Why is it so sad to be a father after hearing that my daughter is in love?

It seems to be a natural thing for fathers to dislike their daughter's love interest, and almost all fathers feel lost when they hear the news of their daughter's love. So what is the reason for this?

I remember talking to a boyfriend when I was in college, and their reaction when I told my parents about it.

At that time, my mom was very curious to chase me and ask my boyfriend how it was, andThe father's face was full of solemnity and worry, as if the treasure he had been holding in the palm of his hand had been stolen, and his face was full of up打击with a capital letter.

At first, I didn't understand why my father reacted this way, isn't it a happy thing for a daughter to fall in love? Later my mother told meYour dad loves you too much, so he is reluctant to let you grow up

Yes, a daughter's love is a sign to leave home and grow up, how can a father be happy? Of course he couldn't bear the little girl who was spoiled in his arms at every turn.

As the saying goes, "a daughter is a father's lover in his last life",Daughters have always been the existence that their fathers put on the tip of their heartsSo he will worry that his daughter will be harmed, which is why the new son-in-law is the most difficult to pass this hurdle in the old father-in-law. No father would willingly give his precious daughter into the hands of someone else, he would rather you be the little girl crying in his arms for the rest of your life.

In fact, many times, the father will feel lost because his daughter is in love, not because of the love itself, but because he is not ready for his daughter to grow up. So, we have to tell our father that we are strong enough to protect ourselves well, to face all the malice in this world, to reassure them. Finally, I want to say thank you to all the fathers in the world!

Because the daughter is the father's little padded jacket, and the father is also a man, knowing the mind of a man, he will feel that men are not good things, and he is afraid that she will be deceived, so he will feel very lost. Do you think, daughter, after so many years, it suddenly doesn't feel so uncomfortable. Back in the day.

I think I was an old father several times when I played the queen development plan, so I felt very good, although I was a girl.

Let's talk about my journey as a father. In the game, it took six years from the age of 12 to the age of 18. I deeply realized that it is not easy to be a father, because my daughter has to eat every month.

Then if you give her less food, he may not be able to marry because of his thin body and unsightly, and if he dote on her and eat too much, he will be too fat, and then he will be evaluated by passers-by, even if he becomes very good, he will not be able to marry into the royal family. You say that angry people are not angry, and worries are not worried. It's okay to have a physical problem, after all, it's your own daughter, it doesn't matter what she looks like, in her heart, her daughter is the best.

But eating and drinking costs money, so to be a good father you have to work hard to earn living expenses for your daughter. Although in the game, my old father lives on a subsidy of 2,000 yuan a year, if you want to train your daughter well, you have to work for her daughter. But in reality, it is often the father who has to work hard to give his daughter a better life.

You said that you were a little girl who regarded herself as a treasure, and she was abducted by a wild boy who she had never seen before, isn't this the same feeling as being stolen?

In fact, the most important thing is to be afraid that my daughter will be deceived. Because this society is complex. Who wouldn't want their daughter to meet someone better?

And the cost of encountering unladylike ingredients is too great, and he doesn't want his daughter to experience such a blow or setback, so the father will feel very lost.

There are many reasons why a dad might feel lost when he hears that his daughter is in a relationship. Here are some common reasons:

1.Daughter grows up: When a daughter starts a relationship, it means that she has entered puberty or adulthood, which means that she is growing from a little girl to an independent adult.

For the father, it was the realization that his daughter had escaped from his protection and was embarking on her own journey in life.

2.Desire to protect: As a father, it is common to see his daughter as his treasure, and as his daughter begins to fall in love, the father may feel anxious and worried, fearing that she will be hurt or make a bad decision. This desire to protect is triggered and leads to feelings of loss.

3.Loss of attention: As your daughter starts to be in a relationship with someone else, her focus and time will be more on her partner. Fathers may feel marginalized and lose the special intimacy and time they have for each other with their daughters.

4.Uncertainty about the future: A daughter's relationship can also trigger a father's uncertainty and anxiety about the future. He may worry about whether his daughter will be able to find a good partner, whether it will have a good influence on her, and whether their relationship will change as a result.

5.Envy and jealousy: Sometimes, the father may also feel envy and jealousy because he may miss the dependence and intimacy that his daughter had with him when she was a child.

These are just some of the reasons why fathers may feel lost, and every family and individual situation is different, so there may be other reasons as well.

In the eyes of most fathers, they think that their daughters are very good, so they often look at the future of this man and see if the young man is not growing. The conditions are too good, and they are not at ease with their daughter. Either they are worried about the rich second generation and feel unreliable; Either he is afraid that the poor boy's family is not good, and his daughter will suffer in the future.

But when it comes to getting married, if your daughter is too self-conscious, she has always held the concept of "high is not low", which is not advisable. At this time, you should also think about your parents who have worked hard for you all your life, what do you do for them? Can you keep them from worrying and making them uncomfortable?!

However, what is ironic is that the daughter really found a boyfriend, and they appreciate each other and love each other sincerely, but parents, especially fathers, are very uncomfortable, and even wish that their daughter and her boyfriend broke up as soon as possible, so that he could be happy. That's the case with my good friend Mr. Zhou. Zhou loves her only daughter very much, from childhood to adulthood, she is afraid of melting in her mouth, and she is afraid of falling when she holds it in her hand.

From elementary school to middle school and university, children are always told not to talk to each other, which will affect their learning and will not have good results. But his daughter has been working for three years and is almost 26 years old, and he is more anxious than anyone else, either asking relatives or asking friends to introduce his daughter. He is uncomfortable when the children do not get along; They got along well, and he was lost.

