I m from a rural area, and I don t know anything when I go to college, and I feel inferior

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First of all, you have to know that low self-esteem is very common and many people experience it. Secondly, you should also understand that educational background is not the only measure of a person's success. In today's society, the factors for success are diverse, including skills, experience, relationships, mindsets, and more, not just academic qualifications.

Here are some suggestions to help you with low self-esteem:

1.Accept yourself as you are. Everyone's growth environment and opportunities are different, don't blame yourself excessively or compare yourself with others.

2.Focus on your strengths. Recall what you've accomplished, or ask your friends and family what your strengths are. You can also try new things and explore your potential.

3.Have a positive mindset. Keep a positive way of thinking, find something that interests you and strive for them. At the same time, don't be afraid of failure, failure is the mother of success, and every failure is an opportunity to learn.

4.Seek support and help. Communicate with friends and family, share your thoughts and feelings, and receive their encouragement and support. You can also try to seek help from a professional such as a counselor.

Finally, remember that your worth isn't just determined by academic qualifications. Keep working hard, believe in yourself, and you will get better and better.

Don't have low self-esteem! Boost yourself!

Learn to attribute correctly and further improve your frustration tolerance. After encountering failures and setbacks, it is necessary to be able to correctly analyze the subjective and objective causes. Although sometimes failures and setbacks are caused by some objective reasons and unchangeable and irresistible factors, there are many times when they set inappropriate expectations - which are likely to be too high.

Proper'Adjust your expectations, work hard to achieve your goals, and then raise your goals a little bit on top of that, and then work hard to achieve ......Gradual. Every success will bring joy and confidence, so that the inferiority complex can be gradually overcome by constantly achieving goals and constantly enhancing self-confidence.

Build a good character. People's inferiority complex is sometimes a kind of negative self-suggestion in the psyche, with this negative self-suggestion, it will inhibit self-confidence and increase psychological tension. Most students with strong low self-esteem are introverted, timid, suspicious, cautious, indecisive, imaginative, socially poor, and weak in adaptability.

There are pros and cons to these characteristics. Such students should be guided and helped to strengthen their exercise, shape their own good character, increase their positive psychological hints, and transform unfavorable character traits into favorable traits to enhance their psychological advantages.

Clear goal and persistent pursuit. It is necessary to educate and guide those college students who have a sense of inferiority complex to a certain extent to be ambitious, to have strong aspirations, to correctly understand and give full play to their own advantages, to achieve success with their advantages, and to overcome their inferiority complex with success. On the one hand, it is necessary to educate and enlighten college students to understand themselves correctly, not only to see their own shortcomings, but also to recognize their own strengths, and not to go too far because of their own shortcomings in some aspects - or even completely deny themselves and give up the pursuit of ideals; On the other hand, it is necessary to encourage them to have the courage to practice, temper themselves in the course of practice, and increase their abilities.

In this way, they will continue to enhance their own ability and self-confidence, and finally get rid of the shackles of inferiority complex, get out of the shadow and misunderstanding of inferiority, and participate in study and social life healthily.

Rural people are also particularly concerned about those children who can be admitted to university, if the college student's family is poor, the villagers will spontaneously send money to help him go to college, and many people can raise enough money to study in college because of the help of the villagers, such as Liu Qiangdong.

However, times have changed, and college students are no longer the pride of the sky, and the change comes from the cessation of the college student package distribution policy. In the past, when you went to college, as long as you graduated, you could be assigned a job, and many of them were still public units, so going to college was equivalent to stepping into the public door, and the second half of your life was basically worry-free, and many units would be divided into houses.

However, with the cessation of the package distribution policy, the employment problem of college students has become more and more severe, and they have to rely on themselves to find a job, and the danger of the market has been exposed, and many people who have studied in college are still difficult to find a suitable job. For urban children, in fact, the pressure on this is relatively small, because even if they have no job for the time being, the family can continue to support them, but rural children cannot.

There are many rural students who go to college, and as soon as they set foot on the door of the university, they have already carried a mission, that is, to finish their studies early, come out to work to earn money to support their families, for rural families, they are the saviors of the family, so once they graduate, it is difficult to find a job, it will be very troublesome.

These people who can't help themselves at home, or even have to help their families, will be particularly anxious in the face of the tide of unemployment, and will feel overwhelmed, they urgently need work to make money, but there are few jobs, there are many job seekers, and jobs are so easy to find.

Therefore, many people who have gone to college have no jobs and it is more difficult to make money, which is what many people call the uselessness of reading, which actually has some truth.

What does going to college bring to rural children? What else is there besides the identity of a college student, or the identity of not very valuable? In fact, rural children who have gone to university are caught in a dilemma.

Nominally, they have jumped out of the farm gate and don't have to be a farmer anymore, but in fact it is difficult for them to completely jump out of the farm gate, the countryside is still their bond, and at the same time, it is difficult for them to integrate into the city, because the housing prices in the city will make them feel at a loss, like an outsider.

Rural children who have studied in college, it is difficult to go back to the countryside in this life, and they will be ridiculed and ridiculed when they go back, and they will be ridiculed for reading in vain, but it is also difficult for the city to integrate into it, and it is not so easy to gain a foothold in the city and take root.

For many children from rural families, studying in college and having the status of a college student not only broadens their horizons, but also restricts them even more and brings them a lot of pressure. The more you know, the more you broaden your horizons, the more anxiety you feel, and as the saying goes, if I hadn't seen the sun, I could have endured the darkness.

Rural people don't look down on people who go to college, I don't know if your statement comes from, maybe it's a bit of a generalization.

