Why can t the mother in law see her daughter in law idle?

Why do some mothers-in-law always fail to see their daughters-in-law live a good life?

Hanni's mother's parenting scripture.

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A few days ago, when I went for a walk in the community, I met a neighbor's aunt, and she casually asked me: Why do you walk alone, what about your children?

I laughed and said she was at home!

Aunt asked me again, did my aunt take it or did your mother take it? I said they were with them.

Then she sighed and said:

It's really easy for you to be a mother, you don't have to do housework, you don't have to take your children, you can take a walk if you want to, you can go shopping if you want to, even if you have two more, you probably won't be tired. I used to take care of the children, and I didn't have anyone else to help me, and I didn't have an aunt, so I did it all by myself. Sometimes you don't even have time to eat, let alone take a leisurely walk like you, but you can't leave your children alone, people still have to suffer a little, and you can't be too greedy for enjoyment.

I smelled the sourness in her tone and walked away with a smile.

I quickly forgot that when I went to inspect early education yesterday, I met my aunt's daughter-in-law, and she said:

Did you run into my mother-in-law the other day? When she came home, she counted you down, saying that after you became a mother, you left the child at home and took a walk by yourself. I usually see you either come back with a big bag, or go out in good spirits, saying that if you are her daughter-in-law, she will definitely talk about you, put the child first, and never let you be like this.

I happily stroked my chest and said: Then fortunately she is not my mother-in-law, if my mother-in-law is this one, please kill me!

She was amused by me, saying that she really envied you, laughing like this every day.

By current standards, this daughter-in-law is a good daughter-in-law. If the mother-in-law is not satisfied, then what kind of daughter-in-law do you want? Maybe in this world, it is difficult to find what you are satisfied with, because it is too demanding.

Washing clothes, cooking, and tidying up the room every day, it seems that all the work at home is covered. This is really a very traditional, very docile and diligent daughter-in-law, who really regards her in-law's family as her own home, and pounces on it wholeheartedly, working hard, there are not many young people like this in today's society!

Today's young people are generally only children, pampered at home, and do nothing. After getting married, some people don't even want to wash their own clothes, and spend money to wash them in the clothing store, let alone cook and clean up the room. There are many old women who cook and serve them to the table, and after eating, they brush the dishes, and they can't get used to the dirty clothes piled up in their daughter-in-law's room, so they have no choice but to bring them to her and wash ......

In contrast, the daughter-in-law above is indeed one in a hundred, and it is rare to get a good daughter-in-law. Think about it, if your daughter-in-law is your own daughter, working hard in other people's homes, and her mother-in-law is not satisfied after a while, how would you feel? Not to mention people, but cattle and horses do their work, and the farmers let them rest for a while.

I hope that this mother-in-law will look at other people's daughters-in-law, and then look back at her own daughter-in-law, and compare them carefully, and she will soon be able to tell whether your daughter-in-law is virtuous or ......

I hope that this mother-in-law will not use the old traditional concepts to bind the current young people, but use the new concepts to get along with the daughter-in-law, which is a smart move. When you reach the age of sixties, there will definitely be someone who will bring you tea and pour water and support you in your later years, not a daughter, but a good daughter-in-law who is better than a daughter!

As a woman, the hardest time is the time when your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along. But in today's society, there is no daughter-in-law confinement, and mother-in-law does not serve. After a woman gets married, she is bound to face her mother-in-law and respect her as if she were her own parents.

However, sometimes in the eyes of the mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law is not satisfied with what she does, and there are even some mothers-in-law who have one thing on the surface and one thing behind the scenes.

It is not easy for a woman to get married, and coupled with the complaints of her mother-in-law and the incomprehension of men, a woman's life is even more difficult. Therefore, as a woman, in this society, you have to leave yourself a way back at any time. So, in daily life and interactions, how can you tell if your mother-in-law is sincere to you?

Whether the mother-in-law is sincere to you can be seen from these three manifestations.

1. Life always instructs you to work, and let his son be idle.

A mother-in-law who is sincere to you and treats you as her own will not let you do housework, even if you take the initiative to ask to do it, when the mother-in-law is there, she will rush over to do it herself or directly call her son to help. Because a mother-in-law who is sincere to you, she understands that her daughter-in-law is married for pain, not for work.

And a mother-in-law who feels that you don't care, and has always focused on her son, will keep instructing you to work, and can't see you idle. Only his son is the most important, and her son can't even do any work, and she won't say a word.

