Psychological problems, I hope someone can help me

Pessimism in boys is rare. Usually girls are more sad and pessimistic, and that's how I am.

But I often tell myself to be happy, and then think about the good things and try not to think about the bad things.

You're still a student, you should study hard, as for your classmates, you can talk when you come, and if you can't talk, you guys don't like to play basketball and football, and then the dormitory whispers to men. If you're interested, talk to them, and if you talk too much, it's good.

When you don't understand learning, ask more, men and women are the same

I hope you don't give up on yourself. 16 years old, still very young, it should be a time of flowering, it is the time of puberty, it is inevitable that some things cannot be accepted. However, we should think about the good.

I used to be like this, and I was sad about everything. However, sadness can't solve anything, so when necessary, you should communicate more with your parents, if you are afraid of a generation gap with your parents, you can talk to your good friends, if you really can't, you can talk to me.

It's nothing, be brave! It's best to go to Happy Valley! Challenge yourself! ~

Always believe in yourself, everything will be fine, when others don't associate with you, you just think Lao Tzu is too lazy to pay attention to you, sometimes you have to have the spirit of Ah Q, learn to laugh at yourself, go out more to relieve psychological pressure.

Everyone needs to seek support and help when they are helpless, and this needs to rely on the support of one or more people. In such cases, who usually comes to our minds first to ask for help or comfort? Different people have different opinions on this issue.

I'm going to talk about this from a number of perspectives.

1. Family. For many people, loved ones are the best thing to rely on. They have a strong bond and emotional bond with each other and do not betray themselves even in the most difficult times.

Whether it is a physical or psychological difficulty, the family members around you will always provide the most reliable and comforting support.

For example, when we feel helpless and need some warm words or companionship, it is often our parents and relatives who give us the greatest help and support. In the past, most of the time, we like to confide in our family members, share our feelings or ask for advice, our family members tend to understand ourselves more deeply, and it is easier to understand your inner experience, and the encouragement and comfort given are more timely and effective.

2. Friends. Friends, as a part of social relationships, can also easily become an option when people are helpless. When we can't turn to our family for help, we ask our friends for help.

The relationship between friends is not as close as that of relatives, but it is usually deep, because friends are people of our own choosing, and they usually have many similarities in psychology and life.

For example, some people may prefer to share their worries with friends when faced with difficulties and challenges, because these friends are more able to understand their situation and understand their needs better. Friends often provide practical advice or action support, and will also give confidence and encouragement, so that we can quickly get out of difficulties.

3. Professionals.

In some cases, the support of friends and family may not be sufficient, and this is when it becomes even more necessary to seek professional help. Professionals usually help people solve problems through professional methods and skills, such as doctors, counselors, lawyers, etc.

For example, when we have suffered some serious life blows, such as a breakdown in an intimate relationship, stress at work, or mental health issues, we may need more professional support. By enlisting the help of professionals, we can get more information and analysis, as well as more precise advice and support.

Fourth, yourself. Finally, there is also the situation where you can only rely on yourself when you are helpless. In our lives, there will always be times when we feel that there is no one around us to rely on, and at this time we must not retreat, we must learn to rely on ourselves and find our own strength.

This requires us to develop our self-confidence, self-reliance and tenacity, learning to face challenges and solve problems independently.

For example, when we are faced with some difficult or personal choice problems, we can turn to ourselves for support. If we learn how to manage our time, achieve our goals, and be prepared for what may come our way, we can still take control of our situation.

To sum up, everyone has their own way of supporting, and there is no absolute choice answer. While.

At the beginning, you cared a lot about other people's evaluations, but you felt more and more that you didn't care, and gradually became numb; Actually, you're running away, it's just that you're forcing yourself to think that you don't care, in fact, if you think about it, you've always cared. You avoid and become numb because you don't want to listen to what others say about you. As for the fact that you don't want to struggle, part of it is because of this, because you are not afraid of not only bad evaluations, but also praise for your "reform"; Your own path is determined by yourself, you think that way all the time, and you don't want to show that you have changed because of other people's evaluations.

On the other hand, you are also physically and mentally exhausted, that is, lazy, you are not willing to struggle, because you are too tired, but you are used to a comfortable life, you have been waiting for an opportunity, waiting for an opportunity to regain yourself, but this opportunity has come a lot, but you have let it go one by one, because you are unwilling to leave this comfortable life from the bottom of your heart, you are not willing to get up early and be greedy for darkness, and you are physically and mentally exhausted. And this comfort in turn creates a kind of fear, a fear of the future, so you feel restless.

In fact, the solution is very simple, you just do it, to struggle, to strive for a better life than now, you don't have to care about the attachment to comfort in your heart, in fact, when you really struggle, you will find that life is not very tired, and it is more fulfilling and interesting than now, so that you can also escape from that fear, try it, just try, when you try, you will be obsessed with that feeling. I don't feel how tiring it is to struggle anymore.

After living for a long time, I suddenly feel very tired, as the saying goes, I am tired of living. Actually, from another aspect, it means that you are now sublimated. Before, you didn't feel that way in the same environment, because you always had a goal in mind and no distractions.

Now, if you have achieved something, you suddenly realize that it is just that. Now, the most important thing is to find a new purpose so that your life will have new meaning and value.

Born without crying, this kind of child is born with a kind of rigidity.

Born to laugh, this kind of child sees through the world.

You just see through the current society, and life.

The social environment has led to what you are thinking now.

I should have this kind of thinking around 55 years old.

It's normal, you just want to live a little easier, a little more relaxed.