Compared with the migrant workers who go out to work, these college students are really too "poor". Therefore, as long as the migrant workers who return to their hometowns get together, most of them will discuss how much w I have earned this year, and what kind of car I have bought. When I saw the college students who went home, I didn't forget to ridicule them:

Yo, college students are home? How much did you earn this year? "What else?

These rural college students either prepare for exams at home, or find a primary school near their home to become a "substitute teacher" or intern. Either go out to work, the salary is not very high, three to five thousand yuan a month, but migrant workers generally work for a few hundred yuan a day, and tens of thousands a month, which is difficult to compare. What's more, migrant workers of the same age have earned more than 10,000 yuan a month, and college students are still in school, how can they compare?

Not only is it looked down upon by migrant workers, but even the seven aunts and eight aunts in the village, and the neighbors may not forget to shout "college students"! There is no respect in the words, after all, there are too many college students who graduate every year, and a good one can take the civil service exam, or a public institution, or a teacher. But people in the system, in the eyes of rural people, live a good life, barely support their families, they can't see the stability of these people in the system, and the preferential treatment after retirement.

I only saw that the current college students are either spending money, or are idle at home, or working part-time, or taking the examination system, but in any case, many college students' income is not as good as that of migrant workers. College students with an annual salary of hundreds of thousands or millions are rarely seen in rural areas, so the title of "college student" in rural areas is slowly changing its taste. In fact, the dream of many rural people is still to study and become a college student.

Therefore, many rural people still spare no effort to raise their children, at least working very hard to earn money to provide for their children's education. But on the other hand, they look down on college students in their bones, because they are not less suppressed by these college students in their student years, especially rural parents who want their sons to become Jackie Chan, often greet them with their guys, and do not forget to compare those children who study well while greeting. In the end, they feel that they are worse than those children with good grades, and even more so that they feel that they were not able to play better and be naughty and mischievous better, all because other people's children have better grades than their own.

But look at myself now, although I have become a migrant worker because I have studied less, compared to my peers, compared to those "other people's children" who have been mentioned by their parents. A sense of superiority arises spontaneously. Compared with people in the system, migrant workers are high-income; Compared with college students who are also migrant workers, migrant workers can still be regarded as high-income; Compared with those college students who are studying, these rural college students are simply "poor" compared to migrant workers!

Therefore, intentionally or unintentionally, they will show off around these college students to show that they are not as good as others in reading, but they earn "first place"!

1.Job Opportunities. Bringing academic qualifications increases job opportunities (academic qualifications are a stepping stone).

2.Rural status. Children who go to college in the countryside can't be said to be glorious, at least they are proud to increase your family's status in the village (the older generation values status).

3.Ate a lot of delicious food. There are many types of university cafeterias, and they are not too expensive.

4.I saw something new. For example, shared bicycles, high-speed rail, ** fountains, etc. (don't believe it, many children in remote areas still don't know what shared bicycles are).

5.Broaden your network. In the future, if any student has a big future, you can also ask for help.

…Wait a minute. 6.It will make some rural children feel inferior, feel that they are too far behind others and choose to be rotten. Going to college gives rural children a chance to lie on the edge of the well and take a look at the outside world, but most rural college students are limited by their own family backgrounds and cannot achieve class leapfrogging, and eventually fall into the well.

College students who come out of the rural areas face all kinds of social pressures as soon as they graduate, and college students who come out of the current education system are instilled in school with the idea that the strong are respected, and if they have good academic performance in their student years, they will be welcomed, and their test results will be measured.

After entering the society, they naturally want to be more successful than others, and at this time, the standard of success becomes wealth, so they have to work hard, want to buy a house in a big city to stay, and pursue worldly success. They can understand the injustice of society, no matter how hard they work, the people at the bottom rely on the money they get in exchange for their lives, and they don't have the opportunity to take over the housing prices in big cities.

When they were studying, they might be inspired by the story of Liu Qiangdong's counterattack, which became the motivation for their own learning for a while, but after they went to college, they realized that there are very few rural children who can become rich through hard work. In the same dormitory of the university, there are children from middle-class families, they are carefree, they do not worry about graduating and finding a job, and it is impossible for you to have no gap in your heart.

Highly educated rural children, as long as they are not too picky, it is not too difficult to find a good job, they need to be optimistic, and they can get rid of the fate of falling into the field to dig food, which is already a success. If there is no hope of staying in the big city, it is not impossible to return to live in the small city, and the mentality is flat, and you can still be a happy little frog.

I think the saddest thing is that after many people have seen the prosperous world, they breed too many material desires, but their hearts are higher than the sky, and their lives are thinner than paper, they are burdened by secular values, and they feel that they should be more successful than those childhood friends who have no academic qualifications after they have studied in college, pursue a material life beyond their own ability, and agree with the concept of chicken baby education, they want to win others, sacrifice their health for money, and live in endless anxiety.

Many rural children who have studied in college just get a chance to lie on the edge of the well and take a look, mistakenly thinking that they are frogs on the well, but they still can't get rid of the fate of the bottom of the well, which may be more desperate than not lying on the edge of the well at the beginning and staying at the bottom of the well.

This is unfair in itself.

It may be that the income of the same age who did not go to college is not as high as that of the peers who did not go to college in a short period of time, it may be that the peers around them get married and have children early, or it may be that they are far away from home and do not have much time to spend with their parents and relatives.

However, what the university brings us is not something that can be seen in a short period of time, it brings us an irreplaceable experience, an improvement of experience, a broadening of horizons, a reserve of knowledge, and more realistically, the advantages brought by academic qualifications, the change of circles, and the possibility of class mobility.

Don't question the point of going to college because of some gossip, because if you don't go to college, you never know what you've lost.