2. Always leave the best food for her son, and you will always only have the last portion.

A mother-in-law who is sincere to you will treat you and her son equally in the family, in fact, in the eyes of the mother-in-law, the delicious food is nothing in the eyes of the daughter-in-law, but a mother-in-law who does not treat you sincerely, she will leave the best food for her son, you only have a vegetarian portion, or you will never have the last portion.

Although it may seem like eating is a small thing, it can really reflect a person's heart. This is especially true when it is unfair.

It's the same as the boss who doesn't like to see you playing with your mobile phone during work hours, why the same idea, thinking about how hard your son is and making money outside, but you have nothing to do at home, and your heart is awkward So now many people are separated and don't live with their parents One is to avoid a lot of unnecessary trouble, and the other is to be convenient and comfortable in your heart.

This is just the situation of individual families, so girls should know how to protect themselves, this family life after marriage is also a very important thing, but also to understand, some people do a good job when chasing girls, when this time girls must think more about some problems, is a clear mind to consider not to think about everything, they think that this is often a problem.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is so delicate, and the daughter-in-law is idle to show that her son is tired, how can there be a mother who does not love her son, this truth should be understood.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Guan Jian, it's men who are tired, women an! Therefore, the mother-in-law can't watch the daughter-in-law idle'

Because my mother-in-law loves her son! Therefore, you can't watch your daughter-in-law idle!

thinks that the older generation is hard and diligent, he loves his son and doesn't want his son to be too tired, and the daughter-in-law should share it.

Because the mother-in-law desperately wants to use the privilege in her hand to find a sense of existence and prove that she is the eldest in this family.

When you can treat your mother-in-law as your own mother, this situation will not occur.

I don't know, what the daughter-in-law should do.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to deal with, and many mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law even have you without me, and I without you, and many couples also divorce because of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Especially now, many of them are only children, and after they get married, every time they celebrate the New Year, they will discuss which family they will celebrate this year, which is also a factor that affects family harmony. So why doesn't the daughter-in-law like to go to her mother-in-law's house, looking at what these three people said, it's very realistic.

Ms. Liang, married for 3 years. I don't like to go to my in-laws' house, especially during the Chinese New Year, it's really unforgettable. This year's New Year with my husband back to my mother-in-law's house for the New Year, I can't stand the cold climate, there is a small air conditioner at home, but my in-laws are reluctant to turn it on, every time I open it for a long time, I want to tell me how expensive the electricity bill is, it's really hard to say.

I am an only child, and when I was at my mother's house, my mother asked me what I was eating, and then my mother did it, and I helped. At my in-laws' house, they also asked me what I was eating, but I made it myself, and they were all waiting to eat. The dinner of seven people, the New Year's dinner is dumplings, and they don't help wrap it.

I really have a complaint. Usually, I really don't like to go to my mother-in-law's house, I can't help the New Year, I can't go to my mother-in-law's house every year, I don't want my husband to be difficult.

Ms. Lin, married for 10 years. When we first got married, we didn't buy a house, so we lived with my mother-in-law, which was very unaccustomed. I am not used to eating, and I am not used to living.

My mother-in-law doesn't like to cook, and I'm a daughter-in-law from other places, so I'm really unaccustomed to it. So I cook and serve it to the table, and my mother-in-law waits for them to eat. I won't help you out, my heart is very unbalanced, I don't help cook, it's always okay to serve a meal.

I decided to buy a house as soon as possible and move out. After moving out, we basically went back to my mother-in-law's place once a week, and when I went back to my mother-in-law's house, there was still nothing, no food, and no vegetables, so every time I went back to my mother-in-law's house, I always bought good vegetables and snacks. I don't like to go back after a long time, because when I go back to my mother-in-law's house, my heart will always be hurt.

As I grow older, I have been running in with my mother-in-law for a long time, although my mother-in-law still does not change, but my skin is really thick, and my mother-in-law is not doing well, then I will say it directly, every time I go back to my mother-in-law's house, I will hit ** to make my mother-in-law ready. Slowly, we got along better and better, and I didn't resist going to my in-law's house so much.

1. I don't know what to bring to my mother-in-law.

China is a country that pays attention to etiquette, and it is not good to meet empty-handed. Let's bring back nutritional products, but I was scared to read the reports about the safety of food and drugs all day long, and I couldn't figure out that my mother-in-law thought that she deliberately bought nutritional products of poor quality; Buy clothes, but it's not good to ask your mother-in-law about the size of her clothes, and I'm afraid that my mother-in-law won't like the style I bought.

