Why does everyone say that girls don t have their own home after they get married?

Why does everyone say that girls don't have their own home after they get married? Why do some people always say that girls don't have a home when they get married? To sum up the sentence, "I am an outsider in my mother-in-law's house, and I am a guest in my mother's house".

Let's talk about the in-law's family first, if you marry into the past family, your mother-in-law treats you as a family member and a daughter, you may not feel it, because you have integrated into the new family, and your mother-in-law's family is your home. But if you don't have a sense of existence in your in-law's family after marrying, then it's a deep feeling to be a complete outsider who doesn't have a home. You don't have the right to speak in your in-law's house, and if something happens and you find that your husband may not be on your side, can you feel the warmth of home.

Let's talk about the mother's family, as the saying goes, "the daughter who marries out, spills the water", the mother's family hopes that she can live well in her mother-in-law's house for the daughter who marries, so they are generally persuaded and not persuaded to leave. After the daughter got married, she was wronged in her mother-in-law's house, and when she returned to her mother's house to complain, her mother's family generally comforted her, telling her not to worry about her mother-in-law's family and go back to get along with her mother-in-law. You will find that your mother's persuasion to you is mixed with "politeness".

This feeling of being out of reach on both sides will make people feel that they will have no home when they get married!

In fact, this phenomenon is slowly changing now, and a girl still has to polish her eyes before she gets married. If you live alone with your husband and have your own house, you won't feel this way. After all, if you live with your in-laws, you will inevitably be treated as an outsider.

After all, it is said that the daughter who marries out spills the water, many families think that the daughter is married to someone else's family, and after marrying someone, she feels less close, and what is worse is that some girls treat her as an outsider when they are in a small family, I have to say that such parents are really ignorant. Of course, now society is changing, and this is all influenced by education and the education level of the common people.

In the improvement, the social status is also slowly realizing the equality of men and women, so in the future, there will be a minority of people who are not people on both sides of the marriage, and it will no longer be the majority, and the most important thing is that the girls themselves will choose people with their eyes open, which is the key to the problem.

Because after a girl marries into her mother-in-law's family, it is easy to have a conflict between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, if your husband is not particularly good to you, it is very likely that there will be a situation of pulling a bias, and after returning to her mother's house, her parents treat girls like outsiders, respectfully.

Because after a girl gets married, it is equivalent to leaving her original family and going to another family, but going to another family is also equivalent to entering other people's lives, and the other family does not necessarily regard the girl as her own family, so the girl has no home of her own.

Because after a girl gets married, she will communicate less with her family, and the relationship will gradually become estranged, and the man will still have close contact with his mother's family.

This is because the water spilled by the married daughter cannot often go back to her parents' house after marriage, and the woman is not a family no matter how close she is to her in-laws, so there will be such a saying.

Because the girl gets married, she will exchange with her family from then on, and the slow contact will be estranged, and the man will still have a close relationship with his mother's family.

Only children generally don't, but girls who have a boy in the house usually really don't have a home, because in the future, there will be a new hostess in that house, and when you go back, you don't call it home, but say to be a guest.

Personally, I think the reality is so cruel, many girls have no home after they get married, because both sides treat her as an outsider, which is really uncomfortable.

After the girl got married, she really didn't have a home, and she was an outsider in her in-law's house. In her own family, she is a daughter who is married.

You can't think about it like this, because it's not the era of the past, it's the era of equality between men and women, free love, so it's equal for a family, the key is to see what kind of mentality you use to face life, if you don't want to pay in this family, just a taker, and let anything go, then once such a balance is broken in this case, then this can't be determined.

Of course, it also depends on the character of the other party, in this case, if both people focus on family life and both parents, then in this case, no matter what life is like, at this time they will take on this great responsibility and responsibility, so character is also very important.

As for the girl who marries into someone else's family, it is completely indisagreeable with this, because even if she marries, it is just for her own children to form their own family. Sometimes we can empathize, now many young people live alone after marriage, and the two young people will not live with their parents, so in this case, they themselves are an independent whole, according to this idea, then the boy is probably also someone else's family, so sometimes we need to empathize, can not be narrow to consider some traditional statements or problems.

Therefore, in reality, whether it is a boy or a girl, after getting married, although he has formed his own family and is an independent whole, he must respect the parents of both parties at this time, which is the most basic responsibility and responsibility, and this must not be forgotten at any time.

At least now there is this saying, because girls are married out and live in a man's house, and if they marry far away, they will return to their parents' house during the holidays a year.

Why is this problem happening?

previewed the marriage book, watched the real family, and watched the film and television marriage and love.

In fact, it's not that there is no home, but that there is no feeling to dig into the existence of home.

When in a hurry to enter a new family, new parents, a new environment, new relatives. If you don't get acquainted with it in advance, if you don't know it in advance, you will perceive that everything is very unfamiliar.

The new family brings parents, and it is necessary to run in with the parents in the process of running in with the lover, and the relative problems will be more difficult.

The boyfriend didn't get the details in place, and he didn't lose his temper yet; The details of getting along after marriage are not in place, that is, they accumulate over time.

If you have saved enough disappointment, or you have not communicated well, you will inevitably be sad.

The new home has not yet participated, our home is not very stable, and the original home cannot be turned back!!

There is reflection, there must also be self-reflection, how can we perceive that it is home?

It seems very simple, but it is actually the key person who needs to find the problem, and it can also be said to be the decisive person.

New home: Harmony with parents before marriage, hobbies, care, filial piety; How to be treated equally, you can see the future mode of getting along, good and bad, all depends on sincerity and communication! Most of today's parents are not too embarrassed, they can listen to it, and do it if they can!

Our home: your true intentions, my true intentions, bump and bend over.

Your understanding, my tolerance, mutual understanding.

The pace of life, the mode of getting along, and the future plan.

Choice and communication, method and result, as long as you can cross the threshold, the road will be longer and longer, and home will be forever!

The original home: the hometown where I have lived for twenty or thirty years, I miss it very much.

If you have time, you will often go home to see, and home is waiting for you to return.

Born a child, grown up a child, and a child for life!

The return journey home is "welcome home".

The return trip to sleep is "always staying".

Good morning on the return trip is to "hurry up and get out of bed".

The return meal is "all your favorite food".

Although there are times when the mood is low and it makes people feel like they have lost something.

Remember to look back at the people who love you, in fact, they love you and care about you.

In the eyes of others, you also have a different position, as long as you understand, your home will appear in front of you!

There is more than enough to write.