you can only go to Ma Yun, Liu Qiangdong, and what other rich tycoons, they will give you food and clothing without worry! But it's also impossible for these people to give you sweet love, why? You should know.

In the world, in general, marriage is still good! Because the original marriage is a seamless whole that is fused by the feelings of the husband, wife, and children; What's yours is mine, and what's mine is yours; The child is biological, your child is also my child, and the child of my fiber friend is also your child. But the remarried family is different, between them, yours is yours, mine is mine, your child is your child, my child is my child, there is a gap in the heart, there is a rift in the feelings, and the feelings are difficult to melt, so that a family can never form a seamless and perfect whole with each other!

But it can only be a family, people together, half-hearted, divided, each with a ghost! In the end, quarrel for the children, quarrel for their own interests, quarrel for trivial matters, quarrel for each other! In such a family, you can only be miserable, depressed, depressed!

What about happiness! Once you abandon your children for divorce, the children's hatred for you will never be eliminated, and even if you make up for this family affection in the future, it will be useless. Because there has been a rift in the blood relationship, it will never be restored!

Don't forget!

There is some meaning in maintaining a marriage for the sake of having children alone, but it is not necessary. If there is a problem in the relationship between two people when the child is still relatively young, the impact on the child will be greater, and it is best to maintain the marital relationship at this time, so that the child can grow up in a complete family, and the child's personality will not have too many problems.

If the child is older, then the impact of divorce on the child will be smaller, because the child already has a sense of these things at this time, so even if the divorce, the impact on the child will be relatively small, and there is no need to worry about the child being hurt by this.

Whether to maintain the marriage for the sake of the child depends on the attitude of the parents, the unhappy marriage of the parents, the child will always bear the chrome mark of a single parent, and this label will greatly affect the child's future life.

If the husband and wife quarrel for a long time or one party has long-term domestic violence, etc., the divorce of both parties is actually more beneficial to the growth of the children;

If the parents are divorced, remember to hide the child, it is better to explain the reason for the divorce to the child and promise to love him more and give the child a full sense of security.

How the court decides on your custody dispute:

Generally speaking, for children under the age of 2, the general logic of the law is that "for children under the age of 2, because the children are too young, they need to be cared for by their mothers, especially if some are still breastfeeding."

Therefore, children generally live with their mothers;

However, if the mother has bad behavior or is physically unfit to raise the child, the judge will also allow the father to raise the child according to the specific circumstances", and the final judgment will be based on your specific circumstances.

Legal basis: Regular Civil Code of the People's Republic of China

Article 1079:Where one of the husband and wife requests a divorce, the relevant organization may conduct mediation or directly initiate divorce proceedings in the people's court. People's courts hearing divorce cases shall conduct mediation; If the relationship has indeed broken down and mediation fails, the divorce shall be granted. In any of the following circumstances, if mediation fails, the divorce shall be granted by raising a canopy:

1) bigamy or cohabitation with another person;

2) Committing domestic violence or abusing or abandoning family members;

3) Having bad habits such as gambling and drug addiction that they have repeatedly taught and not changing;

4) Separated for two years due to emotional discord;

5) Other circumstances that lead to the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife.

Where one party is declared missing and the other party initiates divorce proceedings, the divorce shall be granted. Where, after a people's court has ruled that divorce is not permitted, the parties have been separated for one year, and one party initiates divorce proceedings again, the divorce shall be granted.

No, if you keep tolerating and changing in marriage, it will not make the other party feel satisfied, but will make the relationship become more and more unequal, and you will be hurt in the relationship. In marriage, although you don't need to argue with reason, you should also love yourself well and don't swallow your anger with others. You should express your concept very clearly, you can back down, but you can't always endure it and live a life of obedience.

In that way, I will also fall into an inferiority complex, this relationship, because of the concession of one party, patience will become more and more unequal, even if the relationship is long-lasting, it has no meaning, let alone happiness.

1. Blind forbearance will make the other party gain an inch.

Although there should be mutual humility and tolerance in marriage, this is all mutual, not forever withering and only one party is humble and tolerant, but both parties can understand how to operate in marriage, if only one party blindly tolerates and changes themselves, the other party will never be indifferent, and the party who thinks it is the one who tolerates will do so as a matter of course, and the other party will have to make an inch of progress at the endure, and it will not make the relationship stable for a long time.

2. Blind forbearance will make you feel aggrieved.

In marriage, the most important thing is to obtain happiness and the value of life, if we blindly tremble and guess and tolerate change, swallow each other's anger, and accept it, we will feel that we have lost the value of life and the meaning of life.

Because we can't get happiness from this marriage, we will make this marriage become chicken ribs, and if we keep tolerating it, we will feel very aggrieved, which is quite detrimental to physical and mental health, and it is impossible to make the relationship last for a long time.

3. Tolerance can't change anything.

Many people have the traditional idea that patience is needed in marriage, but for any modern person, patience has a limit. Blindly forbearance will suppress one's body and mind, which is not good for one's physical and mental health, and it will not be good for this marriage. Forbearance is useful if one's own forbearance can be exchanged for the understanding of the other party.

If the other party doesn't understand, they will think that the tolerant party is easy to bully, and the relationship will never last long.