2. Language barrier, unaccustomed to life.

If the in-laws' family is in the countryside, the conditions may be 20 years behind the mother's family, and it is inconvenient and unaccustomed in all aspects. A language barrier is not easy to communicate; The two living facilities are simple and very unsuitable.

3. I don't want to serve people.

When I got to my mother-in-law's house,. Buying groceries, cooking, laundry and mopping the floor, taking care of children, all the housework daughter-in-law has to rush to do, otherwise, you will feel the strangeness of your mother-in-law's eyes.

4. Excessive concern.

When I go to my mother-in-law's house, I always have to be cared for: when will I have a child? Has the salary gone up?

Has the position been promoted? Is the house settled? Although, this is also what life must care about.

1. It is necessary to do things at the in-law's house.

Bai is diligent.

When I went home, I was supposed to relax and rest. But when you get to your mother-in-law's house, that's not the case. Buy groceries and cook.

capacity, laundry mopping, taking care of children. All the housework has to be done by the daughter-in-law. Otherwise, you will feel the strangeness of your mother-in-law's eyes.

2. It's always embarrassing to have brothers and sisters with your husband.

Back at my in-law's house, my husband seems to have returned to the feeling he had when he was a child. My husband's brothers and sisters, cousins, and cousins, I can't remember who I won't say first, and it's even more embarrassing.

Every time I watched my husband talk and laugh with them, reminiscing about the experiences of my childhood, I was dumb and couldn't say a word. That taste, not to mention how uncomfortable it is.

3. The child is spoiled, and he has to start over with education when he goes back.

The old man spoils his grandson, that is our national condition in China. At home on weekdays, it was not easy to correct the child's bad habits, but when it came to the mother-in-law, they were all beaten back to their original shape.

For example, it is difficult for the child to brush his teeth before going to bed, but in the mother-in-law's place, the child is spoiled by the mother-in-law and pampered, and it is allowed not to brush his teeth. This time, I have to pick up the stick again before the child dares to obey. This is really, a pet disease!

Although the mothers-in-law are much older than the daughters-in-law, they are generally more tolerant of daughters-in-law, but I have to say that some daughters-in-law are pampered since childhood, so some princesses are sick and like to fight with their mothers-in-law for everything. Lazy and gluttonous.

Many old mothers-in-law will say when their son marries a daughter-in-law, it doesn't matter what it is, just don't be lazy to eat. Even if there are mountains of gold and silver in the family, but a lazy daughter-in-law will be defeated.

Lazy and lazy people are generally idle together, so the lazy daughter-in-law is easy to be idle, and then get involved in some vices, such as gambling, and then will not take care of the family, this kind of daughter-in-law marrying back will only make the son's life unhappy.

The mother-in-law does not let her daughter-in-law go out to work, and there are generally the following two considerations:

One is that there are many family affairs, and you need to take care of the children and family affairs, if the daughter-in-law goes out to work, she will inevitably know the family affairs and take care of the children, and it will fall on the mother-in-law, and the mother-in-law will be affected, which is a manifestation of the mother-in-law's selfishness, and the second situation is that the daughter-in-law is beautiful, and she is not at ease when she goes out, for fear that the daughter-in-law will have an extramarital affair!

My son and daughter-in-law are adults and can make their own decisions about what work to do. If you don't like farming, you go out to work by yourself, can the old man still tie the rope back? The elderly do not allow their children to go out to work, perhaps because they are afraid that they will be lonely and have no one to take care of them.

When the son goes out to work, he must often contact his family, often go home to see, and if conditions permit, he can also take care of the elderly. When people grow up, they must always learn to be independent and have their own opinions. has been nesting under the wings of his parents, and he will not grow up.

You can compare the salary and living expenses with the elderly. Under normal circumstances, parents hope that their sons will become Chan and hope that future generations will have a better life, and Lacong will not hinder their son's future. It's very hard to farm at home, and you don't make much money.

Unless it is a large-scale planting of vegetables and medicines or melons and fruits, the sales channel is stable and high. Otherwise, it will be too difficult to support the family by farming in the countryside. In modern society, if you want to live well, you can only work hard to make money.

Young people, in the prime of life, are the time to create wealth, and they must seize the opportunity to change their fate.