It's really puzzling. Why is the father so sad after the leftover girl finds a boyfriend? I wish lovers a happy marriage in the end!

Knowing the position of this daughter's favorite person, he is going to tie for the first place with that stinky boy, he is afraid that my daughter will not talk to him if she has something on her mind in the future, and she is afraid that her daughter will be locked in the room every day when she goes home, and she will chat with her boyfriend on WeChat, and she will not watch TV with him, and she is afraid that one day her daughter will not live at home if she gets married. Just a few days ago, I learned that Lao Zhou asked his daughter to invite her boyfriend to dinner at home every once in a while, and he specially took a bottle of old wine from the wine cabinet that he had been reluctant to drink, and asked his wife to cook a few more decent dishes, saying that he wanted to have a good chat with this boy.

Yes, the daughter is the meat that fell from the parents, not to mention that Lao Zhou and his wife only have this only daughter? Therefore, all the beauties who are about to become leftover girls, think more about your parents, pay attention to the friends of the opposite sex around you as soon as possible, and start as soon as possible. Otherwise, your marriage will be delayed, the good young man will be snatched away by others, and the excellent other half will become more and more difficult to find!

Remember: don't always think that you are your father's eternal little princess, you can't get married, your father is more anxious than you, he won't let you be by his side for the rest of your life; Furthermore, you must learn to be tolerant, understanding and considerate, don't always fantasize that there are men who will really treat you as a princess, what they are looking for is not a little princess, but a wife!

It is the most gratifying thing for parents for their children to start a family and start a good life of their own.

However, for many parents, when they see their daughter start to fall in love, they will feel a little sense of loss in their hearts......The reasons for this are as follows:

1. The daughter will leave her after she gets married, and her parents will feel lost because of this.

Falling in love means getting married at some point in the future.

For girls, after getting married, they have to leave their parents' homes and live with their husbands. ......Watching their daughter, who has lived with them since childhood, leave them and have a life of her own, in addition to feeling relieved, parents will also feel a little lost in their hearts. ......This is a very normal situation.

2. After the daughter falls in love, her parents will no longer be her everything. Parents will feel lost because of this.

Before falling in love, the whole of a daughter's life and feelings belonged to her parents. The family is happy and happy, and life is happy and sweet.

However, when a daughter falls in love, her parents will no longer be the only closest people to her in her life, and even her lover and future husband will be more important than her parents to some extent......

Feeling this change, parents will certainly feel a little bit of loss in their hearts.

3. After the daughter gets married, she will no longer be with her parents often, and the parents will feel lost because of this.

After the daughter falls in love and even gets married, she will no longer be with her parents all day long as before......Without the joy of their children around their knees, parents will of course feel a little lost in their hearts.

Of course, although the daughter leaves her parents' house after falling in love and getting married, the egg will often come back, and the parents can still feel the joy ...... familyTherefore, for parents, the little sense of loss that they just know after their daughter is in love will soon disappear, replaced by joy and happiness, and feel relieved that their daughter has started a new life.

First of all, the daughter is in love, then the other party's information will first be passed from the daughter to her parents, and now it seems that her parents just know that she is in love, which means that the daughter did not tell her parents the whole situation. Secondly, if parents want to know the information of their prospective son-in-law, they also need to investigate, and this investigation needs to consider the mood of their daughter, since the daughter does not want them to know so much, they will encounter a lot of difficulties if they want to investigate, and they dare not investigate blatantly, so it is difficult to figure out the whole situation. If the prospective son-in-law is a foreigner or works in a foreign country, it will be more difficult to figure out the situation.

As a parent who knows the basic situation of the man's family, he basically has to be clear about the man's parents and family income, so that he can let his daughter talk about total love. Unless the daughter is in love and knows her boyfriend's family very well, and will confide in her parents to tell her parents, as long as it is true, how can she not know the basic situation of the man? What if the daughter and her boyfriend cheated on the family?

Then her object is someone as terrible as her, and parents need to be cautious? So as not to be deceived and have endless troubles? When it comes to falling in love, parents just know that their daughter is in love, then parents will be very clear in their hearts, the basic conditions and basic conditions of the man, since the daughter likes her parents, she must also support it, as long as the daughter is happy, it is the happiness of the parents The daughter falls in love every day, and the parents must know that you are in love, but for the boy's family situation, parents may not understand, as long as the process of needing the daughter, in the daughter's conversation, the basic situation of the girl and the family situation, as long as you communicate with it, The boy's information is obtained from it, but the parents believe that the daughter's vision should not be bad.

In short, according to their own actual situation. The most important thing is to do what you are supposed to do. Don't bother with it so much.

I don't think it's clear, but your parents might know some basic information about your man's family. Because after all, it is your own daughter, and then the parents will definitely care about whether the person he finds in the future is good or not, and whether he is good to her. So your mother will find out about it, but not necessarily very clearly.

It's hard to say this kind of thing, if parents know that their daughter is in love and doesn't say anything, they should think that the man is a good person, or they don't want to interfere with their daughter's feelings.

If the parents did not go to the man's situation, then they generally will not know the basic situation of the other party, but the parents will inquire through various methods to understand the character of the man's family.

This question depends on whether the girl has told her parents about these things. Some good girls will tell their parents clearly about the man's family situation and some of his own circumstances. But there are a few girls.

I will only tell my parents a little bit about their family. There are also girls who don't tell their parents about these things at all. But most girls are quite sensible.

I think as long as the boy loves her, it's okay. So there are some things that can't be generalized. Most parents should certainly be informed.

Because most girls feel that since they are in love, it is a major marriage event, and they must let their parents know about it. The situation on the man's side. There should be only a few parents.

When my daughter is in love, I don't know the other party's situation.