College is confused and I don t want to be as messy as my roommates, what should I do?

You should make yourself independent and do something meaningful. Or make a plan for yourself to spend time in college, and then follow the plan.

So first of all, you should set a goal for yourself, how to learn, and then what kind of ideal to achieve, and you must have your own plan, so that you can.

Set your own goals, make a good life plan, don't nest in the dormitory every day, go out and do more activities, and socialize usefully.

Summary. I especially understand your mood at this moment. College life is inherently happy, and the dormitory is an important part of college life.

They are willing to return to the dormitory and live happily with their classmates after class. So you say that you are very depressed when you enter the dormitory now, and the most important thing is that you do not have a particularly good relationship with other people in the dormitory.

What should I do if I don't get along well with my dorm mates in college? I feel very depressed when I quietly return to the dormitory every day, and they talk very loudly before I enter the dormitory, and no one has spoken since I entered the dormitory.

I especially understand your mood at this moment. College life is inherently happy, and the hail room is a very important part of college life. They are willing to return to the dormitory and live happily with the students after class.

So you say that you are very depressed when you enter the dormitory now, and the most important thing is that you do not have a particularly good relationship with other people in the dormitory.

Does your personality have some inner history? The students who go back to the dormitory are all from all over the world, so they are used to living in a late life, and their personality traits are not the same, so you should be relatively cheerful.

You can't be good friends with everyone in the dormitory, but you should find a classmate who has a relatively good relationship with you as a breakthrough and become a good friend with him. At least make sure you're not alone in your dorm.

Not long after I started college, my roommates were collectively isolated, and I really felt very uncomfortable. But think about it on the other hand, it has only been a few months since the start of the freshman year, and there is still a long time to come, and the situation will gradually get better. Pants search.

Judging from the narrative, the subject has already talked to some roommates about why people don't like to talk to you, and is also trying to correct some of his own problems. That's a great place to start.

The second step is to suggest that the subject find one of the roommates who is not so reluctant to talk to you, start with him, and slowly talk to him more and contact more, once you win a roommate, other roommates will not be so targeted at you. When speaking, the topic selection can range from hobbies, to class lessons, teachers, etc., and choose some easy topics that everyone cares about.

If you really don't have a roommate to get through, well, you need to find other friends outside the dorm room, in the class, who are willing to eat with you and go to class with you. For things in the dormitory, you should be independent enough, for example, if they close the door, you can bring the key in advance without bothering other roommates to open the door; If you are late for class, you can go to dinner with other classmates without having to catch up with them. What I want to say is to do my best to correct and fight, but it really can't work, change your thinking, change the direction of the leakage, and develop friends outside the dormitory.

Now that I've just entered the school in my freshman year, I'll be more dependent on my roommates or something, and I'll be together in a dormitory, but after a long time, everyone will have other friends besides the dormitory roommates, and they won't be stuck between the dormitory roommates. It is a good attempt for you to join the student union, and strive to meet more people in the student union, contact more people, and practice more to become proficient in speaking, and socialize as well.

1.College dorms are like opening a blind box, and you don't know what kind of people you're going to be with. This can be seen as a training camp before you officially go out into the world. You're going to grow up with several people and learn how to get along quickly when they're immature.

2.Focus on the weaknesses of human nature. Human nature has a lot of weaknesses, and everyone has some.

It's not that someone is bad, but human nature is **. For example, most people will be vain, jealous, and so on. You may have a good family, but if you spend lavishly, others will think you're showing off, even though you've lived that way before.

What seems normal to you may be a different situation in the eyes of Xunsuiji others. Again, there are grades and so on, it's all the same. Actually, this is normal.

You need to pay proper attention to the feelings of the people around you so that it doesn't hurt too much.

3.If you do have roommates who are difficult to get along with, don't push yourself. To put it bluntly, everyone happens to live together.

It's fate to be able to get along. But after all, there are differences between people. If they don't deal with each other, that's it.

If you push yourself too hard, think about it every day, and be overly sensitive, you will become more and more uncomfortable. Just jump out and don't take it too seriously.

4.The human heart is a bottomless pit. This is true not only for roommates, but for anyone.

You don't want to be kind to others, and others will treat you just as well. Don't try to be honest with everyone, but stick to the bottom line. Only by having the right expectations for people can you not let yourself be disappointed by expecting too much.

5.Try not to get involved in other people's emotional problems. For example, if your roommate comes to you to complain about relationship problems, and you are indignant, the person breaks up.

As a result, the next day, the people got back together again, and you were embarrassed. Sometimes people get along with each other, and the other person just needs emotional value.